Abusive Parents And/Or Family: Meditation

Do you have an abusive or toxic family? Are you still paying the price for ir? Not feeling that you belong? Rejecting them hoping that it will feel better. It does not, isn't it? This meditation is only about you and finding your own peace.

Transcript

Abusive family parents,

How to still have a family support system behind you.

Find a safe space and a comfortable seat and just close your eyes.

Take a few deep breaths and connect with your emotions,

Feelings,

Sensations.

This meditation,

This moment is only for you.

It's a gift for you.

This meditation can trigger a few past and painful memories.

So please do it slowly.

If you do not feel safe or comfortable enough,

Stop the meditation and hug yourself very tightly.

You are doing great.

Never,

Never.

Forget about that.

At first you are going to place yourself,

Visualize yourself,

Being radiant,

Strong,

Vulnerable,

Beautiful.

And you are going to surround yourself with a magic and protective shield.

It can be a beautiful rainbow bubble.

It can be a castle.

It can be a wall with a lot of flowers on it.

It can also be a blanket.

It can be whatever you want actually.

As long as you do feel protected by it.

So take your time.

I really want you to feel in your core that you are protected and no one can harm you anymore or hurt you.

Feel grounded,

Protected by your magic shield and feel safe.

You can stop the meditation right here.

Don't worry.

It's already an amazing step.

And if you feel ready to welcome your parents and family,

Let's do it together.

Of course physically I cannot hold your hands.

I cannot be here.

But trust me,

Energetically I am here.

I am right on your side.

And I am so proud of you.

So proud of that gift that you are giving to yourself.

Especially to your little girl or little boy that you used to be.

You are amazing.

I bow in front of your courage.

Socially and gently together we are going to invite your parents.

Your mom will be on your left side and your dad will be on your right side.

Let's adjust the distance right away.

It does not matter if they are very very far away from you.

This meditation is about you,

Not them.

So adjust the distance where you feel still comfortable and safe.

Your parents are here as your parents.

We are not here to excuse them.

We are just here to acknowledge them as your parents.

Again it's not about them,

It's about you.

It's about you not having to find substitutes for your parents.

It's about you giving yourself the permission to still feel whole and complete again.

That's a gift for you and your inner child.

You just recognize them.

You are my mother,

You are my father,

I am your daughter,

I am your son.

I am not here to excuse what you did,

To forgive what you did.

I am only here to consent to it.

Because I don't want it to be a burden anymore,

I want to release it.

If I want to practice forgiveness towards you,

I will do it on my own timing.

But for now,

I just want to acknowledge you as my mother and you as my father.

And then behind you,

Behind your parents,

Your grandparents,

Behind your mom,

Your other grandparents,

Behind your dad.

And if any of them was abusive,

Violent,

Mean,

Feel free to distance yourself from them.

But just give them a place where they belong.

And then behind your grandparents,

Invite your entire family,

All of the countries that your family is from.

This is your family,

This is your story.

And because abuse did not start with you,

We can only imagine that all of women and men suffered in your family system.

But right now,

Where they are at that moment,

They are all safe.

They are all at peace with each other.

And they want you to be at peace as well.

So take that gift,

Take that permission,

Receive it.

Imagine all of them,

Bow in front of all of them.

Try to not pay attention to the story,

But only your feelings.

And again,

It's all about you today.

It's all about your feelings and emotions and well being.

You are doing great.

You are safe.

I'm still on your side.

I'm still supporting you.

With my French accent,

I am here.

I send you a lot of love.

And I'm here to tell you that,

Wow,

You're doing an amazing job.

And try to connect with the little girl or little boy that you used to be.

Where is she?

What is he doing?

Is he happy,

Lonely?

Connect with him,

Connect with her.

And ask her,

Ask him silently,

What can I do for you?

How can I help you?

And then very slowly and gently,

You're going to grab one of his little hands and go back to your place,

The place in your magic bubble.

And you're going to tell him,

Tell her silently or out loud,

This is your place.

And as you can see,

We're protected by a magic shield.

Mom and Dad are behind us,

But with a safe distance.

They won't harm you anymore.

But for you,

For me,

I had to recognize them.

Because it's about us today.

And you are not here to take care of them.

You are not here to feel guilty or ashamed of protecting yourself.

I will be your reminder that it is okay to love yourself.

To do better than them.

To break the cycle of violence and abuse.

And I deeply love you and I deeply see you.

And I deeply recognize you and hear you.

And then if you have older siblings,

You can invite them on your right side.

And if you have younger siblings,

You can invite them on your left side.

If you are aware of any miscarriages,

Abortions or stillborns,

Please invite them as well to take their place as everyone belongs.

And then you can take a few steps forward.

Your bubble will still be surrounding you.

And your inner child will still be here with you.

And in front of you,

There is that beautiful light,

The color of your choice.

That light is yours.

That light is your life.

It's your destiny.

And I want you to embrace it.

I want you to merge with it.

I want you to receive from it.

Your family is behind you.

You do not owe them anything.

But you owe to yourself the gift of life.

Be happy.

Be responsible for the love that you want to give and receive.

Break the cycle.

You are an amazing person.

Be proud of your life.

And then just take your time to go back to your life.

Take some water or tea,

Journal if you wish.

And I wish you a lovely day,

A lovely night.

Reviews

Finally a meditation to help us deal with abusive family. I feel you holding my hand. Thank you.
I am full time caregiver for mom in hospice care at her home. Boundaries could be considered elder abuse. I must endure her abusive behavior as much as I can but need to protect myself.
I sometimes suffer from anxiety and depression that can trigger atrial fibrillation that can lead to heart attack or stroke. Meditation protects me.

I loved it 💕Thank you so much

Thank you! It brought me to tears.

Wonderful meditation by a warm and compassionate guide.

Awesome meditation

Thank you! Your meditation helped me acknowledge and give consent to my family instead of placing blame or judgment. You also helped me speak to the child in me and help her know that we are safe and that we are strong. These feelings of fear and survival I lived as I child have resurfaced in great force now that I’m a mother of three, one of whom has ASD and is mildly aggressive. I am hopeful that helping to connect with the child in me through this meditation will help me face the difficult situations we have to face at times with my son. Thank you for this gift and for helping me see this time of reflection as a gift for myself.

This was good, both my parents were asking me to forgive them.My dad passed when I was 5 yrs old.My mom passed recentcy.I have 3 brothers that passed young.They all were very close to me.I felt a lot of love from them all.
Ty! I had no idea it was going to be like this.GBU
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