Hi,
This is Ori Krug,
Board Certified Dance Movement Therapist and Trauma and Relationship Expert.
Today,
I would love to guide you through a movement meditation to help you move forward on your healing journey with anxious attachment.
One of the most important things that we need to be able to do in order to feel secure and experience deep satisfying love without so much fear or making ourselves small,
Is to feel empowerment,
Assertiveness,
And to be comfortable with confrontation in a way that is graceful and loving and still compassionate,
Yet does not dismiss or abandon our own needs.
When we are able to do this with loving grace,
Honoring our own needs while still honoring our partner's needs,
We can be so much closer to embodying secure attachment without all the anxiety and fear.
To begin this meditation,
Find yourself in a comfortable position right now,
Whether it's sitting,
Standing,
Or laying down.
Allow yourself to settle into a position that feels supportive and know that you can change your position at any time.
You are not stuck in one decision.
Wherever you've landed now,
Let's take three deep breaths together.
Breathing in.
And breathing out.
Again,
Breathing in.
And breathing out.
One last time,
Breathing in.
And breathing out.
I want to invite you to close your eyes or lower your gaze if you haven't already.
And imagine seeing yourself in your mind's eye,
Speaking up with love,
Grace,
Ease,
And empowerment.
How are you holding yourself in your body as you envision yourself in this place?
What's your posture like?
And what are your gestures like if you see yourself communicating with your body,
Perhaps with hand gestures or moving closer or further away from somebody?
Notice all the ways you are holding yourself in your body and moving your body in this visualization.
And as you are here visualizing yourself in this stage of empowerment,
Assertiveness,
Confrontation,
With love and grace and ease,
Allow yourself to start embodying this version of you.
However you saw yourself moving in your visualization,
You can literally try that on right now.
If you saw yourself standing up tall with your shoulders back and your head raised,
You can try that on right now.
If you envisioned yourself gesturing with your hands with directness yet softness,
Try that on in movement.
Alternatively,
You don't have to literally try on the vision you saw.
You can simply invite your body to move in response to this vision and just see what organically comes through.
You might find yourself swaying,
You might find your hands on your heart.
There's no right or wrong.
These are just some examples to help you get ideas just in case you're not sure what to do.
Lead with curiosity,
With play,
With exploration without pressuring yourself to look or feel a certain way or to do anything specifically.
And just move in a way that feels aligned with speaking up,
Being yourself unapologetically,
Owning who you are with continued love,
Empathy,
And compassion.
Standing up for yourself without aggression coming through.
How are you moving yourself?
How are you moving as you embody this place,
This stage?
I'll leave space for a minute here for you to continue to explore this movement and this new way or perhaps continued way of being in your body.
Whatever you're doing right now,
However you are moving,
Start to gradually,
Slowly bring your movements to a close.
Maybe even landing in an ending position that feels supportive to you right now.
There is no right or wrong way for you to end.
Just make sure you take some time to gain the closure that you may need.
That might look like ending in a self-hug or standing up really tall or just really organically and gradually letting your movements come to a pause.
Let's take one more deep breath together.
Breathing in and breathing out.
If your eyes are closed,
You may gently open them now and look around your space,
Noticing what's around you.
You can make physical contact with your own body to let you know that you are here and now.
Taking another few moments to do anything else that you need to do and coming to reflection.
What did you notice about yourself embodying this stage of empowerment,
Assertiveness,
And confrontation?
What was different about your posture?
What was the same?
How did you move differently?
What was noticeable to you in the way that you would like to move forward in embodying this way of being and being there for yourself while still being in connection with the ones you love?
What we explore today coincides with the first out of five stages of finally healing anxious attachment.
When you've been working so long on breaking anxious attachment patterns,
But you need help to finally embody the security that you truly desire and want to put forth in your relationships,
It is time to go through these last five stages.
It is such a powerful journey that I have been through myself and have also helped many clients through,
Which is why I have created an Insight Timer course called Five Stages of Healing Anxious Attachment.
If you'd like to do a deeper dive,
Continuing on from this meditation,
Visit my Insight Timer profile and find the Five Stages of Healing Anxious Attachment course.
I hope to see you in there,
And until then,
You deserve all the love that you desire.
