Stop Procrastination And Start Taking Action (Recorded Live)

Stuck in procrastination? Have a list a mile long that seems to never get done? During this recorded live session learn why you might be procrastinating and how to overcome it to finally start taking action!

Transcript

On Zoom. All right, So we are talking about how to stop procrastination. So welcome to our chat today. We're gonna be talking about, I hope you guys can see the screen. Can you guys see the board? Is it written the right way? Those are two things I always like to ask to make sure it's not written backwards for you, Because it's backwards for me, But I think you guys see it clearly. So just let me know if there's any issues as far as the board goes. I think I can flip the screen. I can flip the camera so it goes the other way. It's perfect, Awesome. So talking about procrastination, What is procrastination? So when you think about it, When we started this talk a couple of weeks ago, We were saying, What are you procrastinating on? So let's do that again. Tell me, What are some things that you are procrastinating on that are kind of sitting on your to-do list that keep coming, Sorry, I'm fixing my necklace, That keep, It's getting caught on my microphone, That keep coming and keep showing up for you, That you're like, I just wanna get this done. I think last time, I don't know who it was, I don't know if you're here, We were talking about passports. Like I have to get my passport updated, But I just can't get it done. Like what, Everything. Sandy's, Oh, Michelle, Procrastinating on decluttering, Everything, Making appointments, Doctor appointments. I have to laugh, My husband just did a whole bunch, He texted me the other day, He's like, I have this appointment, This appointment, And we make this appointment. And I go, You were like in appointment making mode. That was yesterday. Cause we do those things sit on our list, Cleaning out the house, Downsizing, Phone calls, Housework, Making a will. Lisa, I'm gonna go with you, We made a will, We need to update our will. That's one thing that's like sitting on my list, Choosing a new bathroom, Remodeling supplies. So look, Budgeting, Car maintenance, Oh, Taking that scene, All these things. So look at all these little, Little things. So I look at what we're talking about, These very realistic things, Cleaning the house, Making appointments, Getting the car fixed, Car maintenance, Getting the oil changed, Like just all these little things that get put on the back burner. And yeah, Sometimes it is big things like making a will. So let's look at, We've got little things, Little every day, Like it would probably take you, How long would it take you to make those doctor's appointments? Maybe like 10, 15 minutes to call, Make the appointment and schedule it. So we've got our little things. And then we've got our bigger things, Right? We've got things that'll take 10 to 15 minutes. That'd be terrible, Five, 10 to 15 minutes. Then we've got our bigger things, Things that take not a lot of time, But I think they're overwhelming, I think is the word. So let me know that if you guys agree with that word, There are other words that kind of come to you as far as like, What do you feel when you think about these things? Whether it's the little things that might take 10 to 15 minutes or the bigger things. What are the emotions that are coming up for you guys? Going to sleep early. Oh, That's, We talked about habits too, Awesome. Overwhelming, Stressed, Nervous. Look at those emotions. So you're overwhelmed, You're stressed, You're nervous. You're thinking about these things and you're feeling overwhelmed, You're feeling stressed. You're nervous, That's a good word. I don't know if I would have thought of that one, But I can see that, I know I keep coming out of you because I'm in landscape. It's uncomfortable, Oh, Look at those words, Uncomfortable. Oh, I wrote right in the smack middle, Uncomfortable. Oh my gosh, What a good word. So we're feeling all of these things. So why would I, Why would you wanna do something? So you're procrastinating these things. So why would you wanna do something that makes you feel stressed, Nervous, Uncomfortable, Overwhelmed? Logically, Let's think about it. Cause I think we like to beat ourselves up and go, But I should do it, It needs to get done, Right? Like what are the phrases we use? We say, I should be doing this, This just needs to get done. But deep down inside, If we think about the emotions that are coming up, It is exactly this, I'm overwhelmed. Why would I do something that overwhelms me? Why would I do something that's making me feel stressed out? Why would I do something that makes me feel nervous or uncomfortable or unhappy? Why would I do these things that make me feel this way? I'm gonna erase the board cause I wrote today. Well, You guys get, Hopefully you guys get where I'm going with this and kind of seeing what's happening here. So procrastination, Isn't about necessarily not getting things done. It's about shifting. And I'm gonna do three different things. We're shifting. We wanna shift, Right? We're gonna shift three different things when we wanna shift, We wanna change our procrastination and get things done. We wanna shift our perspective, Our emotions, And I'm gonna put our motivation. And maybe they're all kind of similar and the same, But I always like to use different terms. Like when we talk about surrendering and letting go, Like, Well, What's the difference? My goal depends on what it means to you. So whichever one calls to you, Use that one. So think about it that way. Getting these things done is great, But indeed overcoming those limiting emotions and the struggle. Yes, And that's what we wanna talk about, Sandy, Is saying, If you're able to shift your perspective and say, Well, Getting this done is going to be easy. I can feel good once this is done. We start thinking about how we're going to feel once that thing is done. So maybe doing that action isn't necessarily enjoyable, But maybe it's, If I can shift the emotion and think about, Oh my God, I'm gonna feel so good once this is done. My motivation, My motivation, Motivation is a funny thing, But I believe motivation comes, We're willing to do things that feel good to us. And a lot of times we try to ignore that because what feels good to us doesn't always align with what we should be doing. But if our motivation is doing what feels good and we do things when they feel good to us, Like, So if you've got a big project or you've got something that you need to do, And you're like, Oh, I love doing that, So it's easy. How can we make the things that aren't easy right now and shift the perspective so that they feel better? Does that all make sense? And then that's gonna change our motivation. And we're gonna be more motivated to get those things done. So maybe thinking about doing the thing, Making the appointments, De-cuttering the house, Like I hate organizing, I hate de-cuttering, But if I can shift my perspective and my emotions around this thing that needs to get done, My motivation is gonna change and I'm gonna wanna get it done. And it's all of a sudden going to be easy and freeing and flowing. I'm popping in to see the comments. Happiness is don't have any problems, But solving them. And even I know this, Sometimes it's really hard to get things done, Even those that I like doing. Yes, I do the, So I do the craft in the