How To Embrace The Holiday Vibe - L,L,&L W/ Glenn Ambrose

A special holiday episode explaining the dynamics of embracing positive vibes or negative vibes. I discuss how this applies to the holidays specifically and how it applies for the rest of the year and other situations.

Transcript

Welcome to Life Lessons and Laughter with your host, Glenn Ambrose. Hello. Hello. Welcome. Welcome. Welcome. Welcome to the show. Welcome to the special holiday edition of Life Lessons and Laughter. Uh, So, So yeah, I, Uh, I'm doing something a little bit different this year and I figured I'd specifically talk about the, The holidays. And the reason I'm doing this is I think, You know, Hopefully my perspective can help some people specifically because I, I never really called myself a Grinch, But I was never really the type to get into the big hoopla Christmas spirit. I think part of that is probably my, My personality to some degree. Um, I mean, Very rarely do I like get so jacked up about something I'm going like, Wow, My God, This is so amazing. Like that, That's just not you. That's not really how I react to, To situations as a general rule. I mean, Of course I've, I've acted like that in the heat of the moment, You know, Several times in sports or something like that. But, You know, As a general rule, Sometimes, You know, If something really wonderful has happened in my life, People are like jumping up and down around me and going like, Oh my God, Glenn, This is so wonderful. And I'm like, Yeah, It is like, You don't really seem it, You know, But it's just, It's more internal for me. It's not external. So I, I can't say that. I mean, Sure. When I was younger, There were years that I was a Grinch, You know, Like a technical Grinch where I was, I didn't like the holiday season. I didn't embrace the holiday season. I didn't enjoy the holiday season. And I was in negative headspace, You know, Back then it was. So to me, It's just part, It was part of life. I mean, I wasn't living a happy life anyway. So, So, So why not extend that into the holidays, You know? So I think that that is why my perspective can be helpful because I'm not one of these people that's always ran around, Jumping around and embracing the holidays. I'm just not that person. In the last 21 years, I'll say since I woke up, I haven't been against Christmas or any of the holidays. I, You know, I, I got some enjoyment out of them, But it was somewhat minimal. I just wasn't ever really the big holiday person. Like for me, I used to like Thanksgiving because I could go spend some time with family, Have a great meal, Watch some football. Maybe when I was up North, I could go to the high school that I grew up with and go see some friends that I grew up with and go check out the high school football game and, You know, Run into some old friends and stuff like that. And, You know, So that was kind of cool. I used to, You know, And it wasn't all the, The presence and the stress and all this stuff of that holiday. So, So, You know, That one I could kind of get into. Not a lot of expectations, I guess, But, You know, With the not having money most of my life and being miserable most of my life and being away from family most of my life and all this stuff, It's just wasn't a big holiday guy, You know? Like I said, I wasn't completely against it. I just wasn't a big holiday guy. And then in the last 21 years, I've, I've tried embracing them more because I was living a happier life and, But just still wasn't really the holiday guy, You know, Hearing, Hearing the Christmas music and what seemed like September nowadays, It was like, Seriously, Come on, You know, And, And all the commercials telling everybody they have to buy stuff and the consumerism and, You know, I, That it just seemed like it was more that than anything. And that to me was missing the point. So, So it's kind of been just, I've gotten some enjoyment, But I was never really able to embrace them. And this year I've noticed a shift, Like I'm this, This sounds weird for me to say, For me to hear myself say, But I'm playing Christmas music on my own on purpose this year. You know, I mean, I live in a Dominican Republic and, You know, It's a very Christian country and they're all embracing Christmas and everything. And, But I'm not listening to the radio, So I'm not hearing it all the time, You know? So like, If I'm listening to music elsewhere, Like Spotify, I get to pick whatever I want to listen to. And I'm actually picking Christmas music, Some classic stuff from my childhood, Some, Some newer stuff from the 80s, 90s, And 2000s. But that's not really new anymore, But you get my point. It's newer than the Bing Crosby and Dean Martin stuff, Right? That I grew up listening to, Which I enjoyed listening to. I enjoy that stuff too. But most importantly, What I'm feeling is, Is an actual joy of the, The season. And I'm sure it is a result on the work that I've been doing on myself, Embracing love and feeling more connected to my source of love. And, You know, Embracing that. And my mood is better. My, My, My, The space I'm in is better. I'm more consistent, Walking through my days, Feeling gratitude and, And, And love and excitement for the future. And it's, It's nice. So, So this is why I decided to do this show. I was, I was thinking about a, Just a post or something. And as I started typing some thoughts out, I was like, Yeah, This