The Adult Chair Podcast: The Only Way Out Is In

What are you in? That doesn’t matter! If you’re in a situation that is painful, scaring you, causing you discomfort, no matter of external advice is going to help you get yourself out of it. To dig out, you have to go inside, to find the parts of you that you don’t understand, that keep you locked into a cycle of pain, that prevent you from finding clarity and freeing yourself from the ego of your Adolescent Chair.

I've had so many people come to me stuck in struggle and pain lately so on today's show I have four tools to offer that will help you on the road back to peace and into your Adult Chair.

Transcript

Hello everybody and welcome to the Adult Share.

I'm Rash Pixel FM.

I am Michelle Schelfont.

I am very excited today because this is a topic that has continued to come up just even over the last few days.

I have found myself saying the same thing over and over,

Which is the way out is in.

I've had a lot of people come to me with various issues or emotional pain or stress,

Something they were stuck in,

And I found myself saying the same statement,

The way out is in.

The way out is in.

So that's what I want to be talking to you guys about today.

It's really powerful and I offer four steps to help you to relieve any sort of emotional stress,

Pain that you're in and help you to find more of a balance in your life and help you back to peace and back to your Adult Share.

But first,

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Okay,

I have one very,

Very quick announcement.

I think I'm going to make a lot of you happy on the West Coast.

I'm finally coming out there.

We have booked a venue in October,

October 12th through 14th.

We will be coming to San Diego doing a three day,

Actually it's about a two and a half day Adult Share Weekend Intensive.

I will be there.

So all of you people,

Actually anywhere in the United States or in the world that might want to come to San Diego,

It's beautiful,

October 12th through 14th.

Come join us.

If you'd like to get more information on this class,

You can go to theadultshare.

Com forward slash workshops and you will be able to get all the information that you'd like on the class as well as the registration page.

So I have changed up again.

I keep changing my class little by little.

I love all the feedback that I get.

So I've changed it up a little bit.

You guys,

I've added a lot more.

We've extended the hours and of course extended to just a few hours on Friday night.

We're going to be meeting as well.

So I look forward to seeing you all there.

I know I've been asked from all you people on the West Coast for me to come.

So I'm coming October 2nd through 14th.

Okay.

Here we go.

So I want to jump right into this.

The way out is in.

So again,

People have been asking me about different things that have come up in their own lives just in the last week.

You know,

They'll say to me,

How do I find my way out of fill in the blank?

You know,

Or I'm stuck in this.

What do I do?

And just this week I had three really good examples.

I just want to share with you.

I think that you all will be able to relate to at least something like this,

If not this exact scenario in your own life.

So I have one client that has a daughter-in-law that is just really,

Really ugly and awful to her.

Once in a while the daughter-in-law is nice,

But she's not sure if she trusts it because she's just not usually nice to her.

And there's no apparent reason.

So my client is of course saddened by this and wants to know what to do.

How do we make it better?

How do you make it more tolerable?

And what's hard is that her daughter-in-law is sometimes really nice to her and then she'll turn on her for no reason and she just won't be nice to her.

So she's really,

Really terrible to her,

I have to say.

And my client is just lovely.

She's one of my favorite people.

And I thought,

How could anyone ever be rude to you?

Like it doesn't make sense to me,

But it is what it is.

So I found myself saying exactly to her,

What I,

Again,

The title of the show is,

You know,

The way out of this is inward.

We have to go inside.

So when we have people in our lives that are treating us poorly,

We typically go for a fix outside of ourselves in order to feel better on the inside.

But it's backwards.

What we really want to do instead is to dive straight inside.

So that's my first example.

The second one is,

Again,

I have a client that is divorced for about three or four years,

I think.

And she was unfortunately married to a very,

Very controlling and abusive man.

And I suspect he was a narcissist,

Just not a nice person to her at all.

So she's back on the dating scene and she's met a wonderful man.

And this guy is so kind and thoughtful and warm and generous.

And she keeps falling into stories and assumptions.

You know,

He's going to leave,

He's going to abandon,

He's going to change.

And then she'll work her way out of it.