morning. We're gonna talk about, I'm gonna give you some very practical techniques that I like to use that kind of help shift things. Because sometimes we just don't wanna do them. And I'll talk about this. Definitely have no issue doing the fun stuff. Should have said, I do that. Yes. Oh, I do that. Okay, Yes. I see what you're saying. I see what you're saying, Lisa. I picked up on that. On what you're trying to put out there. I picked up what you were putting down. This is exactly what I need. Just retired, Need to purge and organize. Beautiful, Susan. Susan Beth, Susan Beth, Sorry. The screens, Your comments are very small when I back away, So. I love this so, So much. So let me talk about my procrastination. I am the person who used to, I was in a former life. I was the person, I'm gonna put it blankly. I was a terrible student. I got good grades, Right? On the education sale. I got good grades. I did okay. I did well enough in school. I didn't have to put in much effort. But I was also the kid who would stay up till four in the morning doing a project because I waited until the day before to get it done. And I have patterns and beliefs. So I can go back and say, Well, Why do I procrastinate? Why do I push things off? We can go back and we can sit and we can dig that hole up by. I'm not gonna do that today. Because as you start shifting things, Things will start coming up and you can start healing those limiting beliefs and moving through them. I don't wanna spend a whole lot of time there today. I wanna be able to do that today. I wanna talk about moving forward because your things are going to pop up. Your beliefs are going to pop up and we're going to tackle them today. That's what I wanna do. So I'm not gonna spend time today on the healing part of it because there is definite healing. If you've got limiting beliefs and patterns and habits that keep you from doing things, That's almost like step two in my book. Like we can do the healing, But sometimes when we focus so much on why we are, How we are, We spend so much time in the healing that we don't do it. But as you're doing the doing and moving forward, The things you need to heal will pop up. You can tackle them, You can heal them, You can go through them and then you just kind of keep moving forward. So I don't wanna dig that hole deeper and make it harder for us to time out of it. Just so you guys know that. So there is a lot of healing and limiting beliefs that are going to come up. I'm not going to get into that today because we only have a short amount of time. So just kind of be aware of that. I might touch on it and talk about it. So I'm the kid who would stay up till four in the morning I remember, Oh gosh, I might've been in like fourth, Fifth grade, Internet had just come out. Like we didn't really have computers in our homes and it was like maybe a project might've been due like the next day. And my parents didn't like hover over me as far as what do you have to do for school? What's your work? Because my grades, I always did well enough that I didn't need anyone making sure that I was where I needed to be. And I think I made it easier for my parents. So I think they had to kind of harp on my brother a lot more to get his stuff done. So I think they were kind of like, Well, We don't have to worry about it, Our grades are fine. So that's a lot of where my patterns and my beliefs come in. I'm like, Well, I always do better doing things at the last minute. I created that belief, That happened. I'm working to change that. And it is a process that happens and I find myself falling back into those patterns a lot. But I remember doing this project and going to my parents and saying, I have this report due tomorrow, But we don't have anything on it. I don't know what to do. So we had to run over to a friend's house, Hop on their computer, Get on the internet. There was no information on the internet back in the mid 90s, Early 90s. So you're getting what you can get so that I could write this report and do this paper. And I was probably third or, No, I must've been in like fourth grade. It was the first time I really kind of had a big project that was going to take, I should have been doing it a little bit at a time, But that's just not how I worked. I just didn't do it that way. So that was really one of my earliest memories of really waiting to the last minute. And then that pattern continued all the way through college, All the way through grad school of just waiting to the last minute and procrastinating. And I still do procrastinate on things today, But I'm able to work through them and see the procrastination and see why and what's going on. That's what we're going to talk about today. Cindy, I'm exactly the same. Summarize the earlier points. Do you want me to summarize this, These points? I'm just talking about, When we talk about procrastination, We're going to shift. We want to shift our perspective and our emotions, And that's going to allow us to move through our, Change our motivation and motivate us to move ahead. That's really what we're looking at. I love it. Oh, Yeah, Susan. So this is, We want to shift our perspective, How we see the things that we need to get done, The things that we're putting off. We want to change how we view them. And we also want to change the emotions tied to them. And that's what we're going to talk about. And then that will shift our emotions. Our motivation will shift automatically. Awesome. Okay. So, Talk about it. Let's talk about, Okay. So the first thing I want to talk about is our priorities. Is what? Ooh, My marker is, I think I need a new marker. Our priorities. There's a little one. Okay. I have more if I need to grab them. It's just going to be a different color. So we have priorities. You have things that have to get done, Right? You have things that need to get done. Be the cool kid. I was not the cool kid. I was far from it. But I was a procrastinator. Far from it. Far from it. Far from it. So, I love that perspective though. That belief that you have. Like it makes me laugh. It makes me giggle. So I modeled myself on that. Oh, I see. See, There's your pattern. So if it's cool to procrastinate and wait till the last minute, Then that's what you did. That was your reason for procrastinating. Well, If they can do it and that makes them cool, Then I'm going to do it tonight. We all have our stories. That was the story that you told yourself. So now it's going to be rewriting that story. Which is always really fun. So we have our priorities. So I'm curious to know when you guys have something that has to get done, You've got that deadline. And I just said it. I was that kid who was up till four in the morning working on the paper because I didn't start until 11 o'clock the night before, Correct? That was me. I don't want to live like that anymore. I'm a mom, I've got two kids. I can't be doing things in the middle of the night. I need to get things done in a more orderly fashion. Just like our parents did today, To know that things are where they need to be. And if I look past the illusion, I can see the underlying border. That's what it says in there. Oh, Thank you, Ana. I appreciate that. I can't see the board anyways. Am I blocking the board or can you guys not read it? I'm going to have to, I think I need a new marker. I'm going to learn the words. I'll do the best that I could. I need a fatter marker. My marker's dying. Anyway, I'm