Hi,
I wanted to talk about self-compassion.
We often think of loving others and being in relationship to others,
But the relationship with ourselves is the most important relationship there is.
Might find it easier to love others than it is to love ourselves.
To accept our basic humanness for all its flaws and for all its gifts.
To be able to accept the all of who we are without judgment,
Like a good friend that you love very deeply.
You can accept them for exactly who they are.
Being able to accept yourself in the same way is self-compassion,
Because it's from this ability to love exactly who we are from the inside out that gives us the depth,
The strength,
And the power to be able to love another fully,
Wholly,
And completely.
But this conversation is not about loving another.
This conversation is really about loving yourself and what loving yourself feels like in your body.
Some of us have a hard time thinking about loving ourselves.
May not be something that's easy to hear or to sit with.
May bring up other emotions.
And if that's the case as you're listening to this,
Then you are exactly in the right place,
Because it's those feelings that are hard to sit with.
Those feelings are the ones that need the most compassion.
It's part of being human human to judge yourself harshly.
It's a pattern that we get into,
An unconscious or subconscious pattern of judging ourselves harshly.
And when we can catch what that feels like in the body,
When we can catch what those thoughts feel like in our bodies,
Those thoughts of judging,
Criticizing what we do,
Who we are,
And the tapes that might be playing are tapes that are not friendly,
That are not kind,
That are not understanding,
That don't offer compassion for our humanness.
It's those tapes that we will feel inside our bodies.
We might notice the feeling in our bodies before we actually understand that we have been judging ourselves.
We may notice that we don't feel quite right,
That our bodies feel tense or stressed,
That we're holding something inside that doesn't give us a sense of spaciousness.
Creating a sense of spaciousness inside the body will help us get perspective,
Will help us understand that it may be time to create more self-compassion.
When we create safety inside of ourselves,
Treating our bodies as a container for self-compassion,
If you think of your body as a container for self-compassion,
Then you may notice your emotions differently.
Those deeper emotions that are connected to stories that live inside your nervous system.
When we can create space for our feelings,
Feelings,
Space in our bodies for what we're feeling,
And create a safe container for who we are in any given moment in time,
Is the greatest gift we could give ourselves.
Because you,
As much as anyone in the whole entire universe,
Deserve your love and attention.
But sometimes we forget,
And when we forget,
We can come back to our heart center.
We can be mindful of our breath,
Reminding ourselves that we are a container for self-compassion.
And this container starts inside your heart and grows,
Imagining your breath creating more and more space inside your body as you become a beautiful container for self-compassion.
With each inhale,
And each exhale,
