How To Protect Your Energy From Others & Grounding

These are energy protection exercises which were taught to me by a Chinese Energy master. There are two practices the first to help ground yourself and the second to protect you from others who try to take your energy. As my Chinese master said no-one can take our energy - we can only give it away. The second exercise protects you from anyone who is trying to cause you harm or 'steal' your energy. It is a very powerful protection exercise which can be used anywhere at any time.

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So this is one of the practical exercises which is going to help you manage and deal and protect yourself from people who you believe and perceive take energy for you.

You know,

There are people in life you say,

You know,

Seeing that person,

I always feel emotionally drained or they suck my energy.

So here's an exercise for you to help you manage that.

And as you learn to protect yourself better,

Create healthier patterns and practices,

Reverse the reactive state and replace it with healthy reactions,

Thoughts and feelings.

There are still going to be moments and people that will challenge us.

Some people are naturally drawn to those who have a sense of kindness just to attack them and they want to dwell in their own misery rather than move from that.

So those people may still try and be around you.

And sometimes it's very hard to avoid them,

Particularly if they're people at work or they're close family members.

So how do we deal with these people,

Those who just want to take your energy?

And I'm sure you've all heard or know of people who are those type of energy vampires,

People who seem to suck our very humanity from us,

Our soul from us,

Those who leave us feeling completely depleted every time we're around them.

And as I say,

They can be,

You know,

It's very hard if they're family or friends.

So I asked this question to my own Chinese energy master many years ago when he was helping me release negative energy and to restore positive energy to beat cancer.

And,

You know,

He's Chinese himself.

His master's Chinese.

He has OK English,

But he's fairly direct.

And so I said,

Steve,

How do we deal with what us Westerners say are energy vampires?

And as usual,

His answer is direct.

And he said it with a smile.

He said,

No one can take your energy.

You can only give it away.

It's a very important point to remember.

He went on to say that imagine you were walking past the bus stop,

OK,

And there is a traveler there with all their bags and you're walking past and they stop you and say,

You know,

Excuse me,

Can you tell me where the airport is?

You have two choices.

Are you going to be the person who carries them and their bags and transport them to the airport and you're going to pick up their bags and walk them out?

Are you going to take them in your car to the airport?

Or are you going to say it's over there and here's the bus and off you go?

The point being,

It sounds easy and the message was very clear.

We have a choice as to how we use our energy.

Sometimes those choices are very difficult.

And as my meditation teacher said to me,

Sometimes you need to slap someone in the face with a cold fish.

Now,

That's an old English expression.

It doesn't mean you actually got to do that,

But it just means that sometimes you have to give someone a wake up call and you can be direct and you can still do that with kindness.

Similarly,

Sometimes in order to communicate better with someone,

In order to help them move on in their own journey or restore a bond that you have is sometimes you have to walk right up to the other person,

Either practically or you're doing it mentally,

Right up to the other person.

So there's no negotiation halfway.

You're walking right up to them and you have to make all the moves for them to suddenly break down and melt and,

You know,

Come back into your world again in a way that you want them to do that.

Sometimes you have to go the extra mile to do that.

That's a choice as to whether you want to do that.

How important that is.

Sometimes we have to let people go in our lives because simply however,

Whatever we do,

They have just no interest in being in a world which supports you.

And sometimes you have to let people go.

Sometimes you have to move jobs and change workplaces in order to allow that to happen.

But what we want to do is if you are one of those people and that is what you need to do is to make sure that you have all the tools that when you make that journey,

You're not bringing anyone else into your environment who's going to do the same thing to you.

Otherwise,

It could be a relationship where you could be a relationship with a narcissist or someone who's a bully or someone,

Whatever it is.

And you keep going to the same relationship.

That's not what we want.

We don't want you job hopping,

Going from one toxic workplace to another.

We don't want you experiencing more and more negative memories.

We want you to be at a place where you can thrive individually.

That's the purpose of this.

OK,

So.

The second half of that story was explaining how we deal with Steve,

Was explaining how we deal with people who make us uncomfortable.

Again,

His answer was very simple.

You have always two choices.

If you walk into a room or you are in a space with someone,

It could be virtually who's uncomfortable.

You have two choices and they're very obvious.

You either walk away.

I can't be here.

This is too painful for me,

So I'm going to walk away.

Or you get to a stage where you can say mentally or you can actually say this person,

I'm coming here for my own reasons.

I'm coming here to see my friends.

I'm coming here to enjoy myself.

Whatever pain and misery and state that you're in is not going to impact me.

And even if you are sending me negative energy and I'm feeling that is not going to hurt me.

