Shadow Sips 3 - Trust Your Natural Pace During Shadow Work

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Shadow Sips 3 - Trust Your Natural Pace During Shadow Work

by Corin Bryant

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One of the main barriers to shadow work is our fear of overwhelm, both the fear of the dysfunction encountering shadow material might cause and also the fear of the intense emotions that might arise. In this video, I remedy this fear by explaining your body, mind, and consciousness already have their own built-in 'pipette' that only allows a drop of shadow through at a time anyway, creating a 'titration' effect. It only ever gives you as much as you can handle or is helpful. It often feels intensely overwhelming to begin with, but this is simply the dismantling of old fear-structures. So, through a development of internal trust, you can ensure this deep, heavy work is handled gently and hopefully a little more comfortably. My approach to Shadow Work is influenced by Carl Jung, Zen Buddhism, and modern science.

Mindful Awareness Self Inquiry Practice Shadow Work Fear Repression Trauma Emotional Resilience Carl Jung Zen Buddhism Overwhelm Childhood Trauma

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Exmouth, UK

Meet your Teacher

Exmouth, UK

Transcript

Hi team, Welcome to today's shadow sit. Today I'd like to talk about developing. A sense of internal trust. One of the main barriers. To doing shadow work is our fear of being overwhelmed. There is a background hesitation. A worry that if we start to look at those unconscious areas the subconscious parts of ourselves that we've repressed, Buried, Pushed aside. That we might be overwhelmed. It might be too much, It will drown in a flood of unbearable emotions, It will become aware of memories that we're trying to forget, This is a reasonable fear. Be compassionate with yourself about this. Don't judge yourself. Perfectly logical, Perfectly rational, To worry about that. But to help us. To really begin integrating this shadow material. It can be very helpful to know. That your whole system, Your body and mind, Your consciousness itself. Has a built-in mechanism. To pace and titrate this material. Titration is a scientific term for when you introduce one liquid to another, You do it a single drop at a time. If you imagine a clear water and a black liquid, If you just threw all of the black liquid into the clear water, It would obviously make it really dark and there'd be big dark clouds and everything. But if you titrate one liquid into another, Single drop at a time, It won't overwhelm the fluid. So, Recognize that your body your mind, Your system, Your entire being. It actually has a built-in, Like a dropper, You know, These little pipettes. So that when you open your awareness You can even do this now. I know this is challenging, This is why we only do it as a sip, As a single drop. Just naturally opening your awareness. To the shadow. We simply say. . . Please let me see what I don't want to see. Please let me feel what I don't want to feel. Please let me go where I don't want to go. And just notice the very subtle shift in your awareness when we do this. Very subtle. And it's that subtle shift that is the drop. Don't have to come up against some massive dark revelation or some intense painful emotion immediately. Just a softening of the edges, That's all. And you will feel this fear. What if something comes through that I can't handle? That fear is the mechanism of repression. That fear, That's a barrier. That is the mechanism by which a lot of this material becomes buried and repressed. So you're becoming aware of that and becoming aware of that fear in itself. That is shadow work. How good is that? How powerful is that? You're already doing it. And this is actually one of the big ones as well. Oh, I see. So becoming aware of the fear of the shadow. That is shadow work. Yeah, Absolutely. Oh yeah, And it's a big one as well. Ah, I see. And it's my fear of the shadow. That is partly why. I can't seem to access the shadow. Or why I put it off. And this is what can keep us stuck for a very long time. So just aware of that fear and just begin to reassure yourself. Just knowing that actually there is an inherent mechanism within you. It'll only let through enough at a time. Your body's an intelligent system. Your brain is an intelligent system by definition. The mind is not an idiot. The most intelligent thing in the universe. It wouldn't. . . It's not going to introduce an overwhelming amount of material. Why would it? So you're developing this sense of internal trust with yourself which is a process. Let's take some development. Because we've been in the old habit for a very long time and don't judge yourself for this. You did this for a reason. When we push things into the shadow, It's like you put it on the later base. You just had to, It was unsafe to feel or see clearly at the time you encountered it. Emotions, Memories, Relationships. This is how actually you can confirm. This internal trust because your body and mind was so intelligent that it recognised this is too much to handle, This is too much to process, We're going to have to do this later. And that's why it pushes it into the shadow. It's often why a lot of this material comes from childhood. Because when you're a child, You don't have the resources, The experience, The physical size, The power, The strength. So a lot of material just, It was too much for a little one. So it just pushed us. I can't deal with that now. I'll do it later. And now is that later. One of the reasons it can seem. Overwhelming. Is precisely because it was overwhelming when you first encountered it. Whether it's an emotion like rage or shame. Or terror It was overwhelming when you first encountered it, But things are different now. So when you do come across this material and it does start to seep through and you get that flinch. Clencher. Just realise what you're experiencing is the breaking open. Your your Reconnecting. With ah the mechanism that's the first thing you'll encounter is the mechanism of repression and it's breaking open, It's off gassing. When an oil well they they break through into the oil and it has that huge spurt of like oil because the pressure just makes it shoot up it's like that If you simply allow yourself to trust yourself, Say, I know this feels overwhelming. But that's just because a single black drop. Dropped into that vast vast tank of clear liquid. It felt overwhelming. But let's titrate this, Let the body and mind digest this and all shall be well. That's our shadow sip for today. Let me know how you get on. And I'll see you in the next shadow set. Thank you for watching, Take care, Be well, Stay present.