Insecurity, Not Good Enough And How To Be Free

This audio is about becoming free - about breaking free from the shackles of insecurity, and a deep feeling of “not good enough”. In this session, we explore the deeper causes of these experiences of inadequacy and shine new light on how you can live a life of freedom, how you can “play a new game” that you can actually win, and feel light, free, and full of joy. Listen and elevate yourself beyond the weights of insecurity, remembering your true invaluable, imperishable worth.

Transcript

Welcome to Awaken Life.

I'm Michael McIntosh.

And I'm Ariel Hecht.

Today on Awaken to Life,

We're talking about insecurity,

Not good enough,

And how to be free.

So this is such an important topic in our crazy modern world,

Where more and more and more everyday people are struggling with insecurity,

Feeling something's wrong with them,

Not good enough,

Anxiety,

Stress.

And when we are insecure,

When we feel that our security needs are not met,

It leads to a long list of negative emotions and acting out in various ways that are counterproductive.

And recently I was talking to one of our clients who told me that her main issue is that she feels not good enough,

Insecure,

And even though her life is going well and she's happy,

She feels that she shouldn't be happy or that she can't get the relationship she wants or she doesn't deserve success.

And all these kind of programming and negative beliefs are holding her back,

And she wanted to work on that.

And this isn't just like this one client,

You know,

I've dealt with this,

Ariel's dealt with this,

I mean just about everyone we talk to,

One way or another,

Has some remnants of this not being good enough insecurity.

So in this session,

We're going to be talking about how we can overcome that in a real way.

We're going to talk about the two different games we can play because there are many games in life and a lot of time we don't even realize we're playing a game.

And the old game which we'll share in a moment is a game that you can never win.

So you're always going to be insecure playing that game and the new game is a different way of living,

An awakened way of living that allows us to feel free.

So,

This client I was talking to the other day,

She was basically saying that despite things being well,

She doesn't feel like she's good enough.

And what I did is a little method that you might want to do now actually just close your eyes for a moment.

And imagine yourself in your mind.

If you can imagine yourself who you are in your mind,

Just notice how you look.

And you might be able to notice other people if you imagine someone else,

You can put them in your mind.

So I'm going to do this exercise to imagine her compared to other people and everyone else was above her was almost like higher up in a hierarchy.

And she was always underneath and I said we'll move them around so that you're on the same level as them.

And as soon as she did that,

She felt something was wrong.

And what this was basically revealing is that in our minds we have this status hierarchy.

We have a hierarchy of who's better and who's not as good.

Now modern society is designed to really mess with our heads around this status thing.

If you go on Facebook and you look at those little red notifications,

What are they?

They're saying what is your status?

They're called status updates.

What is your status?

Everyone's worried about their status,

How many likes,

How many clicks,

How many of this,

How many of that,

How many of this and the other.

And it never ends,

Does it?

And no matter how many people like you or how many friends you have or how many followers you have or however much you have money or whatever it is,

There's always someone with a higher status.

And so there's this whole game going on which we're not always aware of.

It happens unconsciously.

Whenever you meet people,

I've often met people and they literally look at me up and down,

You know,

That kind of funny.

You meet someone new and they literally look from the bottom and all the way back up again and try and figure out based on what you're wearing,

What your status is and where you fit compared to them.

So this is a game going on all the time designed to make us insecure.

And I'm sure this isn't news to you.

I'm sure you're familiar with it.

It's everywhere.

And when we start to bring consciousness to the reality that this is going on,

We at least begin to claim back some of our power because when it's operating unconsciously and we're responding to others and situations and our own behavior and what we do during the day and don't do,

Unconsciously based on this hierarchy status thing going on,

Then we can really become very trapped and very insecure and sad as well.

So we're starting to bring consciousness to this in this session today.

So to help you see it for what it is and find your truth,

Your inner truth,

Your inner reality that is beyond this game because it will always exist in some form or another,

You know,

Even tribes of monkeys have this sort of thing,

Different animals.

It's kind of hardwired into the animal aspect of our brains.

