Forgive Yourself For Past Mistakes

Are you struggling to let go of the past and to forgive yourself? In this episode, Lisa A. Romano reveals practical steps that will help you learn how to forgive yourself for being human, so you can let go and move forward in your life. Forgiving oneself is a profound act of self-compassion and personal liberation. It involves acknowledging and releasing the burden of past mistakes and understanding that imperfection is inherent to the human experience.

By granting oneself forgiveness, one opens the door to healing, self-love, and personal growth. It is a transformative journey that requires embracing vulnerability, letting go of self-judgment, and allowing room for self-acceptance. In this process, individuals cultivate resilience, learn from their experiences, and nurture a more compassionate relationship with themselves. Ultimately, forgiving oneself is an empowering choice that paves the way for inner peace and a renewed sense of self-worth.

Transcript

Welcome to the Breakdown to Breakthrough Podcast.

My name is Lisa A.

Romano.

I am a life coach,

Best-selling author,

YouTube vlogger,

Meditation teacher,

And expert in the field of codependency and narcissistic abuse.

I am a believer in the power of an organized mind.

My aim is to help people learn what it means to live above the veil of consciousness rather than living a reactive life.

May your heart feel blessed,

Your mind feel expanded,

And your spirit find hope as you spend time with me here at the Breakdown to Breakthrough Podcast.

So today we're going to be talking about how you can learn to forgive yourself and release toxic guilt and toxic shame.

So today we're going to be talking about what it means to release toxic guilt and toxic shame and how we can learn to forgive ourselves and move on,

Which sounds like a really tall order.

Many of us feel guilt over different things.

You can feel guilt over self-sabotaging your own life,

Which is a completely personal experience.

In other words,

Like I am giving up on myself.

I have failed to meet my own expectations.

I don't feel good enough.

I should have done this.

I should have done that.

Or we can feel guilty around disappointing someone else or offending someone,

Saying something that was mean,

Doing something that was ill-spirited,

Really,

Really offending someone and hurting someone.

We can feel guilty over being selfish.

We can feel guilty over talking poorly about a friend.

So this idea that I'm trying to help people understand is that guilt can come,

Can be self-generated.

I can feel bad about myself as a person.

I have let myself down,

Or I can experience guilt that's tied to another person.

When I was going through my divorce,

I had tremendous guilt over getting a divorce,

Over what it was going to mean to my children,

What it was going to mean to my family and even my ex-husband.

You know,

Many of us who experiencing these feelings,

It's not that we want to get a divorce.

We are at a point where we feel like we have to,

And we don't have any other choice,

But our choices are going to affect other people.

And in the case of a divorce,

When you have children,

Your actions and your decisions affect your children.

If you had an affair,

Your affair may have hurt,

Obviously your spouse or the person that you're involved with,

And,

Or it may have hurt your children,

Or it may even have hurt the person that you were involved with.

In this case,

We have an event where we are feeling guilt and remorse over what our actions have done to other people.

And we're also in the guilt that we're feeling,

We feel bad about ourselves because we participated in this event that caused other people harm.

And so when we're thinking about guilt,

We have to begin to begin sifting through what it means to feel guilty and what it means to feel this remorse from our actions,

Whether our actions have affected other people and getting clear about how in turn,

How in turn these actions and this guilt that we're feeling now become self negative thoughts,

Deprecating thoughts,

Even self loathing thoughts.

Guilt can be highly,

Highly toxic.

So one of the first things that you can do is figure out where this guilt is coming from.

So I suggest that we gain some clarity that we literally sit down and we make a list and we talk about,

At least in the journaling,

We discuss with ourselves,

We have a nice conversation with the self about the guilt that we're experiencing in the moment,

Because essentially learning to forgive yourself is the path to self healing.

We can advance emotionally,

Cognitively,

Spiritually,

And even physically,

Unless we learn to forgive ourselves and release the energy that's tied to this event that has taken place that we cannot change.

And so we have to get clear about what's really,

Really happening.

So when I know that I feel guilty just for being myself,

Which is the result of toxic shame,

As it is the case in childhood trauma,

Growing up with emotional neglect,

Feeling abandoned,

Feeling criticized,

Growing up in a home that was oppressive,

I can experience shame and I can experience guilt for even wanting,

Even opening up my mouth.

So this is the type of guilt that I would journal about and recognize that this is my stuff,

That it came from my history and it has to do with me.