could be a podcast because I don't think it's a mystery, You know, Like when you're really not in the holiday spirit, Especially for many years, You kind of, And, And, And you see everybody else being in it and you're not after a while, You kind of just start figuring that it's just not you, You know? So that's kind of how I settled into it. That's just not really my thing. But, You know, It's like anything, It's, It's the vibrational rate that we are at. This is why I feel that I'm enjoying, Now don't get me wrong. I'm not leaping around like, Like some huge holiday person, You know, And going crazy with it. It's just, It's again, You know, I think I'm more internal in this aspect. So, So it's just, It's a more internal, Joyous feeling and embracing that this time of year is actually happening right now. And it's, It's a good feeling. But I don't think it's this, This elusive, Difficult thing like I used to think. It's the space we're in, You know, It. So like, For me, I'm in good space, Which means, As I was just mentioning, Connected to my source of love and feeling gratitude throughout my days more often and stuff like this. And so since I'm vibrating at that rate of love and joy more often, And then a season comes along, Or a reason comes along, Or something comes along that is joyous in nature. And that matches my vibration that I'm already at. See, And this is the most important thing. So like, I believe we can use this throughout the holiday season or seasons, As well as in our everyday life. So understanding that we have control over our own experience, Right? And people like, Oh, You're you're manifesting your own life, You're creating your own life and all that stuff. And all that's true, But it kind of sounds elusive, Especially when you're not vibing, Especially when you're not in it, When you're sitting around looking at your life, And there's there's things that you don't like, And, And you know, You kind of feel a little stuck and things aren't going the way you want. And then somebody comes in and says, You're creating this. It's like, You know, That we don't want to believe that. And even if we did believe it, Well, What am I supposed to do about it? Like, I don't know, Man, You know. So this, This is the the space that I think a lot of people get caught in. And myself included. I am. Which is another name for my inner state, I believe, Is constantly evolving. So even though I've been spiritually awake for the last 21 years, And sure, I've gotten a lot more enjoyment out of my life in the last 21 years, But it hasn't really spilled over into the holidays until now. So now it is. So when I look at it, Okay, What's different? Like, Why am I feeling this? It's because I'm in good space. And then, Like, I get the the mentality of the consumerism and the stress that a lot of people are under, Or that a lot of people put themselves under at this time of year, I get all that. And like, I traveled, What was it last last Christmas, I believe it was I traveled, And the the energy, Like I can, The energy is very different than the DR, I can go over to the United States, And generally enjoy myself and not get dragged down by the difference in energy. Energy is a lot more intense and stressful in the United States. But it, Like, It doesn't really affect me when I go over there and visit. Now, When I went over and visit last, Last year for Christmas, It affected me big, Not not immensely, I still enjoyed myself. But But especially in the airport, My god, The the fights and the yelling and the stress, And just playing people being mean. And it's just because they're stressed out, And they're at the end of their robes. You know, It's, It's not because they're bad people. But just the intensity during traveling during Christmas, I was like, Wow, Note to self like, This is probably not something I want to do. But too often, It was just too intense. They're not enjoyable. So I'm aware of that energy, Because that energy is real, Too. But as a general rule, I mean, There is people talk about love more. During this time of year, People try to embrace love more during this time of year. As much as they should, Probably not, You know, A lot of times the stress will overshadow some of this stuff. But we're talking about in general, Worldwide. Even if people aren't, Like, Really embracing it internally, As much as they should, It's on their minds more peace, Love, Joy, Good things, Right? So that vibration is out there, Too. And sure, There's more stress vibration, But there is more love vibration. So we are going to be able to embrace whatever we are vibrating at more. And with a little conscious effort, It goes, We're that much more successful at it. You know, And this is coming from somebody that, Like I said, It's I've never really been a holiday person in my adult life. So now that I'm doing it, This is why I think my opinion can be helpful, Because I'm coming from, Oh, My, Well, I mean, I'm 56. Probably, You know, Maybe the last time I really enjoyed the holidays was when I was young, Maybe like 12. Somewhere around there 1213, I think was the last time I was really enjoying just about anything in life, Including the holidays. So and then, You know, Until I woke up 21 years ago, And then I've been enjoying my life, But it just hasn't spilled into the holidays that much for some reason. So there's, That's a substantial period of