The interesting thing about being a human soul is that we're able to ascend to much higher levels of consciousness than the base animal functionality.

And if we live by this base animal brain function,

Then again,

As Michael was just sharing,

We're going to be trapped in consciously or unconsciously in this status,

Appearance,

Hierarchy.

And we can influence every single behavior someone does from the moment they wake up to the moment they go to sleep.

They can be behaving based on wanting to be somewhere in this hierarchy or feeling insecure that they're not and doing whatever they can to be.

And so we have the capacity to rise above that.

And that's really what this session is about.

And in monkeys,

By the way,

There's been studies about this where they have a very clear hierarchy from the top alpha monkey down to the bottom.

And they found that the lowest monkey has extremely high levels of cortisol and is in a chronic chronic state of stress because of lower status.

And everyone else picks on him.

And the highest monkey has the highest level of dopamine and various other pleasure chemicals,

Unless the top monkey is being challenged,

In which case he loses it and starts getting just as stressed as the other one does.

Right.

So this is this is happening in monkeys.

It's happening in other species.

It's happening in humans.

And it's causing massive amounts of suffering,

Unnecessary suffering,

Because we're not going to be beaten to death or something like monkeys are picked on in the same way.

So we're in a different situation.

We're not monkeys.

We're human beings,

Spiritual beings in a body.

So we need to learn what is going on with this status thing that causes insecurity so we can see it clearly.

And then we can come out of it into a higher consciousness where we're not affected by those things.

And we can feel free.

So before we talk about that,

Let's just clarify why we need to be feeling secure.

Because when we're insecure,

When we feel that our needs are not met and we're kind of haven't got a base,

Then it leads to fear.

It leads to fight or flight.

It leads to the sympathetic nervous system spinning out.

It leads to cortisol,

Anxiety.

It leads us to rushing around panicking and making poor choices and kind of being in a desperate state.

And the longer someone remains in that state,

The more likely they are to make bad decisions,

The more likely they are to eat the wrong things,

Do the wrong things,

Say the wrong things that will actually make it worse.

And it just goes on and on and on.

It's really,

I mean,

I'm sure you can understand that this is a major problem,

You know,

And the problem with modern technology is that nowadays you can just go on Facebook,

Instagram,

Whatever it is.

And you see all these other people and everyone seems to have a better life than we do.

Everyone seems to be having the best day ever and everything's perfect for them.

And we can compare ourselves.

I'm not beautiful enough.

I'm not good enough.

I haven't gone on enough travels to cool places and whatever it is.

And it just never ends.

And also this level of chronic stress can and will eventually lead to a decline in health.

And that can be a severe decline in health because the constant stress response occurring in our bodies can really start to deteriorate our organ systems,

Our entire energy system.

And then we become very depleted and this leads to illness,

Disease,

And even for many souls eventually death if it's not sorted out.

And so it's really essential.

I think the rise in so many various illnesses,

A key contributing factor is this very high level of chronic stress that is affecting the entire world.

And it can really affect our lives if we're not conscious,

If we don't transform it,

If we don't release it.

That's right.

And this chronic rise in anxiety is directly related to insecurity.

As soon as we're insecure,

We immediately start feeling anxious.

Whereas when we feel secure,

When we feel safe,

Then we naturally experience our higher nature.

We naturally experience peace.

We experience calm.

We experience ease.

We can completely relax and our body starts to get flooded with good chemicals and healing energy and we can start to take a deep breath and start to see things more clearly and do things gently,

Slowly,

Consciously,

Mindfully.

And it leads to a much better life.

So the old game,

Which we referred to at the beginning,

Is this game of trying to fit in with society,

Trying to get everything just perfect,

Trying to look just right,

Wear just the right clothes,

Have just the right weight,

Have just enough followers on social media,

Just enough of this,

Just enough of that,

You know,

Buy the latest stuff,

Have the best car.

And it just goes on and on and on and on and on.

And the problem is,

Even if you get it right,

Even if you have all the things just right,

What happens?

