Practical Ways To Increase Your Feminine Energy!

In this talk, I go over some practical ways to increase your masculine energy. Every person has a combination of both masculine and feminine energies (regardless of gender). When a person has a lot of masculine energy of activity and purpose without the support of some feminine energy, they may experience unwanted conditions in their life such as burnout, lack of passion, dullness, rigidity, and a lack of creativity.

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Hey,

This is Ish,

And in today's talk I want to go over how to increase your feminine energy.

So in my previous talk,

I went over how to increase your masculine energy,

And this is energy associated with a forward-moving energy which is very directional and is very active,

And feminine energy is the opposite pole.

So this relates to being more receptive in nature,

And rather than being very transcendental to life,

Feminine energy is immersed in life itself.

So humans have both feminine and masculine energy.

So feminine energy is very in touch with life itself.

So we often say when you're referring to nature,

For example,

We don't say father nature,

But rather we say mother nature.

And the reason why that nature is associated with feminine is that it constantly changes,

And feminine energy is like that,

That it's rather than being very predictable,

It is unpredictable.

And it cycles through life,

And it's also associated with connection,

So connecting with other people and being very involved with the things around you and really loving the life that you have.

So feminine energy brings that joy and passion in your life.

And for a healthy human being,

We need both masculine and feminine energy.

So the masculine energy provides a structure and a vision,

While the feminine energy brings spark and joy into your life.

So if you have too much masculine energy and not enough feminine energy,

You may notice some unwanted situations and scenario happen to your life.

So typically,

People who are on a mission in life who identify in their masculine energy are constantly focusing on their goals,

And they step outside their body to focus on what needs to be done in an objective manner and go forth to it,

Are constantly in their masculine energy.

But if they don't have the feminine energy also,

In addition,

Well,

What will happen is that their life will start to feel very gray and dull.

So it feels like life just is a sequence of routines.

So you go to one task,

And then you go into the next.

And everything just feels very objective and black and white,

And there's no joy or spark that comes with the feminine energy.

So a lot of the great art in the world and poetry and a lot of the music and emotions all come from the feminine energy.

So when you look at like artists,

For example,

Or poets,

You can see that they have this certain quality in them,

Which is very expressive.

And that's what the feminine energy brings,

Is expression and joy for life.

So if you are currently like working too hard or too much on your focus and mission in life,

You'll notice that you'll start to animate this in your life,

Both in the way you conduct yourself and how others perceive you.

So you might start to become a bit more hardened and a bit closed off and rigid if you're too much in your masculine.

So the feminine will allow you to relax and really enjoy life for what it is.

And a wonderful movie that illustrates what happens when you don't have enough feminine energy is the 2002 movie Equilibrium.

And this movie takes place in a futuristic world where the current city was just ravaged by a lot of war in the past,

So a lot of destructions,

And they feel that war was created by human emotions and it was better at the time to cut off yourself from emotions,

Human emotions,

And also get rid of the feminine.

So this would include art,

Music,

Any kind of poetry,

Any entertainment as well.

And in this society,

In this movie,

All citizens are required to take this pill that will actually mute all their emotions,

It kind of shut themselves off from it.

So everyone will kind of wear all black and all gray,

So very muted down colors that aren't too aggressive,

They are expected to take the pill exactly at a certain time every day,

And their life is very linear,

Which is associated with masculine.

So in this movie,

Christian Bale,

Who plays this very senior enforcer in this community,

Is responsible for going to different houses and making sure that everyone is taking their pills and they don't have any kind of artwork or anything that represents the feminine.

And not to spoil too much,

But eventually in the movie,

He comes into contact with the feminine,

I won't spoil it and what happens,

But he becomes deeply touched and he becomes very emotional and he just realizes that,

Wow,

Life is actually worth living with all the things associated with the feminine.

So this include art,

Music,

Poetry,

Gratitude,

And all these qualities that make life very passionate.

And he then makes it his mission in life to kind of overthrow this very neutral and masculine type environment that is devoid of the feminine.

And that's kind of the whole movie.

So that's a very cool movie to check out,

So I recommend you check that out.

So feminine energy is very important if you are in a field that really values creativity.

So creativity is associated with the feminine and also fields that require you to express more love and openness and different qualities associated with this.

And also when it comes to dating and relationships,

What I typically find is that for a lot of people who are identified more with the feminine side,

If they start to take on different jobs that require them to operate out of their masculine all the time,

Such as being a senior manager at a company where you're becoming very linear and logical and you aren't really relying on your emotions rather than your thoughts and how you think this is associated with the masculine,

What happens is you're constantly living in your masculine all the time,

The energy you'll give out to other people will be masculine.

Now if you're looking to attract a masculine partner or someone who is more identified with their masculine,

This could be a man or a woman,

Does not relate to gender,

You will find yourself having a hard time because attraction is created through polarity.

So it's through the differences between the masculine and feminine that creates the attraction.

So although for human beings it's very healthy for you to develop both masculine and feminine,

If you are a feminine identified partner who wants to attract a masculine partner,

This is why you want to increase your feminine energy.

