Buddhist Prayer For Forgiveness - Explanation

I am glad that you are here. This is a psychology-based explanation of the concept of forgiveness. In this track, I am also explaining the "Buddhist Prayer For Forgiveness" track (designed for mantra meditation) from a psychological standpoint, so when you use it in meditation, this is the modern concept behind it and why I think that mantra is important and helpful in the healing process.
From the energetic perspective, as you meditate with the intention of forgiveness, even if you are not yet ready to forgive, there is a shift in the collective consciousness that is happening.

Remember: Contemplating about forgiveness is helpful and healing. Forcing yourself to forgive can be damaging, as a form of self-abuse. Notice your feelings. Give yourself time. This is a journey. If you are not in place where you can forgive, give yourself grace for being where you are. Evolution is a continuous practice.

Transcript

Hello and welcome! In this recording, I'm going to explain the psychological elements in the prayer for forgiveness. To begin with, I want to say that forgiveness is a part of a healing process and what I like about forgiveness is that you are not carrying the anger, The negative energy, The grudges into the future. However, It is important to notice that anger in itself has an important message to bring that often has to do with boundaries. Where are your boundaries? Moving on to the first sentence of the prayer for forgiveness, It is important for every one of us to acknowledge that sometimes we do mistakes and sometimes we hurt people, Consciously or unconsciously, Or in other words, Knowingly or unknowingly, And it's important to hold ourselves accountable just as much as it is important to release the feeling of guilt, Because once you notice it that you are hurting someone that you care about, You can learn from that mistake and change the behavior. And this is something that helps in the relationship, In the connection between you and your loved one, And at the same time it helps both of you to grow. So it is important for us to understand that sometimes we do mistakes and we may hurt people that we care about. This is a human thing. This doesn't make us a bad person. However, What we do with this tells a lot about how we live our lives and about the connections that we create and how we hold on to these connections and how we build up to these connections. The second one is forgiving others. One important element when it comes to forgiving others has to do with the very common misconception that forgiveness means that you pretend it never existed, The harm done never existed. No. In order to truly forgive, You need to feel your feelings. You need to experience how you're feeling, How this situation, How this damage done made you feel. Especially when it is done knowingly, It hurts really a lot. However, It is not your responsibility to paint the other person with different colors and to lie to yourself that no, They didn't do it knowingly. In other cases, When the damage may be done unknowingly or is done unknowingly, It doesn't mean that damage does not exist. It's the same as the first sentence that we talked about. One person can do mistakes without noticing, Can harm someone they care about without noticing. However, The difference is in how you take accountability for the damage that is now done. It doesn't mean that you're a bad person. It means that you're a human and humans do mistakes. However, How are you going to show up to heal these mistakes or how are you going to show up in the future? What lesson can you learn from this mistake that is done? But from our perspective as the one that is harmed, As you release the grudges, As you notice the situation and then release the grudges, You are not punishing yourself for the damage that the other person did. Because as you hold on the grudges, Your whole body is in fight or flight state. So, As you release the grudges, You are telling your body that it is safe here. You're safe with me. You're allowed to be safe. You're allowed to be relaxed because this is a safe environment. You can calm down. And this is why it is important to forgive. It doesn't mean not feeling your feelings because feelings are very important in the sense that they have a message to bring. And when you understand that message, Then you can let them go. Otherwise, You may very likely, You may just be avoiding them and not feeling them fully. And this is the third sentence is what I was talking at the beginning. Depending on the harm that is done, Sometimes it is really difficult to forgive. And that's okay. And I love how in this prayer it is put as something. If there is a situation I'm not yet ready to forgive, Which is okay. You're not supposed to forgive things just as easily when you don't feel like forgiving them. When you're not ready to forgive. When you have still to process the pain and to mend the wound. Because different wounds have different depths. And sometimes you need to feel all the anger and all the pain that it brought in order for you to release it. And you need to put some boundaries and to take actions based on what happened. While also being mindful and being rooted in your true self and in the divine being that you are. In the sense of not doing things out of anger. But experiencing anger, Listening to the message, Putting boundaries in the best way that is possible. But in the meantime, This not forgiveness for you means that you're holding the grudges. And especially when you're holding the grudges while you're not ready to feel the anger, It may be in a way harmful to you. But it is okay. I mean, When you don't know any better, You are in the process of learning and experiencing and processing the emotions and you are doing the best you can at this moment. So, You forgive yourself. Because at this moment, You are doing the best you can without knowing any better. For all the ways that I harm myself, Negate, Doubt, Belittle myself, Judge or be unkind to myself. This reminds me of one phrase that is the only toxic relationship you will ever have is the relationship with yourself. Every other relationship is just a mirror of that. And I've seen it in so many people that I've worked with. I've seen it in so many people that I've met. The way that we treat ourselves is just the worst in so many cases. And it is painful to witness for the fact that it is sad how we are not taught any better. And I am grateful that we are all learning and growing together as a society, As a collective. And we're learning more about mental health and emotions and all of that. Yet, When you're not kind to yourself, It comes with an amount of guilt and anger to yourself. So, There is this conflict between different parts of yourself. And this is the confusion. Not knowing any better. And you forgive yourself for not knowing any better. And you learn from the mistakes. And you do better. So, To me, This prayer from the beginning to the end, It expresses my connection with forgiveness in the most beautiful way. And it's so whole because it brings the concept of forgiveness in its totality. And I really love it. And I really like practicing it with all of this in mind. And it brings me so much peace. And actually, That's the whole point of forgiveness. The sense of peace and inner harmony that comes with letting go. With the learning. And releasing. Thank you so much for being here. Sending you lots of love and many blessings.