Hello and welcome to another episode of the Healing Maven Podcast.
I am your host,
Jamie Sutherland,
Spiritual healer,
Soul guide,
And teacher bringing you back home to the truth of who you are and the divinely supported,
Powerful creator you are within.
I am so excited to be here again today.
Today I really want to talk about the level at which we are healing.
A lot of the time we are consciously aware of our problems.
We are consciously aware of our issues,
Our triggers.
We are consciously aware of the emotions that we maybe no longer want to feel or the emotions that we want to,
I want to say tamper down,
But you never want to tamper down your emotions.
I mean,
That's,
I guess,
A fancy way to say repressing.
So you don't want to repress your emotions because they will always,
Always,
Always come back up.
They will always find a way to reemerge because your emotions are not meant to fester.
They're not meant to sit in your body and not go anywhere.
Like they're,
They're meant to flow.
They're meant to move.
It's energy in motion.
It's so important that we are taking the time to recognize and separate from our emotions because we are not our emotions.
Our emotions are not who we are.
Therefore you can create a distance where you become aware that you're reacting,
You become aware that you're feeling,
But you don't respond anymore from that place.
So it's a level of awareness that we can get to.
But the first thing you need to do is often reconnect with your body.
It's not even reconnecting with our emotions at the level that we aren't hitting.
It's reconnecting with the sensations within our body.
Over time,
We become just disconnected from the way that we are meant to function,
From the way that we are meant to flow.
And we get this focus that's very mental.
It's very analytical.
It's very in our heads.
And that's not where we live.
That's not where we're meant to live.
That's not where,
You know,
We're meant to live in our heart.
We're meant to live where our soul resides.
We're meant to live in all of our chakras,
In all of the energy along our body and not just up in our head.
So going back to how you can be so consciously aware of,
I don't like this feeling,
Or I don't want to feel this anymore,
Or this is the action and this is the problem because this is the way that I am responding when that action happens.
So we try to heal that moment.
You know,
We try to look at that action that's happening right then and determine how we can change moving forward.
Determine how we can not react anymore.
But a trigger is almost always something that has happened in the past.
If you have an emotional response to something now,
Especially as an adult,
Where you have already,
You know,
Lived your childhood,
Even,
I mean,
However long you've lived,
But the point is you've gone past childhood and you're now at a place where you are responsible for your emotional responses.
So essentially,
You've done some living,
Is what I'm trying to get at here.
You've done some living,
And that means that it's most likely,
Whatever the reaction is that you are feeling in regards to an action and experience,
A conversation,
Specific words,
Specific events,
It is from something that has happened in the past.
It is from something that happened long before you were probably even fully aware of what was happening.
Definitely at a time because,
You know,
As children,
We are not often given the room or the space to learn how to self-regulate,
To learn how to self-soothe.
And I don't mean self-soothe in,
Like,
Allowing them to cry it out or allowing your child to have a complete tantrum,
But self-soothe in helping them create a safe space within themselves so that they know that they are safe to feel.
They are safe to react,
They are safe to respond,
And then helping them come back to the emotion.
We get so caught up in the action,
In the response,
That we forget to go back into the body,
That we forget to go back to the emotion,
Because our emotions are just guidelines.
They're just indicators.
They're,
Sorry,
Guideposts.
They're indicators that something isn't in alignment with who you are,
Or the path you're meant to be on,
Or the way that you're meant to go.
It is something within that is coming up.
Like,
Emotions are coming up to tell you,
This was not okay,
Or this was amazing.
Let's do more of it.
Either way,
Recognizing that the emotion has a trigger within that you can get underneath.
Get to the root of where that trigger first started,
Where that response first happened,
And it might be from childhood,
It might be from this lifetime,
It might be from a past lifetime,
It might be generational.
You might be here,
Like me,
To break generational curses,
To break generational patterns and chains that have just been carried down through your lineage,
And you're the one who is having these experiences because you are the one who is going to be able to change them,
Because you are the one who's going to be able to create new patterns by healing the things that no longer are aligned with the way that you want to live your life.
The beliefs that were given to you,
The beliefs that were impressive on you,
The beliefs that you were told that never really felt right,
But because you hadn't been given that space or that bandwidth to learn how to trust yourself,
To learn how to trust that your emotions will guide you,
They will show you the way,
And they will show you the path of least resistance in terms of getting to the destination that you desire and being able to hold it.