time, Where I wasn't embracing it. And now all of a sudden I am. So it's, You know, One of the things that I really always love to do is learn from success. So to me, This is successful. Why? Because I'm experiencing more joy and happiness. I don't care why. It just so happens that it's coming through the holidays right now. But why is this happening? You know, How can I duplicate it, Learn from my success instead of my failures all the time. I'll learn from my failures too. But I want to learn from my successes. So this is when I pump the brakes and slow down and look at this stuff. And I realize it's like, I'm vibrating out love, And there's more love vibrating in the world because of the holidays. So if I just open myself to that, And lean into it, And allow myself, It's just naturally turning into more love inside of me, Which is wonderful. You know, It's, I mean, I still, I've always done stuff for the holidays. Like, You know, We've done a Christmas party for the kids at the little school up here every year for the last three years. And it was, It was great this year, You know, So it is. And I was able to get a bicycle for the neighbor girl that was just, You know, Watching her trying to ride her bike every, Almost every day, And the chain constantly falling off and the tires being flat. And, You know, And she came to me and said that she wanted a bike for Christmas. And, You know, I didn't say anything, But I surprised her with it, You know, With the help of some people that donate money to help me do this type of stuff over here in the DR. And it was just such a beautiful moment. You know, Seeing, I mean, She literally broke down crying. I mean, It was just so beautiful to see somebody so touched by something, You know, That I was able to help make happen. I mean, It's, What's better than that, Man? What's, You know, I mean, To see a little girl that happy, It's just wonderful. So anyway, So my, You know, I, I think what I'm going to do now is just kind of talk about the energy aspect of it specifically, Because this is what we can use. You know, If we understand the dynamics of it, Then we can, We can interact with the dynamics. You know, Like I said before people like, Oh, They love Christmas and I don't. And it's like, Oh, Or I'm unhappy and, And other people are happy. And like, I just don't know how to get out of it. And people say, I'm creating my future or creating my own reality. And yeah, Yeah, Yeah. I kind of get it, But that sounds ethereal. So let's get practical about it for this time of year and beyond, You know, What's, What's beautiful is that if we are vibrating at love, Then we can connect to the love vibration that's out in the world. And we're going to experience it more. If we are vibrating at a rate of negativity, We're going to connect with the negativity more. I'm not saying that you can't be aware of negativity. Like, Of course we know that there's a bunch of negative things happening in the world, But they shouldn't be consuming you. I know a lot of negative things going on in the world, But that's not my basis for the reality in how I walk through my daily life. Why should it be like, What, How is that going to help? Oh, There's problems in the world. So I'm supposed to be unhappy. Oh, Okay. Why? Like, I mean, How, How does that, How does that fix anything? How does that help anything? You know, It doesn't, All I'm doing is bringing, I'm just matching the vibration of the negativity out there. And now I'm part of the problem literally because you know, Everything is energy. There is collective vibrations on this planet. So there is a vibratory rate of everyone. And there are vibratory rates of collections of people and areas. And so, So if I'm vibrating, This is what Gandhi meant. One of the things that Gandhi meant it's the statement is so profound, But be the change you wish to see in the world. Like we're, We're too worried about looking, Oh, There's problems out there. Oh, Look, This person was acting like a jerk. Oh, There's not very many happy people. Oh, There's look at this problem. Look at that problem. And we're doing this in the name of love and it doesn't help. It doesn't bring love into the world. Sitting around pointing out all the problems there are, Does not bring more love into the world and not putting your energy towards them. Does not mean you are burying your head in the sand and pretending that they're not happening. Like we have this idea that if there are problems in the world, Then we're supposed to be upset and miserable because there are problems in the world. And if we're not, Then we must not care. And that we're part of the problem. And that simply isn't true because most of us, We're not capable of individually fixing a problem. So if, If you can't fix a problem, What is the point in you being miserable about it? I mean, What's the point in you being miserable about it? If you can fix the problem, You know, I always mentioned, Uh, Dalai Lama and, Uh, Bishop Desmond Tutu, When I'm talking about this, Because those two have, You know, The, The, The people that, That they represent, That they love the most have gone through enormous atrocities. And those are two of the happiest people I've ever seen exist on this planet. They're constantly laughing, You know? So it's the, There is, It doesn't fix things being upset. It doesn't, All it does is bring your vibration down to