Hi!
This episode is all about you,
The receiver.
It offers you the chance to share what you would like to receive from your partner.
Relationships are a cycle of giving and receiving,
And this is a chance for you both to experience this very thing.
So let's get started with hearing what you,
The receiver,
Would like to receive.
It may be small,
A touch,
A gesture,
A word,
But think about what you want from them that is just for you.
Let's begin first by getting into a calm space together.
As you are sitting facing your partner,
Have your hands touching or gently resting on your lap.
Look into your partner's eyes and prepare to take a few deep breaths together.
While holding a loving and relaxed gaze,
Start taking a few breaths in and out.
Gently,
Deeply,
Slowly.
Feel your face and body relax.
Your eyes soften,
Almost smiling.
Your cheeks soften.
Your jaw loosens.
The corners of your lips are turned up a little bit.
Allow yourself to release any tension from your neck,
Your shoulders,
And arms down to your hands and through your fingertips.
Just be still with each other,
Listening to your breath.
And now that you are both in a calm place,
You,
The partner who is receiving,
Will start by taking this moment to ask your partner that this episode is going to be just about you.
Set the intention to be free from judgment and come together in a place of acceptance and togetherness.
You can pause to allow enough space for the sharing and once you're ready,
You can press play again.
Go ahead and ask them.
Great!
Now tell your partner about something that they already do for you that you really enjoy.
It can be big or small,
A gesture,
A touch,
Or a few words of affection.
The important thing is that it is something that you love receiving from them.
Take a few moments to bring this to mind.
Now share what came to mind and your appreciation for this,
Describing why it makes you feel good and why you chose it.
Press pause now and continue when you're ready.
Is there a way that your partner could do it even better or do you prefer it just as it is?
I'll give you a moment to share these feelings with your partner.
You can press pause to share now and then press play when you finish sharing.
Next,
Let's focus on receiving your partner's touch.
Think about what you find most sensual and enjoyable.
Focus on what feels good for you.
Again,
It can be something that your partner already does or something that you would like to try together.
Take a few moments now to bring this to mind.
Once you're ready,
Take their hand and start to show them the style of touch that you would like them to use on you.
And as the giver,
Remember there's no pressure for you to do anything that you're not comfortable with,
But do honor your partner's desire.
As you guide their hand,
Think of the pressure and the speed and the movement,
How it feels on your skin for your own pleasure.
Now you can ask your partner to continue to touch you freely in this way,
Anywhere on your body that you choose.
And if you need to,
Get yourself into a comfortable position first.
Take a few seconds to do this now.
And perhaps close your eyes.
Indulge in a couple of minutes of uninterrupted touch.
Allow yourself to just relax and take in what you requested from your partner,
Just for you.
Go ahead.
And now,
Continuing to think about things that make you feel good,
Describe something that you would like them to do for you right now that maybe you've never asked for before.
Feel free in what you would like to ask for,
Whether it's trying a new type of kiss,
Or having your hair stroked,
Or just let yourself be held.
Remember,
It's just for you.
And if you need time to think,
Press pause.
And once you're ready,
Go ahead and press play again.
Now,
Ask without fear of judgment,
And allow your partner to hear specifically what you would like,
And what it would mean to you.
I'll give you a moment to tell them.
Pause the episode so you can feel free to go into detail.
And when you're ready to continue,
Press play again.
Now,
Ask them to do as you described.
Take as much time to play.
We'll give you a couple of minutes to explore again.
If you feel you need more time right now,
Press pause,
And then you can press play when you're ready.
I hope you enjoyed that experience,
And that it offered a chance for you to both appreciate what it feels like to ask,
And to receive.
Keep this approach in mind,
And try it again whenever you're feeling intimate as a couple,
Spending time together,
Or touching,
Or talking.
Be open to each other's wants,
And what you feel you can ask each other for.
It can be something as small as a cup of tea in bed,
Or trying something different in your sexual or intimate life,
Or simply turning off your phones for a night so you have no interruptions,
Making a space just for the two of you.
We all have different wants and needs,
And we hope you've seen how learning to express them can feel truly wonderful.
