The Love Of My Life | The Wisdom Podcast | S2 E46

As the release of this episode lands on Valentine's Day,

A day in which the world is reminded of the significance of romantic love and the ideals for what it means to be in a relationship and to be in love.

For one of my clients who will for the first time in all of her 41 years celebrate Valentine's Day in her first relationship.

And might I add a relationship in which she can be all of herself in the safety and security of trust that her partner will love her.

Her words on this day echo the sentiment of so many.

I want to make a big deal of this.

We all aspire to love.

It is what builds a beautiful and complete life.

In the absence of love,

Of loving another,

Of loving ourself,

We wither,

We succumb to loneliness,

Sadness,

Our mind and heart struggling to find meaning and fulfillment.

Because love is the most powerful energy of the universe.

In this episode I share the importance of love of yourself on a day inspired by love and at a time in which we are all being called to look beyond what we once put our energy and effort into and to take stock of what is really important for the success and happiness and abundance that we all desire.

For however much you want something,

If you do not believe that you are deserving,

If you do not hold love and appreciation of yourself,

Your efforts soon become thwarted in the distraction of seeking love and affection outside of yourself.

Your and authentic love given by another is the most sacred gift.

Love of yourself is how you thrive in a state of invincibility and courage and light.

Let me share with you what messages will best inspire how you think and feel about love and the wonder of its potential to heal and nourish you.

This is Dorothy.

Join me in this episode and the true meaning of great love.

The Wisdom Podcast is birthed out of the Wisdom Blog,

A digital healing hub of inspired consciousness.

Sacred and practical wisdom and the divine teachings of authentic power,

Living one's truth and spiritual or as we call it unconditional love.

Many of the topics that we cover arise out of my work with clients who have chosen to live their life from a place of self honesty and truth.

And in doing so,

They quite naturally begin the journey inward,

Recognizing their authentic self,

Their capacity for being love,

And choosing to live as their highest self.

Each episode offers divinely inspired teachings and insight that will show you how to live consciously aware,

To access your inner wisdom,

And to help you make the best choices for living an infinite potential.

My goal and highest intention in sharing this podcast is for you to heal,

To feel wholeness,

And to know that you are deserving and worthy and of great love and to be this love in the world and for the rest of your life.

Join me for consciously inspired truth and new thought paradigms for living an infinitely abundant and love-filled life here and now.

How willing are you to slay the greatest experience of love?

How often have you thought about what it means to have great love,

To know what it feels like in the depths of your being,

In each and every cell of your body,

To be loved unconditionally and in the full expression of who and what you are,

And to feel the sense of invincibility and confidence that comes with knowing that you are loved.

Of the many ways that love finds you right here in the presence of all that you are,

Never needing to be anything more except what you are inspired to become.

The honor that you hold as you live of great love is the honor of your perfect nature as love in action,

Because even as you witness yourself carefree and of your goodness,

Love holds for you perfect wonder and inspiration.

It is this certainty,

This grace,

This resilience that offers you the willingness to see how great you are.

Your imminent happiness is a facet of how deep and courageous your love may be unto yourself,

Because when love is forgiving,

You are supported in all that you do,

All that you seek,

And the knowledge that builds a life of certainty and promise.

Have you experienced a greatest love?

A pet that you adored,

A partner that broke the mold for what eternal love was to be,

A parent who has consistently and continues to love you endlessly and adorns you with actions of kindness and care and generosity of their love.

Open your heart to this,

To the deepest expression of your love,

To what endless eternal love must be.

Draw it close,

See what your life holds when you open yourself to this goodness,

To this resilience and strength,

To this pure and distinct love that fills your heart,

Your heart wide open and of truth,

Truth of what it means to love without conditions,

Truth of your glorious nature as love in action,

Truth as the perfect witnessing of what holds certainty and love evermore.

Who is your greatest love?

It would have to be you.

It would have to be all of the brilliance of what you are,

Manifested as your perfect nature,

As love that accepts you unconditionally,

As you rise up to the perfection of what you are.

Love invested into yourself allows you to feel your importance,

Your deserving of all of the goodness life may offer.

All of the beauty that comes to light is how you witness love in its pure and simple grace.

When you hold yourself in the dignity of what you are,

When you hold yourself in comfort and love and of servitude to others,

You are free to cast unto yourself the honor and integrity of loving yourself best.

You become the epitome of self-actualized because it is in holding love unto yourself as you are that you begin the journey,

The path of self-reliance,

Self-security,

Self-governance,

Self-wisdom,

And the healing power of how this transmutes itself into your will and honor.

We typically look to others to love us so that we may feel worthy and deserving of love.

I am suggesting that you must,

As part of your journey,

Hold the infinite blessing of love unto yourself.

Allow the means for love to be present,

To be what you feel and live as.

Be the love that never falters or recoils,

Love that is for you of arduous grace.

Let it be something that you are deeply committed to.

Begin how to love yourself.

You will know when you experience this because it will feel of utter completeness.

It will be the realization that you are whole,

That you have always been whole and perfect as you are.

This perfection,

This grace,

This love becomes the brilliance of your inner light.