It's something that I'm going to have to learn to navigate through breaking old patterns,

Getting to the root of my subconscious beliefs that are creating this feeling of guilt within me today.

And that could be a really tough part of this journey because guilt is so common,

Especially if you have,

You come from a traumatic background and learning to be more trauma aware of your own issues is very helpful.

Because for instance,

When I realized that I was codependent and my therapist helped me put the pieces of the puzzle together,

It became this eureka moment where I realized it could be no other way.

You know,

Walking around with guilt and walking around with shame like it was an overcoat just felt so normal to me because for as long as I could remember,

I received the message that I was not good enough.

I wasn't good enough to talk.

I wasn't good enough to share.

I wasn't good enough to need.

My efforts were demeaned and devalued.

I never felt good enough to gain my mother and my father's a real connection to them.

And children who grow up in these homes,

They experience guilt.

They experience shame because they feel like it's their fault.

They weren't able to gain this connection.

So getting clear about where your guilt is coming from is very helpful.

So on one side of your journaling notebook,

You want to identify the guilt that's coming from within that is tied to the past,

That you are recycling within your own mind on a subconscious loop.

Very important.

If your guilt is associated with your children,

That goes in another column.

If your guilt is associated with poor performance at work,

Maybe you said something,

Maybe you lied to your boss about a deadline.

Maybe you fabricated a story to justify why your paperwork wasn't in on time and you're feeling guilty about it.

Or maybe it's even more serious in terms of an affair.

Maybe it's you feel guilty about having the affair.

You feel guilty about lying to your wife or lying to your husband,

And you feel guilty about your children now discovering this issue.

So it's important that you create this divide that the guilt that I have associated with other people versus the guilt that's self-generated that I am regurgitating due to the past,

Because that's really a different issue.

And that is a clarification that we need to make.

So ask yourself questions like,

Is this guilt tied to something that I have done or is it tied to the past?

Is this guilt associated with an action that I've taken in the present time?

Or is this a feeling that I've had with me my entire life?

And have I felt this way for my entire life?

And is it associated with the past?

How old is this guilt that I'm experiencing?

You know,

You could have done something,

Made a mistake when you were 21 and not be able to forgive yourself and you're in your 60s.

So how old is this guilt?

How long have you been carrying around this brick,

This giant brick on your back?

So separate yourself from the actions and or the inactions from feeling of guilt.

So look at the situation more objectively and realistically through fresh eyes rather than through the eyes of someone caught in a loop of self-loathing ruminations.

What do I mean by that?

So after you've created these two categories where you're recognizing that guilt and shame could be associated and most likely is associated with the past,

From the column of the guilt that you're experiencing that has to do with other people,

The belief that you yourself have taken part in an event that has hurt other people,

And you want to list it.

From there,

What you do is you take each situation apart.

What was said?

Who was involved in the situation?

How did they feel?

What did they report back to you?

Right?

You're getting really,

Really clear.

You're gaining clarity around the situation.

Now ask yourself the number one question that you want to ask yourself when you're thinking about the guilt that's associated with another person is you want to gain additional clarity.

So ask yourself,

Would you be as offended if someone else did what you did?

Ask yourself,

What would you say to someone who did what you can't seem to forgive yourself for?

Why are these questions important?

These questions are important because they allow you to gain some space and some objectivity.

So if I feel guilty because I forgot to make my daughter a peanut butter and jelly sandwich after work,

And I had a headache and I went to bed and I know I promised that I was going to make her a peanut butter and jelly sandwich,

When you are someone who is carrying around internal guilt and shame from the past,

Making that simple mistake,

Like forgetting because you're overwhelmed or whatever,

Can feel monumental.

We can really blow up the mistakes that we make.

In some cases,

In lots of the cases,

Because we're all imperfect human beings trying to figure out how to be the best versions of ourselves,

Sometimes we really do make huge blunders.

We make huge mistakes.

We can become reactive.

We can really hurt other people's feelings.

We can withhold information.

We can be passive aggressive.

Our ego can fly off into some subconscious defense mechanism.

And after we've cooled off,

After the trauma response has cooled and the amygdala has crawled back into the cave a little bit,

And we're thinking more clearly,

Our prefrontal lobe has come back online,

And we're not so hot.

We're not so triggered.

We're not so emotional.

At that point,

We're more logical and rational,

And when we consider and rerun the situation in our minds,

We have more clarity around it.

And we can see,

Wow,

I was really offensive,

Or I really was triggered.