Sooner or later,

Something changes or there's a new fashion or there's a new car or maybe you get a little extra weight or you might get acne or something bad happens.

And then the whole house of cards comes crumbling down.

And then we're back to the beginning and trying to sort of crawl our way back up to try and feel better.

It's such a dangerous way of living.

And the other thing that's fascinating is that even people who supposedly have the perfect,

Perfect,

Perfect life aren't happy.

Exactly.

I was speaking to one of our clients about this recently.

And she was bringing up,

Is it important that we feel we're attractive?

We see ourselves as attractive.

And I said,

Well,

It's good to love and appreciate yourself,

The whole of your being,

Including your body,

Including your entire energy field,

To appreciate yourself.

You're only going to find yourself attractive based on an inner state of consciousness and being,

Because someone might look in the mirror and we consider her to be a top supermodel by society standards and she has all of the money or relationships and job,

But she might look in the mirror and feel disgusted and feel she's really ugly and horrible.

Because it's based on an inner state of consciousness.

It's never going to be based on actual appearance.

So even if we think we want this appearance,

This job,

This relationship,

This amount of money,

Etc.

It's not actually what we want.

What we want is the inner state of being that we think those things are going to bring us.

And if we do get them,

But we haven't become conscious that it's an inner state of being,

Then we'll still feel the same,

Even with the things we thought we wanted.

That's right.

And as you'll see,

If you just look around and talk to enough people,

There are many people with millions of dollars or who look just perfect and you know,

Have like maybe have major Instagram followers and things like that.

And they admit themselves that deeply depressed many many millionaires are actually on antidepressants,

A surprising large number of millionaires are taking antidepressants.

Many models feel they're never good enough,

Always chronically stressed out you talk to models you know everyone who supposedly has all these things has some other problem and a lot of time they don't like themselves.

And even if someone makes millions of dollars and they look a certain way.

As soon as they have it like the top monkeys,

They start worrying they're about to lose it because you can't keep that stuff forever even for example physical well being physical appearance.

Everyone's getting older,

So you can know plastic surgery only goes so far and but you know things are starting to fall apart because the world we live in is in a state of constant death and rebirth.

Everything gets old and dies and then it gets reborn again so if you think about the trees they start off small they grow into a big tree and then it gradually falls over and dies and then more trees are growing afterwards.

So we're living in a universe that's constantly dying and being reborn.

We're in that universe.

And we try and hold on to this stuff and it's just absolutely impossible to keep it going.

Right.

So,

When we remind ourselves of this,

And you know not to just say oh I know I know I know,

But really do we know we only know if we're acting as if it's true.

If we know,

But we're still spending extra hours at the gym unnecessarily and obsessively checking text messages to make sure we're getting back to all the right people so they like us and we're restricting our diet and eating like only rice cakes or something.

We know we don't know,

You know,

It's just a floating nice idea.

It isn't a reality in our consciousness.

So,

I think this applies for all of us every single person to really look at.

Where am I acting and influenced from this lower animal brain status based awareness.

Most people we will find there are areas of our life where we are motivated by that actually in an acting from that place.

So that's the old game.

The old game,

The old game is status competition of appearance body consciousness trying to be perfect physically,

And trying to get everything that the world says we should get.

And I think what can I get what can I get what can I get.

And it's also a life that is dedicated to doing things for external reward so many many people are running around having lives that they don't like,

So that they can get something later on so they might be working really really hard and job they hate so they can get money.

So that they can buy something that then represents that they're successful but even when they buy it they don't feel successful so they continue to do other things so a lot of people living very very very unpleasant lives for some external reward later on,

Which actually doesn't satisfy them.

So that's the old game right we've just taken you know,

Nearly 20 minutes now to explain this so that you can see it clearly it's very very important otherwise you don't realize this is happening.

Now let's talk about the new game.

Thank God,

Something else is another option here.

And the new game is a completely different way of living,

It's a life of freedom.

And when I was talking to this client I mentioned at the beginning.

