'Nice Guy' Affirmations (Long Version)

A lot of men today are struggling to set healthy boundaries, maintain standards of behavior, achieve their desired goals, and have satisfying relationships. Often, men are stuck in a pattern of putting off their needs to satisfy others, thereby 'coming in last,' as many have put it. These are affirmations to remedy the underlying beliefs that lead to these behaviors. It is a longer meditation designed to be used frequently, and most effectively while lifting weights or exercising.

This piece is based on the teachings of Robert A. Glover and David Deida.

Transcript

Hi,

I'm Sam.

This meditation is for healing the subconscious wounds that have led to you being a nice guy.

It is designed to be done twice a day.

There are suggestions for further study and research in the description.

Repeat these out loud or in your mind as we go.

I am lovable just as I am.

I approve of myself.

My needs are important.

I am worthy of having my needs met.

I am the only person I have to please.

I set firm and healthy boundaries with people in my life.

I am strong.

I am resilient.

I am worthy of love.

I let go of blame,

Guilt,

And comparison.

I am not reliant on other people's approval.

I release resentment and bitterness.

I am safe in my mind.

I am safe in my body.

I am safe in my person.

I am lovable just as I am.

I approve of myself.

My needs are important.

I am worthy of having my needs met.

I am the only person I have to please.

I set firm and healthy boundaries with people in my life.

I am strong.

I am resilient.

I am worthy of love.

I let go of blame,

Guilt,

And comparison.

I am not reliant on other people's approval.

I release resentment and bitterness.

I am safe in my mind.

I am safe in my body.

I am safe in my person.

I am lovable just as I am.

I approve of myself.

My needs are important.

I am worthy of having my needs met.

I am the only person I have to please.

I set firm and healthy boundaries with people in my life.

I am strong.

I am resilient.

I am worthy of love.

I let go of blame,

Guilt,

And comparison.

I am not reliant on other people's approval.

I release resentment and bitterness.

I am safe in my mind.

I am safe in my body.

I am safe in my person.

I am lovable just as I am.

I approve of myself.

My needs are important.

I am worthy of having my needs met.

I am the only person I have to please.

I set firm and healthy boundaries with people in my life.

I am strong.

I am resilient.

I am worthy of love.

I let go of blame,

Guilt,

And comparison.

I am not reliant on other people's approval.

I release resentment and bitterness.

I am safe in my mind.

I am safe in my body.

I am safe in my person.

I am lovable just as I am.

I approve of myself.

My needs are important.

I am worthy of having my needs met.

I am the only person I have to please.

I set firm and healthy boundaries with people in my life.

I am strong.

I am resilient.

I am worthy of love.

I let go of blame,

Guilt,

And comparison.

I am not reliant on other people's approval.

I release resentment and bitterness.

I am safe in my mind.

I am safe in my body.

I am safe in my person.

I am lovable just as I am.

I approve of myself.

My needs are important.

I am worthy of having my needs met.

I am the only person I have to please.

I set firm and healthy boundaries with people in my life.

I am strong.

I am resilient.

I am worthy of love.

I let go of blame,

Guilt,

And comparison.

I am not reliant on other people's approval.

I release resentment and bitterness.

I am safe in my mind.

I am safe in my body.

I am safe in my person.

I am lovable just as I am.

I approve of myself.

My needs are important.

I am worthy of having my needs met.

I am the only person I have to please.

I set firm and healthy boundaries with people in my life.

I am strong.

I am resilient.

I am worthy of love.

I let go of blame,

Guilt,

And comparison.

I am not reliant on other people's approval.

I release resentment and bitterness.

I am safe in my mind.

I am safe in my body.

I am safe in my person.

I am lovable just as I am.