And I thought that this person meant that or said that,

And that's why I reacted that way.

But I recognize it's still wrong.

It's still inappropriate behavior.

And I made this person feel a certain way,

And I reacted in a way that really isn't my best self.

And I'm really sorry about that.

So we're getting really clear about who's involved,

What was said,

And we're trying to figure out,

Is my guilt appropriate or not?

Or am I someone who just always feels guilty?

If you are a codependent,

You struggle with this big time.

Codependents feel guilty for things that they've never done.

It is just a standard way of operating in the world.

We feel guilty when people bump into us.

We are the people that say,

Oh,

I'm sorry,

When the little old lady shoves her shopping cart into the back of our stilettos.

We are the people who feel guilty because our partners are having a bad day.

We tend to take things very,

Very personally.

And we feel like we've failed others when we haven't been able to manage their emotion.

We are literally living for other people.

And our sense of self is rooted in how well we are able to make other people feel good.

It's no way to live.

And it is essential if you are struggling with codependency,

That you wrap your mind around these concepts and you become aware of the trauma that has created these codependent issues within you,

That have created subconscious patterns and programs of thought that are running the ship today.

So at this stage,

What you're doing is you're really separating these issues and you're trying to figure out,

Am I being unrealistic with how I'm judging myself and how I'm feeling?

So asking yourself these two questions,

If you would be as offended if someone else did what they did to you or said what they said to you,

Or what would you say to someone who made the same mistake that you can't let go of?

So we're trying to figure out the severity of it,

Or are your expectations of self unrealistic?

We really want to get clear about that because you can't fix a hole in the wall that you can't see.

So if you generally walk around feeling guilty for everything,

It's going to be really difficult for you to figure out whether or not the emotions that you're having are equivalent to the offense.

The next thing that you want to do is once you've figured this all out is you want to get clear about your intentions.

Many of us tend to think in catastrophic ways.

We are so worried about hurting other people's feelings or about making a mistake.

We overemphasize even the slightest wrongdoing.

So journal about the exact issue that you're having,

List all the people involved.

Here's the key point that I need to make.

What was your intention?

When you walk through the door and you forgot to make your daughter that peanut butter and jelly sandwich,

Was your intention to hurt her or was it,

Did it completely leave your mind and you just fell asleep or you took a nap or you ran out to the grocery store because you forgot something?

It's important that when we're trying to forgive ourselves,

That we recognize that intention matters.

There are people on the planet who intentionally mean to hurt other people.

And interestingly enough,

The people that intend to harm other people very rarely experience any empathy associated with those behaviors.

Very rarely do they experience guilt and remorse.

And very rarely do they say they're sorry.

And if they do,

They don't mean it.

And so it's important that we think about this idea about intention.

This will help us deal with the feeling of guilt.

If I know that I said something to you and it hurt your feelings,

But my intention was completely different and perhaps I triggered you and you have this reaction and I feel terribly guilty and full of remorse because you had this reaction,

I could literally go into a complete trauma response,

Panic mode.

I can go into fawning behaviors because I will hate myself for hurting you.

It will destroy me for hurting you.

And this has been my experience in more ways than one.

This is one of the things that I've had to master in my life because I feel generally this sense of guilt all the time.

And I know where it comes from,

But it is definitely something that I need to manage because I am someone who feels guilty for the slightest thing.

Not anticipating someone's need,

I can feel guilty about that.

Having someone say that I didn't care about them will make me feel guilty.

Not even question,

Well,

Where was I when this person was in need?

I remember one time I was accused of not caring about someone while my mom was passing away and it was a really difficult point in my life because there were so many things that I was trying to navigate with my dad,

My mom,

My sister,

My brother,

Living four hours away from a mom who had dementia and then went into renal failure,

Being very,

Very uncomfortable with my father's care of her and knowing that she was dying.

And right in the middle of that,

Someone accused me of not caring about them.

And my immediate response was,

I'm an awful person because I wasn't there for this other person.

And I remembered the strategy steps that I've created for my clients and myself.

And I walked myself out of the subconscious mind and out of the trigger.

And I got to a point where I realized that in this situation,

Being accused of not caring was this person's perspective,

But I did care about this person.

But at the time my world was so heavy,

I just didn't have enough bandwidth to really care about someone else in the moment.

But that didn't mean that I didn't care about this person,

But I understood where this person was coming from.

