Self-Care In Relationships: Day 4

Today's meditation for women cultivates our capacity for self-care so you never lose your authentic self around men again.

Transcript

Welcome to day four of our 21 day Soulmate Love Meditation Series.

On day one we got in touch with the feeling of love.

On day two we went back to find the wound that created some of the inner blocks that have been holding you back from attracting more love into your life.

And began to make our connection with our inner child.

And in day three we engaged the fun,

Flirty,

Feminine fire inside of you to bring some spontaneity and joy and fun into this process.

So today we're going to look at one of the foundations of love,

Which is self-care.

Because when we have weak self-care,

We abandon ourselves or lose ourselves in relationships.

We can lose ourselves as soon as we get in relation with men that we're meeting.

As we immediately start to become conscious of what they need and trying to be who we think we need to be to gain their approval as opposed to being who we really are.

And putting our own needs first.

So today we'll explore this a little bit.

Find a nice comfortable place to sit down or lie down.

And take a deep breath as you close your eyes.

Here we are together,

Ready to bring more love and more self-care into your life.

So as you breathe now,

Feel into your body and feel into the state of your nervous system,

How excited it is or anxious it is or how relaxed it is or perhaps how exhausted it is.

Just begin to check in how you feel physically,

How you feel emotionally.

And as you breathe in,

Just check in with what you feel like you need.

Today our intention is going to be getting in touch with giving ourselves permission to meet our own needs.

So often for strong independent women,

Whether single mothers,

Career women or women who are doing it all,

It can feel like there's no permission to do for yourself until the things that need to get done get done.

But if we neglect our own needs long enough,

We become less and less powerful in the other areas of our life.

We become less available and capable and abundant in our careers and as mothers and far less attractive to love.

There's the parable of the woman who lived in a house that was full of beautiful things and warmth and love and people would come always because she was so giving.

And whenever they came and visited,

She'd be loving and welcoming and she'd always give them something to take away with them,

A gift.

And this went on and on.

Sometimes people would offer to leave something or give her something back.

She'd say,

No,

No,

That's fine.

I just want to give this to you.

And after a while,

Her house began to be more and more empty.

And eventually she noticed as her house became totally bare and empty,

That people stopped coming because there was nothing left for her to offer.

She had no more food to give.

There was nowhere for them to sit.

There was no more warm fire for them to sit around because all of the firewood was gone.

Everything that she'd had that had created this beautiful,

Warm ability to give from her own abundance was gone because it had been depleted as she gave to everyone but herself.

So let's set an intention deep down today that no matter how we feel about a man whom we love or are falling in love with or a man we're meeting or perhaps just a female friend or a coworker,

We cannot put their needs ahead of our own or we are abandoning ourself.

We will soon end up a woman in the empty house with nothing to offer and lonely.

So let's not be lonely.

Let's be filled with love.

So breathe deeply.

As you breathe deeply,

I want you to repeat as your mantra in your mind silently again and again.

All my needs are met.

I deserve to meet my needs first.

All my needs are met.

I deserve to meet my needs first.

All my needs are met.

I deserve to meet my needs first.

Just repeat that and breathe and feel it in your body as the permission to receive flows through you.

I'm going to let you drop into your mantra and I'll come back in a moment and let you know when it's time to come out of it.

All my needs are met.

I deserve to meet my needs first.

All my needs are met.

I deserve to meet my needs first.

Breathe into that as you feel and believe the certainty of that.

As you know deep down that this is true for you to be the woman who you truly are.

And as you begin to come out of that mantra,

Invite something to come into your mind here.

Invite an action to come into your mind that you could take to show self-care.

Putting our beautiful downloads into practice is what will change our lives.

We're removing hidden inner barriers and we're carrying that into our life,

Not with just the law of attraction,

But the law of action.

Carry this self-care intention into your day and into every day and meet your needs so that there's just that much more of you to love.

Much love and blessing.

Reviews

I am loving this series! The content is beautiful as well as your tone of voice. Will you be continuing with the full 21 day course?

A great lesson in love❤️thanks!

Thank you for your teachings it is absolutely amazing Namaste

Empowering, thank you 🙏 Enjoyed the parable & the mantra.

Very good! I really needed to hear that "I deserve to meet my needs first". Thank you so much 🙏

I am really enjoying this series. Wish all of the days were posted.

So simple yet so powerful. Thank you 🙏🏽

Love it! Thanks❤️🙏🏿

I met my needs 1st today=slept in, had my hair done, a massage and mani-pedi 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

Wow and thank you for getting me into touch with my needs so quickly. Namaste.

The. Best. So. Far.

Thank you very powerful.

"All my needs are met. I deserve to meet my needs first." Such peace in these words. Thank you

Thanks for the reminder

If we cannot fulfil our own needs, how can we do for others🙏🏻

Love this series. This one was perfect

Beautiful 🌹 deep gratitude 🙏