What I had her do is,

Is she was seeing herself compared to these other people not being good enough.

And I asked her to imagine her ideal partner,

And she closed her eyes and she imagined this person as light.

She didn't see a body she just saw a light being you had good vibrations.

And I said well,

What happens if you see yourself as light as well.

So she imagined you can do this imagine yourself as light your pure light like a beautiful sun.

And everyone else is also beings of light.

And immediately,

She felt profound relief.

She felt profound relief and she could finally relax and this whole status game ended and she was on the same level as this other light being.

And I told her,

Your mantra is just this.

I am light.

I am light,

I am a being of light.

And if you imagine yourself as light,

Your eternal non physical light that never gets older,

Never gets younger,

Never dies.

You're this endless light that shines and shines forever.

And as you start to actually feel that and experience it.

Then you're actually liberated liberated freed from this whole ridiculous game that you can never win.

And our priorities start to change.

And we start to think instead of competing with other people in the rat race.

We realized that are really our only only effort worth having is to become number one of ourselves.

So instead of saying how do I compare to some other people?

We think well what is my highest state of feeling?

What is my greatest level of joy?

What is my greatest level of bliss?

What kind of beautiful feelings and state of consciousness and life would I like to have?

And how can I move towards that myself?

So we put all the energy back into creating a beautiful life ourselves,

Rather than basing our sense of well being on other people.

Right.

And the Senate itself is a significant shift perhaps,

You know,

We think a lot of us have grown up influenced and conditioned to think about status comparison.

You know,

The whole of social media and many ways there's so much comparison tendencies there.

So it's a big deal.

And I think just give yourself some some space to really consider this some solitude,

Some silence,

Go for some walks in nature.

Get away from it all get away from all the triggers and the cell phone,

By the way,

Put that away.

Just remove yourself from all of the triggers that trigger that comparison status mentality.

Give yourself some space so you can start to really contemplate this new way of approaching your life and this this new level of motivation.

Because something interesting is when we realize we've been motivated a lot by comparison by status.

And as we let that motivation go,

You might for some time experience somewhat of a void because well now you used to be motivated to run five miles a day so that you could wear certain outfits and look better than everyone else at work.

But if you don't have that motivation anymore,

Then maybe you stop running.

Right.

And you have to redefine a new motivation for doing things you run,

However many miles you do a day because it feels great and you feel healthy and you're you have new blood circulating and it's health healthful for your body and helps you sleep right.

So,

As you go through this process of letting go of the old motivation.

You also are now faced with a new opportunity of why you're motivated to do things from a place of wanting to feel wonderful and enjoy yourself and enjoy your life and and experience higher feelings,

Thoughts and emotions.

Yes,

Right.

There's extrinsic motivation which is things like you know running,

You know,

Like I've seen people for example,

Driving around Hawaii I remember seeing quite a few people just running with with looking really miserable running really really miserable you mean you might see them yourself really miserable.

They hate running you can tell they hate it and they're just forcing themselves to do it because you know society wants them to look different and they pressured into it.

And,

And most of the time it doesn't work that's the thing as you don't work they don't even lose weight anyway because the whole negative energy around whole thing is so dark that it doesn't lead very far.

So what you need to do is understand the difference between extrinsic motivation doing things that we hate for reasons because of other people and change it into intrinsic motivation doing things that you actually love to do because you love to do them.

So for example we actually enjoy doing these podcasts,

Because it brings us joy and we want to share with you we want to help you feel free and joyful and happy.

So that brings us a lot of joy.

And if you give us five stars you give us one star it's okay,

You know we're okay.

That's fine.

Yeah,

And we of course prefer it.

But the thing is that we are here because we like to share,

We like to serve it makes us feel good.

And people who make music because they like making music it brings them joy if no one hears it doesn't matter.

So when we live a life where we do things that we enjoy.

We have much more flow state we have much more happiness in our general day and as a result of that,

When we look back on our lives we have a beautiful life full of many many many millions of beautiful moments.