And I personally see this quite often,

So just as a personal observation where a lot of my friends who are female who really identified more with their feminine side,

So they're really involved and prefer to be connected with love and connections and really focusing on their relationships,

Well they'll take on jobs which will require them to be in their masculine and what will happen is that they'll start to become more angular,

More sharp and when they meet potential partners,

They'll be the ones taking control,

So they'll be the ones leading the relationships and all they want is for someone to kind of lead the relationships rather than them doing it,

So they want to let go of the responsibilities so they can enjoy their feminine side.

And oftentimes because of the law of polarity,

They'll meet different partners that are more feminine because they are animating their masculine energy,

So they'll meet partners where if they'll ask them like hey what do you want to do for dinner,

The partners will say oh I'm not really sure,

I want you to make the decision,

I'm not really sure,

So and this actually like causes them a lot of frustration,

So if these friends of mine would animate their feminine energy,

Well then the law of polarity will work,

So then they'll start to attract more masculine partners who are very happy and capable of taking a lead and making those decisions,

So they're just something to keep in mind.

So how to increase your feminine energy?

So the way this is done is you'll start by taking a list of feminine traits and then seeing how you can apply it in all aspects of your life,

So this is both the physical body,

How you communicate,

There's a masculine way of communicating in a feminine way,

How you live your lifestyle,

So all these factors will come into play.

So what are some traits associated with the feminine energy?

So this would be receptivity,

Spontaneity,

Being very feeling-based as opposed to thinking-based,

Being very flowing in nature,

Having a focus on love and light,

And also having a communication,

Open communications with others,

Being empathetic,

Compassionate,

And rather than being very linear and structured,

It is very open-ended and can consider multiple possibilities.

Feminine energy is also very intuitive and really goes off feeling in what is right in the moment compared to kind of stepping outside and becoming more objective,

So feminine energy is very subjective as opposed to objective.

Feminine energy is also associated with softness as opposed to hardness and being more flexible rather than being very rigid,

Which is associated with masculine.

Now let's just take one of these traits.

So let's just take flowing,

For example,

That's part of feminine energy is it goes in a flowing pattern,

So if you were to communicate,

For example,

So let's just take speech,

There is a masculine way of communicating,

Which is very direct and straight to the point,

And you can see that even as I'm speaking,

If I'm going to be speaking in a masculine energy,

I'll be talking,

My hand gestures will be more linear in fashion,

So I'll be moving my hands up and down and I'll be going straight to the point,

But if I were to talk in a feminine way of expressing myself and more in a flowing fashion,

In fact,

I probably would not even use my notes,

In fact,

I'm very in touch with my feminine energy,

Oftentimes that I'll have to include the masculine energy of taking notes and keeping a structure of these videos and talks,

Because if I don't,

I'll just keep talking and talking,

So I've kind of made myself a bit more mask in that aspect,

But speaking in a feminine manner would be just expressing how you feel and not really planning ahead of what you're going to be saying,

So if I were to talk,

I would be speaking in more of a softer fashion,

In my hand gestures,

It would be more circular in nature compared to more linear,

Which is straightforward,

So I'll be talking in like a circular fashion with my gestures,

I won't be planning ahead and you can start to see that just by hearing me now,

I've started to become a bit less structured and a bit more unstructured in the way of my speech,

So this is how flow relates to just how you talk and conduct yourself,

So that's just one aspect,

But you can see you can apply it to all aspects of your life,

So there's a certain way of conducting yourself physically,

So if you were very structured and still,

This would be associated with masking,

You kind of hold yourself upright,

But in the feminine,

You want to keep your body a bit loose and relaxed and this is how you appear more feminine to others,

So if your goal is to increase your feminine energy,

You can take these tips and apply that to all aspects of your life,

So physical body,

So I'm moving in a flowing fashion and then in my speech,

I'm talking in a circular fashion with nothing really planned,

In terms of my mind,

If my mind is flowing,

I kind of go from one thought to the next,

So I'm just connecting the dots and that is one aspect of the feminine,

It's going from one topic to the next in a flowing fashion rather than being very structured and going from point A to point B,

So let's take lifestyle lines,

So say you just woke up in the morning and you're going to go plan your day,

Which is associated with masking,

In a masking fashion,

You say today I'm going to do this at 8 p.

M.