But she keeps falling into stories and assumptions.

And she's coming up with ideas on why they should break up.

And I'm listening to her and thinking,

Why?

He's wonderful.

But again,

You know,

She was married for like 15 years.

So she's used to being treated a certain way.

And that's our norm.

So then we have someone that comes in that's actually really healthy.

It doesn't make sense to our brain.

You know,

We want to reject that person.

And this is what's happening with her.

So she says,

You know,

How do I stop these stories and assumptions?

I keep wanting to break up with them,

Even though there's really no reason.

But I'm sorting for things that are scaring me.

And I feel like I need to end it with this guy.

What do I do?

And I said to her the same thing.

The way out of this stories and assumptions,

The way out of this is to go in.

So I'm going to talk to you again about what I said to her and some of the things that we did.

But it is about going inside.

There's nothing,

You know,

I could sit all day long and tell her why she should keep the guy,

Why he's nice.

But it doesn't convince the ego that something is not going to go wrong.

So that's what happens when people offer us advice.

It doesn't shift us on the inside.

And that's where we want to go.

With her,

I offered the same thing.

And then we did some things to bring her inside.

And that's where the shift happens.

Lastly,

I was speaking with a woman just the other day.

Her teenage son is battling some deep inner pain and actually attempted suicide a few weeks ago.

And a couple nights ago,

She found him with friends and he was really high.

He'd gotten into drugs with his friends.

And she's beside herself.

Of course,

It's her child.

She's worried.

She does not know what to do and does not know how to fix this.

And she's really worried,

Of course,

That something terrible is going to happen to her son.

I could totally relate because our kids are actually the same exact age.

So I really felt her pain.

I was actually had tears with her because it's terrifying and it feels completely out of control.

And then I asked her,

You know,

What,

I said,

What are you doing?

Like what exactly are you doing for yourself during this time with your son?

And she'd said that she was doing yoga and meditation.

And even during her work day,

She would stop and meditate and try to center herself.

But then she goes back to,

Of course,

Racing thoughts and a lot of stress,

Doesn't know what to do.

And I asked her again,

Like how much this is all helping.

And she says,

Well,

You know,

I keep going back to the same thoughts.

It's not exactly helping me to do these things.

And again,

I get it.

Like I get it.

It's hard when we have kids and they feel like they're completely out of control,

Especially when there's a suicide attempt or drugs involved or something really dangerous that's happening.

I completely get it.

But I had a sense that what she was doing,

Which again,

We all do this,

Being human,

This is what we do.

You know,

We try to find a way to stop the pain.

And I think her choices were fabulous,

Doing yoga and meditation.

That's fabulous.

But if you remember,

I've said this many times,

We oftentimes choose things from our adolescent chair.

That ego comes up with ideas and it's trying to stop our pain.

It doesn't know what to do with all these emotions coming through.

So it says,

Well,

Try yoga.

Well,

Try meditation.

Again,

Not that it was a bad idea.

I'm a huge fan of both actually.

But it doesn't stop the pain when we come from that space of trying to fix versus feeling moved to do this.

And it just,

It comes from a very different place.

I think,

I know I've said this many times,

We can have ideas that come from the adolescent chair and the adult chair,

The same idea,

But the energy behind it is quite different.

That was what I was suspecting with her.

So I asked her,

I said,

You know,

I said,

I don't hear from you that those things are working,

That they're helping you.

And she says,

Well,

They're really not.

I said,

Again,

Unfortunately,

The way out of this pain that you're in is to go inward.

And I said,

You know,

What's going on inside of you?

That's what I want to know.

Like what's happening inside?

You've got a son that has all these things going on.

What's that like?

And I just sat with her and she started to cry.

And I said,

This is what needs to happen.

And I said,

What emotion is going on inside of you?

It was such a tender moment.

I deeply care about this girl.

She's wonderful.

And she said,

You know,

I'm really,

Really sad and I'm really scared.

And I said,

Yeah,

I'd be terrified.

This is what I mean by going in when we are trying so hard to fix something on the outside.