match the negativity that's going on. So if the, If we had more people vibrating at the rate of love, Then there would be more love in the world. That's how love comes in this world. I don't know if people have slowed down enough to understand now the way love, Like, You know, Everybody goes, Oh, We need more love in the world. We need more love. Okay. Well, How do you do that? Vibrate out the rate of love. That's how you vibrate at the rate of love. Not get upset because your neighbor isn't vibrating at the rate of love. Not that doesn't bring more love into the world. You getting upset that there's atrocities happening in the world does not bring more love into the world. It brings more negative energy into the world because you're just vibrating at, You are a vibratory being. So whatever you are vibrating at is emanating into this world. So us being upset because there are problems in the world doesn't fix the problems. It just makes us literally part of the problem. That's what makes us part of the problem. But we've been brainwashed to think that like, If we're not upset and mad about bad things, Then we must think those bad things are okay. Or we're burying our head in the sand and living in a state of denial. It's got nothing to do with denial. Like what if you're walking around constantly going, Oh my God, This, This, These problems in the world is horrible. Oh my God, I can't believe this is happening. How does that fix the problem? How is that a step towards those problems no longer existing? It isn't, It doesn't do anything towards the solution. Okay. So, So it doesn't do anything action wise, Externally towards the solution. So it doesn't help the problem. And then, So, So since it's not helping the problem, Then you just pay attention to what it feels like in your body. Well, You are now a beacon for crap energy. So you feel like crap. Okay. So how does that help the world? It doesn't, It's just one more beacon of crap floating around the planet. This is why, Like, You don't have to do anything like external. I mean, Don't get me wrong. There are some people that are, Are their purpose, Their personality where they are. Like we all have opportunities to take action and to make the world a better place in an external manner. Sometimes it could be holding a door for somebody. Sometimes it could be being polite to somebody. Sometimes it could be for, Uh, Standing up for, Uh, Against an oppressive government or standing up against an oppressive government, Not fighting the oppressive government or not, Um, Arguing about things that are going on. It's love-based energy standing up for feeding what you do want and starving what you don't not complaining about what you don't want. Right. There's a big difference. So, So like if we are, If we're just, So there are going to be times where we can do external things and in certain situations, And when we can, We should, We should do those things. Those are opportunities to make the world a better place externally. And if we can participate in some of that stuff, Great. But on a daily basis, The first thing we need to do is become a beacon of love, Vibrate at love. And the things that are happening in this world that are love-based, Because there's tons of them, It's just the news doesn't report on them and people can't complain about them. So they're not right on the surface, Go looking for them. There's beautiful things happening all over the place. Google it. Good news, Good things happening around the world, Stuff like that. You'll find all kinds of stuff. So just being that beacon, It will change your life individually because you're going to feel better and you're going to be walking around at the vibration of love more often. And then you're going to start running into more people that vibrate at that as well. And you're going to start experiencing experiences that vibrate at that rate as well. And maybe you'll even start liking the holidays. But we got to embrace love first. So it's just energy. So just so you guys, Hopefully you can understand that I'm talking about the dynamics. Like down to earth, Applicable dynamics that you literally can change your life doing this stuff. So to give you the alternative, Like everybody has been in bad space. Everybody's been in a bad mood. Everybody has had bad days. And when you're all caught up in that, Just negativity. And you can't seem to get out of it. And just you try to think of things positive and they just rub you the wrong way. And then somebody comes up to you and says, Hey, Isn't it a great day? And you just want to choke them. Why? The person obviously didn't do anything wrong. They're just enjoying their day and wanted to share that enjoyment with you. But you just wanted to choke them. It's because you're in negative energy. And when positive energy, This is all vibrational rates, People. So when negative energy, I mean, Positive energy comes in when you're vibrating at negative energy and that positivity comes in, It's like nails on a chalkboard. It's like oil and water. It doesn't mix. It doesn't blend. It doesn't stick. I grew up in the Northeast. This is the time where everybody talks about the snowfall. You know how sometimes when it snows, It's like really dry snow and you pick it up and you try to make a snowball with it and it just falls apart. It just won't stick, You know? But then sometimes it's more of a wet snow