Exploring Codependency

Whether you are new to the idea of codependency or are aware of your attachments to others, join me in a guided meditation to explore our ideas of self, of being alone and accepting ourselves as whole humans.

Transcript

Hello and welcome to Intuition Awakening.

My name is Janine.

Today I will be guiding you through visualization and meditation focused on the topic of codependency and our ideas of self.

For some of you,

You might be joining fairly new in your journey of discovering what codependency means to you.

For others,

You might have a clear sense that you are codependent.

Perhaps you have left relationships.

Perhaps you are now alone again and learning to find yourself.

No matter where you're at in your journey or whether the word codependency really rings home for you or not,

Today I want to explore a short exercise about accepting our individuality and accepting that we are alone.

So,

To get started,

Let's take some time now to settle in to our seat.

Perhaps we're sitting on a chair.

Perhaps you're listening to this reflection while you're driving.

Please know that you can maintain as much alertness as needed during this meditation.

We're just going to be visualizing and feeling our emotions.

So,

I want you to begin by bringing to mind someone you may be in a relationship with now or perhaps someone you have felt very,

Very attached to in the past and recognized that you have some difficulty separating yourself from this other person.

Just bring them to mind now.

This could be your parents,

Perhaps your children or maybe even the relationship you're in right now,

Your spouse,

Your partner.

Just bring them to mind.

Now,

I want you to imagine standing in front of that person or persons and turning around and slowly starting to walk away from them.

Looking back,

You know they're still right there.

They're watching you leave.

There is no animosity or conflict that started your walk away from them.

This is just an exercise of noticing how it feels to have some distance between you and this person or people that you have in mind.

So,

Continue walking away from them and just notice how does it feel.

You can still see them.

Perhaps they're a ways away and becoming smaller,

But you know they're there.

Keep walking a little farther until you can no longer see them.

Until they're far off in the distance or perhaps you've rounded a corner just knowing that they're too far away for you to see clearly right now.

You feel your feet beneath you standing there looking around just noticing that you are alone.

How does that feel now?

Whether you're feeling calm or perhaps there's some panic or sadness that's coming up just let the feelings come.

We're not going to judge them right now.

We're just going to welcome whatever sensations want to arise right now with us today.

Do you feel stuck?

Or perhaps like you want to walk even further away from them?

Or do you want to run back towards that person and try to find them?

Again,

There's no wrong or right answers.

We're just noticing what sensations come up when we are forced to recognize that we are alone.

Do we feel deep?

Do we feel deeply uncomfortable with this idea of loneliness or being by ourselves?

Or do you feel quite peaceful and content?

For many of us,

When we start tapping into the sensations of separating and becoming our own person with our own thoughts and opinions values and beliefs likes and dislikes it can feel very uncomfortable.

And that's okay.

Thank you for bringing awareness to this discomfort today because so many people they don't.

Many,

Many people feel deeply unsettled in relationships or in past bonds or connections with their families and they never really,

Truly discover why.

So thank yourself today for visualizing that walk away from the most important people in your life and spending some time noticing your aloneness.

Now,

If you can still visualize yourself standing there,

Separate and in isolation from those people I want you to bring a smile to your face even just a small smile if there are a lot of uncomfortable feelings right now.

Just noticing that you are safe that even sitting now here with these feelings of discomfort you are safe you are whole just as you are you are allowed and welcome to experience your individuality.

The word alone does not have to mean loneliness being alone does not have to mean desperation or isolation or dependency or neediness.

These are sometimes words people may have used to describe us as children or perhaps even as adults.

Perhaps people have told you they needed space and that can feel so,

So hurtful.

There were times where you wanted comfort and needed it or perhaps even now need it and you have felt alone as if it was unattainable or inaccessible to you.

And again I want you to notice the feet beneath you a heart beating in your chest that small smile on your face just knowing that you are whole and you are never alone.

You have yourself you are a fully rounded beautiful individual with likes and dislikes perhaps hobbies or favorite music perhaps a favorite style of clothing or a preferred animal or pet.

There are things about you that are so special.

So now with that gentle smile on your face I want you to remember how strong you are how beautiful or handsome you are.

I want you to remind yourself of one quality that you carry with you at all times and that you can access whenever you feel alone.

For me that one quality is my stubbornness.

I know that no matter how alone or isolated I feel I will always reach out to someone I will always find a support group perhaps a book I can turn to my community and reach out for help.

Perhaps for you this quality is your ability to find the light in the day.

Perhaps you find a fun joke or comedy special perhaps you're very active and you always know that you can get outside or go to the gym.

Perhaps you have some fabulous hobbies that you love just knowing that you are a whole individual with these beautiful qualities likes and dislikes values and beliefs and no matter what you are never truly alone because you have yourself you have your thoughts you have your values you have this deep sense of love and appreciation for yourself.

Even if we have to practice even if it's not always perfect just knowing that even when we are separate from those people we feel codependent towards or very reliant on that we have amazing qualities that will always help us as well as the people we love that will always help us as we journey down that road away from those people we will always be safe and we are always whole.

Thank you for joining me today.

Namaste.

Reviews

This was tough but a great exercise. Thanks for reminding me that I am strong and I am enough.

It was a very simple exercise that I plan on doing again. I’ve been struggling with codependency as a result of childhood trauma. And this meditation really put some things into perspective for me! Thank you!

Thank you for this. Exactly what I needed today 🙏🏼

Amazing!!! Thank you!! What is that beautiful music? I loved every part of this, sooo needed for me💗💗💗

SO needed this!

This is such a beautiful and touching meditation. Thank you for your kind sweet voice and your profound heartfelt message of hope. Namaste 🌹🙏💕

I learned & I felt a lot. I have studied codependency for a while now and was thinking this would be something nice to do. It was more than that. It was quite healing. Thank you.

Wow! judging from the emotions this brought up, it really helped me touch something essential. Thank you! Please make more like this.

Thank you for the gentle guidance to look at some uncomfortable things for me. This was an insightful and contemplative experience. Thank you 🙏🙏🙏 ❤ Much love and appreciation.

Amazing thank you so much

I’ll come back to this one again and again. It’s just what I needed to hear and understand. Thank you 🙏

Brilliant. Very emotional though.

WOW! This was one of the most healing meditations I have ever EVER done. Thank you so so much.

This was so healing. Thank you!

Thank you for this gentle reminder that you are never alone. This is the perfect daily affirmation ❤️

Thank you Jenine for a wonderful meditation. 💕 🙏🏻

I really enjoyed this meditation. I thought I was completely fine about my recent breakup, but some tears definitely flowed out during this meditation and I am very thankful that emotion was released. I wasn't expecting that. Thank you for helping me heal and feel good now that I am alone, but not truly alone ❤️