What happens,

Unfortunately,

Being human is we go and do everything we possibly can on the outside of us instead of going inside of us.

So the more pain and fear that we're in,

The deeper and deeper we go into our adolescent chair,

That's where that ego part of us resides.

And remember,

This is the seat of the survivor.

This is the part of us that sits in fear.

It naturally does its job.

It's not bad,

Remember.

Its job is to keep us alive and to keep us safe.

So when it experiences emotion in the body,

Such as fear or terror or sadness or scared or whatever it is,

It tries to get us out of it.

And unfortunately,

It doesn't know how to do that.

That is not where our answers come from or true.

I mean,

Answers come from there,

But that's not where that resolve comes from.

It's not where our peace can come from.

What happens is when we slide into that adolescent chair,

Because we're in fear,

That egoic part of us takes over.

And as you know,

The mind moves faster and faster and faster.

It tries to come up with an idea or a solution to fix our pain or our problem.

You know,

We go into panic.

And the longer it takes for us to come up with an idea on how to fix something,

The faster our mind goes and the more panicked we become on the inside.

And when that happens,

Our bodies start to tighten up.

You know,

When we have these emotions,

Such as panic,

Fear,

Pain,

All of these things,

Our energy field actually starts to close in on us.

It gets tighter and tighter.

And then,

Of course,

It's harder to breathe.

There's a really good chance we're then stuck in fight or flight.

So we've got cortisol running through our whole system,

Which then,

Of course,

Makes us not able to sleep as well at night.

I mean,

It's this downward spiral that happens with us as being just,

Unfortunately,

Because we are human.

This is just our makeup.

We may turn,

Of course,

Like I've said before,

To food or wine or shopping or television or work.

We do,

This egoic part of us comes up with all these ideas to numb our pain.

When we're in this much stress or pain,

What happens with people around us is then they start offering us ideas on how to fix our pain because other people are not good with pain.

So then we get ideas from other people and they'll say things like,

Things will get better in time.

But of course,

What they're offering us isn't a fix for us in that moment.

You know,

We still feel bad and we may walk away from someone offering us all these great ideas,

But that's just it.

They're just ideas.

And they're ideas to feed more of the mind.

This is why it doesn't work.

This is why it doesn't work.

I've had so many times where I'm in a really bad place and someone will come up to me and say,

You know,

Everything's meant to be,

It'll work out or have you tried this and that?

And the other thing I'm like,

Of course I have.

Sometimes we feel like punching them in the face.

Like,

I don't want your ideas.

But people love us.

They try to offer ideas of help.

I'm all for that.

So that's fine.

But sometimes when we're in a really bad space and we hear things like it'll all work out,

It's like,

That's not really what we want to hear in that moment.

But what I'm offering you guys today is something that truly works,

Something I practice and something that works really well.

I've seen it work for years with clients.

So again,

We need to go inside.

And when all of these things happen in the mind,

It's taking us further and further and further away from what's going on inside.

And that's exactly where we need to be.

Okay.

So what do we do or what do we need to do instead of residing in the adolescent chair and letting that ego take over and try and fix,

Fix,

Fix whatever's going on?

What we want to do instead,

Of course,

Is to slide into our adult chair.

Now,

When we're in a state of panic,

That's kind of hard to do.

It's kind of hard to do when we're in the brain is racing and we're in this fix it place.

So how do we get in our adult chair?

So I've done a whole podcast on this.

If you go to my website,

Theadultchair.

Com forward slash podcast,

You can actually put in the search bar there,

Different keywords or tag phrases and every podcast pops up with that.

But one of the ones I did is,

I think it's called,

How do you get in your adult chair?

And I'm sorry,

I don't have the exact title of it,

But I give you all these different ways to do that.

But I'm going to give you a few tips right now.

So once we,

We want to slide into the adult and when we're in panic,

What we want to do is slow everything down.

Because remember in the adolescent chair,

The energy there is fast because it's got to fix something.

It's got to fix our problem or else we're going to die.

That's the unconscious understanding of what's going on.

It thinks if I don't fix this,

I'm going to die.

So that's why we so desperately look for fixes to our problems.

