Thoughts As "Little Dictators"

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Thoughts As "Little Dictators"

by Elizabeth Cronin, PsyD

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talks

Activity

Meditation

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Everyone

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2

Your thoughts can feel like facts - and sometimes even like commands. They tell you what other people are thinking, what might go wrong, and what you need to do next. Meditation teacher Joseph Goldstein has described thoughts as “little dictators” because, when we are unaware of them, they can quietly begin running our lives. In this video, I explore how mindfulness helps us shift from being consumed by a thought or emotion to becoming aware that it is present. That small shift creates space between what we think and how we respond. You’ll learn why the brain often interprets present-day situations through the lens of past experiences, how protective reactions can become automatic, and how pausing can help you respond with greater clarity, intention, and choice. Mindfulness does not require us to eliminate difficult thoughts. It helps us recognize that a thought is something happening within us - not necessarily a fact, a command, or the whole truth.

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Meet your Teacher

Elizabeth Cronin, PsyD

Norwood, MA, USA

Meet your Teacher

Elizabeth Cronin, PsyD

Norwood, MA, USA

Transcript

Ever notice that voice inside your head that comments on nearly everything? You know, The one that tells you what other people are thinking. What situations mean. What might be going wrong. And what you should do about it. Well, Sometimes that voice is helpful. But often it's interpreting the present moment through the lens of an old fear or a painful past experience. And the problem is that the thoughts don't usually sound like guesses or interpretations. They sound like the truth. So when we think we should take a certain action. We usually do. And that's why. . . Meditation teacher Joseph Goldstein sometimes calls our thoughts little dictators. Because when they show up, It's not always clear that they are just thoughts. Rather, They can feel like commands or direct orders. You need to fix this. You need to defend yourself. Or you can't let that happen, Or do something right now. And mindfulness helps us hear that voice without automatically believing it or obeying it. And becoming more mindful means we move from having an experience to becoming aware that we are having an experience. So when we are breathing. There is the breathing. And then there is awareness that we are breathing. When we feel anger There is anger present. And then there is the recognition that anger is present. So I think you get it. I mean, There's a thought and then there's awareness of the thought. That distinction may sound small. But it can completely change our relationship with the thought and with what is happening inside us. When we bring our awareness to our thoughts, We shift from having the experience feel like who we are to recognizing that the experience is a temporary state. And that's why it's more accurate to say. In this moment? I'm experiencing some anger than to say, I am angry. Or to notice. There's some anxiety here right now. Instead of saying, I am anxious. And one would become mindfully aware of an experience. We begin to have a relationship with it. And this is very different from being caught up in a thought or being overtaken or overwhelmed by one. We can relate to our thoughts. The way we relate to a person. You know, We can stay curious. We could ask why they're showing up and what they might mean. Now, This can be a little tricky because thoughts, Emotions, And physical sensations, They tend to arrive sort of all tangled up together. And it's often hard to know which came first, The thought, Feeling, Physical sensations. So the good news is it doesn't matter. What matters is staying curious about the whole experience. Just noticing the impulse to stay or do something and pausing to ask, What's driving it? Our inclinations toward action can tell us what matters to us, What we value. And where we may need care or attention. But there's a difference between listening to an experience and letting it take control. Our thoughts and emotions. Can give us information without requiring us to take immediate action. When that voice feels like it's our voice telling us the truth. That's when things get challenging. When we don't recognize a thought as a thought, That's when it can start to order us around. You know, It starts telling us what something means or what's about to happen or what other people are thinking and exactly what we need to do next. You know, A thought doesn't introduce itself as just a thought. Thoughts don't show up saying, Hey, I'm just one possible interpretation based on your past experience, Your current mood, And limited information. No, It arrives sounding like the voice of truth. And so we listen. We believe it. And very often, We do what it tells us to do. And that is how our thought becomes a little dictator. And that is how we end up reacting without fully considering our options. Back to mindful awareness. Mindful awareness gives us the chance to notice things. We can notice the tension in the body. We can feel the urge to raise our voice. We can hear that far. And then we can pause. The important thing is that we are choosing our response rather than automatically following the first command issued by that little dictator in our mind. Seeing ourselves as separate from our thoughts gives us more agency. I can recognize that a thought is happening within me. And I can know that it's not necessarily a fact. An emotion can be something I'm experiencing. But it does not have to determine my behavior. And an impulse. Maybe trying to protect me. But I do not always have to act on it. And from here, We can ask. Is this thought describing what's actually happening right now? Or is it being influenced by the past? Is the reaction I'm having in the present proportionate and appropriate? For what's actually happening. What response would reflect the person I want to be? These questions. Help us experience the freedom that mindfulness offers. And it's not a freedom from difficult thoughts. It's not a freedom from anger, Fear, Anxiety, Or painful memories. But it's a freedom from automatically believing every thought is true and that every impulse but freedom from automatically believing every thought is true and every impulse must be followed. As we close, I invite you to try this for yourself. The next time you notice yourself becoming upset. Pause, And just see if you can name what's happening. You might silently say, Oh. Anger is here. Oh, Fear is here. Or you might notice my body is feeling tight. Or I'm noticing an urge to defend myself. Or maybe. . . I'm having the thought that I'm being ignored. And then take one slow breath out. What thought or thought are present? And are they helpful or unhelpful? You don't have to argue with the thought. You don't have to force the emotion to go away. Just simply notice what shows up. Listen to it. Feel it. And get curious about it. Remember, Thoughts and emotions carry valuable information, But you are the one who decides what happens next. In that moment of awareness, It may only last a few seconds. But within those few seconds is the possibility of responding with greater clarity, Intention, And choice. And that is one of the most transformative powers. Of mindfulness. So as always, Thank you for being here and until next time, Take care and be well.