How To Feel Oneness With Hostile People?

Listen to Ektaji's answers to different questions related to Advaita (non-duality). These teachings are aimed at experiential understanding of the Truth viz. the dissolution of the Subject and Object relationship.

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We don't have to do them. It has to happen. Advaita says the doing, Trying to make it happen makes you fake on the spiritual path. So Advaita does not believe in trying to make something happen. Advaita says be with your experience. What you can experience right now. Right now you are knowing. There is a noir. Can you experience the noir? Seeing itta through those eyes. Yes. Can you see the mind saying yes, I see itta. Yeah. So yes. So now now you know the difference between the noir and the mind. Yes. So that noir does not speak. It's like a blank kind of screen at the back. It's there. It's we cannot even look at it. We cannot see it. We cannot even describe it. It's just there. It's like a presence. Yeah. So now this presence is has a quality of knowing everything. It knows everything. That is why we call it Sakshi or witness. What is the meaning of witness? That which knows but does not jump in. Yes. So now this is very clearly established that that knowingness does not jump in and do things or say things or feel bad. It is the ego or the mind. I sense that jumps in and feels bad and does this and does that. Yes. So in an office environment who is feeling bad? The ego is feeling bad. Yes. Now what has happened is that this noir has forgotten himself and has become one with the ego and is feeling bad. Again, Come back to the noir. My attention was on the ego. Take the power out and give the power to the noir. I am knowing that the ego is feeling bad about what he said or what that person did. Now I am knowingness. Yes, I am knowing this and this field of knowingness and not this ego because this is a temporary thought. It comes up and it's gone. Next thought comes after some time and it's gone. So there is no continuity in I. Yes. So I cannot be impermanent. I have a sense of permanence inside me. I am that noir, The field of knowingness. You need to explore this a little more. It takes some time continuously being aware of yourself continuously being the noir knowingly. When this becomes very clear, This knowingness or this noir is everywhere. It's like an ocean. It's not limited to my eyes or my brain. It's not even just a background screen. It's also in the front. It's also behind. It becomes very clear. It's like an ocean of knowingness. And this knowingness has a thought coming up. But what is thinking? The ego said I did not like what that guy said. It's a thought. What is this thinking? Is thinking different than knowing? No, It is the same. Does thinking happen in a different time zone and knowing happens in a later time zone? No. It's the same thing. It's just another label for knowing. It's happening together. Knowing is not different than seeing that person in office. Does seeing and knowing happen at different time zones or in different realms? No, It's the same. Do I have any proof that this person that I call person is made of matter? I don't have any proof. All I know is a shape which has a colour. That is what is seeing. Look around your room. Is there anything else to seeing other than the shape and the colour in it? So seeing is really nothing but knowing and knowing knowledge of seeing is just a shape and a colour. And all I perceive really through seeing is only knowing of seeing. I do not perceive really this person. To explain this, I will use science. A bat. How he sees the world? He does not see the world in shapes and forms. He sees it in different sound waves and he has created the world that way. This is very clear. There is that little animal, Mole. He has no other sense other than touch. He touches and he creates the mole-hill. If you've seen those small little mounds, The mole-hill. So he has only touch. So he has created his three-dimensional world just through touch. So just see how his brain works only through feeling. Only feeling. Are you seeing this? Only sensation and feeling. Only sensation and feeling. There is nothing else there. So each of us have our own creation of the 3D world and we see that world through this limited eyes, Limited ears, Limited senses. Yes? He has created that form of that human being through this limited intellect and through this limited senses. Now through that limitation, I think this person is matter. Hardcore matter. But really there is nothing other than seeing and hearing happening here. And if you shake hands with him, There is touching, Sensing. But sensing, Seeing and hearing are not different than knowing. And you don't know if really the person exists. The rest of it is just an assumption. Yes? I have perception of seeing the person. The perception of seeing is my true experience. But I don't have any experience of the rest of the sentence that I said of the person Mr. X. That is an assumption. That is not my experience. Are you understanding what I'm saying? Yeah. Yeah. So Advaita takes you directly to the highest level. That this person is also just my knowingness. He is not different than knowingness. This is a notion of knowingness. He comes up as a person. He plays his role even if it is the role of a villain. And he dissolves. Knowingness comes up, Plays, Dissolves into knowingness. That person is made of knowingness. The person arises in knowingness and the person is known also just by knowingness. This is very clear. Yeah. So that's how there is oneness because the same knowingness is there also. It's not just here. Yes. But now I have learned to be a knower but he has not learnt how to be the knower. He didn't go to an adult that was. He is in his ego. When I come in my ego even I forget my knower. But then I remember my knower, I come back but he is still at his ego. Yeah. You have to learn to figure it out, An equation between you and this ego where you are not in your ego while interacting with him. I'm not saying if he puts you down you happily go down. No. I'm not saying if he insults you, You happily get insulted. No. But in that moment if you are in the ego you will have a different kind of reaction and if you are in your knowingness you will have a different kind of response to the situation. Yeah. Understand this, Kush, This body is nothing but a bunch of karmas. Yes. Suppose this subtle body of yours, Not the physical body, The subtle body, The mind, Intellect, Ego, This had a karma bank of say one million karmas. Five hundred thousand of those karmas were taken and put into this particular body and this body was born. This body is going to just live till these five hundred thousand karmas exhaust themselves. Recognize what is karmas. Karmas are nothing but my habit patterns, My reactions, They get stored. I react in a particular way with my wife and five years down the line I notice I'm reacting the same way. Another five years down the line I realize I'm reacting the same way. Oh, These are habit patterns and they're circling. Now ten years down the line I realize can I change this habit pattern from the position of the normal instead of the ego. I tried being the ego ten years. Absolutely. Yeah. And I have created the same drama for ten years I've created the same drama. Let's try a different position. Now you experiment, Go back to your office with the same colleague and you experiment from this level. From this level, From this knowingness, How do I respond? I cannot tell you because I don't know the specific situation. That's our reaction. Yeah. But the response that comes from the level of knowingness is always a more mature, A more sensible response than at the level of the ego.