But what we want to do,

It feels counterintuitive,

Is to actually slow down.

We want to slow down to get in the adult because that's where our answers are.

So let's start out by taking some nice slow deep breaths.

That slows the energy down.

It puts us in a more conscious state and put your feet on the floor and start to ground.

Open up the bottoms of your feet,

Let the energy come up and meet you there.

That is a great way when you're in panic in the adolescent chair to slide yourself into the adult.

Start noticing how your body feels.

All of these things are bringing you back into the moment,

Which is an aspect of the adult.

So we want to do this,

You know,

And you want to do this when you're all by yourself,

Go find a quiet place in your house or at work or wherever,

Sit outside.

I love it.

You guys know I love outside.

Nature vibrates in the heart chakra space.

It vibrates in such a beautiful,

The energy of outside brings us into our heart,

Helps us to get into the adult.

That's why I'm such an advocate of go for a walk,

Going for walks.

Get outside,

Get out of your house if you can.

If you can't,

You can still do this.

Slow down,

Take some deep breaths and ground.

So once you get there and you feel everything start to slow down,

What we want to do is again,

Fall inside of ourselves,

Go deeply within,

Which is the very place we have been avoiding when we're in the adolescent chair.

The adolescent chair,

We lift chin up,

Fall in the mind,

Try to figure things out.

What I'm inviting you to do instead is to come down inside the body,

Drop deep inside so we can start accessing these emotions.

That's key.

The ego has taken us away from the emotions.

The place where we're going to find peace and healing and transformation is by getting inside of ourselves and touching these emotions.

Remember,

We can't heal what we won't feel.

We can't find peace if we won't feel what's going on deep inside.

So gently slide inside of yourself.

Get really curious.

I don't tell people that they have to like jump into the feeling,

Their emotions.

Many people are afraid to do this.

It's scary.

For me,

It's the same thing as going into a swimming pool,

Let's say,

Or going into a lake or any kind of body of water.

I'm not saying to jump in and go over your head.

Can you put your foot in the water?

It's the same thing with our emotions.

We get curious like,

Wow,

I've got a little knot in my stomach or my throat feels kind of tight.

What do I need to do about that?

We just sit and get curious.

If you feel like crying,

Let yourself cry.

Tears are beautiful.

It's a beautiful way to move energy.

Let yourself get that emotion out of you.

So get curious what's going on in my stomach,

Get curious about the sadness and let it come up and through you.

That's what we want to do.

Number two,

Journaling.

I love journaling.

It's a great way to,

Again,

Start loosening up that energy.

So if you really don't know what you're feeling,

A lot of people say this to me,

I have no idea what I'm feeling.

I'm like,

Well,

Take out a piece of paper or get a journal and start journaling.

Well,

I don't know how to journal.

Well,

Start writing.

The first line then will be,

I don't know how to journal.

What we want to do,

Once you engage that stream of thought,

Everything opens.

I promise.

Sit down and go,

I hate journaling.

I don't want to journal.

Whatever you need to say,

We want to get that stream of thought coming down through you.

That again starts to open us up.

So you might say something like,

I wonder why my stomach hurts.

If you really know what's going on,

Like I'm really sad.

Let's say with the one person I was talking to the other day,

I'm really sad about my son.

I'm really afraid.

I'm really afraid he's going to commit suicide.

Write it out with my other client.

I don't like my daughter-in-law.

She has hurt me.

Start journaling that.

So what happens is when we start journaling,

It takes us deeper within ourselves.

That's what we want to do.

We want to go deep.

We want to go in.

And remember,

No judgment about what you're writing in your journal.

There's no judgment.

All that we're doing is getting this stream of energy to start to flow again because when we live in that adolescent,

Everything gets locked up inside.

That's why we get stuck.

That's what stuck is.

The energy's not moving.

We need the energy to start moving through us.

So journaling is a fabulous way to get the energy moving.

Okay?

Again,

No judgment on what you're writing.

If you write something down like,

I hate my whomever,

My boss,

My spouse,

My partner,

My boyfriend,

My girlfriend,

I don't care.