The more you love and honor yourself,

The more beautiful your light,

The more your esteem and confidence grows,

And the more whole you feel and become.

You will have the great loves that we all go in search of.

We are socialized to experience ourself through the eyes of another who adorns us with their love.

Yet you must remember that the first person you are to love fully is yourself.

Even if you have not been shown this,

You know,

We all know how to love.

It may be buried within us,

But it is always accessible.

Further,

Your sense of self is governed by the positive feelings that you hold and your love and belief in your ability to be a success in the world.

Now,

In this wisdom that is before you,

How do you guide yourself into the light of love that you may hold for yourself in all moments?

How does self-love happen if it is not something that you have sought to practice?

And how does your goodness and your gratitude open you to love?

If you are someone that has not believed in the need for self-love,

Or if you have not understood what this truly feels like,

Now is your time.

Let's often end this experience with the privilege of these three questions,

All of which are meant to hold wisdom and in the certain comfort of what you are and all of what you may be.

Answer each question with love directed into yourself as kind words and helpful thoughts,

And the ideas that love ascends when you allow it to be present.

These questions are best asked in the context of journal prompts,

Where you write your answers as your mind overflows with your heart's wisdom.

And then,

Of course,

You act upon this.

The three questions that you need to ask yourself to have a loving relationship and the beginnings of a great self-love affair are these.

Number one,

What am I grateful of?

Make this about you.

What gratitude do you hold of and for yourself?

Number two,

How can I practice more self-love each day?

Name the actions.

Hold yourself accountable by writing these,

By making these a part of your daily schedule and choosing to focus each morning on what you will do each day in self-love.

And remember that self-love includes the kind and gentle words that you may say inside your mind and it is also the self-care that you do lovingly.

Third,

How will I know when I love myself intrinsically?

What will tell you that you are loving unto yourself?

Let yourself answer from your heart and be surprised at how revealing and honest your truth is.

Loving yourself is not exclusive of loving others.

It does mean that you cherish yourself.

The words spoken are kind,

Not harmful,

Not negative.

When you hold authentic value and worth of yourself,

You witness feelings of genuine happiness directed towards yourself and of course in all places in your life and towards others.

Your positivism helps you to be encouraged and the messages you speak to yourself are reflective of what truly matters.

Your possibility for growth and freedom and light must be the direct outpouring of your encouragement,

Your forgiveness,

Your belief.

To have a love relationship with yourself is not an egocentric behavior.

It is what helps you live in your light and of your sacred wonder.

And a few examples of how your self-esteem and self-worth grow because of your kindness in words and actions directed within.

What you think repeatedly of yourself must be in support of the direction of what you are seeking.

Words of love and encouragement and kindness must be what inspires you,

What ignites confidence and joy.

Your self-worth is reflected in the thoughts and feelings you hold when you think about yourself and in what you believe based in what you have been taught and how you have been treated by those who once had the power to influence.

Give yourself this power.

Let it not remain in the hands of those who do not hold true self-worth in themselves.

You heal words and actions of unkindness when you reclaim yourself,

When you are willing to define your goodness,

Your brilliance as you are and for yourself,

You hold the power to be love directed unto yourself.

This is how you continue to grow self-worth and self-esteem.

And as an end note,

We look to others to love us and then are disappointed when we do not feel loved or they do not love us in the right way.

Instead love yourself completely.

Then when you look for a partner to share your life with,

You are choosing someone of the best character and morals and who treats you lovingly and with the utmost respect.

We do not require someone to love us when we have learned to love ourselves.

This is the greatest gift a mother could teach her child,

That her child is capable of loving themself first and foremost,

That they may love unconditionally themself and others.

The greatest gift a father could give is to love profusely,

Without conditions,

Without needing his children to show or confirm their love of him,

Rather that he may adorn his love to all of his family in the privilege of being a part of their lives.

His family will easily love him for this.

I share this not only at a time in which all of us need to have and hold greater self-love,

But as we also need to rely on ourself for our feelings of self-worth,

Happiness,

And confidence.

As you do this,

As you rise up to own and honor your belief in yourself and your abilities,

And as you begin to practice the ways in which you have identified in your answers of what it means to love and respect yourself,

Then the people you choose to hold intimate loving relationships with and the partner that you decide will be the most loving example of dignity,

Grace,

Kindness,

And unrelenting love.

This message is meant to guide you into yourself for reclaiming self-love and for living in the most incredible experience of this.

Let your answers to the three questions guide your actions of self-love and self-care.

And if you are ready to dive in even deeper,

I have curated the Ultimate Self-Love Toolkit.

It is meant to be your guide and the ultimate source of building and sustaining self-love.

I will leave a link for it in the description.

Thank you so much for listening.

This is Dorothy.

Namaste.

Thank you so much for joining me in this episode of the Wisdom Podcast.

To hear more,

Please check out the other episodes here,

As well as my guided meditations,

Including my Signature Prose meditations and I Am mantras,

And as well the meditations to guide you into a deep and restorative sleep.

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And a special thank you to Insight Timer for this beautiful space to share all of my love.

Allow yourself to go within,

To access your inner wisdom,

And to live this.

Awaken your authentic power,

Live your truth,

And be love.

Namaste.