Why Letting Go Doesn't Work

In this talk, Lou helps you rethink the common spiritual advice to "let go" and instead invites you to focus on the practice of understanding. Using examples of anger, pain, and judgment, Lou explains how these feelings have a positive intention, even when their coping mechanisms are no longer helpful.

Reviews

Thank you so much for this! Whenever I heard the question about what I needed to let go of, I felt uncomfortable and I didn't know why. This approach feels much more helpful 💜

Interesting perspective to consider. I’ll try to understand this point of view 🙏

I really appreciated this perspective that we can shift our energy from "trying to let go" to "trying to understand", specifically around our feelings. I love the encouragement to embrace and accept all of our parts. And to try to understand the emotional truth behind them instead of villainizing parts of ourselves. I found this helpful as I apply it to processing grief. The pain can sometimes feel overwhelming, but I try to be present with it instead of judging (or accepting others judgement of) how long these feelings of pain will last. I recognize that the loss is a part of my life experience now. This talk reminds me to continue deepening my understanding of that. Thank you. 🙏🏾

Totally new concept for me. I've been trying to release something deeply hurtful done to me by one of my daughters for two years. Forgiving her was the easy part but overcoming the shame of being mistreated and blamed has been arduous. I am willing to try this method and I think I might be ready for it. Will listen again and let you know how I get on. 🙏🏻💞

Really enjoyed this and gained a whole new perspective- plus I love Anthony DeMello. Thank You Lou!