Write it out and then see what comes after.

It's like opening up a floodgate.

Once you open that door,

Thought will start to come.

Number three,

Get to know your parts.

Get to know your parts.

I did a whole podcast on this one as well.

I think it was 38.

Go check that one out.

Like,

What do I do with the parts in my adolescent chair?

Get to know them.

Remember,

We have a cast of thousands that live inside of us,

But you know your dominant parts.

You have to,

I mean,

Excuse me,

The dominant parts come up and rise up to the surface and they're very loud and very active within us.

We want to get to know them because they're just trying to get your attention.

They're afraid something's going to happen.

They come from the adolescent chair.

They're born from these,

They're these egoic parts.

They all live in the adolescent.

What we typically do is try to shut them down.

Does it work?

It doesn't work for me.

In fact,

They get really,

Really,

Really loud because they're trying to get our attention.

So sit and listen to those parts.

I didn't say you have to listen and do what they're saying that you should do,

But listen.

So often when there's a really loud voice in my head,

I'll just turn and say,

Okay,

What is it you want me to know?

Sometimes I get a visual of that part.

Sometimes I'm just tuning into whatever the voice is telling me.

And it might say something like,

Well,

I'm really worried about blah,

Blah,

Blah.

Or I want you to do this or that or the other thing.

And I'll say,

Okay,

Thank you.

I so appreciate you sharing.

So we want to thank those parts.

We want to,

The key here is to acknowledge what they are saying.

When you acknowledge them,

Guess what happens?

They go,

Oh,

Okay.

And think about it like this,

Like a little kid trying to get your attention.

Saying mommy,

Mommy,

Mommy,

Daddy,

Daddy,

Whomever.

I need your attention.

I need your attention.

And then when you turn to that kid,

They'll go,

I just want to tell you blah,

Blah,

Blah.

And then we go,

Oh,

Okay.

And then the kid will run away.

That's how our parts are.

Just acknowledge what they're saying.

So when we go inside and stay connected to our body,

Sensations and emotions,

These emotions can move through us.

Okay.

Then our energy field begins to open and we don't feel so tight.

We can breathe again.

What's so ironic about this whole thing is that the very thing that we want when we are in distress or pain or confusion is direction and answers.

Isn't that what we want?

We're totally stressed out because we don't know what to do and we want answers.

And the answers and the wisdom that we're looking for are inside of us.

They're inside.

They're not outside of us.

And they're certainly not in the mind or that ego that's feeding us all these ideas.

But when we get scared,

We typically squeeze or we pinch off our connection to that exact part that we need to step into.

That part is within us.

Okay.

But we pinch off the answers.

We go into fear.

We react.

We get mad at people.

All of these things happen because we're living out of a story from that ego.

Okay.

So it's totally counterintuitive because we want to go outside,

But we want to step inside and not listen.

I call it the small mind or the little me when I'm listening to my ego.

And when the ego's offering me all these ideas and this is going to happen and that's going to happen,

I'm like,

Hold on a second.

That is not the one that I need to listen to.

I know there's another voice and that voice is deep inside of me and I need to go there in order to connect.

Okay.

So the last idea I have for you guys is to remember to trust.

So sit for a moment and reflect on what this means.

Trust.

Like,

There's a trust that happens when we trust the process,

When we trust that maybe there's something else in charge of our lives,

Trust in the deepest part of ourselves,

Trust the heart.

There's so many things that we can trust.

And again,

When we're scared,

When we don't know what's going on,

We leave that trusting state or that trusting space.

And it's really important that we trust that we aren't in control.

I'm going to offer you all something.

This is not to say this is the way it is universally.

I don't know,

But this brings me a lot of comfort.

This is my truth.

So if you like it,

Take it.

If you don't like it,

You don't have to take this.

I just want to offer you my perspective of God and universe and consciousness.

This helps to bring again,

Me comfort.

And I just offer this to you in hopes that maybe it might bring you comfort as well.

Again,

Take it or leave it.

But when it comes to trust,

This is helpful for me to have this understanding of who is God,

Who is this universe,

Who is this consciousness,

This all loving consciousness.

