Dating During Corona Time

Are you longing for that love affair that you are waiting for since a long time? Do you look for that love everywhere? Maybe you are searching already for a long time or just did start recently but you ask yourself, is everything changed now? Every country has some form of lock down, new rules and regulations, restrictions or even complete isolation. Many people will start to look for a partner online. But what can you expect and are you prepared for a new reality in the dating world?

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Dating in corona time are you longing for that love affair that you are waiting for since a long time?

Do you look for that love everywhere?

Maybe you are searching already for a long time or just did start recently but you ask yourself is everything changed now?

Every country has some form of lockdown,

New rules and regulations,

Restrictions or even complete isolation maybe people will start to look for a partner online what can you expect?

And are you prepared for a new reality in the dating world?

In the past you could start with an online talk but finally your goal was to meet each other meeting meeting each other face to face,

Shake hands or do other things is the ultimate reality of a dating person but due to the changes the meeting of the face to face level is hardly possible and must be postponed for an undefined period of time and that can be long you meet and greet,

Discuss and exchange but you need to have real content to make a conversation most people are not ready for in-depth conversations online they fall in love with sweet words,

A nice face,

Pretty body or sexy talks these people are ready for love but not for a conversation this is something to consider when you enter the new reality of the dating world during this time you need to be prepared pair yourself with a story willingness to have long conversations,

Live chats or even video talks this time you may have even a goal,

A target but when you search for the right person is that your final reality?