That doesn't mean that it won't be challenging.
That doesn't mean that you aren't going to face the same things over again,
But each time you do,
Instead of becoming frustrated,
Start to recognize it as an opportunity to practice your new pattern,
To practice your new belief,
To practice saying,
I recognize that this is happening.
I recognize that it is not what I want to experience anymore,
And I am shifting out of that.
You know,
I had a.
.
.
Right before I actually recorded the first episode of this podcast,
And I think I've talked about it a little bit,
Maybe just in my email list,
I had my most recent kind of breakdown to break through.
I'm sitting crying in my car because that's kind of my safe place to go.
I live in a small suite with my husband,
So there isn't really any privacy to be had,
And sometimes you really just need to cry it out.
So I went out to my car,
And I'm crying,
And I can.
.
.
I'm allowing myself to feel what I'm feeling.
I'm allowing myself to release all the emotion,
Release all the tension,
Release it all,
And there was one track that my mind started to go down,
Because just like you all,
Just like we all,
I am also human,
And I am consistently given the opportunity to practice.
So the first line,
Of course,
That initially came up was a victim mentality.
I wanted to scream at the universe.
I wanted to yell,
Why is this happening again?
Why is this continuing to come up?
Why is this thing still affecting me so heavily?
And for a couple seconds,
I started going down that line of thought,
And then I brought myself back in.
I brought myself back in,
And I said,
Wait,
Actually,
Thank you.
Thank you for this opportunity to heal another layer of this trigger,
To heal even deeper this wound that is coming up,
And I am open to receiving whatever lesson needs to come through so that I can feel and let go.
Spirit guide me,
Spirit help me,
My emotional support team,
Show me what I need to move through this and let it go.
And I instantly felt calmer,
And I felt peace,
And I was still crying.
It's not that the emotion just disappeared,
But I created an outlet.
I created a space for it to go through gratitude,
And through love,
And through creating a new understanding that whatever I am experiencing,
The depth of whatever I am experiencing is there to show me something new,
Or it's there to help me practice what I preach.
It's there to help me practice everything I know to be true,
Everything in my belief system that tells me that our emotions are a guidepost,
That our emotions are here to help us find new layers.
And I think that's another part of the healing process that I was having a conversation,
Actually,
With a friend the other day,
And we were talking about this because she was talking about how much growth she's seen in her relationship,
And she's seen so much growth just through the casual conversations her and I have had,
And she was recognizing her partner for how far they've come,
And she was saying that,
You know,
Sometimes they still react in a harsh way,
And sometimes they don't,
And then sometimes they,
Like,
You know,
It's sort of like this one step forward,
Two steps back,
Three steps forward,
One step back,
And I was like,
That's healing layers in practice.
Like,
That is an example because hopefully,
Hopefully,
We can often get right into the root of the wound,
Or right into the root of the issue,
And allow it to be released,
Allow it to be let go,
But when you are healing,
And reconnecting with yourself,
And reconnecting with your emotions,
And reconnecting with your body,
And doing all these different things,
You're doing them all at once,
And there's a lot at first because at the beginning of that journey,
You're literally doing everything.
Like I said,
I think,
In the previous episode,
You know,
In the beginning of your journey,
You're literally questioning every single thing,
So that becomes a lot easier down the line because you are no longer questioning everything because you've shifted beliefs,
You've shifted emotions,
You've shifted the way that you see the world,
You've shifted your perception on what life gets to be,
And the experience that you get to have.
So there's not as much,
But there is always new layers as you grow,
And as you reach new levels.
In our conversation,
I was saying to her that that's literally healing layers in practice.
As they move forward,
And they react in a better way,
That's a layer that they've let go,
That's a layer that they've healed.
If next time,
It's maybe a trigger that's deeper because now they've created safety within their body,
They've created that safety within themselves,
And your body will recognize that there's more space,
Your body will recognize that there's more capacity,
And your energy has grown.
It can hold more,
And it goes,
Hey,
I think we can do this now.
I think we could go a little deeper now.
I think now we can also let go of this.
And then they have that reaction that's maybe a little harsh again,
But you will find,
Just as my friend did,
That their person came back faster to apologize,
Came back easier to reconcile,
And came back of their own volition to say,
I recognize that I reacted in a way that I no longer want to,
And that may have been hurtful to you.