The way I understand what God is,

In my perspective,

Again,

God is not a little man or a big man sitting up on a cloud.

God is a consciousness.

It's an energy.

And God wants to experience life.

So God has,

Or God creates souls in order for them to come down here.

We take on a body,

Which I call the garage for the soul,

And we have life experiences.

We can't know what it's like to feel forgiveness unless somebody crosses us.

So we come here for the experience of that.

I can sit and tell you all day long what it was like for me to lose my father 15 years ago when he died.

If you don't have that experience of being in my body and knowing what that's like,

You don't know.

If you still have a father that's alive and you have,

Or a mother that is alive,

You can't know what death is like until you've experienced it.

You can't know what things are like in life unless you have the experience of them.

We can mentally understand them,

But we come here on this planet for experience.

That's it.

The ego places judgment on things and says,

This is good,

This is bad.

This is good,

This is bad.

I like this,

I don't like this,

Which is all fine.

We can do all that.

But ultimately we are here for experience.

And there is something bigger than us,

I believe,

That is in charge of this whole entire thing.

So when I lean on that truth,

I'm able to sit back and trust and go,

Okay,

I get it.

I can't see maybe what's going on.

I can't see this high,

High,

High perspective,

But I trust that something else can.

And my best interest is at heart.

And I just lean on that.

That to me is faith.

And that is how I'm able to trust even when things look like they're going completely upside down in my life.

Okay?

That is my perspective.

Again,

I'm not saying you have to take this.

I'm not saying you have to learn this to be part of the adult chair.

That's not what I'm saying.

That's my perspective.

I believe that God experiences life through us.

I liken it to an ocean.

Think about an ocean and the individual waves.

So we are a wave,

But we're part of this bigger ocean that I would call God.

We're a raindrop coming from this bigger cloud that I would call God.

So we're always connected to that part,

But we are not connected or excuse me,

We're always connected,

But we can't access that wisdom and that consciousness when we cut ourselves off.

And we do that.

We pinch off from source,

From wisdom,

From truth,

When we get stuck in the ego,

When we try to figure things out on our own.

When what I'm offering you is to trust,

Which opens up this gateway of knowledge and wisdom and truth that comes down right inside of ourselves.

Go to your heart and then you'll find the answers.

That's what this whole podcast is about.

It's like,

We try to go outside of ourselves for answers,

But the answers are right inside of us.

But we have to stop pinching off that deep connection that we have and we will have our answers.

So that's number four.

It's all about trust.

And I have to tell you,

I know I shared this on two podcasts ago about letting go.

I had the summer from hell.

It was awful.

We sold our house.

I found out that my aunt that we just thought had inflammation in her hip actually was stage four terminal cancer when I found out.

This is my godmother,

Someone I'm very,

Very close to.

And she ended up,

I went to be with her in North Carolina and she ended up passing six days later.

I had to spend a month there to help my cousin and help my mom and help my sister.

It was awful.

And then I came home after we had sold our house prior to me leaving to not having a house to live in.

I had three weeks to find a house,

Pack my current house and take care of everything else.

Family,

Clients,

Full time,

All of this.

When I tell you stress was at its all time high,

It was at its all time high.

But let me tell you what helps me.

What helps me was exactly what I just gave you in this podcast.

Exactly all of those things is what I had to do.

And I went from a place of letting go and truly surrendering and trusting that there's something bigger than me.

And I was able to feel my emotions and I was able to find out the parts of me that were just going berserko inside.

I had so many voices going,

Oh my god,

How are we going to get this done?

How are we going to get that done?

It was a very stressful summer for me.

However,

I see the gift in it now because of the experiences that I had all summer.

And when I tell you they were back to back,

I didn't even mention that after I got back from North Carolina and I was seeing clients full time and I had three weeks to pack and move a whole house,

I had already planned a one week trip to Colorado for a training that I could not get out of.

So I really only had two weeks.

And then I was got,

You know,

It was just like everything get piling up.

Now I look at it like it was a gift.

It was a gift because I was able to experience surrender like I've never experienced in my life.