Nothing that you can do is going to hurt me.

I'm going to enjoy being in this place.

So you either walk away or you get yourself into a mindset where you can say that.

The point is,

Is you need to become really good at saying no in order to protect yourself.

And again,

That may sound challenging,

But we're going to move through these exercises over the course of the next few weeks and months to help you.

Some of you may not have anyone in your life who is like that,

Which is wonderful.

But sometimes you may be working in an environment which doesn't support you.

Maybe you're too attached to that end of your job,

Which doesn't support you.

Or maybe you are feeling guilt or shame about something around that which we have to let go of.

This is how we protect ourselves.

It's very important as you make this transformation that you learn how to protect yourself.

So what we do is we protect ourselves energetically.

So some of you will probably be asking,

How do we do that at work?

How do we do that with a toxic colleague?

And the answer is actually quite simple.

If their toxicity is so strong that it causes you pain and you can't deal with that,

And you can't deal with that physically or emotionally,

Then you need to leave that,

You need to leave or have them leave.

Sometimes that's not always practical.

But if that is you,

We will talk about that.

We will go through that.

The only other choice is to protect yourself energetically so they can no longer hurt you.

And once,

You know,

The interesting thing is once they recognize that you're not bothered by them or you don't even notice them,

Their energy will change.

It'll either stop or they'll ramp it up.

Again,

Another choice is what you do and how you communicate that with them.

And again,

If that is you,

We will go through that.

So one,

This one last exercise is designed to help you protect yourself energetically.

Now that you understand that everything around us,

The universe,

Everything you do is just made up of matter and energy so that now you can function optimally and you can do that without anybody else's interference,

You can do that without anyone looking over your shoulder.

You cannot do it without anyone else saying,

Oh,

You should do this or I don't agree with this new transition you're making in life.

I don't see how that works for you.

We can let that go.

We can push that away.

We cannot let that hurt us anymore.

Or even if it's ourself giving us lots of negative thoughts and language as to why we shouldn't do that.

We can push that away.

So we're also going to go through a cord breaking practice when we go through the module around letting go and surrendering and pushing away things which have hurt us.

So this is a practice I use.

And I use this reasonably often,

Not every day because I don't need to do that anymore.

But I use this whenever I feel someone is trying to hurt me,

Especially when they're close and it's impractical to walk away from them.

So if you remember that when your heart is in a coherent state,

Aligned with your brain,

We send an electromagnetic signal and we send it out about three feet beyond the extremities of all of our limbs.

So above our head,

Above our feet,

Above our arms,

Furthest parts of our body.

And that's how we feel people's presence.

We sense their love,

Gratitude and kindness.

You know,

You can walk in a room and the hairs on the back of your neck go up or you can walk into a room and feel immense love.

That is actually feeling somebody else's energy and the better you can do it,

You can send it thousands of miles away.

But this is this is real and it can be measured in science.

Sometimes we say that people radiate love and kindness or they radiate hate because you are feeling their own energetic field.

It's actually happening.

OK,

So there are a number of variations of this.

And I've discussed these with different energy masters I've encountered around the world,

Monks and meditators.

And the practice that I'm using and teaching you today has the same foundations and works equally well,

This is just my version of it.

And I've discussed this with,

As I say,

Many,

Many experts in this field as well.

And,

You know,

They all work for us and we're all interested in each other's as well,

And sometimes we'll layer in a bit of somebody else's.

But this is the practice that I use.

So before we do that,

You may well ask,

You know,

I've come to do this life transformation to find out what work a business career should have,

What has it possibly relevant?

Because the point is,

Is that how many people are coming into your life who are putting an obstacle in your way or challenge your way or your own negative thought,

I can't do this,

Or someone said you shouldn't do this or I can't do this.

We want to banish that so that what you are doing is being in a supportive environment so that you can thrive.

OK,

So I use and teach this practice regardless of your situation.

You can use it at any time when you're dealing with another human being who you perceive may want to hurt you or see you fail.

You could walk into a job interview,

Could be a sales presentation.

It could be a meeting about a bonus or an appraisal or selling a business or bringing on a new supplier or being introduced to potentially a new lover or friend who someone else is jealous of.

You can use it in any situation like it doesn't really matter what situation you're using it in.

But recognize and remember the 80-20 rule.

So you only want to have 80 percent in your life,

Which brings you energy and the rest,

Which maybe is challenging for you.

Ideally,

We want to be 100 percent.

It's not really practical in this human world that we live in.

So remember,

That's why we're doing this,

Because we want at least 80 percent of our life to bring us energy.

So this practice is based on three steps.

OK,

So here we go.

