Welcome to the Poetic Resurrection podcast where we explore perceptions.
How self-reflecting questions can give you a better understanding of self.
I'm your host,
Sonia Iris Lozada.
Stay tuned.
In this episode,
We're going to discuss anger.
Anger is a strong feeling of annoyance,
Displeasure,
Or hostility.
The APA,
Definition of anger,
Is an emotion characterized by antagonism towards someone or something you feel has deliberately done you wrong.
Anger can be a good thing.
It can give you a way to express negative feelings or motivate you to find solutions to problems.
Excessive anger can cause problems.
For every minute you remain angry,
You give up 60 seconds of peace of mind.
–Rolph Waldo Emerson When I have felt anger in the past,
It was triggered by fear,
Worthlessness,
Or past experiences and I would react.
My reaction is the only thing I have control over.
I can't control anyone else's behaviors or beliefs but I can control how I react.
Nowadays,
I take a deep breath and I ask myself why am I so angry?
Because anger keeps repeating in your head so you have to find something else to replace it.
I replace it with why am I so angry?
Let it go,
Let it go,
Let it go.
And I keep repeating it over and over again trying to override the emotion.
I meditate and go for a walk if the situation allows.
It is a perception of what is believed another is expressing versus what they might have meant.
It isn't easy to learn this about yourself but being defensive and stating a point that might not be accurate can have long lasting effects on a relationship.
That one deep breath,
I suggest three,
Observing your tone and delivery can make a difference in saving a relationship.
I know that we're human and we get angry and lash out.
Anger should not be a permanent behavior.
Lashing out doesn't help us feel any better.
In the long run,
It makes us feel worse.
God is harder to deal with because it's in the past and we can't change the past.
When someone hurts us so deeply and we lash out with anger,
We feel we can't hurt them enough to feel better.
Spewing out unforgettable words and then we catch ourselves but it's too late.
It was spoken and apologizing might not be accepted and the relationship does change.
The past can't be altered.
Self-forgiveness and self-work is the only thing that will help you let it go.
Reality is ultimately a selective act of perception and interpretation.
A shift in our perception and interpretation enables us to break old habits and awaken new possibilities for balance,
Healing and transformation.
David Simon The poem for this week is No from my third book,
Inspire Me Perception.
Chasing anger and cornered it.
A fearful,
Sad beast faces me as I approach and see terror in its eyes.
I held their hand and anger's calm.
I'm sorry I enslaved you for so long,
Holding you in my rigid heart.
You were banging on the walls trying to escape but I blamed you.
I'm sorry.
I thought you were hurting me and yet you were just trying to escape,
Trying to gear me in destiny's vision.
To let me be and I resisted.
Lacking knowledge of your truths and now I know.
Here you stand before me,
Afraid as the child who created you.
Choking the past without comfort.
I hold your hand and liberate you.
My sorrow is greatest,
Life's whispers confess.
I love you and let you go.
Embracing you tight,
Releasing with love.
Thank you,
Fear.