procrastinating. So we have priorities. So when you guys have that deadline and you're like, I have to get this thing done. Are you going to do it? Is that something, That motive that makes it a priority? So when things are a priority, Do you get them done? Or do you still just not do them at all? I'm curious to know, Let me know. Just had to clean my glasses. You guys heard me up. Look at your priorities. When you've got priorities, Are you getting those things done? Yes, And that is how I got through life, College, Family, Projects, And even now I'm retiring. My friend, I worked with for years and I always taught this for the first time. It was a strength, But it was so stressful. Yes, I always thought that was, You know what my story was being? I'd always say, But I worked really well under pressure. I always do better. The story I told myself was, But if I worked ahead, I have stories, I would write a paper. I'd be like, You know what? I'm not going to work the last minute on this paper, But I'm going to work over time and I'm going to fix it and I'm going to correct it. And then I'd hand it in and I'd get a terrible grade. And then I do it the night before and I get a great grade. So my story was, I actually do better doing things at the last minute, But that's not the case. And that's what I want to share with you guys today. Should we have to make a priority list? Yes, But making a priority list, And this is where I want to share this, Priorities. And I'm going to see if my husband can bring my marker up. The other word is alignment. It wasn't that I worked well last minute. It was that I worked best when my priorities were in alignment, When I had the energy and the excitement to write the paper. For me, That deadline seemed to be the story that I can only work up against the deadline, But that it wasn't the deadline, It was the alignment. The mind buckled against, My back was against the wall. I could get it done because I knew I had to. Now that I understand it's because that's what I was focusing on. I didn't need weeds to recreate a paper or to declutter my house. When you do something that's in alignment with you and it feels really good, Do you notice that it gets done quicker and it's easier? Whereas if you try to push something, It's hard. It takes a lot longer. It's exhausting. Am I, Are you guys agreeing with me? Am I, Is this connecting with you guys? Yes, I am going to give you strategies, But I want you to understand what's going on in your mind first. Planning my week on the agenda helps me a lot to prioritize. I do the same thing. I agree, But okay, Vicki, Let me know because this is my experience. So I'm sharing with you guys my experience. When we're in alignment and we enjoy something, Maybe not necessarily quicker, But we enjoy doing it, Correct? How can I get myself in alignment, But not have the time and be at the very last minute? How can I get myself in alignment? How can I listen to that alignment and get things done quickly? And get things done sooner so that I'm not stressed out? Like you said, Vicki, You're not, You thought it was a strength, But then you realized how much unnecessary stress that it gave you. So it wasn't necessarily alignment. It was your back was against the wall. You had to get something done so you did it. But how can we get ourselves in alignment so that we're not waiting till the last minute to get these things done? Forcing versus flowing. Yes, Dave, That's exactly what it is. Don't force it. Let it flow. But how, And this is what I think you guys are like on the edge of your seats waiting for, How do you let it flow when you know that things need to get done? If it is like you know it is crucial, So the pressure's on. If it is on the alignment, You know it is crucial. So the pressure's on and you procrastinate it. But why are you procrastinating, Vicki? And I think this goes back to how we were feeling in the very beginning. Think about the thing that you need to do. We're gonna go into tips because I think this is a perfect place to do that. But I wanted you guys to kind of have this concept in the back of your minds of shifting perspective, Emotions, And then being in alignment. Those are gonna be the three big things. Because we are scared of change. So here's what I want you to do. What is this? Pick one thing, One thing. And you guys listed them all. You listed, And these are so practical. That's what's so interesting. They're practical, But they're not things that we enjoy doing. So look at where you are. Choose one thing that you're procrastinating on. One thing. And then think about doing that thing. So this is gonna be a bit of a journal exercise. When you think about that thing, That thing that you're putting off, How do you feel? My marker came back. I'm pushing a little harder. When you think about making those doctor's appointments, When you think about go taking your car in for an oil change, What is it, How are you feeling about that thing that you're putting off? How does it feel to declutter your house? Be honest with your emotions. You've got to be open and honest with yourself. It could be something as simple as, I need to update my passport. I need to go get my license picture taken. I have not done that yet. I have not gone to get my license picture done. I have the card and everything I need. My license expired a month ago. I have my temporary card. I just need to go and actually get the picture taken. I am procrastinating like no other on this. So what I'm going to do is I'm going to do these exercises, Try to figure out what's going on. And you won't have to do this all of the time. You do this a few times. You're gonna start seeing your patterns. You're gonna start seeing the things that pop up. That is the question of my adult life. My adult life. I get overwhelmed. Too many things to get done to get the house organized. I hate organizing. Look at these, I love lists. Mickey, Me too, I love lists. Very over, Please share the, Yeah, I will share the recording in the circle. Absolutely. Mine expired too. What is it? Why? I will tell you why. This is what I believe. I'm gonna do a little bit more digging, But as I sit and chat with you guys, I had this amazing picture for my license. Gosh, My sign, My oldest sign is eight. And I remember taking him in the carrier to get my picture done. And I, My hair looked great, Skin looked great, My smile. It was just this amazing picture. And then four years, Five years later, Whatever it is, You have to go get a new picture. I hate this picture on my license. I have a very vain fear. And I'm like, I'm gonna hate my picture. I can't go get my picture taken for my license until I know that I feel really good. That's a story. It's simple. It's not big, It's not huge. It's very vain, It's very ego driven, But it is, If I'm being open and honest with myself, All of you here listening, That is what is telling me. And I refuse to take the time because I don't feel good about myself right now, About my hair, About how I look, About my, I am working on that. I've got to move through that because this is a practical thing that kind of needs to be said. I need to feel good. And until I feel good, This is the story, Until I feel good about how I look, I can't go get my picture taken. That's the story that's holding me back. What is holding you back? You hate organizing. Why do you hate organizing? Dig in deeper, Figure it out. I hate it because my