Like,
Massive growth.
Massive growth.
So even when you feel like you're kind of going backwards,
I encourage you to recognize the ways in which you have also moved forwards.
Because there's gonna be times where there's going to be those layers,
And you're gonna let go,
And then you're gonna make space,
You're gonna make room,
And something else can come up.
But the more that you practice,
And the more that you just integrate and embody so deeply the new beliefs that you're creating space for,
The new beliefs that you are now holding,
Or that you will be holding,
Your comeback time,
Your comeback time is so much better.
You know,
That breakdown that I was talking about,
I used to,
You know,
That would knock me on my butt.
That would knock me out for days,
Maybe weeks.
Like,
I would just,
It would ruin,
It would ruin a long time for me.
And over time,
It got shorter,
And it got shorter,
And it got shorter.
And depending on the level of breakthrough,
The level of breakdown in order to breakthrough,
Because they're correlated.
Like,
That breakdown,
After that breakdown in my car,
And I brought myself back to the healing,
And I brought myself back to allowing space for the lesson to come up,
For the wound to come up,
For me to clear.
And I was done crying,
And I went back inside,
And I sat on the couch.
I sat on my couch,
And I meditated,
And I just,
Again,
Created space from now having let the emotion out.
Because that's the other thing,
You don't stop the emotion,
You don't stop yourself from crying,
You don't repress it,
You don't shame yourself,
You don't tell yourself that you're stupid,
Or silly,
Or ridiculous for continuing to react.
That is a big thing that I often see,
Is how much we shame ourselves for continuing to react to something that we believe is stupid.
And it might be,
Honestly.
There might be,
It might seem petty,
It might seem small,
Whatever the thing is that's causing you to react,
But that doesn't mean that the initial trigger was.
There is a good chance that the initial trigger,
Well,
I mean,
It has to be fairly,
Fairly decent,
Fairly decently level of trauma for it to become so ingrained that small things begin to trigger it.
That also means that you're creating space,
You're creating awareness.
And these are all good things,
These are all good signs,
And I know that the emotion doesn't always feel good,
But allowing yourself to steer away from the shame and stop that spiral and instead say,
I recognize that I'm reacting in a way that may feel petty,
That may feel silly,
But knowing that how I feel is valid is more than enough for me to understand that there is something here that is deeper than what is happening.
There is something here that is more than the sum of this small moment or experience that really didn't warrant,
In my opinion,
The level of response that I had.
And I have absolutely had that happen,
And that is often how I know,
You know,
If you're given news and the news is,
Say,
Like happy,
Exciting news,
But you feel in your body that it's reacting in a way that is not concurrent,
There's most likely something,
There's a fear there.
There's a fear there around whatever that happy news was,
And it's not that you won't be happy or get to happiness,
But there's something there that your body is like,
This is gonna be amazing,
But first we need to heal this so that you can hold it.
First we need to get into this wound,
To get into a space where you can recognize you have a fear,
And this experience,
Even though it's a happy,
Exciting experience,
Is an opportunity for you to recognize there is something deeper here,
And to let it come up,
And to let it go so that you no longer have to experience it,
Or you no longer have to experience it at this level,
At this layer.
Sometimes,
Like I said,
I'm able to completely let it go.
Often there's like little trailings,
And it's tiny little trailings,
Whereas little pieces that'll continue to come up after.
I'm like,
Okay,
It comes up,
And I'm like,
I know exactly what this is from,
I know exactly what this is related to,
And I'm happy to,
I'm happy,
I'm grateful for this,
This extra little piece that came up,
Giving me an opportunity to fully release it and let it go.
So the level of healing that you are doing,
If you can't get past the mind,
If you can't get past the conscious,
I recognize this is something I want to change,
But now I don't know what to do.
Get into your body.
If you are disconnected or disassociated in some way from your body,
It's really important to create safety,
And often that,
Honestly,
Like I encourage even just physical touch.
So touching your toes,
And moving up your body,
Or touching,
Starting at the top of your head,
And moving down your body,
And just softly,
Even sensually,
Like just from a loving,
Loving,
Loving place,
Saying,
These are my toes,
This is my foot,
This is my ankle,
I really love my calves,
I've always had really great legs,
Like just moving up your body,
And only appreciating,
And only loving,
And not falsely,
If something doesn't feel true,
Don't push it,
But just keep moving up your body,
And when something does feel good,
Oh I always loved that,
Or I always have had a great butt,
Like just recognize yourself,
Create love,
Loving frequency,
Loving energy,
And give that to your body,
Just to start building that connection back up.