And so walking through these steps allowed me to gain the clarity and the space that I needed to help me feel my emotions.

And as I began to feel my emotions and I didn't push them away,

I didn't run from them and I didn't go into a typical trauma response,

Which is,

I'm sorry,

Please forgive me.

I didn't mean to offend you.

I'm the worst person in the world and how can I make it up to you?

I didn't go right into my natural trauma response when someone guilted me.

Instead I sat with my emotions.

So one of the things that we have to learn to do in life,

Especially if we are reaching for spiritual evolvement,

Conscious evolvement,

We're trying to be the best versions of ourselves.

We must gain control over our emotions.

We must become trauma aware.

In other words,

If trauma is in my history,

I have to become aware of that.

One of the problems that we struggle with as trauma survivors is the people who have abused us tell us that they haven't abused us and instead they tell us that we're overreacting or they tell us that we're making things up.

So we're actually being gaslit and then we experience cognitive dissonance and we don't trust what we think and we don't trust how we feel.

And what ends up happening is we're only able to experience a few emotions at a time,

Like we can experience guilt and depression and we can experience anger and sadness and hopelessness,

But we're not able to experience a wide gamut of emotions because these heavier emotions take us over when we have trauma and we're not aware of our trauma and we have triggers and we're not aware of our triggers.

So this idea of living above the veil of consciousness is always going to apply.

So to live above the veil of consciousness,

I am learning then to observe what I observe.

So one of the steps that we need to pull in when we're learning to forgive ourselves is metacognition.

It's this idea of observing what I observe to just be a witness of the guilt.

Just be a witness of the words that I'm using to describe myself.

Just be a witness to my patterns.

Just be a witness to my belief.

Just be a witness to the visions that cross my path,

My mental mind and gaining some clarity around the feelings,

The somatic feelings that I'm having in my body.

What happens to my body when I sit with this feeling of guilt?

Do I want to crawl out of my skin?

Do I want to cry?

Do I cry?

Do I sweat?

Does my brain fill with cotton?

That's a big one for me.

I just,

It's like a short circuit.

It's like cotton is in my head and I really feel arrested in time.

And it takes me some doing to walk myself out of that response so that I can have some clarity again.

And so guilt isn't overwhelming me.

So learning to sit with your feelings is huge.

So how we do this is we walk through these steps.

We gain some clarity.

We ask ourselves some really,

Really important question.

We list the guilt that we're feeling out.

We separate guilt of self.

Do I walk around feeling guilty all the time?

Am I judging myself or does this guilt have to do with someone else and my behaviors?

Once we've separated that all out and we've gained some clarity around these issues,

At that point,

We need to learn to feel our feelings.

We need to sit with the guilt and really just don't judge it.

Just observe it.

If you need to cry,

You cry.

The next thing that we need to do after you've learned to feel your feelings and you've observed your feelings and you're observing your thinking around your feeling.

You need to get to a point where you recognize that guilt is one of those emotions that will prevent you from evolving.

It will make you sick.

It will create dis-ease in your body.

It will diminish your ability to spiritually grow and spiritually evolve.

It will diminish your ability to show up as your best self.

It's almost like you're walking around with this very heavy,

Wet blanket over your body for your entire life,

And yet you've come to shine.

You've come to transcend these feelings.

You have come to learn from your mistakes.

On one side of the equation,

You've come to transcend this trauma.

You've come to be aware of the trauma and you've come to make sure you're living above the veil,

Honoring what's below the veil and recognizing that the 3D you,

It could be no other way that you struggle with guilt and shame today.

It could be no other way.

The other side of the equation is that you're recognizing from the position of observer that,

Wow,

You know what?

I wasn't my best self,

And I really feel poorly about my behavior.

You identify that and you recognize that the guilt in this situation is beneficial because it allows you to change and alter the way you show up in the world.

If you feel guilty because you've screamed and raged at your children,

That guilt upon reflection can allow you then to move forward with the changed behavior or changed attitude.

When you identify your behavior,

You're saying to yourself,

Wow,

This behavior was,

Was not a true reflection of my heart and my intention.

I was in a bad space and I hurt people and I need to say,

I'm sorry.

And the next step is I need to change my behavior.

Apologies mean nothing unless the person apologizing means it,

Understands how their behavior or actions or inactions have affected this other person.

And the person making the apology is committed to changing their behavior.

That's a true,

True apology.

And when you're offering an apology,

You never make it about the other person forgiving you.