And so the whole shift is moving away from fitting in with other people trying to play the ridiculous game that we can never win the game that's designed to make us feel bad advertising companies and marketers.

They're extremely good at making us feel insecure and not good enough,

Unworthy.

And guess what,

They've got a special product,

Haven't they a special product for us and if you buy their special product then you can finally be good enough.

But when you get it,

Well actually didn't make any difference.

But there's a better product so don't worry you buy the next product you know.

And this is just going on and on and on and on driving everyone mad making them insecure and depressed.

So instead of that we're saying okay this is ridiculous.

The new game is to realize I am not this body.

I am actually a spiritual being.

I am light.

I am light.

I'm a beautiful shining light.

I am eternal.

You can tell yourself speak to yourself like this.

I come from my spiritual home.

I'm a spiritual actor.

I'm a spiritual traveler.

I've come all the way down here from a world of light temporarily onto this big world.

I am free.

I am secure because I know who I am.

I know where I come from.

I'm blessed.

I'm safe.

And this is just a big game.

So it's a new way of speaking to yourself.

Which is a whole other topic.

But I just wanted to touch on something else as well.

Michael had mentioned that ironically when we do certain actions that are motivated from this lower place status comparison appearance.

And we're often doing it as like a self punishment and a self hatred.

And there's so much stress.

An enormous amount of stress and negative emotions involved in that.

That again leads to illness.

And then even with body appearance and body weight.

When there's that high level of stress and negativity towards the body.

It's quite possible the body will hold on to extra weight.

Due to that high chronic level of stress and tension and negative energy.

So it's just important to realize as well.

You know I know a lot of people are doing lots of things to try and look a certain way and it doesn't work.

And it's so frustrating.

Try giving it up.

Try letting it go.

Try prioritizing peace.

Calm.

Loving yourself.

Loving your body.

Relaxation.

You know gentle walks.

Things you enjoy.

And for a lot of people weight extra weight actually falls away when they do that.

So that's just an interesting thing to keep in mind.

That it's actually very counterproductive.

When we're motivated from these lower places there's negative energy involved.

And it often doesn't even achieve the result you know we thought we wanted.

That's right.

It's stress,

Stress,

Stress.

And then even if the weight changes.

Then there's constant panic to keep it a certain way.

And it's just a very,

Very unfortunate horrible way of living.

And the body doesn't like being forced to do things.

You know some people they might make out drinking,

Drink loads of alcohol.

And then they feel bad about it.

And then they want to go to a yoga class first thing in the morning.

You know to sweat it all out.

That's not particularly healthy.

So there's so many bizarre cycles of negativity that kind of keep reinforcing them each other.

Right.

And you know then even the excess drinking.

That's to alleviate the stress of the wrong motivations that you've been dealing with all week.

So they're very vicious cycles.

And just briefly I want to touch on what we were talking about about changing the way you speak to yourself.

This is a big deal.

This is a big deal.

And so if you haven't already to start with by just noticing how are you speaking to yourself.

How are you perceiving yourself and holding yourself and feeling towards yourself.

And it can be quite a deep healing journey.

A lot of us have held on to a whole lot of negativity towards ourselves for a long time.

And so if you have a meditation practice you have a practice of being in solitude being in silence.

This is a really powerful thing to work with.

Aware releasing it and every day speaking to yourself in a new way.

I am light.

I am beautiful.

I am loved.

I am precious.

It's this sort of thing.

That's right.

We need mantras ways of speaking to ourselves thoughts that illuminate our minds and hearts.

Every thought has energy.

Every thought has power in one way or the other.

So it can either pull us down or it can raise us up.

And so having these mantras I am light.

This client I was sharing earlier she took that on and she feels so wonderful now.

She was telling me what a huge change that's made for her.

Because instead of thinking I'm this body I'm not good enough I don't look right.

I am light.

I am free.

I'm just light.

I'm just wandering around everyone else is light.

She's light.

We're all light.

It's such a different consciousness.

And so the old game is a game that is designed to screw us over make us depressed and anxious and we can never win.