mom used to organize and clean the house. Instead of hanging out with me, She'd be cleaning all weekend. That's a story I had. So I would not always spend Saturdays cleaning the house. I've learned to let go. I've learned to find a rhythm with cleaning my house. But for me, It was, I just had these memories of my mom cleaning the house and saying, Mom, Can I help you? Just to like spend time with her. No, I don't want your help. I can't go. That's a story. That's something that I experienced. I created the story and then I let it play out. And then I didn't clean my house for like a whole month. Oh, My house is actually very gross. Until I cleaned it the other day. I cleaned it last weekend and it felt so good to do it. But I procrastinated cleaning the showers and cleaning the bathroom because of this story, Because of what happened. And then when I cleaned them, I was like, Oh my gosh, This is so much easier than I realized. This went by so quickly. I'm changing my perspective. I'm shifting my emotions around it. And then I go in and I'm like, Oh, Look how clean the shower is. That feels so good. That's shifting and it's shifting my motivation for the next time that I have to do this thing. Circles, Yes, Thank you, Achu. I make too many lists and they keep growing. All right, Let's talk about this. I want you to think about this though. Figure out what's behind what's stopping you. And then heal, Work through that or say, Oh my gosh, I just need to do it anyway. So let's talk about just doing it anyway, Even when it's hard, Even when it's uncomfortable. I think, See if I don't do it well, I don't know. Whereas if you don't, If you do it and it doesn't work out, You feel really dumb. Absolutely. Well, You're afraid. There's a fear there. There's a fear of what am I going to do? But it seems not enough. I'm going to give you, So I want you to understand this about some, And again, You don't have to do this all the time because you will start to notice your patterns. So here's what I do. Every, I kid you not, Every single day I do this. Every week I do this. I list out the things that need to be done. I've got my to-do list, Right? I'm a mom, I've got kids in school. I work, I list out things that need to get done. My, Oh, My marker's popping out again. My to-do list. We all have one, Right? Whether it's in our heads or written down. We've all got a to-do list. I highly recommend a list. It helps you see, Even if that means one time and you just write out all the things that need to get done. Then I want you to take your top one to three that need to get done that day. What has to get done that will make me feel good? What can get done that will make you feel good? Maybe it's not in the doing of the thing, But it's in the completing of the thing, Whatever it is. I make phone calls in the car because I get to, That's beautiful. You know that about yourself. I know, Lisa, I know. It's so beautiful. I know, I know. I know, Lisa, I know. It's not enough to motivate me though. It's not enough. List your top one to three things and not one to three things that have to get done. The one to three things that will make you feel good. What is going to make me feel accomplished today? What is going to make me feel free? What is going to make me feel good today? In this moment, What needs to get done? Kids' laundry. And if that means if you're looking at something like a bigger thing, Like breaking down, Decluttering your house, Break it down into smaller parts. You know what's going to make me feel good? Cleaning out my closet. Cleaning out my shoes in my closet. Organizing the shoes in my closet. That's what's going to make me feel good. I vacuumed part of my house. Or if I look at vacuuming my entire house, Oh, That's a lot. But if I say, What's really bothering me? And I can say, It's the hallway and my youngest son's room because the rabbit lives in this room. So there's bedding and hay always over this room. But sometimes it's just vacuum his room. Just clean up the hay and the bedding and I can walk in there and feel good. I don't have to vacuum the whole house unless I feel like I want to. I don't have to do the whole thing. And I think sometimes we make things bigger than they need to be. So really listening in and saying, What's going to make me feel good? I'm going to focus on those things. Don't do more than three. I actually usually only do one or two. I very rarely have two things. I have my list of all the things that need to get done. I make a list for the week. And then for the week, I pop them in to say, Which day of this week does it look like I'll be able to get this done? And then I lift my top one to three things. How does that feel for you guys? Oh, Lisa, That's a pretty good motivator. I'm cleaning the shower right now. Oh, Joan, I love that. In this moment, Very well-played. Yeah, That's all you can do because if you think too far ahead, You're going to send yourself into a tailspin. What feels good right now in this moment? And what am I going to do? What can wait? And then you can look at the rest of the list and go, Why do I have to do this? I don't need to do this. This is going to be okay. This can wait till later. And you start realizing like this isn't important. So yesterday I did an empty the dishwasher. And one thing for me that always really blocks me is a sink full of dishes. But yesterday I had other things that were a top priority. And I, After two years of really doing this, I've been doing this for almost two years, Making a to-do list, Making my top ones at three things. It's a game changer, But I've done it for almost two years now. And it's in that habit that I start to realize, Well, Oh, It'll get done because it will. And when I feel aligned, I'm like, Oh, Now's the time I'm going to want to empty the dishwasher. Oh, Now I'm going to want to call and make that oil change for my car and get that done. And it's going to get done. I know that. I've learned that just because I'm not doing it right then and there, Doesn't mean it's not going to get done. And it's going to get done in a way that feels good and feels easy and feels freeing and feels comfortable. And it's maybe kind of fun. It's going to feel good because I'm going to wait until it does feel good to do it. I'm going to find that alignment and it's going to show up. But one of the one to three things that are going to make me feel good, So the dishwasher didn't get empty yesterday. My husband started, He did half of it last night. I finished it this morning. And the sink is still full of dishes. And I'm thinking, Well, That will get done. But I'm not stressed out about it because I know after two years of really practicing this, That it's going to get done and it's going to feel good when it does. And that's okay. I just have to do what feels good in this moment. I just love the kitchen and bathroom while listening. Look at that. You're, I don't, I actually don't promote multitasking, But sometimes when you're listening like to a podcast or if you need to motivate yourself by putting music on, I tend to cook. I haven't done it in a little while. It started to kind of be detrimental, But over the summer I would cook and I would put my phone up and I'd watch like a Netflix show. I'd watch something while I cook because it brought me enjoyment. There's one practical tip that I absolutely love. Talking about putting things together. I want to use the word habit