Mom’s Microdose — Regulated (Talk)

This is one of two parts from the Mom’s Microdose series. You can find the accompanying meditation with the same image on my instructor profile.

In this short reflection, we explore what it means to feel regulated in the midst of daily life. Many mothers move quickly between responsibilities, often without space to pause, leaving the body in a near-constant state of activation.

This talk offers a gentle reframe and an invitation to create small moments of pause and support throughout your day.

Transcript

Welcome to Moms Microdose. This is the first of two parts in this series and in this first segment we're going to do a short reflection and explore what it means to feel regulated. You know many mothers spend much of their day moving quickly from this demand to that one and there's a lot to manage there's a lot to respond to to anticipate and to hold energetically over time the body can begin to just think that this constant activation is the normal state to be in it becomes our baseline and when we begin feeling overwhelmed or reactive or triggered it isn't an indication that it's a personal failure it's a sign that your system has been carrying a lot. Regulation isn't about controlling your emotions or forcing yourself to always be calm it's about feeling safe enough to experience what is happening without getting stuck in it. Everyone experiences dysregulation and it does not indicate that something is wrong with you it's really your nervous system doing exactly what it was designed to do which is to keep you safe. You know if you think about a blowfish a blowfish blows things out of proportion it blows itself out of proportion to keep it safe to scare away predators and our blow-ups are normally triggered when our nervous system feels threatened very much like the blowfish we have this big energy and make a scene and in psychologically in our mind we think it's to help keep us safe right we're trying to ward off or scare away perceived threats. And the challenge is that many of us don't give ourselves enough space to settle after we have been activated regardless if we've been dysregulated or if we're just moving from one normal task to the next we don't take the time to pause and let our nervous system catch up to the change in gears that we're about to embark on. You know we just move from this activity to that one and like I said before over time this becomes our baseline. Also it's important I'm going to reiterate this again being regulated does not mean that you will never feel overwhelmed it does mean that your body has the ability to move through actions and come back to a place of steadiness that it can move through emotions it can move through things and then come back to that state of regulation and it doesn't happen by shaming us when we don't do it properly and it doesn't happen by forcing it it really happens through these small moments of safety taking a pause and letting our body feel like we are here to support it. So what if you were able to recognize that needing to regulate doesn't require you to fix anything about yourself? What if you were just able to see it from the viewpoint of being part of a process and what if it simply meant giving your system a moment to slow down briefly before moving on to the next task? I invite you to just reflect on these questions. Next we're going to move into the guided meditative experience and if you would like to you can find this with the same icon on my instructor profile. Hope to see you there.