and you pick up that snow and you pack it together and it really sticks nice and tight. Get these nice tight snowballs, Right? Like this is what I, It sticks to each other. Likeness, This is how vibration works. So when we are just vibrating at love, And I'm telling you, You've experienced stuff like this. I know you have. Like I said, A lot of times people can just relate to the negative aspect. Now, So I'll stick with that for a minute. So like when you're in negative space, Right? And then all of a sudden you're like, Let's say you're trying to think your way out of it. Which a lot of times we have difficulty doing. And this is why. Because you're in negative head space and then, You know, That positive person comes in and you're like, Ah, Idiot, Get away from me. And then you start going, Hey, I shouldn't be thinking like this. I should be thinking positive thoughts. Like, I'm so lucky that I have this car to get around in. And you're saying these positive things to yourself and you just almost want to start choking yourself because it just sounds annoying. It sounds stupid. It doesn't even sound like it makes any sense. That's when you're in really negative head space. So it's like you've got this negative vibration that's overtaken you. And then you're bringing in this positive energy and it has nothing to stick to. And it just slides right off. It just slides right off and falls. You know, It just it just doesn't match anything inside of you. So since it's not matching anything, It can't merge with anything. That's how it sticks. So now somebody else comes along that's negative, Right? And they go, Isn't the world the stupidest place to ever live? Aren't there a bunch of morons in this world? And you go, Oh, My God, Yes. Oh, That feels good. That is truthful. This is a person that gets me. This is a person who's seeing life realistically. This is somebody I need to be spending more time with. Oh, It literally feels refreshing to find another negative person when you are negative, Because then you can connect over the negativity and that energy can feed off of their negative energy. And then it's so it has stuff to stick to. And you guys can become like this negative vortex of crap energy. But it actually feels good because it's the vibration is matching. I mean, It doesn't feel good, Good, Not like love good, But it feels. Appropriate or it feels. Conducive, It feels it feels like it matches because it does. It's like jamming a square peg in a round hole, Right? Like if all of a sudden like if you're jamming a square peg in a round hole and then all of a sudden you put the square peg into the square hole, It's like, Oh, That fits nicely. Now, Even if the square hole is like negative in some way, Just the fact that it fits nicely is going to give some sort of relief. You know, Maybe the round hole is positivity and the square hole is negativity. So you put the round peg in a round hole of positivity. It's just wonderful. And it feels like it matches and it's love based. The square peg in a round hole is negativity. So it doesn't feel good from a love perspective, But it does feel good from the match perspective. It fits. So it feels appropriate. So that's how it looks like from the negative perspective. And as I I'm stating, It's the same with the positive vibration. So if we just keep working on ourselves, Practicing gratitude, Practicing, And I'm talking like we got to really step it up, Man. Like I watch this little clip, I think somebody must have sent it to me. And I watched this little clip of Brendan Bouchard, I believe. And he he was talking about. Oh, Now I just lost my train of thought. I was getting too intellectual, Trying to remember. But anyway, So maybe it'll come back. So, Yeah, Talking about the positive vibration. So when we're in that positive vibration, And we're feeding that positivity. Oh, I know what it was. It was he said that you should. He stops every hour throughout his day, Every hour, And connects. He does something good for himself. He might do like a little yoga. He might do a little prayer or a little meditation or a centering exercise or a grounding exercise or something. He stops every hour. And I've been doing not every hour, But I've been doing something like that for, You know, The last couple months when I when I when I got some kidney stones. And by the way, If I think I might have mentioned that I had gotten some kidney stones. And, You know, I was fortunately able to break them down through natural ways. And, You know, What I was eating and herbal supplements and stuff like that. I was able to break them down, Even one of them that was really big, Break it down and pass it without even knowing that I passed them, Which was good because the pain that I felt when I found out I had them was excruciating. So so I was very happy that that that worked out well. But this was when I doubled down because I had split my head open and I had hurt my finger and I got kidney stones all in like, I don't know, Somewhere around a month. And so I was like, Whoa, Whoa, Whoa, This is trying to get my attention to slow down. So I slowed down and I was like, OK, I you know, I need to bring I need to triple down, Double down, Triple down, Quadruple down on my spirituality here and get more centered. So I started centering myself more often throughout the day. And I'm this is such a good thing to do. And it