If you are alive,
Then chances are you've experienced some sort of pain at one point or another in your life.
The thing with pain is that its presence can linger around living inside of our bodies,
Our minds,
And our emotions for years,
Creating turmoil that feels unbearable to withstand.
So what do we do?
We typically push the hard things down and bury it.
Yet what we resist persists.
Pain is similar.
It will continue to hang out in our systems until we allow it to dissipate.
But some pain cannot simply be let go of.
This is true in the experience with grief and loss.
So how do we cope and bring healing back to our lives?
We must feel.
We must embrace all parts of our pain,
Experience it,
And live it.
For it is also now a part of us,
So we should honor it and then allow for feeling to lead us to healing.
To obtain the feeling of peace during grief and loss can be a challenge,
An all-out struggle.
However,
Peace is actually all around us,
But you have to work at peace.
Be mindful of your thoughts and pay attention to how you now perceive yourself existing in the world without the presence of your loved one.
And then decide if you want to live in your current state of anguish or truly live again.
This is hard to do.
I know because I've gone through the journey myself,
But it's well worth it.
During grief and loss,
You can feel like you are isolated on an island all by yourself.
A key to feeling again is to allow the experience of the healing process.
It is the removal of the expectations that we place on ourselves.
Let go of the expectations of how you should or shouldn't be functioning and just be as you are.
Do not put a time limit on your grief.
It is yours to work through the best way you can.
For some people,
To hear their encouragement,
Just keep going is sufficient.
Yet for others,
This can be a dangerous place to be in when you feel like you are out of strength,
Courage,
And the energy to just keep going.
So there is more to it than just to keep going.
If you never make space for pause in your life and just continue pushing through going with the emotions of it all,
You never allow yourself to actually feel.
And you miss out on so much happening right in front of you.
And you aren't allotted the time to actually heal.
When faced with the more challenging scenarios in life,
Our society is built on the foundation of doing rather than being.
We have to change our mindset if we want to survive and live in a healthy space within ourselves.
The journey towards healing will demonstrate in many ways how incorporating the concept of feeling,
Which is to be present with ourselves,
Will open us up to the ability to experience healing.
So now I want you to take the time to honor where you are right now.
In this moment,
In this space,
In your body,
In your mind,
Honor where you are.
Too often we discredit our progress.
Life is hard,
But you,
You are doing it.
Honor where you are right now.
Place your hand on your heart.
Take a deep,
Slow breath in.
Breathing in gratitude,
Hope,
And love.
When you exhale,
Exhale,
Breathing out negativity,
Pain,
And doubt.
Tell yourself thank you.
Thank you for showing up for me today.
Thank you for showing up for me right now.
Honor where you are in this moment,
In this space,
In your body,
In your mind.
Embrace what it means to be you.
Doesn't it feel wonderful?
All of your unique qualities.
You are a gift,
Not only to yourself,
But others around you.
Wrap your arms around your body.
Hold on and squeeze.
Spend these last moments honoring where you are.