And then afterwards I'm going to do this and you've had your day very structured and laid out,

Well with feminine energy,

You're going to throw away your list,

So you're going to wake up and say what am I going to do today and what do I feel like doing,

So feminine energy if you recall is very in touch with one's own body and everything around them,

So you would wake up and say hmm,

I feel like making a croissant,

Very random but that's feminine,

It's illogical and then you would you know go make your croissant and then you'll sit there and say hmm,

What do I feel like doing now and then maybe your body just like feels like going for a walk and then you go for a walk and you don't have your timer in place,

You don't have your clock,

It's not linear but rather it's open-ended,

You can go about your day in a very flowing manner which is very spontaneous,

So if you're very used to setting rules and guidelines and structuring your time,

This can be a bit of an adjustment curve but you can make use of this by just getting rid of all that and just going with whatever feels good in the moment,

So feeling is the next trait associated with feminine,

So you can start to see how can I conduct myself physically to feel more,

So you can you know be sitting there and just like feel what's good in your body,

So there's always like pleasure going on or you can feel like doing whatever and just go about that task,

You can get your feelings down onto paper by you know writing poetry or writing in your journal if you have one or a diary,

So these are all ways you can express yourself,

You can also make amazing artwork and these things will increase your feminine energy because you're pouring whatever you're feeling into the different mediums in your life,

So receptivity and intuition are also traits associated with the feminine,

So oftentimes people will ask me how do I increase my you know intuition,

Intuitive qualities,

How can I become more intuitive,

How can I become more receptive to life and this is done by letting go of control,

So the masking is all about control,

So some practical ways you can increase this quality of receptivity and intuition is let go of the control,

So all of my great ideas and all these talks from my videos have all come from a period of not actively trying to work on it rather than letting go,

So I'll be sitting there in my meditation and I won't even be thinking about this topic but all of a sudden it would come into my head,

So when you actually allow yourself to let go of control you'll be actually surprised at the amount of insights,

Amount of intuition that comes through the body through a period of stillness,

So when you're not trying to actively control things or work on things a lot of amazing insights happen and you may have noticed like in the past a lot of great scientists and people that were very much into the logical mind and the masculine side of things often had their insights through a period of when they were in their feminine,

So Isaac Newton when he was like discovering the laws of gravity came up with that insight by when he was actually not working in his office room but rather he was sitting under a tree and an apple hit his head and then he's like oh god I got this idea now,

So this is just one idea or one way that the feminine will inform your life is you will get all these insights and ideas through a period of just letting go of control,

So practice different ways of letting go of control in your life and you'll start to tap into this quality.

Another trait associated with the feminine is softness as opposed to hardness and some other qualities associated with softness could be flexibility and malleability and adaptability,

So just kind of going along with what's happening and bending,

Not being so rigid and in Talisman they actually talk about this a lot and I forget the specific reference but they've mentioned a hard object,

I think this was a tree like kind of like a sturdy kind of tree where over time it would get destroyed by winds and different things,

Different cycles of nature because it is unwilling to bend,

So it's very rigid and as a result it is met with the misfortune because it's not able to adapt but the willow tree or I think the willow or bamboo is able to flow with the winds and flow with everything else so it offers no resistance,

So whatever happens it kind of just adapts to it and water is a good example of this where whatever container you put it in,

It's okay with it,

It can be poured in a pot,

It can be poured in a cup,

It can be poured in the floor,

It'll just go downstream,

It doesn't really matter where you place it,

It will adapt and that's kind of like the lesson that you can learn that you want to be like water in the sense that you can adapt to whatever is going on,

So how can we do this practically?

So I'm giving like a very esoteric example because the feminine is associated with a lot of esoteric concepts,

So when it comes to conducting your body,

How can you sit in a softer manner,

So rather than being very rigid and like very in your masculine,

If you're in a field that emphasizes the feminine and you want to increase your feminine energy,

How can you sit in a softer manner?

In terms of your speech,

How can you conduct your speech so your voice sounds softer as opposed to hard?

So if I were to say the phrase what are you doing?

If I say it in a masculine manner,

I'd say hey what are you doing?

It sounds very linear,

Straightforward,

Harsh,

But if I say it in a feminine manner,

I'd say what are you doing?

So you notice how my voice got a bit softer,

It's a bit more flowy and if you just practice these specific things for a trait,

Then you'll start to notice that your feminine energy just increases and you will become more feminine and also other people will perceive you as more feminine.

So the way to conduct these techniques is to take one of these traits at a time and work on it,

So focus on one trait and see how you can apply it in all aspects of your life.

So how can I,

For example,

If I'm going to be talking about softness,

How can I wash my dishes in a soft manner?

How can I conduct my posture in a soft manner?

What clothes will make me appear a bit softer in nature and more gentle?

So these are all questions you can answer and ask yourself and then practically do those things.

So try to see in all aspects of your life how you can apply this one trait and obviously you can see that there's so many iterations of this,

There's so many different scenarios where you can practice this,

So it'll take you a while to learn but once you've mastered one trait,

Go to the next.

So the next might be intuition.

So how can I go about my day in an intuitive manner?

So just going with whatever feels good or whatever feels right in the moment.

How could I approach my health in an intuitive manner?

So just doing whatever feels right in the moment and a lot of people go to the gym,

For example,

They'll say today I'm going to work on my chest,

Tomorrow I'm going to work on my legs and this is going to happen regardless of how I feel.

That's a very masculine way of doing things,

Very linear.

In a feminine manner,

You can say,

Okay,

You know what,

Actually my legs are a bit sore so I'm going to do something else today,

Maybe go for a walk and that's a feminine way of approaching things.

So you can start to see how you can use all these traits into different aspects of your life.

So I hope you like this talk.

I'll see you in the next one.

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Great talk!