stacking, But I don't think that's actually the appropriate word, But it is something where you take something that you do enjoy doing and you tie it with, Maybe that's what it is. Maybe, I don't know if it's actually called habit stacking, But I'm going to put it down. You can Google it to get the exact what it is. Pairing two things together. Something you like doing, Something you don't enjoy doing. I don't enjoy cleaning my bathroom, But I can clean my bathroom. Here's what I did. I put something on. I put on, I watched the new show on Amazon, The new musical theatrical version of Cinderella. Very cute, Super theatrical, Super cheesy, But I really enjoyed it. That stuff I enjoyed. I watched it the night before and I thought, Oh, I don't have to sit and watch it, But I could like listen to it. And the music was kind of fun and it was silly. So I had that on while I was cleaning the bathrooms. You're pairing two things, Something you don't enjoy with something you do enjoy. I would watch a show, A Netflix show, And I would cook dinner. I do enjoy cooking dinner, But it was for a while, It was a really good pair. I don't really do it much right now. So now my new thing is I've been listening to music while I get things done. And so these things that you're pairing them together to have it stuck. I don't enjoy de-contering my house, But I love listening to music. So I'm gonna put music that I love on while I clean my house. I agree. Yes, It is done with house. I love it. My workouts and my music go good together. Oh, My husband, We own that book, The Time I Caught It, It's up there somewhere. Oh, It's right here. I haven't read it yet. My husband's read it, It's right there. I can show it to you guys. I don't wanna knock my board over. I haven't read it so I can't say, But my husband read it and he really liked it. Sweet and sour, Yes. Oh, Thank you, Anthony. That too, Yeah, So I forget, But I don't remember the term, But you know what I mean. The other thing that I really love doing, And it's called, And I think somebody said it earlier, Eat the Frog. You can Google, You can look at the YouTube video, Eat the Frog, There's a whole thing on it. I had a former boss share this with me. The thing you don't like, The thing you don't wanna do, Do it first thing in the morning. Get it done, Get it out of the way. Cause if you don't do it, It's going to weigh on you and it's going to stress you out. And it's going to, It's gonna be on your mind and you're not gonna be able to do other things well, Cause that's gonna be on your mind. So eat the frog, Do it first thing in the morning. Oh, That's awesome, Samar. I'm getting ready for the beach now, See? If you want to create a new tablet attached. Oh, That's what habit stacking is, Thank you guys. Making coffee or brushing your teeth. I'm archive first thing cause of it. Ah, I love it. That's why I do crap in some more things. Please keep cracking me up. So eating the frog, Doing those things first thing in the morning. And then what you're gonna do is you're gonna create a habit. Habits are huge. And the next thing I wanna talk about, I'm sorry, I just totally, Oh, Power hours. That's what I wanted to talk about. And not the power hour from college power hour, A very different kind of power hour. This is a tip I learned from a dear friend of mine. And I love this tip. This isn't something you need to do all of the time. And it doesn't even have to be an hour. It could be 15 minutes, 30 minutes. Take your list of things. You have your list, My nose is itchy. You have your list of things that need to get done. And it's overwhelming. Say, I'm gonna take 15 minutes and I'm gonna do whatever I need to do. And I'm gonna do whatever I can within the list. Take your top one to three things and say, What's the first thing I'm gonna do? This is the first thing. This is the, Because you're gonna spend 15 minutes going, What do I do first? Just do something. It doesn't matter what it is, Do something. Set your timer, 15 minutes, 20 minutes, 30 minutes, 45 minutes, 60 minutes, Whatever it is, Get it done. And when that timer goes off, You are done. And then you can do it again at another time. Whether it's, And it's those little things, Making appointments, Cleaning up email. You can even do that for decluttering and organizing your health. I need to go through my email. Oh, I don't feel like doing that. Set a timer. I'm gonna sit here and I'm gonna do this and it's gonna get done. And that's it. And then once that timer goes off, You're done. It's good for all of those little things that stack up and build up over time that don't take long to do, But they need to get done. So just do it. Set a timer and do it. I eat the frog first thing. I love that Anne-Marie. Yeah, Eat the frog, Get it done. It's not too late for, Wait, Is that the tail 20? Uh-uh, Learn to, I'm misunderstanding your question. And I feel like it might be about, Yeah, Even when you haven't finished, You stop. Because what you're gonna do is if you creep into that extra time, You're gonna start to resent it. And you're gonna, Your emotions around it are gonna go, This takes too long, I can't get this done. I don't have enough time. Nope, You got 15 minutes. And if that means tomorrow I'm gonna set my timer for another 15 minutes and I'm gonna see what I can get done and do that too, Do it again or do it later in the day. So I'm just gonna take a break. I'm gonna go clear my mind. I'm gonna go have breakfast. I'm gonna go eat and then I'm gonna come back and I'm gonna do it again. Yeah, You stop, You stop. That's what that is. You can set the timer for as long as you want. And you have to understand that's your time and that's what you're doing. That's the only thing you're doing in that timeframe. But what I think will surprise you is A, You will learn two things. You will learn that things, Sometimes certain things might take longer than you anticipate. So maybe that means next time I do this thing, It's going to take me longer. I need to be prepared for it. Or you're gonna learn, Oh my gosh, That only took me like 30 seconds to respond to that email that I've been thinking about for weeks that I haven't responded to. I need to respond to that message that I haven't responded to. But we make things bigger in our minds than they actually are. And then all of a sudden we're like, Wait, That only took me like a minute. Oh, Well now I can go do this. And then that's off your mind. So now that mental, Emotional weight that's been building on you is now gone because you don't have to worry about it instead of not doing it as you anticipate the difficulty or just like doing the things. Better 15 minutes and you can do a lot more in 15 minutes than you realize you can if you have focused time. So that's not, And that might be, That's not when you're listening to something and doing work at the same time. So this is true. This power hour is true focused time and energy. I'm not listening to anything else. I'm not listening to music unless that motivates you. So what I do for me, I love background music. I will do binaural, Binaural, I can't do it. Binaural beats or I'll do like piano music or just something very light, Not something with words, Not listening to something because then I'm gonna get distracted. And then there's a thing called context switching, Which there's a timeframe going from one task to another and that takes extra time. So if you're doing this power