What To Do When Your Beloved Betrays You?

Yogi, mystic and visionary, Sadhguru is a spiritual master with a difference. In this talk, Sadhguru answers a question on dealing with betrayal, especially betrayal by someone close to you. He encourages you to question your relationships with others, and rid yourself of toxic or negative people, who no longer serve you.

Transcript

Questioner 1 – Sadhguru,

We youngsters nowadays have less control over our emotions,

So how to react in situations where our beloved or close ones betray us?

Sadhguru – This girl is already heartbroken,

Eh?

See,

Somebody can betray you or you can think they will betray you only because you have unrealistic expectations of them.

Well,

If they do what they want to do,

Why do you think they have betrayed you?

They're doing what they want to do,

You must respect it.

If you say,

They're beloved to me,

I love them.

If you love a person,

Should you let them do what they want to do or should they do what you want them to do?

For most people,

Love means you must do what I want.

No,

No,

Love means they can do what they want and we will love them,

Isn't it?

You have this thing that if I love you,

You must listen to me.

No,

No,

If I love you,

I want you to do what brings joy to you,

Isn't it?

Understand the concept of your beloved.

But Sadhguru,

I have a doubt regarding this.

What if our loved ones are going the… in a way that's not good for them and we want to correct them and that's why we are telling them… Then you should have been the mother.

Because I'm not saying that.

It is never true that somebody may be going off track and you try to do something for them.

I'm not saying it's never true.

But you don't take this position that somebody is wrong and you're going to fix them.

They're doing what they want to do,

Isn't it?

What they want to do right now may not be beneficial for them,

Possible.

But you must look at it sincerely.

Are you complaining because it's not beneficial for them or you're complaining because it's not beneficial for you?

Most of the time it's this.

Genuinely look at it.

It's not beneficial for you but it's good for them,

Please let them do it,

Hmm?

But they are damaging themselves.

Yes,

Then you have a right to intervene and try to do your best.

But not always,

Not always can you enter somebody's life and do something for them.

If I have to enter your life and do something for you,

I have to earn it,

Isn't it?

I have to earn a relationship where I can intervene in your life.

If you don't earn that,

You cannot intervene.

So if you're unable to intervene,

You must just understand you have not earned that closeness.

Hmm.

How's Mike?

Huh?

Excuse me?

Oh,

No.

.

.

All of us,

I've already heard about Mike.

Excuse me?

No.

Oh,

No.

.

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Speechless.

Exposed the trap we got?

Reviews

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I just love your words of wisdom. You always make me see things in a different light. ~Nameste🙏

i complicate many things and you always bring a simple truth to it🙏🙏🙏

Words of wisdom. Thank you for letting me see the situation this way. It makes me feel less hurt.

Always on point, loved his Book Inner Engineering as well. Synced mind, body & heart. Thank you for your wisdom and guidance. Namaste’ 🙏

Even this 3 minute talk is so insightful! Expectations are what can cause us all great suffering.

More great advice from a true seer!

Needed to hear this as I travel along the path of forgiveness and letting go. I learned people do what they want to do and it’s up to me to determine how much I will allow them to do to me. If they want to self-destruct, I must turn and walk away and allow them to do just that. No more wasting energy trying to fix others no matter how much they scream for my attention. Thanks for reminding me about self-love and self-care.

Always enjoy his wise and witty words!

Thank you I just got why I feel that I have the right to ask my husband what to do... is because I’m afraid of being without him... I am selfish! And it does not make happiness 😔😳🙏

A little too simplistic but a general path to more peace in a relationship. Adjusting to change seems to be key.

It's a fantastic wisdom 😍

Such simple but amazing wisdom and advice. We are so blind to what we get caught up in emotionally and do to others. Bless you and thank you. I needed this today.

Always something to reflect on! Thank you for your wise words. Namasté ❤️🙏❤️😃

I enjoy listening to his perspective on life's challenges.

Another excellent perspective. Loved ones will do want they want to do unless you’re the mother.

Profound as always.

This perspective of reality is one of the most healthy changes I have made in my life. I am loving when I realize people are doing what they want to do and let them be who they want to be. I am not the Boss of them.