Cool Down The Anger

Anger is a sign of inner pain. It’s a destructive emotion. Irritation, resentment, or rage cause damage to the self and others. Maybe it feels like the only way to survive in today’s world is to use force? Force and anger come from feeling ‘weak’ and powerless. There is another way! I do have a choice! Just saying the words “I forgive” and having a fleeting good feeling won't finish the deep feelings of hurt. What we need is daily constant self-reflection and time-sharing with the Divine.

Transcript

I'm Shanti and welcome to Soul to Soul and this is Rose from Bramah Kamaris in Glasgow and today we're going to look at anger but we're going to look at how we can cool down the anger so let's have a look and see because anger it's a very very strong energy it's a very powerful emotion and quite often we don't really even know that we're having anger because it's also has many other forms but it's a sign of pain pain inside ourselves it's a very destructive emotion from anger there's irritation resentment or rage. Rage is the big explosive anger and this can cause damage to the self and to others. So actually maybe it feels like it's the only way to survive in today's world I can understand that actually that we have to use force and one of the reasons we may think that is because others can use a lot of force against ourselves and we feel that we just have to use some force back and the one with the most force will win the argument etc. However when we start to practice meditation we can see this actually maybe this isn't the answer maybe this isn't quite right. Now force and anger come from feeling weak and powerless we don't know what else to do so we explode but there is another way and I do have a choice that's the good news I have a choice it's not that we suppress the anger this is not what Raja Yoga teaches us otherwise it will just explode from time to time but we also don't want to express it so we don't suppress it and we don't express it so I wonder what we do because if we express it it becomes a deep habit. So meditation will enable me to see more of how this would work I can become more and more self-aware so when I'm self-aware and look at spirituality in myself that I am the spiritual being it shows me that I can't control anyone else so if someone there is being very angry I can't control them but there's also a good chance that I maybe can't win either I'll just get crushed by that anger. So I begin to learn about anger and I myself can make a decision to change. Then I can use my energy in more positive ways and I can rediscover that I have power inside me inner power inner strength and if I create and store emotions there is a negative effect on my mind and body so if I create these angers these disturbances inside me and I hold on to the resentments and try to figure out ways to win that fight this can make me also physically sick because I'm giving stress and tension to my entire body system. It's really empowering to take responsibility and to understand that it's me that would be creating my own angry response so once I can see that I can stop blaming whoever was angry with me because I'd be just as bad I would be figuring out how to win that challenge. I need to learn how to let go of the habit of blaming my anger on other people and the situations that come to me. So a good method is to take silence time. Silence is the magic ingredient. When I practice Raja Yoga silence is actually the fire of yoga. It's the energy that helps me to burn away inside me all the other fires of anger etc. Resentments etc. Silence is the greatest power so if I take time in silence to see how energy patterns are formed and if I can stop the big anger response that's within me I've got to take a bit of to share the responsibility for this then I will start to see the more subtle forms subtle forms of anger when I criticize when I blame people when I'm irritated all this is these are subtle forms of anger when I'm displeased by someone I'm in my mind and being angry with them anger won't disappear like a magic wand but I need to understand it what it is and it won't be nearly so dramatic as I would have thought so to transform these energies to understand these energies actually requires me to really do my homework on myself I need to see the irritations I have not pleased about something wish something was different all this dissatisfaction all this blaming these are these are all angers that I can see and stop before they ever come into action and then when they pop up I can see them so when we practice meditation and we listen to spiritual wisdom we begin to learn that just to say the words I forgive and have a fleeting good feeling and it might feel at the time that oh well I said that so that's that so we're done with I forgive and and I feel okay about it doesn't work like that because that will not finish the deep feeling of hurt that's inside and they'll come up again if truly truly I want to shake away that angry stuff I think I have a good lesson of someone being absolutely really really angry with me and me feeling so so disempowered by them absolutely having such a go at me that I don't know what to do and how I feel when that's happened this happened to me and maybe we can make a resolution inside ourselves I did this that I will never never to the best of my ability do this to another being and I can't say I got rid of irritation and all the little things but I got rid of the big the total great big blast of anger because I thought I will never do that ever and I haven't and that's been a long time and then I was able to see little things that were coming from anger and deal with them so constant daily self-reflection and take time sharing with the one above the divine is actually absolutely necessary if I'm determined to transform this anger and so we can say to ourselves but how can I cope with someone else's anger because you you can't get away from that whatever anyone's like that's what they're like but there is only one answer and we could maybe at time well if I practice I'll be able to do it but unless I practice it will seem quite daunting because the answer is to be peaceful but for this to work I need to have thought about this I need to sit in meditation and fill myself with peace beforehand to build it up and absolutely talk to myself but I'm not going there I'm not going there I'm definitely definitely and even if you forget for a slight little second and you remember you'll be able to pull yourself back into what your promise to yourself was because it is your original nature as a soul to be peaceful because we are peace we're beautiful beautiful beings of peace and just decide that if someone gets angry you will not get angry back so once you decide it you can do it because once you've seen the result if you watch you'll see the result of what it feels like for someone to totally get very very angry with you and you'll find that you can't sleep that your mind and your brain is burning with how unfair it was and it's almost be like you've been in a physical fight because all your muscles will have been so tense with you defending yourself even with your muscles that the next morning you'll have sore legs or arms you won't have slept you'll be so disenchanted you'll be so sad so depressed so feeling so inferior that someone should treat you and speak to you like that it'll make you