hour, I recommend true focused energy on these things that need to get done, Not focusing on anything else. So that's not the time where you're, I wanna say habits acting, But that's not when you're listening to music and cleaning the house at the same time because this is your true focus energy. You're responding to emails, You're making appointments. You can't be thinking about other things at the same time. I literally keep writing the same to do things on my list. Yes, And that's actually what my good friend taught me. She was, It's those things. So if you have every single week, You're noticing this is moving up and I have those things too. So you guys know, I'm like, Whoa, This has not been a priority. And I wonder why, You know what? After a while when those things pile up and it's like, This is gonna get done. I just need to do it. But if I do it, That's when I do a power hour when I see those things starting to go from day to day to week to week and they're not getting done. This is a power hour activity. Getting my license picture done, Not a power hour activity. I need to actually make a set of time for that. And that's another piece too, Is scheduling. So if there's something that you need to do outside of your home. So I schedule, I have my appointments. I have dropping the kids off and going to work and doing my lives. All those things have times set in my calendar on my schedule that's necessary. Kids soccer games, There's a time I need to be somewhere. Something like going and getting my license done, Going to the post office to do a mailing. I had something that was on my list for weeks. Took me like two weeks to do it, But it wasn't until I wrote it down and put it in my calendar saying, At this time, I'm going to the post office. I'm doing this thing. It doesn't have a necessary schedule, But what works for me is I give it a time and a schedule. What I will do, And I'm going to promise you all, And I will confirm this with you once I do it. I'm going to put on my schedule next week when I am going to go get my license done and might get my picture done. I'm gonna schedule it. I have to figure out which day. It'll probably be Friday, But today I have free. I'm going to put it in my calendar. I'm gonna say at this time, I'm going to get it done. And I will write it down. If I had an actual scheduled appointment with the DMV to go get my license done, To go get my picture taken, That is huge. So if there's something like that, If you say, I'm gonna block out this time. I'm gonna block out this time. And this is gonna be my two hours. This Saturday morning, I have nothing to do. So I'm gonna take between 7 a. M. And 9 a. M. And I'm going to declutter my room. Yes, Buddy? I want something. Yeah. Did you get something to eat? We don't have cream cheese yet. I know. I got a. . . Is that it? All right, I'm almost done. I will get you something to eat. Yeah, Go ahead. That's fine. Okay. Do it today. I can't do it. Well, Today is not, I can't do it today. That I know. And then they're closed on Sundays. So that I understand. But I can say that's not gonna be in alignment. So I were to try to put it on the schedule today. I would feel rushed. It wouldn't feel good. But I could say, Well, If I do it on Friday, That's on my calendar and I will get it done. If for some reason earlier in the week, Time pops up and I go, You know what? I'm gonna do this now and free up Friday. I can do that as well. Because your schedule, I'm good with the schedule, But I have to be flexible. You have to know who you are in that moment. Thank you, Ru. Thank you, You guys are so supportive. The mind makes things bigger. Yes. All right, So these are just some of the practical things. And you can find them in books like Atomic Habits. And you have to know yourself. So when you read these books, And even when I give tips, Understand that I'm coming from who I am. I am someone who likes some structure, But not too much structure. I need some flexibility, But I do better when things have a schedule, But I don't do good when someone says, You have to do this right here, Right now. I kind of go, I resist. But if I've got enough flexibility in my schedule that works for me, There are some people who need to have a full-on schedule to need to have it. There are some people who need more flexibility. You have to know who you are. You have to be self-aware and understand what works for you and what doesn't. What works for you, What doesn't. What feels good? That is constantly the question. I wanna say that you should be asking yourself, Does this feel good? Is this coming from an aligned space? Am I flowing or am I forcing? Excuse me. Another book I can share with you guys. And if you guys have any questions and you wanna go a little deeper, Let me know. I'm looking for another book. I will find it. It might be somewhere else. Oh, It is over here. So if you guys have questions or thoughts about this, This is the time to do it. So I'm pretty much done with what I was going through. I'm going to share and now we can kind of spend some time kind of chatting back and forth. Because I'm terrified I'm progressing in difficult conversations. Ah, Okay. Let's talk a little bit about healing it. Let's talk about healing those stories. This is another brilliant book. I read this one a while ago, When I'm still working full-time. Now I'm only working full-time. But this one was really powerful and really kind of, Sorry, Helped me. The one thing, This is a really good book. It talks about basically saying, Stop multitasking and just do one thing at a time and you're going to get more done. Focus on the task at hand, Get it done, Move on to the next thing. That's what this talks about. It also talks about blocks of time. Oh, Thanks, Steve. Thanks for joining. So let's talk about the ones that have fear. Fear around them. Fear, Being scared, Whatever's happening to us. So we talk about fear and we talk about healing. So those stories pop up. We don't want to have difficult conversations. Why not? Because they scare us. They scare us. Why do they scare us? When you're thinking about those conversations, Oh, I'm sorry. It was just some of the tips. So it was habit stacking, Eat the frog. Power hour and schedule. Those were the four things we had listed. So thank you guys. I appreciate that. Thank you. You guys are awesome. I'm sorry. I'm going to get a thicker marker for the next time. All right, Nick. So if you're looking at what is the fear around those conversations? Where does that come from? And we talked about it before. What are the emotions? Are you thinking about what's going to happen and what they're going to say? Are you forward casting what's going to happen? Changes occurring, Big changes in my life. Okay. Okay, My boss, I work at a health care facility and I was in, He was talking to a client the other day and I was in on the report. And he said, We like to what if, We what if, When you're thinking of what if, Are you thinking a positive what if or a negative? You guys can answer that. Pretty much guarantee what the answer is going to be. Are you what if thing, What if everything works out so beautifully? Or are you what if thing, This is going to go down the drain. This is going to go down the toilet and this is going to suck and everybody's going to hate me and judge me and think I'm an idiot. So no, I'm not going to take this risk. I'm not going to have this difficult conversation. I'm