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God, Love, And Attachments

by Anthony De Mello Legacy

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If God is love, then what is love? Love is sensitivity, love is consciousness. A loving heart is sensitive to the whole of creation, to all persons; a loving heart doesn’t harden itself to anything. Love entails clarity of perception, objectivity; there is nothing so clear-sighted as love. But the moment you become attached, then you’re blocking out so much of life. You’ve got eyes only for the object of your attachment; the heart has hardened. It can no longer see life as it is. Please Note: This track was recorded live and may contain background noises.

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If you think that unless you get God,

You're not going to be happy,

This God you're thinking of has nothing to do with God.

You're thinking of a dream state,

Of a thing,

Of a person,

You're thinking of your concept.

And sometimes you have to get rid of God in order to find God.

Lots of mystics tell us that.

When you drop your attachment,

When you drop your clinging,

When you drop your baggage,

Think of the baggage we carry.

If I use the word happiness,

Gee,

The amount of times I catch myself doing this,

Thinking,

Am I happy?

Thinking,

I got a great film coming up tonight,

What's the future got to do with it?

What has yesterday got to do with it?

But we're constantly somewhere else.

Somebody said,

My favorite place is somewhere else.

We're always somewhere else.

But to attain the asceticism and the delight of being here now,

And when now goes,

Let it go.

Then we will know what reality is,

What God is.

All I'm saying is,

Be aware,

Be aware.

There are two things.

There is programming and there is awareness.

And the two are opposed to each other.

Where awareness comes in,

Programming dies.

If you're just swallowing everything I'm saying,

You're getting programmed,

And lots of people do,

You know.

I'm a great brainwasher,

I really am.

Well,

That's not quite accurate.

The way I speak very easily lends itself to gullible people getting brainwashed.

That's more accurate.

But if you're neither resisting what I'm saying,

Nor swallowing,

Ah,

That's wonderful.

You're open.

Isn't it amazing though that we have been so blinded by everything that we did not discover this basic truth?

I remember how frightened I was to say this to an intimate friend of mine.

When I sensed it was true.

I really don't need you.

Period.

For anything.

I don't need you.

I can be perfectly happy without you.

Result.

I enjoy your company thoroughly.

There's no more anxiety,

No more jealousy,

No more possessiveness,

No clinging.

It is a delight to be with you.

I'm enjoying you on a non-clinging basis.

You're free.

So am I.

The moment you desire somebody in this way,

Namely,

Without you,

I will not be happy,

You cease to see that person.

You're clinging.

If you're attached to appreciation and praise,

You're going to view people in terms of their threat to your attachment or their fostering your attachment.

That colors your view of human beings.

And attachment destroys your capacity to love.

What is love?

Love is sensitivity.

Love is consciousness.

What is a loving heart?

A loving heart is one that is sensitive to the whole of life.

To all persons,

A heart that doesn't harden itself to any person or thing.

But the moment you become attached in my sense of the word,

Then you're blotting out many other things.

You've got eyes only for the object of your attachment.

The heart has got hardened.

Moreover,

It has got blinded because you no longer see the object of your attachment objectively.

Love entails clarity of perception,

Objectivity.

There is nothing so clear sighted as love.

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Simple yet this is the kind of mindset needed for world peace.

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These five minutes are so clear and profound. Attachment blocks out Love. Such a simple yet complex truth. Thank you 🙏🏻

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