You can also do this energetically,
So closing your eyes,
Maybe put on some like soft,
No lyric music,
Or a frequency in the background,
And close your eyes,
And just bring your focus,
Your awareness,
Again,
Either starting at your toes,
And feel your toes,
And moving up your foot,
And feel your ankle,
And your calf,
And feel love,
And just move up,
Or starting at the top of your head,
You know,
Starting at your crown,
Your forehead,
And your ears,
And your nose,
Like really just start creating movement,
You know,
Reopening that energetic flow for there to be sensation within your body,
For there to be touch,
And love,
And connection that's physical,
And energetic,
And loving,
Always loving,
Back with your body,
Because as you create this connection,
As you create this loving reconnection,
You will begin to recognize your emotions more as separate from it.
You will begin to feel that the anger in your belly,
Or your heart,
Or the fire in your head,
Or whatever it might be,
You'll begin to feel that it is separate,
Because you can pinpoint exactly where it is.
You can say,
Oh,
I have this pain in my left shoulder,
And I can bring my awareness to that point,
And I can see where it is,
And I can feel where it is,
And this is going to be foundational for your healing.
This is going to be foundational for you to start building a connection to your body,
Building a connection back to your emotions,
And also building new neural pathways,
Right?
Building new energetic channels,
And reawakening,
Reopening,
Reawakening,
Because that is how we are meant to function,
Right?
We are not meant to live in our head.
Our body receives energy,
Receives frequencies,
And then that feeling,
That energy is translated into a feeling,
And the feeling is translated by the body,
Which then moves into the mind,
And the mind translates the feeling as anger,
Sadness,
Happiness,
Excitement,
Frustration,
Anxiety,
Worry.
So,
If you are starting in the mind by saying,
I am worried,
But you don't feel it in your body,
Or you don't know how to feel it or locate it in your body,
It's going to be very hard to be able to let it go.
So,
Start practicing.
Start practicing getting back into your body.
Start practicing loving the way that you work.
Start practicing loving how it feels to be in your body,
To connect with your body,
And that is going to be the first step for those of you who do find that you're disconnected from your emotions,
And you're unable to really pinpoint what they are.
And a way that you can tell is if somebody asks you,
How do you feel?
How does it feel?
And you're somebody whose answer is often,
Well,
I feel like I'm good,
Or I feel like I did okay,
Or it felt like it went well.
That is not a feeling.
How do you feel?
I feel happy.
I feel sad.
I feel angry.
Those are feelings.
So,
If you or somebody,
When asked,
How do you feel?
There's a sort of block,
Like there's a sort of block in your mind,
And you might even like stop for a moment,
And then your answer isn't a feeling,
Or your answer is,
Well,
You know,
I think I could have done this better,
Or I really felt like I did this really well.
I know you're saying I feel,
But that's still not a feeling.
That is a sign that you are most likely disconnected from your body,
And it could be that you have experienced such strong emotion that,
To protect you,
Your subconscious closed that door.
Your subconscious closed that trap door that allows healing to get through.
You know,
If you think of,
This was an analogy when I was first learning about subconscious rewiring,
And how the brain and the body works together,
And this analogy really helped me.
So,
If you think of your mind,
Your consciousness,
As the top level,
And then below that is your subconscious and your body,
And between the two is a door,
Like a trap door.
It is usually open,
Right?
It's open.
Your subconscious and your conscious are allowed to speak.
They communicate.
They transfer information.
When you experience something that your subconscious decides is unsafe,
And it could be something like,
So,
For example,
You go for a job interview.
So,
You go for a job interview,
And you are not regulated.
You're sweaty.
You're nervous.
You're anxious.
You're everything,
And you don't know how to handle these emotions,
And your body is overwhelmed and becomes overloaded with this anxious,
Worrying feeling.
That trap door slams shut.
It slams shut,
And now your consciousness and your subconscious are no longer communicating when it comes to that topic.
So,
This is also why,
Months down the road,
Years down the road,
After you've been on many,
Many interviews,
And you actually consciously are confident,
Consciously,
You're like,
Absolutely,
I walk into a room,
And I do this all the time.