Imagine there's a board game.

Imagine you played a board game and it's literally impossible to win.

So the only consequence of playing that game is that you feel disturbed,

Annoyed,

Depressed,

Anxious,

Stressed out.

Right.

Imagine every time you play the game that's what happens and it's completely impossible to win.

And even if you do win temporarily you lose it straight away afterwards anyway.

So considering a game like that would you want to play a game like that?

Imagine you see your friends of yours said let's play this game.

Everyone's going to be stressed out.

No one's going to win.

Do you want to play it?

We would say no I'm not sure that's something I really want to spend my time in.

And that's a board game maybe lasts an hour.

This is a bigger game that's been going on for years and years and years and years.

So we really need to do ourselves a favor and get out of this game.

Realize that we can't win it.

We need to abandon it.

And ironically by abandoning this this toxic game that doesn't work and playing the new game.

The new game is becoming number one of yourself.

It's becoming aware that you're a spiritual being and having internal good feelings.

It's a game of having a life based on innate satisfaction.

Doing as many things as possible that bring you satisfaction for their own sake.

As you start playing that game it's a game that you can design and you can win.

And right now you know we're sitting here in Sedona Arizona which is such an epic place.

We're looking over beautiful mountains.

We've got such a beautiful home and beautiful garden.

And we're very very happy.

You know we have what we need.

You know we're very content.

And this is not because of playing a game for anyone else.

It's because we realized what we like to do and then we designed our life around that.

So we've ended up with a beautiful situation.

If we tried to play the other game we'd be very very disturbed.

Very happy and probably broke and stressed.

And you know it's just a nightmare.

The amount of people who put themselves in very horrible situations to try and get things that don't work.

And they're stuck in it years later.

So the good news is that when you start shifting your attention to the awakened game.

Then your whole life gradually starts to increase and become infinitely better.

And you know it's just a nightmare.

And we're so happy and we're so happy.

And we're so happy because we've got all of these things.

We've got peace and beauty and love and joy and peace.

And these are the things ultimately all of us want deep deep down.

But they're often times covered up with we think we want this external thing.

So that we can feel joy or peace or love.

And you can write down a few affirmations a few mantras about your true self.

To remind yourself I am light.

To feel and see yourself as light.

I am peace.

I am love.

And actually interestingly enough.

Other people respond to us and interact with us based on our inner state of being.

Not our appearance.

Our appearance is like a secondary peripheral thing.

It's our state of consciousness.

Our state of being.

Our state of mind.

That others respond to.

And is attractive.

And beautiful if it's positive.

Absolutely.

If you notice this if you're in a bad mood and you're going to see other people and walk past them.

You might notice they kind of avoid you a little bit and there's not eye contact.

If you're in a joyful place,

Happy place and you actually start to connect with other people.

Like we do this when we go on hikes.

We meet lots of people.

And we're always walking around big smiles happy because it's so beautiful.

And you know it's fun saying hello to everyone giving them blessings.

How are you doing?

You know it's just a little thing but it's fun in games.

If I'm not in a good mood and I'm sort of stressed out playing the old game and getting stressed.

Then like I can't connect with people.

I can't take it seriously.

It's a different feeling.

Everything feels different.

And it really doesn't matter if Michael is wearing the same t-shirt and his hair looks the same.

And everything's the same.

It's his inner state of being that others are going to respond to.

And so interestingly enough you know for the relationships to have beautiful relationships.

To do work that you love.

All of these things.

Opportunities that can arise.

It's really based on your inner state.

People respond to and appreciate your inner state.

So if you know someone's working in a job and their inner state is beautiful.

And they feel good thoughts about themselves and everyone in the office.

Their boss might come up and give them a promotion.

Or a bonus or something.

Because they're responding to the state of being and consciousness.

So interestingly the new game is the way anyway to quote win.

If you like at the old game.

But you're not playing the old game anyway.

So it doesn't really matter.

So you're free.

I'll just give an example of this.

I remember when I was much younger and I was working in Cambridge England.