not going to do this thing because people are going to judge me and I'm going to fail. Or is it, Oh my God, I'm going to succeed. This is going to be so exciting. The board is not hung. Actually I could probably tilt it. The board is not hung. Our office is unfinished. I mean, I know we have this beautiful thing here, But we moved in our house a year ago and we haven't figured out how we want to set up the office. So this is all very temporary. So yes, Eventually I'd like to have a space where the board is hung on the wall and I can do my lives from there. Until then it leans on a chair. Negative fear, Right? We're worried, We're scared, We're what-ifing the crap. Let's be honest. Nobody ever said, Or maybe we should say more often, I'm going to try to lean it so it doesn't happen, But then I lose armchair so then it falls. What if we went into a closet? What if we, And I'm going to make it real simple. What if we succeed? What if we have more money at the end of the month? What if we win? Right? Like we don't, See, That's why I don't push it back so far. Oh my goodness gracious. Okay. Yeah, I can't push it back because then I lean. We're a work in progress over here at the Ginkrick household. So yeah, When this room gets done, It will be hugged. Thinking there's a wall on the other side. Anyway, But what if we, What if the other side is not working? What if we, What if we, What if we, What if the positive, And this is something, Ever since I heard him say that, I'm thinking to myself, And I'll notice in my head, I just am trying to become more self-aware of, What if we don't have enough money, We can't do this. I go, Oh, Let me change that. What if we do have enough money at the end of the month? What if we have more than enough, And we're able to take this trip that we want to take, Or we're able to do this thing that we want to do. What if, What if, What if, And we try to what if on the positive side. What if you had these difficult conversations, And it went exactly as you wanted it to go. We are, We're gonna tap into manifestation here. We are creators of our own reality. If you walk into that conversation with fear, And you're worried, And you believe, And you've envisioned this story in your head, You've envisioned it and said, This is not gonna go well. This is not gonna work out. If you walk in with that emotion and with that vibration, That is exactly, You are predicting it. That is exactly what you were going to get. But if you walk in and you say, If this conversation were to go exactly as I want it to go, What would that look like? What do I want to get from this difficult challenging conversation? I'm anticipating a challenging conversation. If this conversation goes exactly as I want it to, What is that going to look like? Then visualize that. What do you want that other person to say? How do you wanna feel having this conversation? And if you walk in with that vibration, That's what you're gonna get. You can still have those fears and worries. They're gonna sit there. They're not gonna go away. But you've at least said, This is how I want this conversation to go. This is what I want to get out of it. And same thing, If you're, We're gonna take it back to the press, Because I don't wanna get too much off topic. But if I'm procrastinating this conversation, It's because I'm afraid. You said that you're afraid, There's fear. But what if I take the fear away and I shift my perspective? And I say, Well, What if this works out in my favor? What if decluttering my house means I can, You're downsizing. So maybe somebody's selling their house. Somebody said downsizing. What if I clear the clutter out of my house and I downsize and somebody pays me more money than I list my house for because I've decluttered it and it looks absolutely beautiful. Is that gonna motivate you? Is that gonna give you the motivation because you shifted perspective and emotion? Is that gonna motivate you to take action? Is that what's gonna happen? What if, What if the positive? We imagine what is possible. We are creators of our own reality. Your mindset is the result of your current reality. Yes, Where we are now in this moment is just simply past thoughts. So if we wanna change our future, We have to change our present. We have to change our present thoughts and that's going to shift to the future and create a new reality in the future. So often we stand, We're on this hamster wheel and we're, Little squirrel just ran outside my window. We're spinning on the hamster wheel. All we need to do is jump off, Jump off. Otherwise we're gonna keep repeating the same things that we're gonna repeat our patterns. We're gonna repeat our limiting beliefs. We're not gonna change. I'm a former procrastinator. I still do it, But I understand what's going on inside my mind so much more than I did before. I used to, I forget who said it. I used to think my procrastination was a strength. It can be, But it's not really a strength. It's just me pushing things off that I don't wanna do because I'm afraid to do that because there's some underlying issue that I need to deal with in order to move through it. That's what that's about. And I could push through, I could force it and make it happen and that's not gonna feel good. And then I'm just gonna repeat that pattern again. And I'm gonna stay in that stress state. I don't wanna be in that stress state. I wanna stay in that flow state so that energy through my body is flowing so that I'm healthy and I'm clear and energy is flowing and things are moving as they should and my vibration is really good and really settled. Are we gonna be there 100% of the time? No, Because we're human and we're meant, We're gonna get out of alignment. And every time we get out of alignment, It's an opportunity for us to learn, To learn and grow and do differently the next time. That's what life is. That's what life is about. I don't want to face the truth. The outcome may be both good and bad for me. No, Don't worry about getting deep. Then Nick, Here's what I'm gonna tell you. And again, Not knowing you and not knowing your story, Not working with 101 to say, You don't wanna face the truth. Face the truth with yourself first. Open yourself up. Just honor everything that's going on and say to yourself, It's okay. No matter what's happening, It's okay that this happened in the past. It's okay that I feel this way. It's okay that this is what's going on. It's okay. Everything's okay. It's okay to have these experiences and have these emotions and honor yourself where you are right now. And don't have that conversation possibly until you've accepted that for yourself. Then you're gonna be even more open to that conversation or have it and you can learn from it. It's just, It's just an experience. It's just a part of life. And it's a part of our journey and moving forward. I still have not set up. Stop the story, You gotta send off your passport. Just like I have to take my license picture. Oh, You did a lot of other things on your list. Yay. One task a day. Today's passport. Oh, That's amazing. You tell us, You're in the circle, Right? So tell us when it's done and I will do the same thing. I will tell you guys when I get my license done. Feel love open and willing. Oh, Maria, That's beautiful. Oh, You're welcome, Nikki. So feel compassion for yourself. And if you feel compassion for yourself, Someone else is gonna feel compassion for you. And also understand