You know,
When we spend hours and hours in the store,
Maybe clothes,
Buying clothes,
Or buying,
Looking at furniture,
Or,
You know,
Buying things to make our home more comfortable.
Even buying technology that,
Underneath the reason for the purchases,
Is we may be trying to buy our self-esteem back.
Now,
Self-esteem,
True self-esteem,
You can't purchase it.
It's just the innate self-confidence and trust in themselves that every child starts off with before maybe conditioning interrupts.
So,
Someone who's really balanced and has a true self-esteem,
Coming from just the knowledge of their own worth,
Things will be less important to that person because they know that there's no object in the world that can bring this instinct of self-esteem.
And,
You know,
If we've lost it,
There's no amount of money or possessions that can bring it to us because it's the hole in the heart.
It's the wounding of the child who didn't feel intrinsically loved,
Who felt they had to do something in order to get love from the parents or caregivers.
So,
You know,
The backstory to all this is our culture is very alienated compared to,
You know,
The thousands of years of human history where people lived in small groups and,
You know,
Parents and children would live in one room or in a,
You know,
Some kind of tent structure and babies would be held for two years,
Carried on the backs of mothers.
They would have the touch of the mother,
Be in close contact physically with the mother.
Our human selves have experienced that pattern for thousands and thousands of years and we're breaking it almost abruptly right now.
So this has some human cost because we're paying no attention to the early bonding years between zero,
Well,
Zero and two particularly,
But then zero and six are just so important for children for how they're treated,
How safe they feel,
That the decisions really before we're six color our whole lives.
So if we took better care of this period,
A lot of our problems would go.
It's like Gandhi said this,
That if we took better care of the innocence of children,
That a lot of our societal problems would disappear.
And it's not just,
You know,
Societal problems,
It's the cost in human unhappiness of the emptiness and loneliness that is just so epidemic right now and how we're all like,
You know,
Like born to shop,
You know?
I mean,
And then if we don't have enough money to get all of the things we want,
We feel really bad and resentful and get angry.
And you know,
In the higher perspective,
Like from the point of view of the Eastern sages,
These are all desires.
You know,
The desire for clothes or,
You know,
A beautiful home and even technological things,
It's a desire and they're okay.
But the secret they say is to turn inward,
To become more non-attached to this earth plane,
To be not so invested in these objects.
But you know,
We can only do that really when we've had some experience of the healing of the heart because this is what we're trying to fill,
The emptiness in our hearts by shopping,
You know,
And trying to get self-esteem that we're good enough.
And we are good enough.
There's,
You're an immortal being in human form.
There's no object that could add to your worth.
You are just priceless.
But how many of us feel this?
Mm-hmm.
So,
I mean,
There's a lot of focus on politics and everything,
But I really think that the revolution we need is this emotional one to begin to honor this more ancient wisdom and to honor the,
You know,
The wisdom coming from the female aspect of the human,
The female polarity of the human aspect.
Like we all have,
We're either females or we have a female side.
So what I'm saying isn't foreign to guys either.
They can understand it.
Yeah.
And if we all turned in honor this,
You know,
And began to like really focus on instilling small children with true self-esteem,
And I'm not talking about indulging them.
I'm talking about really honoring the people that they were born to be,
Honoring that in them,
Not squishing it and giving babies the cuddles they need,
You know,
So they can be fully human beings,
Human beings and not be walking around with big deficits in their heart that,
You know,
That keep us like marrying four times or whatever,
You know,
All the pain that comes from aching human hearts and our attempts to fill them up with things or people.
We just really,
We,
You know,
Bottom line is nothing changed for me.
I'll just say my own experiences.
I had to turn and love myself as I was,
Love and accepted myself as I was.
And I'll tell you,
It wasn't a pretty sight.
It was very difficult,
But it's just,
I knew I had to start from just the truth of me rather than trying to,
I don't know,
Please people,
Try to fit into the society.
I had to start with my own heart.
And so the deficits in my heart coming from my childhood slowly began to fill up with this love and compassion that I was giving myself.
And I also hung around spiritual masters because in their company,
The power of the silence of their being will be transmitted to them.
And even listening to these words will help.
Yeah,
There's a silence beyond the words that is helping.
Okay,
What a time to be alive.
Well,
We're brave.
Okay,
Bless your dear,
Dear hearts and remember you're good enough.
Okay.