So I look at this as such a blessing and a gift.

This is why I offer this to you guys.

I'm telling you,

If I could step into this space,

You can too.

I have no doubt,

No doubt in the steps that I just gave you today are the way to do that.

So after my summer or I'm still in summer,

I should say,

Honestly,

I've never felt more connected to myself and something bigger to me until what happened all summer.

This piling on caused me to let go and surrender.

I really realized too that when we let go,

You know,

You hear this all the time,

Let go,

Let God,

You know,

All of this I hear from people.

It's okay.

Things will work out.

I realized that's a very mental thing,

What I would call chin up.

It's like mentally we let go.

And what I understood over the summer,

Because of the experiences I had,

Was that when we let go in that way,

It's almost like it's a disengagement from that ego.

But when we surrender,

It's like this full body.

Every cell in my being just said,

I'm done.

And it wasn't laying down on my path.

It wasn't giving up.

It was,

I don't know how to move forward.

I'm out of ideas.

I'm really,

Really strong.

And everyone kept saying that you're so strong,

You'll handle it.

I'm like,

Oh my God.

And then I heard from people,

I don't know how you're doing all this.

I'm overwhelmed,

You know,

Watching you.

And I'm like,

Well,

I will do this.

But it helped me when I surrendered.

It was this total letting go and slipping into trust.

I'm telling you,

It was like the most beautiful experience I've ever had in my life.

And I turned around and I looked at the past two months,

Three months,

And I said,

I'm so grateful for this piling on because I'm sitting deeper in my adult chair than I ever have in my whole entire life.

Because the depth of the surrender that I'm experiencing is like something I've never experienced.

And I keep telling people,

I feel like I'm moving in slow motion.

It's very interesting.

But I realized it's just a more present moment space.

So I'm so grateful again for the experience of all of this.

If you're struggling with anything,

I just want to invite you again to slow down and turn inward.

Go inside and I promise,

Promise you,

All of your answers are there.

You will find your power is in there and you will be guided to a peaceful place and you will find the wisdom that you're looking for.

I promise you,

It is deep inside of you.

So go there and slide into your adult chair and you will find your answers.

If you want help with what I'm talking about today,

I love the book by Michael Singer,

The Untethered Soul.

It's a phenomenal book.

And for listeners of The Adult Chair,

Audible,

Which is as you know,

One of my favorite apps,

You can listen to any book under the sun.

Audible is offering a free audiobook download of your choice.

And it's a 30 day free trial to give you the opportunity to check out the service.

You just have to go to audible trial.

Com forward slash The Adult Chair to start your 30 day free trial and claim your first free audiobook.

If you've already listened to or read The Untethered Soul,

It's been around a few years.

I remember when it first came out,

I don't remember maybe five or six years ago.

It's amazing.

This guy went through a horrific time in his life and he stayed present.

He stayed right in his adult chair the entire time.

It's an amazing story.

So I encourage you guys,

Get this book.

And if you've already read that book or listened to that book,

Get his other book,

The Surrender Experiment,

Again,

By Michael Singer.

Phenomenal.

Get one,

Get two.

It does not matter to me.

They're both great,

Great books to help you slide deeper into your adult chair.

Enjoy,

Enjoy,

Enjoy.

I am so grateful to be back after the summer and to be with you guys on the show.

And I look forward to again next week and I will see you right here seated firmly in the adult chair.

Reviews

I could listen to you all day everyday.

Thank You for the guidance and tools. Amazing as always.

Amazing. Thank you 🙏🏽

Very helpful. Postive and uplifting for me.This stuff is great. Thank you ❤

Really thought provoking and insightful. Thank you Michelle 💜 x

Brilliant X thanks

Clear and concise suggestions for dealing with your stress rather than trying to avoid it.

Namaste. I will check out audible.

Loved this, and something I practice. I love how you put it across. Thank you so much for sharing, great podcast 🙏

Can I give you six stars? And how about a cup of coffee? Big wow. Thank you.

Excellent advice.

It’s good to remember to surrender when there seems to be a dead end 🙏🏻❤️