You make it about you showing up and you saying,

I wish to take responsibility and accountability for how I showed up in this situation.

And I'm truly,

Truly sorry for how my actions affected you.

And you leave it there.

Sometimes people offer apologies and they think that,

Well,

The other person naturally has to forgive me.

And that's just not the case.

No one has to forgive you.

Your apology is about you reconciling poor behavior.

Your apology is about you saying to the universe and to other people,

I made a mistake.

My behavior was inappropriate.

I'm better than that.

And I'm really sorry.

And at that point,

What we're trying to do after we make amends is we have to make a point to let it go.

Now,

If we don't deal with this and we don't learn to let it go,

The danger of this is that we tend to manifest people who will use our guilt and our feelings of shame against us happens all the time in narcissistic relationships.

So if I share with a partner that I was not my best self at work today,

That partner who is narcissistic will take that moment of vulnerability and use it as a weapon later on in life.

This partner might say things like,

Well,

You know,

You can't get along with anybody.

Not even your own mother likes you,

Lisa,

Or,

Well,

We all know that even your own dad thinks you're a drama queen.

So maybe you are the reason that office blew up today.

Not even hearing you,

A narcissistic person will hoard all of the emotional data you offer them and use it against you at a later date and time.

And so if we are to ascend emotionally and on a personal level,

Then we need to learn to forgive ourselves regardless of what we've done.

And I mean,

Regardless of what we've done,

As long as we are truly,

Truly sorry for how we have offended other people,

There comes a point where we just have to let it go.

Now,

There are some people who may never forgive you,

And that's a really difficult thing to have to live with,

But we must learn to live with it.

If we are truly,

Truly sorry for what we've done,

And we know that we've really hurt other people,

We do everything that we can to change and to offer our amends.

And then we give people the time to work it out.

And if on their side of the fence,

They are moved to offer us forgiveness,

That's a beautiful thing.

And if they don't,

That's okay too,

Because you've cleared up your side of the equation.

Regarding this relationship,

You can only take responsibility for your half of it.

Now,

You might apologize to someone who is even narcissistic,

And they might take your apology to mean that you were responsible for all of the damage in your relationship.

Remember,

You're not responsible for how this person that you're apologizing to receives your apology.

That's why your intention is so important here.

Learning to forgive yourself for something that you've done or something that you've said is one of our greatest challenges,

Because oftentimes we think that someone else has to absolve us of what we've done.

We've been conditioned to apologize to mother or father or our priest or a rabbi.

We've been conditioned to feel like we need to be absolved from our sin or our mistake from someone outside of us.

Sometimes the people that we've offended are no longer in our reality.

Sometimes they've passed on.

In this situation,

I suggest writing a letter of apology to the person and then burning it if you wish,

Or writing a letter of apology to the person and just filing it.

I have been at points in my life,

Especially after my divorce,

I felt so guilty for getting a divorce and needing to dissolve the marital blanket,

If you will.

And I realized that I had to move forward,

But I still felt all of this guilt and this shame and this remorse around being the one to say,

I'm done.

It was a terrible,

Terrible time in my life.

But me working through these strategy steps and me working through these exercises,

I was able to see that my base emotional set point was one of guilt.

I carried it with me since I was a little girl.

And in my marriage,

I always felt like I wasn't good enough.

That no matter what I did,

It wasn't enough to gain a connection to my ex.

And that made me feel worse then.

And I became someone I didn't like,

Especially towards the end.

And in time,

As I came through this and I began to understand what was really happening in my body,

In my mind,

Living above the veil versus below the veil,

I realized that there were things that I had to apologize for,

Which I did,

Asking and expecting my ex-husband to read my mind,

Being upset when he didn't figure out what I needed,

Even though I was the one anticipating all his needs,

Highly codependent and very dysfunctional and realizing that no matter what I did,

I wasn't going to be able to fix this.

And so I had to move through this divorce and my children were going to suffer.

There were days that I would journal on end for hours at a time about how I felt,

What was going on in my mind,

What was this really all about?

And it took me a very long time to move through the guilt and the shame to forgive myself for wanting to give my children a better life.

Working through these steps,

I was able to gain the clarity that I needed around my intention.

I didn't want to hurt my children.

I didn't want to even hurt my ex-husband.

That was not my intention.

What I wanted was to raise my children in a healthy home,

But that just was not possible.

It wasn't possible.