feel as if they that person seen you to be worthless and you'll see yourself that you didn't have the power to do anything about it and you'll think I'll never want to put anyone through this so I'm going to look at never getting angry and so to practice not getting angry back with an angry person be honest with yourself and don't suppress your emotions but be aware so there they are but don't put them into practice be aware it's teaching you everything is a window everything's teaching us everything's a window of opportunity be aware and have honest conversations with yourself and or also with the divine and you can gently transform those feelings nicely and beautifully and carefully and that way you can feel success that I'm dealing with those feelings I'm dealing with those emotions and then I'll see them in others and I'll understand that they can't stop those feelings because we possibly know that they're not doing this kind of inside meditation get to know yourself and then what would happen after that is that peace your own peaceful nature will become your friend and when peace becomes your friend anger will dissolve so if I can focus on that and also really make it clear to be honest with myself and to let go of the habit because this is what brings anger blaming others and you blame your anger on someone because it was them that made you annoyed annoyed is quite a little gentle word but the outcome of being annoyed is anger and so we blame others and we blame situations it was because that happened and that happened and so I've kind of got righteous indignation that I have a right to be angry but meditation will enable me to be more and more self-aware. Aum Shanti. We have a great question here from online and it is often I might find people expecting me to join in with their feelings of anger so if somebody's very angry about something that's important to them not angry at me as such but expressing anger about some issue that's inflaming their emotions how do I maintain respect for their point of view but stay peaceful myself? It's because if you have looked at it and understand what you had to do to understand anger and you know that they are coming from a space perhaps where you know that they don't understand anger you need to understand them and even console them and say I know I understand yes I do understand this very difficult and so just be do your best to not get too upset by it you have to actually be kind to them because it's nothing to do with you but they're suffering and they feel very very badly treated and they don't know what to do and they feel that they've been dishonoured and they're looked on as being weak and all the rest of it they're not valued so you have to value them it's an opportunity for you to value them and then if ever you get the chance and they're close enough to you and they come back to you you can then because you've laid quite a lovely foundation for understanding with them because it's about real human people good people I mean we were good people and we had anger you know so to understand and be kind and and give them great respect I've heard it said as well that if you can do something then do it make a positive impact and if you can do nothing then being critical or irritated or annoyed is a waste of time so it's almost a form of laziness so either I can act or even just use my energy but being angry although it appears quite active and powerful it could just be a lazy way of thinking yes because it's a quick response isn't it and instead of getting into it it's just try to close the person down and put a stamp on it and say that's it over and done and dusted I've just said what I said and then walk away I think you've done it with a big full stop of anger and when it's in close interaction like you're talking very much on personal connections I think people get that but then there's often this almost like an excuse when it's a big sort of global issue or something sort of outside my personal connections I have to get angry because it's such an issue so does this do the same rules apply whether it's the person next to me or the corrupt government on the other side of the world or the same rules apply because there's a lot of anger in the world disturbance peacelessness unfairness dreadful things we're not there when they're making the plans for these things so there's not a lot physically we can do about it we're not involved in the process but what they are short of are people who are peaceful so if all the peaceful people in the world start to think peacefully about these situations it may not seem like it but there will be almost like a coolness that will happen because whoever's involved they're human beings and the human beings are souls and they have a lot of issues and in their own way they're doing what they can and they don't come in touch with people who meditate perhaps or play in a different role and anger is their tool so you have to understand that and just when we have meditation in the morning you send out peace every time you can think of it or it irritates you it's out of our hands but it's in our hands spiritually to send out peace okay so I get so busy with peace that I don't have time for anger yeah yeah yeah yeah because so busy with peace let that be your habit and you'll feel good inside and you'll feel kind inside and you'll feel loving inside and you won't feel scared of the anger even the big picture you'll feel that you don't have fear of it because you're you're on their side in a way but you're sending a different energy to them you're sending them waves of peace constructive rather than destructive yeah that's nice one okay so we'll have a couple of minutes of meditation oh shanty we're saying to take silence time to look at how energy patterns are formed our greatest power and strength is silence that silence can put a stop to old harmful ways and thoughts and habits let me have this wonderful common sense to value that energy that belongs to the self I am silent and the more I practice this silence inside the more I can feel that the awkward and difficult thing the edges go away they're not so threatening to me I'm able to see with such happiness inside the benefit of that wondrous energy of silence it can fill my mind and help me change habits deep-rooted powerful harmful habits and help them to begin the process of melting away and we are saying that anger won't disappear like a magic wand but this power of silence this transformation power encourages me to really look at myself and feel so content in my own mind that I have the power to see how things are and it encourages me to keep creating good feelings and not to keep feeling the feelings of hurt but look at the deep good feelings that I am valuable and when I think like this that I am very very useful and I'm helping myself others and the world shanti you you

Reviews

Wow mind blowing inspiring thank you so much 😊🙏

Clearly I do not know how to get to peace but I’ll never stop trying ! 💜

Everything Rose says makes so much sense to me. I believe that peace is strength and anger is weakness. My heart is filled with anger so often - especially during this time of conflict, hatred, racism and destruction in the US particularly and the world generally. I explode inside when I focus on it, so I try to focus on peace. Thank you Rose for reminding me to do this. Om shanti!

Thank you for the wisdom!