shifted my energy in a lot of different ways. You know, Like a lot of the energy shifts that we can do, We can do it in five, 10 seconds sometimes, You know, Just center and feel that presence of love within you. So doing that has raised my vibration. Now all of a sudden this situation comes along called. The holidays and I wasn't sitting here going, I'm going to embrace the holidays this year. No, It was just like any other year. It was but it just I started feeling it. I was like, Oh, My God, I think I want to listen to Christmas music. That's weird. No judgment. I want to listen to Christmas music, So I should listen to Christmas music. And then I did and I enjoyed it. And, You know, And I started doing that. So I leaned into it, Lean, Lean into it, You know, Nonjudgmental, Just go with how you feel. If you're. Yeah, Go with how you feel. That's a double edged sword right there. So go with how you feel if you like it. If you don't like it, Try changing it. You know, The way you feel isn't beyond your control. The way you think isn't beyond your control. We act like it is. Oh, I don't know how I'm going to change. Yeah. Things have been difficult. Like we have control over the way we think and we have control over the way we feel. We are not our thoughts. We are not our emotions. They they don't run us. A lot of people they do. And that's the problem. Like they're not supposed to run us. Our thoughts and our emotions are there to work for us. They are our tools. But we let our thoughts just run rampant and our emotions run rampant and we're not in control of them. I mean, Look around, You know, Start doing searches of of prophets and spiritual teachings and religious teachings about. Being in control of your mind and your emotions, They're everywhere, Like people have been talking about this for 10, 000 years. We are not supposed to let them run the gamut. We are in control of our own lives, Of our own energy field. This is our vehicle to get around through this life. And and we are responsible for the energy that goes through it. And the energy is correlates to the thoughts and the emotions that we allow flowing through our body. We are not victims of them. They're supposed we're supposed to be in control of them. So feed the positivity, Lead, Lean into it. And what you're going to do is start noticing that if you're vibrating at love, Joy, Peace, Contentment, There's going to be more people like that. Coming and there's going to be more situations like that coming and things that resonate and vibrate at that level are going to stop matching you more and more and more, And it's going to feel good. So do this, You know, Do gratitude lists, Go tell yourself, I love you in the bathroom mirror five times a day. Buy flowers for yourself, Do nice things for yourself. You know, Do one nice thing for yourself every day. I did that for a while, Years ago, Years ago. So it's like, You know, One day it might be. I don't know, Listening to a song I like, You know, One day might be taking 10 minutes and reading a book that I have going, Taking a bubble bath. It doesn't have to cost money. Pick yourself a flower off the side of the road, Something, Anything, But do one little nice thing. Even if it takes 30 seconds, Do one little nice thing for yourself. And that, See, This is how we vibrate at more love, Love, Love, Love, Love, Love, Love, Gratitude, Gratitude, Gratitude. And then all of a sudden, The, The other things that are vibrating in this world like that start attracting, They start coming to you. Just like when you're miserable, All the misery comes at you. So that's basically the point of this is I, You know, Hopefully, I understand that the holidays are very difficult for some people, For a lot of people, Like I said, I didn't like them most of my life. And if I was looking for a reason to not like them, Boy, I could come up with a laundry list of them, You know, And one of the things that's very difficult in the holidays, And I'll wrap up with this is like the difficulties, Right? Like not having money to do nice things for people, You know, Not being able to see family that, You know, There's lots of little things, I'm not going to go into all of them. But But probably the biggest thing is when we lose loved ones, Right? You know, We're still grieving. And then the holidays come up. And why are the holidays so difficult? Well, You know, Oftentimes, They represent times that we spent with these people, You know, So that we have those memories attached to those people and attached to that of the that season. So that can be difficult. Also, We have this grief within us, This sadness. And now all of a sudden, If if that's our primary vibration, And then something joyous comes in, It doesn't stick. Oh, Aren't the seasons wonderful? Aren't the holidays wonderful? No, They're not wonderful, Because I miss this person. And it just makes me miss them more. Like there is that aspect, Right? And when you're going through grief, Like it's okay, You know, Like we can go through grief, We can feel sadness is that there's nothing wrong with that. I think hovering in a year after year after year after year is self punishment that nobody deserves. Although, You know, Like, Depending on the loss, Some losses take years to get over, And work through, I understand that. But we should be working through our grief, We shouldn't be living in it. It's not