So the first one is grounding yourself.

So you take a deep breath.

In through the nose,

From the belly all the way to the tips of your shoulders.

And we imagine that there are roots of a tree.

Imagine the roots of a tree and how big and strong and wide they are.

And they're emanating,

They're going out from your feet into the depths and the furthest recesses of the planet.

So that could be thousands.

Imagine how strong it would be if the roots of a tree were thousands of miles deep and wide and they were as thick as a house.

So that you feel that you're immovable.

Nothing can push you over because you are so deeply rooted.

Then take another breath and imagine the roots coming out from the top from the crown of your head,

Going up into the furthest recesses of the universe and the planet,

Billions of miles away.

Again,

You're completely anchored to the spot.

No one can push away.

Nobody can hurt you.

OK,

So you are completely grounded.

Another method for grounding,

Which many people use,

Is if you just want to be physically grounded,

Then you can just literally take your shoes off,

Walk outside on the grass,

Stand in the ocean if you're near the beach.

That's another method of grounding.

But this one is a really strong method so that particularly when you're going to an environment which may hurt you.

OK,

So that's the first one.

We're grounding ourself.

And the second one is we're going to anchor ourselves.

So this is a technique that you can use if that grounding is still not working.

You're still feeling someone else's presence and energy.

And even these incredible root systems you've created are not strong enough to protect yourself or prevent somebody else coming into your space is another one.

OK,

This is like the second stage of this.

So you have this point at the back of your head called the occipital,

Which is the base of your skull.

OK,

And you imagine that there is a like a rope or a metal rope,

A cable coming out from the back of your head and you can stick it into the room,

The back of the room,

Or if that doesn't work,

It's a few hundred metres or a mile behind you getting to the stage where you feel like,

OK,

Well,

I'm rooted from the top and I'm rooted to the bottom and I'm rooted from the back of my head.

So I'm completely anchored.

I'm grounded into the earth.

Nothing now can hurt me.

OK,

And,

You know,

If you feel the need to just extend all of those.

So this is an energetic practice.

It's very powerful.

And then what we're going to do,

This is the fun part,

Right,

This is the part that I love and this is the part so that practice is the same for everybody,

Whoever you talk to,

We all use the same practice.

The second one is a slight change to how we do it.

And this is the sort of cool part,

The fun part.

So I imagine I create an impenetrable ball of fire around me.

So how do we do that?

So first of all,

You imagine you create an imaginary bubble,

Which is,

Again,

Three feet or one metre out from all of your extremities,

From your head,

From your feet,

From your arms,

If you're putting your arms and legs out there.

So it's a big bubble.

OK,

And then you're going to seal that bubble completely so nothing can come into it,

It's hermetically sealed.

That's the first stage.

So you can just take a breath,

Bubbles form,

Done.

OK,

Next one,

You fill it with gas,

Something flammable.

And this is the one that I do.

And you're inside that and you're fully protected.

Now you light that.

Remember,

This is imaginary,

Right?

Now we light that gas with a flame.

And so you're protected by this wall of fire,

It can't hurt you.

And if you watch Game of Thrones,

Think of the Mother of Dragons as she emerged from that fire and harm.

This is you inside that,

Right?

This fire is outside of you,

It can't hurt you.

So what we do,

That person's troubling,

You just turn up the heat,

You just increase the flame.

Sometimes it'd be thousands of degrees of centigrade and it's like a,

It's a red hot flame or it's a blue flame or it's a white flame,

Whatever it is you want it to be.

But what we're doing is we're creating this impenetrable barrier,

This wall of fire between you and somebody else.

And so if they're trying to hurt you,

It's like nothing's going to come in here,

Nothing's going to get to me.

I'm completely safe and I cannot feel your energy at all anymore.

And what's incredible is you will feel so empowered by being in that space.

So,

So protected.

So it's a very,

Very powerful energy technique.

Try to get used to it,

Try to practice it.

You know,

If you're going out for an event or dinner or drink or you're having a phone call,

You know there's someone there who's going to be maybe hurt you or hasn't got your back.

Try this practice before you see them and see what happens.

See how powerful it is for yourself.

Remember,

It's purely imaginary.

You're just using the power of your mind to create this.

As you get better with this technique,

You'll take you'll just it's like an in-breath.

It's done.

It's formed.

And you'll find out how powerful it is for you and also see what other people's reaction is,

Because you're not going in there weak or suppressed.

You're going in there saying,

I've got this.

You can't hurt me.

What are we here to discuss?

Fine,

Let's deal with it.

Try that technique,

See how it works for you and report back.

Let me know how it works for you.

OK.