Hi,
My name is Carla Di Cretza and this is a self-compassion meditation and talk for healing heartbreak when you have separated from someone you still really truly love.
So to begin,
As always ensure that you are in a space where you feel safe,
Comfortable and undisturbed.
Allow yourself to settle into your space,
Lying down or seated,
Softening down the eyes.
Let's take a deep long breath in and a full breath out.
So to begin,
I want you to know that you're not doing this alone.
Heartbreak is quite a large part of our lives and most people go through heartbreak at least once in their lives.
I personally have gone through heartbreak and I would not wish it on anyone else.
I know how hard it is on the mind,
The body,
All of the senses and I know you're going through a really hard time right now.
I know that it seems like no one else can understand what you're going through.
You're in a lot of pain,
A lot of agony and everywhere feels like it hurts.
Your head,
Your body,
Your heart,
The memories,
But it's okay to feel it.
If you love someone so much it is impossible to just turn this off and really loving someone so much is a blessing.
Can we sit in that gratitude for having that experience?
It's okay to feel this heartbreak.
Let's take a deep breath in through the nose and out the mouth.
Know that you're going to be okay.
Let's say a few affirmations together.
I'll say the affirmation and then you can repeat this either out loud or silently to yourself.
Coming back to these affirmations whenever you feel you need them.
I'm going to be okay.
I tried my hardest.
I tried my best.
I'm just allowing those affirmations to simmer in your body,
In your mind.
You might like to place your hands across your heart space and allow them to land here.
I tried my hardest.
I tried my best.
I'm going to be okay.
Maybe what you needed to heal hadn't yet been healed at that time.
Or maybe what your partner needed to heal hadn't been healed at that time.
Just know that you decided to put yourself first and that is the best thing you could have done to help yourself.
And that is the best thing you could have done for both yourself and your partner at that time.
Leaving with a heart full of love is a beautiful thing.
And I know it hurts.
But let's sit in that love.
Let's sit in that gratitude for experiencing so much love in this lifetime.
Allow the feelings to be here,
Acknowledging them.
I'm taking a deep long breath in here,
Feeling everything.
And a full breath out.
You had the courage for yourself.
You had the courage to let go.
You had the courage to let go.
Because you loved both that someone and yourself so much.
And it is a very hard thing to do.
You decided to set each other free and that does take a lot of courage.
So let's sit in that courage.
Sit in that courage of honouring yourself,
Your human self.
Completely,
Fully,
Totally.
And allowing yourself to be human.
It's okay.
Know that you've done nothing wrong.
You have created the courage to let go.
Maybe one day you'll look back on this time and you'll know that it was the right decision.
You'll know that honouring yourself at that time is what you needed at that time.
That specific time.
So allow any other thoughts of blame or that harsh inner critic to just drop away.
And sit in that confident part of yourself that has total self-belief,
Total courage.
Sitting in your power.
In your complete honesty.
For who you are.
For who you are as a person.
Let's take a big breath in together.
And a cleansing breath out.
You did your best and that is enough.
And let's repeat.
I did my best and that is enough.
Let's take one more long breath in together.
And a cleansing breath out.
When you're ready you can slowly start to open up through your eyes.
Thank you.