that you're having a conversation with someone, You have no control over what happens on their end. All you can do is get your energetic place, Get your energy, Get your alignment. And you come with your alignment, Knowing that whatever they have, Whatever they have to say, That's not on you. You're coming from the best place that you can and being compassionate with yourself. It's huge. Oh, You're welcome, Monica. Can you review the strategies? Yeah, Bye Monica. Thanks for joining us. I will review the strategies one more time. I'll write them down. And then I think we'll head out because I've got to get my kiddo ready for soccer. Actually, I probably should be. Yeah, We got to get my kid on the soccer and I got to eat breakfast before we go. Oh, You're so welcome, Maria. Oh, You're welcome. I'm so glad. Even though it was a choppy presentation, You still got something out of it, Summer. Sorry, That's been talking about the last one from before. All right, We have habit staffing, Which I actually, I believe was used incorrectly, But it's combining two habits together or taking one habit and then creating another. It's, There's another term for what I said. When you take something you don't like and you parent something that you like. My husband's calling me and saying, It's good when we get done, But habit stacking. It's still a good one. That's where you take something that you have and then you just kind of build on it like a snowball effect. So you do one and then the other and then the other. It's like, Oh, I want to organize my closet. Well, Let me not start with my entire house. I need to organize my house. Let me not start with my entire house, But let me start with the shoes in my closet. And then the next one is, Oh, I'm going to do the shoes in my closet, The clothes in my closet, And then I'm going to move on or I'll do one room, This, Whatever. That's not really a good example, Actually. I think it's more of, I think of habit stacking like going to the gym or working out. I'm going to set my clothes out. That's all I'm going to do. I don't actually have to go down and work out, But I'm going to set out my clothes. Then tomorrow I'm going to set my clothes out and then put the clothes on and then I'm going to do this. And then when you build and build until it becomes one big habit, But you start small. But then there's also pairing something you do like, Like listening to music with cleaning the house. You pair those together. These are probably going to be out of order because I don't remember how we did them. But eat the frog, Do the thing first thing in the morning. And this could be do your power hour first thing in the morning. Get it done, Eat the frog, Because it's going to weigh on you. There's an emotional mental weight when we let these things build up and they sit with us. And then once we get them done, It's like, Oh my God, I feel so good. That's done. That's why I waited so long. Well, Wait so long next time. Then we have your power hour, Which doesn't have to be an hour, But you set a timer and you focus on all the tasks that maybe have built up. Or maybe there's one big project that's really getting to you and you're like, I'm going to spend 30 minutes doing this thing and I'm just going to get it done. This is what I'm going to focus on. And that is your one and true only focus for whatever time you set. And when the timer goes off, You are done and you can go on. And that's it. That's a really beautiful one. And then scheduling. Schedule something you have to do as if you're scheduling an appointment. So if it's something that doesn't necessarily have an appointment, You don't need to schedule with somebody else, Put it on your schedule anyway and say, At 1 p. M. On Friday, I am going to do this thing. I'm going to go get my license picture. That's probably going to be more like 9 a. M. I'm going to go immediately after I drop the kids off at school so that I don't have to go home. And then I'm going to go right out and get my license and that's going to be my priority for the morning. So there's your four tips, Which I think you guys should be able to see better this time. What is actually eat the frog? There's a video on YouTube. So go search, Eat the frog, And you'll see the whole video on it. It's basically like the thing you don't want. It's like eat the frog, Like if the frog tastes terrible, It's awful, Eat it first thing in the morning and get it over with. I think that's the concept. It's been a couple of years. Habit bundling, Maybe that's what it is. It is taped. Do the hard thing first. Thank you, Nick. Yep. Oh, Awesome. Yeah, And Stanley, Sometimes we just need to hear things. We know these things. Like we know there's this thing that I need to get done and I'm putting it off and it's really frustrating. But will it be on IT? I think so, Yeah. It'll be just audio. And then I'm also going to upload it to YouTube. And then I'm also going to upload, I had to do a screen share. So I don't know if we'll get it on YouTube. I just have to figure those good stuff. But if you guys want it, I will upload it onto Insight Timer as well as a talk. Yeah, Just remember, Give yourself grace. You are learning, You are growing, You are changing decades of patterns and limiting beliefs and habits that you have built up, Decades of them. This is going to take time. Give yourself grace, Give yourself compassion, Love yourself through the process and know that procrastination, Don't beat yourself up over it because it's not worth it. You're going to beat yourself up over not doing something and then you're going to beat yourself up for not doing it. And that doesn't feel good at all. But if we talk about, We go back to the beginning, Shifting perspective, Shifting emotions, Then changing motivation. That's going to change your motivation. I'm in the process of decluttering my closet. Oh, You're so welcome, Nick. Oh, Of course, I'm more than happy to. That's why I come here and do these things. I've been meaning to do for a long, Long time. I broke it into sections. Yes, I did the floor. Oh my God, That's beautiful, Samar. Oh, Look at what you found. I love that. You found tons of cool stuff. I love it. Great, Getting others to do things. Well, This is the same thing. So does that mean you can make things easier? I get my groceries delivered. It's beautiful. On my list, Someone to eventually vacuum and clean my bathrooms. That's on my list of things to eventually have somebody else do for me because I don't like doing it. I don't enjoy it. It doesn't bring me joy. I'm a mom, I've got two little kids. I've got to go to soccer, All these things. Are there things that you can take off your list that others can do for you too? Are you trying to do too much? That's a piece of it too. We didn't even touch that. This was really things that you have to do for yourself, But that's definitely an option, Sandy. Thank you. Yes, I am going to head out. I thank you guys so much for joining me, For waiting and being so patient as we had this talk. And things come when they're supposed to come. Things happen when they're supposed to happen. And that just makes me so happy. And we just listen and trust and trust the universe and trust that we are exactly where we need to be. So thank you guys so much for being a part of this talk today. Thank you for joining me. Thank you for being here and. . .

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