You should have a list of interests,

Hobbies,

Likes and dislikes of yourself but also of your future dates suddenly you have to realize that the first person you have to know is yourself and not the possible dating partner the reality becomes even harsher if you consider that you become a potential buyer and a seller not just a love-seeking personality communication is important in most relationships and good communication can be vital to last a relationship but currently communication is all we have to start to develop and to continue a relationship especially if it's a long-distance relationship the longer the distance the harder it will be how can we be sure you ever meet but love knows no borders or limitations and you still should give it a try long-term relations can be magical and tempting it can keep dreams alive that you almost lost developing communication with the goal to be in love have a proper relation in the future needs creative thinking but even our creative thinking needs some warnings one of my major warnings is sex-oriented dating here by you should be aware that sex pictures movies or even life chats can and will be recorded somewhere and maybe come to hunt you in a later part of your life you are warned not to send explicit pictures or other material with full body and face on it avoid complete picturing at all time never show the total body including the face body parts can be realistic option but when not covered in tato tattoos or other significant details so be aware that it is not easy to recognize for others even so my advice stands not to use this option for as long as you can resist the pressure of a person who only wish to go for the sex that person may finally be not the great lover has you wished for there we get back to the part that is most important in current time time time as a component of all you have at the moment are you a patient person or consider it just think about it before you start with preparing can you build a long term relationship knowing it takes months before you ever meet if you are that kind of person listen to the rest of this podcast if you are not and be honest to yourself do not start with undating now and just wait till everything is passed short temperate people should consider local dating and focus on people on less than a day travel distance do not consider flying as a real option you know that measures can change fast in coming years stay as close as you possibly can and enjoy what you can get there is a saying if you cannot get the love you want then love the one who is near the nearest lover can be temporary but if you do not try it you will never know it building a long term love affair with a person on another distance is a matter of knowing how to build communication first part of the communication should be about education and interest and hobbies knowing this important interest on both sides gives a sense of connection and the ability to exchange information keep in mind most real love affairs are between people with opposing ideas and not so often with like-minded personalities even you think different the first important thing is to read and listen to what the other person is telling you are you able to focus on what is written and said and are you really interested in it if you can answer this question with yes you have made the most important stop on all communication you are seriously interested in what the other person is telling you interest is the key to the next steps true listening and replying is a need to know each other sincerity of interest leads to the questions and more options even to creativity between each other creative thinking about what the other person is telling you makes the communication fun and it really does not need to be always serious you are allowed to joke make fun and laugh in fact humor is a need in every relationship it gives relativity to the heaviness of a situation another important part what we should do is seeking for common goals these common goals may sound trivial but are important in the building of a relationship the first goals should be finding the possibility of meeting each other what are the options even when all details are not possible to make it truly happening but prepare it you get a common plan and that is what is important for young people the fact of having children or not is something to talk about are both parties interested in children and what way is there a shared or a conflict in interest another topic is your career and the career of that other person and the income this is a sensitive point which rarely is touched in starting relationship but which has a lasting effect on any next step and development how important is the career for that person for you and what is the income is generated for each of the partners what are the opportunities and the possibilities is there a future of each and maybe relocating is needed who is willing to relocate and who is not with these topics the current family affairs always will play an important role the question is who is how close to the family like partners and siblings and parents are you or the partner willing to separate go on a distance from the family finally an important topic but one that should be addressed is the sexual interest and possibilities interest and possibilities could be far apart in a relationship this can cover from pure physical aspects to mental preparedness not every person has the willingness to try all kinds of yoga light positions follow through the laces as and qualifications or wants to watch all kinds of movies especially religious oriented people will have specific ideas on sex in general on how to use it for reproduction in specific this topic may be sensitive and leads to silences longer than expected and even awkward situations especially when addressed in a live call with video more modern people will have no problem whatsoever to address it and in general they do it in a humorous way and think we can settle it anyway in every case it is a fact that if the plan is to meet one day there is what specific unknown moment of decision making of shelving the bed and that first night or not sex comes spontaneously is the thought of most people listening but in dating it's a bit different when you have had a longer contact there is also an expectation of sex and on arrival and these affairs can be disappointing due to the many reasons even that must be understood and prepared for sexual experience for long time partners is like communication on a physical level it rarely happens in one meeting but needs time to develop sex is something you learn you explore and create slowly you're getting closer and closer with that partner in the development of inner and physical connection housing can be an important thing to discuss in current world situation especially when wanting to live in a city cities are very expensive and are the cause of stress in every relationship even on a local level two persons come from a completely different living environment should know each other housing situation and discuss any planned future situation and think real solutions not just plans and dreams it is very hard to get good housing in most cities and ideal housing is next to impossible in lots of cases for example searching a home with a garden in downtown hong kong is not possible and even you dream of it it will not happen unless you can buy it how to live together is depending on the current situation and what you both are planning to do some loved to live in communities in togetherness while others prefer the landscape and silence to live in harmony with each other and the environment that is very important it is important to understand each other's wishes and wants in a short term but also on the long term situation dating is exploring love in every way even the final end could be a friendship instead of a love affair when you get to know the other person the main goal of every relationship is respect and exchange and in harmony agree and disagree may lead to strong conversations and even arguments but when there is respect there is even meaning in the fact we do not agree with each other but we'll try to understand and respect the option of the other this implies that dating is going for the wrong time and we should have patience and peace with the fact things will have no fast turn or twitches now an extreme positive result of this way of communication and mindset is the fact that cheaters scammers and other negative people will have less or no chance whatsoever to convince you as you are prepared for slow gains and not fast all online criminals want fast acting people as they go for the short term results which do not no longer exist if you follow my advices and go before the long road which finally will turn out never to be too long for a real love let me make some conclusions of this podcast so the conclusions of this podcast is that we should keep a mental note of the following important points if you want to go for a long-term dating relationship number one sharing and comparing each other's interest number two humor as a tool of perspective thinking number three goal setting and sharing number four location settlement and career number five personal family affairs number six sexual preferences and choices number seven housing is a very important issue and finally number eight agree to disagree and always with respect if you have questions remarks or suggestions show them here or send them straight to me together we'd be stronger and no more we can discuss death too we can change the world one date at a time and you are welcome to share it and do it with everybody in the world your experience you don't have to give it the name you don't have to mention but my name is arnold van de veer i am from the netherlands and i hope to see your reactions and reflections soon in my box or here

Reviews

Thank you for this more cerebral side of dating. I’ve lost that over the last year. This helped me to get more balanced in brain and heart for what I’m doing in dating. Much appreciated