a permanent sentence. And I'm not saying that we're going to forget that person. See, That's one of the reasons why people hold on to their grief so tightly. They think that if they they stop grieving, Then that means they didn't love that person or something. It's which it's completely not true. But I won't go too far into this. But my point is, If you are going through some grief right now, And you're not able to embrace the holidays, Then that's okay. Just try to aim for keeping them neutral, Instead of making them enhance your misery. Right? Just try to be neutral with it. You know, Maybe don't even celebrate if you want to, Whatever, Everybody's got to do what's right for them. But whether you're dealing with the grief, Or some other difficulty or not. Just try. Just try, Try to be neutral. If that's one step up, Oh, We, You know, Just go for one level up. We if you're miserable all the time, And you're trying to be ecstatically happy, It's not going to happen. Right? But you might be able to just kind of reach some neutral. And that's progress. And then maybe next year, You'll be a little bit happier, But just reach for that next level up that next level up. And eventually, You'll work your way through there. It's about what we focus on. If we sit there and we focus and we go like, Just just pay attention to how you feel when I'm giving these two examples. And like I said, Grief works very differently for many people. So if you're if you in particular are incapable of doing this, Then that's fine. I understand. I'm just trying to give you an example of dynamics and how energy works. It's all so if you can do this, Cool. If you're not capable of doing it right now, That's fine. It's understandable. Maybe you're just not capable where you are right now. I went through many years where I was incapable too. So I get it. But but you can try. So the way the vibration works is I'm sitting there right and let's say I'm grieving over somebody that I've lost recently. And the holidays are coming up and I just keep thinking about them and and it makes me sad. Well, The more I think about them and have that like line of thinking that makes me sad. If I keep feeding that and feeding that and feeding that and allowing myself to think that. Then I'm going to be miserable. Right. And there are certain times, Especially in the beginning of grief, Where that's just the journey we have to go through that, You know. But if we're trying to work through it, Then maybe we look at it and we kind of start getting nostalgic in a loving way. Oh, Wasn't that wonderful? Instead of going instead of my point is this, If we can focus on the joy of the memory, Instead of focusing on what we don't have, The fact that they're no longer here. That is going to make a big difference. If you ever hear about like, I just saw somebody, Some actor talking about this yesterday. Just his mother had recently died. And he was I saw some clip of him talking about it. And he was crying. And he was like, Please, I love talking about my mother. And I love talk, Love talking about this topic. So so if I'm crying, Don't take it as a bad thing. And he was very emotional. And he was just saying how, You know, How much he loved his mother and how blessed he was to have this woman in in his life that the most wonderful person he ever knew. An example of the best person was his mother. And to have had that throughout his life and her support and all this stuff, What a blessing that was, You know, Like, That's one way to shape it, Where it doesn't mean that you're not sad, You know, Like he was still crying. But it was like, It was a cathartic cry. And it was almost some joy in it, Too. Because he just loved thinking about her and how wonderful she was. Like that, That was so beautiful. You know, Whereas the other thing, We just sit down and go, It's not fair that they're not here. I want them to be here. And they're not here. And they're not and it's and it's wrong that they're not here. And I'm going to feel empty forever because they're not here. Like when we start feeding stuff like that. It's extremely unhealthy. And it keeps us stuck and it keeps us miserable. So it's what you feed, Honor their memory, Honor all the years that you had them, The experiences you shared with them, Those were love based, Those were joyous, Those were wonderful. That's why you miss them so much. So be grateful for what you had instead of focusing on what you don't have. It's just, It's just not here anymore. That's how it is. We all die. You know, And I'm not saying this is easy. I'm just saying, Try to consciously lean in a direction, Take control over what you're doing. Instead of just sitting there, Just that's what I did for years. I fed the negative, Fed the negative. And then I wondered why I was negative. Well, Because I allowed it. When I took control over my thinking and said, No, This makes me feel negative. I'm not going to allow this to continue flowing through me. And then I did something else. That's when my life changed. So lean into what you want, Feed what you want, Starve what you don't want this holiday season, As well as any other time throughout the year. All right. Very happy holidays. Merry Christmas. Happy Hanukkah. Happy Kwanzaa and everything else. Love, Love, Love, Love, Love. Embrace love this holiday season as much as you can. All right. Hope that helps. Peace and love.