There's this beautiful river.

The River Cam.

And it goes through the famous colleges of Cambridge.

Go back to the 13th century.

Some of them.

And so I used to do river tours.

So my job was to get people off the streets.

To go on these boats.

They're like gondolas like in Venice.

But they're smaller.

And I would do a tour.

Going through the colleges.

Talking about the colleges and some history and some things like that.

And I started out you know feeling a bit insecure.

And I didn't like talking to people.

You know I didn't really want to do the work.

And I actually didn't like it.

Then I decided that's not working out very well.

I wasn't making much money.

Because I made money based on how many people I got on the boat.

And one day I decided you know what.

I'm going to stop trying to get people on the boat.

And I'm going to start just giving them love and blessings.

Love and blessings.

I thought I don't care why they come on the boat.

At least let me smile at them.

Beam love at them.

Give them blessings.

Happiness.

So I'd have a big Starbucks cup of coffee.

And then a black coffee.

And then I would go out there.

And I'd just give everyone blessings and love.

And that was that I honestly wasn't bothered whether or not they went on the boat or not.

I really just gave love and blessings.

And as a result of that I ended up beating the record sales of that company.

Which was a very high number.

And it was an unexpected consequence of just giving love and blessings.

I beat them again and again.

And I'm like an introverted person.

I don't like being in public talking to people and being outgoing.

But I kicked ass at that job because of giving love and blessings.

That was it.

That's what it was.

So ironically when we have good vibes,

Good feelings,

People really,

Really like it.

And it really does make a difference.

Our success,

Physical success,

Financial success and all the rest of it really comes down to love and blessings.

We hardly take any pictures or do any social media stuff or anything.

We just care about people.

We want to help people.

We have good vibes.

We spend our time having lots of meditation.

We're playing the new game.

And the new game,

Funnily enough,

Leads to a lot of success in the old game.

In the ways that matter most to us personally.

That's right.

So keep that in mind on so many levels.

Whether it's our appearance,

Wealth,

Relationships,

Success.

When we play an unlimited game of our priority is experiencing our higher self.

Seeing others that way,

Experiencing higher states of consciousness,

Renouncing the old game.

Everything aligns easily with physical appearance.

I think when we just let go and we're not so focused on it,

People come up to us and say,

You look so beautiful.

I love what you're wearing.

And we think,

Really?

Okay.

Yeah.

Because we're not focused on it anyway.

But the light of our inner state of being is creating an attractive energy field.

And of course that's healthy for the body.

And the body looks better when it's healthy.

Yeah,

Absolutely.

And who would you prefer?

Someone who looks perfect,

Makeup is just perfect,

Everything's just perfect.

But they're deeply depressed and have lots of negativity.

So they look beautiful,

But they're internally,

You can tell that they're disturbed.

Or someone who doesn't particularly look that beautiful externally,

But has so much joy,

So much love,

So much good feelings,

Feels like a warm sunshine,

Gives blessings to everyone.

Who would you rather hang out with?

So when we become like that person,

Then everything starts to get a lot easier.

And honestly,

The people who only like us based on our appearances are not really the sort of people we want to be hanging out with anyway.

If my friends didn't talk to me,

If I didn't have a certain Armani suit on or something,

There's something not right about that.

So we need to think who are our friends?

Who are the people we're hanging out with?

What kind of game are we playing here?

Just to recap,

The old game is basically an endless,

Pointless competition of trying to be good enough according to other people's standards,

Which we can never reach because there's no end to it.

And it's designed to make us lose.

So we feel bad,

So we keep going along with it and it just doesn't work.

New game is to say,

I'm going to be the highest,

Most joyful version of myself.

I'm going to have the most joy,

The most peace,

The best health I can for my own personal enjoyment,

That I can do the things that I enjoy,

Serve as much as I can.

So it's a very meaningful game.

The other thing is that the old game is about being looking good or doing things physically and being all based on the body.

The new game is about being aware that I am a spiritual being to shift our consciousness,

That I am light,

I am light,

I am light.

