You Can't Make Anyone _____ - (Why Struggle? - Book Excerpt)

This is a brief excerpt from the book, Why Struggle? Life Is Too Short To Wear Tight Shoes. Barbara believes being mindful of what we say is important. You Can't Make Anyone ___ is an excerpt from her book, Why Struggle? Life Is Too Short To Wear Tight Shoes. Why Struggle encourages you to accept life for what it is, an unpredictable journey.

Transcript

Chapter 11,

You can't make anyone fill in the blank.

Wouldn't it be nice to have people do what we want them to do all day long?

Good luck with that.

We live in a society of free will.

Every day we make choices.

Each person takes a path that will be filled with learning experiences for that individual.

You can't make anyone do anything they don't want to do.

The only behavior you can control is your own.

A reminder of this is watching a two-year-old or any child have a tantrum.

The child will stop when ready,

No matter what anyone tries to say or do to him or her.

We can't control anyone as much as we may think we can.

Learn to accept people for who they are,

Not who you want them to be.

Learn to manage your ability to respond to others and check in with yourself.

Learn to step back and check your expectations.

Practice.

Before you ask anyone to change his or her behavior,

Think about your expectations.

Is the change for your benefit because it would make you more comfortable?

How would you feel if someone wanted you to change your behavior?

Affirmation,

I accept people for who they are in my life.

Reviews

Easy to say…hard to do… this will take practice, Thank you for your teaching

Love this, so simple and yet so easy to forget the basis of this in real time.
Will listen to this more often.❤

This is a constant, gentle reminder Thank you for this practical teaching.

Wow, the alignment of this is scary yet magical. Thank you for sharing.

This was a helpful reminder. Quarantine is a challenge... 24/7 is a lot of acceptance! Be safe. And thank you. 😷