I know what to say and how to engage my audience.
I know how to,
Or the interviewer,
Like,
I know how to answer the questions.
I'm so confident.
I've done this so many times.
It's not a problem,
But your body still feels the same anxiety or some level of anxiety that tense is overwhelming,
And it's all these things.
It's because that trap door is shut,
So consciously,
You understand that you are safe.
Consciously,
You understand that interviews are no longer something to be afraid of,
That interviews are no longer something that is unsafe,
But because you haven't opened,
Reopened that trap door,
That healing,
That conscious knowing hasn't had a chance to dive into the subconscious,
To deal with that emotions,
To deal with the reaction within your body,
To say,
It's okay now.
It's okay now,
And we can let this go because this is safe.
So,
You have to reopen that door,
And that starts with being intentional about it,
And that intentionality often starts with reconnecting to your body.
So,
I hope that this episode was just really lovely for you,
And a peak snapshot into subconscious healing,
Into dealing with your emotions,
And into,
You know,
How to obviously reconnect with your body,
And knowing that the level at which you are going to heal is going to be different,
And sometimes it's going to be intense,
Something is ingrained,
Something was really,
Really repressed,
Or pushed down,
Or an emotion altogether has just been stricken from the record of what you allow yourself to experience.
If you decide to do any of these practices,
Which I really encourage you to,
Even if you feel like you are somebody who is quite aware,
And who is quite connected,
Because I definitely am somebody who knows that I am very connected to my emotions.
I am very connected to the understanding that they are not who I am,
And they are separate,
But it is still a practice that I practice.
It's still a practice that I do,
And it's also because I keep it up.
You know,
These practices become a part of life.
So,
When I have a few moments before bed,
Or when I'm first waking up in the morning,
Or if I'm having my tea,
Or I take a break,
Or I go for a walk,
I'll do these same practices of just opening the flow of energy within my body,
And following the path from the top of my head down to my feet,
And then allowing the energy to just flow into the ground,
Back into mama earth,
And come down from source.
I practice allowing this connection consistently.
I practice connecting with my body,
Somatic healing all the time,
Because it's so important,
And because I am human,
I am always experiencing human events.
I'm a part of other humans' stories.
I'm a part of other humans' lives.
I am always just like you.
We are always,
Always going to experience different things,
Because that's part of what we're here for.
You know,
You're here to learn what you like,
And what you don't like,
And that means you have to experience things that you like,
And things you don't like,
And that's going to continue for your entire life,
As you open up to new paths,
To new growth,
To new ways,
To new beliefs,
To new levels.
There's always going to be little bits of healing,
And sometimes big bits of healing,
But you'll find that over time,
After you've started your healing journey,
And the more that you continue along it,
You're not as shaken.
You know,
You're not as.
.
.
There's not as many,
I guess,
Maybe deep life events as the older that you get.
They become a little bit fewer,
A little bit farther in between,
Especially because it really just is that.
.
.
There really is a huge onset when you first get started,
Just because there's so much potentially that you haven't recognized or been made aware of yet.
When you start opening that box,
When you start removing those layers,
You just don't know what's gonna come out,
Which is also why it can be really great if you can join a membership,
Or join a group,
Or if you have a partner,
A healing partner,
Or if you can invest in a guide,
Invest in a mentor,
Invest in a healer who can help support you,
Who can help hold you in those spaces when it feels really,
Really hard,
And it feels really heavy,
And it feels like a lot,
Because it always.
.
.
It always will a little bit,
And you're just gonna get better,
And better,
And better,
And better,
And better,
Better at recognizing,
Better at reacting,
Better at responding,
Better at understanding.
You're only gonna deepen the more work that you do,
And the farther that you go,
And there is no timeline.
There is no expectation of when you need to start,
And when it's going to end,
Or how often you need to do anything.
I started with snatches of time.
I started with moments that I could find here and there to learn,
And to heal,
And to explore,
And to journal,
And to meditate.
I started small.
I started with little pieces here and there as I got more comfortable with shifting the way that I saw the world,
And now it's more of a priority for me,
Because now I love how it feels,
And I understand so deeply how the impact is,
Like how much the impact can be.
So thank you so much for tuning in.
Like I said,
I hope you gleaned so many beautiful things from this episode.
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