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During this episode you're going to hear me talk about the difference between tornadoes and sifters.
Yep,
Mm-hmm.
I do bring it together so stay tuned.
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I'm Allison Shuhazi,
A super fan of energy work and engaging the intuition.
My career has spanned many genres bringing me to become an intuitive coach and Reiki master.
I continue to collect a bundle of pivotal moments,
Whispers of wisdom,
And funny stories that have helped keep me real along this journey.
I hope that this podcast will ignite a spark within you to connect with your intuition and your whispers of wisdom.
So get ready because it's time to shift today with me,
Allison.
Hello hello and welcome back.
I can't believe it's the last day of March 2020.
Wow,
Here we are.
Well recently I was reading a thread on an app called Nextdoor.
Now if you're not familiar with Nextdoor,
It's a place where you can connect with your your neighborhood community.
Anyway,
I think a lot of people know about it.
Maybe you don't.
Anyway,
If you don't look it up you might find your neighborhood.
Anyway,
I was reading this thread on Nextdoor and the topic was regarding curfews and social distancing during all this COVID-19 stuff,
Right?
And I don't typically read threads but something about this,
I hadn't been a Nextdoor in a while and I was very curious to what people were saying and posting in,
I mean,
My neighborhood and surrounding neighborhoods here.
Anyway,
It started off simple.
Some simple questions and respectful responses and then all of the sudden,
Next thing I know,
It's turning ugly and there's just like a few people totally going off the rails with their comebacks,
Right?
Well and then there was a gentleman who took all the points of contention that,
You know,
We're reading in these responses and he started posting factual data and information in a very respectful way,
Which I know I appreciated and there were several people who also did but they posted how they appreciated his responses as well until the few clickety-clacks and if you listen to my last podcast titled clickety-clacks,
Now you know what I'm talking about,
All of a sudden there's these clickety-clacks that of course have to come right back in with all this unnecessary,
Disrespectful and honestly ignorant replies.
I mean it was just,
I was almost embarrassed for them with how they were replying to a very simple post that went ugly and it was just,
It was crazy to me.
Anyway,
So now the subject matters.
I'm gonna go through some of the subject matters that kind of came up on it and where I'm headed with this horse,
The whole sifter or tornado chaser title.
So the subjects that were brought up were,
Here's a list of a few of them.
So why are teenagers playing basketball?
It's the same kids playing every day in the court,
In that park by my house.
So where are their parents?
How come they are out there every day?
So why are people going to Lowe's,
Home Depot,
And the grocery store so much?
Is it really that necessary?
Why are people going to hiking trails?
Who wants to be outside and you're gonna get COVID-19 and the hiking trails?
Why are there so many old people going to the local nurseries?
They should all stay home.
They should not leave their house.
Why are there so many people walking in my neighborhood?
Do they not know they're gonna infect me?
Wow,
Okay.
So basically overall it was everyone's putting all of us in danger,
Stay home.
I do agree.
Let's stay home.
Let's be careful.
Let's be mindful.
Let's be kind.
I didn't hear any of that except for a few people.
So as I'm reading through this,
My first thought was,
Holy crap,
Like this is truly a tornado effect.
I mean it was just swirling that it,
Ah,
The information,
The posts,
The responses.
One person posted a question and then the next thing I knew I was reading comments that were factual.
They had links in them.
Then there was opinions which led to slanderous responses.
Then a voice of reason came in with more additional facts and gentle information and then more thankful responses to that and it completely ended with disrespectful kickbacks.
I mean I was like,
What did I just read and what just happened?
And it obviously couldn't leave my mind because here I am now doing a podcast on it,
Right?
Well it's been a while since I've read threads.
I don't typically read threads and boy did I pick,
Maybe I picked the right one.
I honestly thought I picked the wrong one.
I'm like,
What am I,
Oh yeah,
Yeah.
But and I started thinking about me,
Right,
And how this is affecting me and not necessarily all the COVID-19 stuff because I have personal views on that as I believe everybody does.
But in this post in the past I would have jumped in there with some type of a logical quote or reply but now I just don't even want to get involved.
But now I just sit back and I protect my thoughts by shifting away from these tornado effects and the debris left in their path and I pause and I get out my sifter,
All right?
I sift through these pessimistic disrespectful responses,
Not just this post but everywhere.
There's just a lot of noise,
Right?
Because as awful as some of these people are behaving,
What I think and where I go with this is I try to imagine the environment that they're coming from.
Like you have to learn how to be this disrespectful and this ugly,
Right?
So their thoughts might be filled with demeaning and hopeless looping thoughts in their head or maybe their situation might be filled with constant negativity and it might just be all that they know.
They might not know how to pause and look at anything differently except being ugly.
I try to sift out all the noise from people pointing the finger at everyone else around them because everyone is doing everything wrong.
And then I paused and I thought,
Hmm,
How do they know that the same kids are at the park every day?
How do they know who's at the trails?
How do they know it's only old people at the nursery?
How do they know who's regularly going to Lowe's or the grocery store or whatever?
How are they,
If maybe they're frequently frequenting all of these places themselves,
Right?
Like how would they know this?
And then I also sift through the constant shots at the local authorities and government who aren't doing their jobs to keep everyone safe.
I can't say I agree with what everyone's doing and the rules and whatever,
But I really honestly truly do believe,
Especially here in our local government and our local authorities and friends who I know are who are in other parts of the country,
They are doing everything they can to keep people safe without getting infected themselves because if they get infected then we're really SOL,
Right?