And when I reached that decision in my head,

Like,

Wow,

Like this is not going to change,

I realized I had to do something,

But the action that I was going to take was going to upset everyone in my family.

And that is a really tough thing to face.

Working through these steps,

I was able to realize that my intentions were good.

Even though the outcome in the moment was,

It felt catastrophic,

My intention was good.

I wanted to be able to teach my children how to set boundaries.

I didn't want my children settling.

I didn't want to model codependency anymore.

I wanted to model a strong mom for my children.

I wanted to model for my children this reinvention of myself.

I wanted to give them tools that I could not give them in the relationship that I was in and what they were being modeled.

I couldn't do that.

And so I got to a point where I realized my intention is good.

And one day I would like to really model for my children a beautiful relationship between a husband and a wife that is respectful,

That is reciprocal,

That is empathic,

That is mutually supportive.

I'd really like to offer my children that type of modeling.

And I am really,

Really excited to say that I've been able to achieve that in my life.

And so forgiving myself for those places that I had to move through,

It's like the mind has many,

Many rooms.

And I had to go through all of these rooms in my mind to get where I am.

And sometimes the guilt,

When you think back on what you've said and what you've done,

The guilt can be overwhelming and it can arrest you right where you are.

And I realized that that is not what I've come to do.

That's not what you've come to do.

We haven't come to be arrested by any emotion.

We've come to transcend.

We've come to transmute our emotion.

And often our emotions are the result of what's happening below the veil of consciousness.

And until we gain some clarity around what we're feeling,

What we're thinking,

And what's really going on,

We're not able to move through the guilt and leave it where it is.

I highly suggest working through these steps,

Getting clarity around what's really going on,

Figuring out what your intention is,

And making amends.

Like being willing to say,

I'm sorry,

And being willing to take whatever this person has to say,

And not defending yourself.

If you know that you've done something wrong,

You can write an email.

You can make amends to that person.

You can ask for their forgiveness.

You can ask them,

What do you need from me?

I know I screwed up here.

You know,

What do you need from me here?

I am so sorry that I have offended you.

And we have to let it land.

We have to give this person the space to receive that,

And then decide on their side of the equation what's going to make them feel better.

And then we have to also accept whatever this person is.

So if that means that they forgive us,

Great.

If that means they need to move away from our relationship,

That's okay too.

If they have some request of us that they feel might help them forgive us,

Then we run it through our filter.

We discern whether or not that's something that we're willing to do.

And again,

Now the ball is in our court.

And so you ask someone for forgiveness and she says,

Well,

Give me a thousand dollars and that will make up for what you said to me the other night.

And you think,

I'm not willing to do that.

I just hope that you're willing to accept my apology because the offense had nothing to do with money.

Unless of course,

Let's say your friend bought you theater tickets,

You know,

And a limousine and out and out on the town type thing,

And you just decided you didn't want to go.

And she's left holding the purse for that.

Sure.

Paying her back.

That makes sense.

And that's it.

You know,

You,

You move on.

But it's important that if someone comes back with the request,

Because there's always the always the chance that someone's going to come back with an absurd request.

And so we want to make sure that we hold on to ourself in that situation,

Because now here comes the ball back in our court.

We have some decisions to do.

And so if this person isn't willing to accept our apology,

Accept that our behavior is going to change.

And yet they come back with this ridiculous request.

You have the right to say no to that request.

And whatever happens in that,

In that scenario happens,

We have to learn to let things lie.

You make up for your side of the equation and be willing to accept whatever this other person says.

And if they have a crazy request and it doesn't fit you,

It doesn't resonate with you.

You have to accept that as well.

And you have to allow that to lie.

And so forgiving yourself is definitely a way that you can transmute or transcend these lower energies that keep you stuck because you are a divine human being.

Divine intelligence flows through your body,

Right?

We're all going to make mistakes.

When it comes to forgiveness,

We have to apply forgiveness to ourself.

How many of us are willing to forgive other people?

And we have,

But we don't offer ourselves the same level of forgiveness.

And that's just not wise.

This is not good for our mental health.

So I encourage you to make self-forgiveness a part of your mental health awareness challenge.

Make sure that if you need to forgive yourself,

You take on that challenge and you work towards,

Eliminating the guilt and the shame that you've been carrying around with you for way too long.

Namaste everybody.

I hope this has been helpful.

Until next time.

Bye for now.

Reviews

Thank you Lisa. I needed to hear this. Its being super aware of behaviors to change habits. ❤️🦋