The old game is about what can I get,

What can I get,

What can I get,

Me,

Me,

Me,

Me,

Me.

And the new game is actually is a game of what can I give,

What can I give,

What can I give,

Because in old traditions,

In previous times,

The one who could give the most was of the highest status.

Ironically,

This is interesting how this has switched in recent times.

Previously,

It was the kings and the queens and the royals who their status was based on the fact that they could give.

So anyone who came to them,

They got gifts,

They got presents,

They got blessings,

They got giving,

Giving,

Giving.

So the giving was a sign of high status.

Nowadays,

Receiving seems to be the sign of high status.

So we need to go back to the old school way,

Which is that the more you have,

And it doesn't mean you have to give presents to people,

But you can give blessings,

You can give knowledge,

You can give a smile.

So you're giving in a meaningful way.

And then of course,

The old game is about external pursuits running around after things externally that are unpleasant,

Not enjoyable,

Stressful,

That lead to some external thing like a new car or something,

But don't actually make really any difference in the long run.

The new game is about doing things that are internally satisfying as much as possible.

So the more you're in the flow state,

A state of flow,

Where you're just enjoying yourself,

You lose time,

You're doing things that you like to do,

That leads to a lot of happiness and satisfaction.

And the more our life is filled with that flow state of internal enjoyment,

The more we're winning,

Winning,

Winning.

So the practice,

So here's your little,

Little bit of practice,

Little bit of homework,

If you like,

Home play.

Number one is to realize the game.

Realize the game.

Understand what we're dealing with here,

That this is an ego status,

Never enough game that we can't win.

When we realize we can't win the old game and it's designed to stress us out,

Then we can start letting it go.

The second thing is to realize,

Like I just said,

You can't win so you can abandon it.

Yeah.

So first thing is realize the game.

Second thing is realize that you're always going to lose,

So there's no point playing it.

The third thing is to realize and to experience that I am a spiritual being.

I am light.

I am peace.

And shift your identity.

This is the whole point of meditation,

Is to come back to that state of consciousness.

R.

R.

And I have loads and loads of meditations that are really designed just to bring you into that state of consciousness.

And then the final thing is to focus on your innate qualities,

On happiness and peace,

On raising your level of consciousness so that you feel internally satisfied and to design your life so that you do things that are enjoyable for you personally.

So you wear clothes that you find comfortable that you enjoy.

You eat foods that bring you joy and bring you health.

You do various activities that you enjoy.

So your life is designed around you feeling good rather than around feeling stressed out,

Trying to fit in with other people and doesn't work anyway.

So you start to think,

What do I really like to wear?

What do I like to eat?

What thoughts are going to bring me joy?

What kind of feelings do I want to have?

And your whole life revolves around that.

So there you have it.

We hope that this audio has been interesting and perhaps shed some new light,

Given you permission to be liberated,

To be free.

You don't have to go along with toxic things.

You can be free.

And,

You know,

Really try this out.

Try this out.

Some of the things we've talked about make some changes,

Make some shifts.

You are free and begin to experience your freedom or continue to experience your freedom more and more and more.

Thank you for being here.

And may you go through your days.

And if you catch yourself playing the old game,

Just realize,

Hang on a minute.

This is an old game.

I can never win.

It's a trap.

And then just remember,

I am late.

I'm late.

I'm free.

I'm free.

And start doing it again and again and again until that becomes your beautiful,

Awakened life.

Wishing you many blessings and Namaste.

Reviews

I enjoyed the symmetry of the masculine and feminine energy of this talk. This has been helpful.

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Many thanks for this uplifting talk. I feel so blessed to have found you here. I have been living with one foot in each of those worlds desperately trying to find some balance. I am light, I am light. Many blessings, much love.

Amazing talk. Thank you.

On point.
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Truly a message to live by. Thank you!!
(I’ve listened to it twice now.)

I’d love a 15 minute morning meditation to begin my day that focuses on being light and peace in the way you brought it up in this talk.

Blessings,
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