Hello dear friend,
Life can be busy at times.
At least this is our human perception.
When it happens we enter the restlessness phase and go into a frenzy,
Feeling agitated and worried,
Perceiving that we will run out of time and energy to satisfy our own needs and desires.
In that loop we forget why we are here and healthy boundaries dissipate into the abyss.
Because you are here now listening to this meditation,
I know you've slipped out of your healthy routine and are looking for inspiration to bring back balance into your life.
Why?
Because only you can set healthy boundaries for yourself.
I hope you are ready to begin.
All settled in a nice and quiet space,
Listen to your body and choose a posture that's comfortable for you.
Close your eyes and feel your eyelids resting on top of each other.
Inhale through the nose and exhale fully through the mouth.
Slow down and enter a space of rest and relaxation.
What does it mean to have healthy boundaries?
I invite you to imagine that your body is your house and around your house you have a flower garden in a multitude of colors.
You love and appreciate your flowers,
Caring for them,
Watering and nurturing them.
You protect them and don't allow others to step on them or destroy them.
Hence you have decided to build a fence around your garden.
I invite you to notice how does your fence look like.
Is it tall or short?
What is it made of?
What kind of material?
Is it wood,
Metal,
See-through material?
Is it flexible or very sturdy?
People on the other side of the fence can still admire your flowers but they need your permission to come into your garden.
Similarly,
When setting healthy boundaries for yourself,
You tell others how you want to be treated,
What is and isn't okay for you,
What you allow and don't allow in your space.
Take a moment to notice how beautiful your garden is.
Slow down and take your time enjoying your inner garden.
You are the gardener of your inner world.
What is your relationship with yourself?
Healthy boundaries are influenced by your values and beliefs.
To have healthy boundaries,
You need to have a healthy relationship with yourself,
To appreciate and understand your inherent value,
To know that you matter in this world and the quality of your life depends on your relationship with yourself.
Take a deep breath and go deeper into the depths of your being.
Rest your awareness in your heart space and imagine that your heart is shrouding and protecting you in this moment.
From here,
Look around and notice when and where someone trespassed your boundaries,
With or without your permission.
Notice if you have given them permission unintentionally for the fear of being rejected.
Take a breath and notice what images or visuals are showing up for you,
Any emotions and feelings.
Just notice and be present with what's here for you.
Ask yourself what's okay and not okay for me?
Do I put others needs and desires before mine?
Do I allow myself to take up space and be the authentic version of myself?
Take a deep breath and let out a big sigh.
You might experience some anger and frustration with yourself right now and that's okay.
Go deeper with your breath and connect with your essence energy,
Your truth and remember who you are at your core.
You are a sovereign being and you are having a unique experience in this world.
Remind yourself that it's okay to honor your needs,
It's okay to take up space,
It's okay to say no when the answer is expected to be yes and it's okay to say yes when the answer is expected to be no.
I invite you to repeat quietly to yourself.
It's okay for me to create a life that supports me.
It's okay for me to express my feelings and speak up for myself.
I know I deserve to be treated with kindness and respect but first I have to do all these for myself.
I also know that I can't expect others to respect me if I don't respect myself.
Take a deep breath and allow this new awareness to find space in your consciousness.
Notice if any resistance comes up from the mind negating your truth.
It's the protective mechanism coming from the egoic mind.
Now is the time to raise the bar and stick to what feels good for you.
Let's breathe now,
Embracing the inhale and relaxing the exhale.
Implementing healthy boundaries is a process.
It takes practice.
You practice until you feel comfortable saying no,
Honoring your limits and expressing your feelings.
Setting healthy boundaries is a spiritual practice.
Your spirit wants you to honor who you are in every aspect of your being.
Notice how you feel right now,
Hopefully empowered,
Engaged and confident.
Honor your feelings and practice being pragmatic and assertive with your own needs.