Have you thought of that?
Well this statement I can say,
You are in charge of you,
Right?
If you know what you need to do to keep you safe then I hope you do it.
I might not,
It might not make sense to me what you feel like you need to do to get safe,
But I'm gonna do me the best way I know how to do me and I can only hope that you'll do your best you.
I have enough people that I've been around throughout my life who think leadership is gained through throwing around judgments or fear or pointing fingers or by announcing that they are a leader,
Right?
Well I am different because I lead my life by trying to spread compassion and patience and sharing knowledge and I would hope everyone would like to behave that way but it's not reality.
Well I do have this one statement that I use regularly and I have been using it a lot lately and I noticed because my kids have been repeating it sometimes because they'll say,
Oh I'm worried about this.
Well when it comes to the word worrying,
To me worrying is like praying for something you don't want.
If you're gonna keep all of your energy on something you're worrying about it probably is gonna happen but if you take that energy and you shift it to something positive I truly believe more positive outcomes are gonna happen and I do care for you,
I do,
But I do not worry about you.
I can't spend my time worrying as I can only hope you are gonna do the best you can do as you grow and yes I do believe that we continue to grow until we reach the end but here's something to think about.
So my title was sifter or tornado chaser remember that?
Okay the definition of a tornado is it's a mobile destructive vortex with violently rotating winds having the appearance of a funnel shaped cloud and advancing beneath a massive storm system.
A sifter puts a substance through a filter or strain to remove lumps or large unwanted pieces.
Okay have I lost you?
I hope not I love to look up words and and just kind of put them in as metaphors to things.
So think about this,
Do you want to be a tornado chaser?
Some of you might because it's all you've known.
Many I've come in touch with have been taught to be judgmental.
Maybe you were taught to look in only one direction and not see a broader picture unless it fits exactly into your system,
Exactly into your box.
Were you erased?
It just might be very uncomfortable for you to see anything else.
You might feel the need to always use your wind to say the last word no matter how negative it might be leaving debris in your path for others to clean up and you don't care how it affects anyone else and anyone you come in contact you just don't care right?
Some people feel that way right?
Or maybe it's time to shift all that.
Maybe it's time to sift through the noise.
Sit with your thoughts,
Examine the situation thoroughly so you can identify what is most important,
What is most factual,
What is most useful,
Especially in the times we're in right now.
This might mean it's time to let go of those lumps of hostility,
Disapprovals or distrust that are holding you back.
Whether it's from someone else or you're doing this inside of your head,
We can all have hostile thoughts,
Disapproving thoughts of ourselves.
We can also not trust ourselves when you kind of flip those around shift them,
Shift them to something more positive.
You know I mean here's maybe you just need to apologize for being an ass to someone else and explain your fears because typically when we're being an ass we're afraid of something and it might not have anything to do with the other person.
Trust me I have been an ass a number of times in my life and I have tried very hard to apologize for all the times I have been an ass.
I think I still owe a few more apologies but some people don't want to converse with me which is perfectly fine I understand that.
But explain your fears that will explain why you maybe have been an ass.
Maybe you just need to find more positive people with more compassionate views,
More open views who think and want to see a bigger picture to surround yourself with and let the naysayers in your life go.
Yes even if they are family.
I have walked away I've even paused relationships with some of my family members at different times because sometimes they are the most toxic people in your life.
I can't say it's always been easy but it was definitely necessary.
Or maybe you need to reflect upon yourself and be with okay be okay with what you know to be accurate and if you don't know what to be accurate then you can look for more information you can have conversations with people to get a different perspective.
If it doesn't feel right if your intuition is telling you it does not feel right then it probably isn't.
So broaden your horizons right?
Don't worry about getting caught up in what's going on.
Try to take your time take your beliefs that maybe don't line up with others and be okay if you feel like it's a positive path for you.
It's okay.
Well I can say I have been taking my kids on educational hikes and trails but there was no one else on the trails.
I have chosen to continue to live but I just as it had a difference from those I love.
I mean even my family my parents live four minutes away and I know that they have been fearful of seeing us.
My dad's got some health issues and and they're a little bit older so yeah I get it.
So we FaceTime them.
I find it hilarious but it's awesome.
Hey FaceTime is a great thing.
I even set up FaceTime play dates for my kids so that they can be around their friends and it's so cute to see them play and like do these.
I had one friend did a Lego project it was so cute.
I mean we've made other changes we leave our shoes outside I'm the only one who goes to the grocery store you know I mean I don't want anyone else to get affected and God forbid but I don't think everything's gonna be fine for us.
Luckily we don't live in a more populated area.
Well we also continue to be very careful but not careless and I use that that quote from a friend of mine Lauren Murray.
She gave me that quote for something else completely in a totally different context but I think it fits perfectly here.
We do we try to be careful and not careless with our thoughts and our behaviors and our actions trying not to let that negative noise in which does affect our behaviors.
I mean how many of us parents have turned now into teachers and how many amazing teachers are out there trying to teach not just their kids but trying to teach their parents how to be teachers.
I mean talk about new times.
So I want to shout out to all those teachers and administrators who are just working their hineys off to to help us parents out.
Well just for today here's an idea choose if you want to be a tornado chaser or a sifter.
It truly is a simple choice it really is.
Well thank you so much for joining me today and if you need help sifting through your thoughts sifting through your behaviors why are you acting this way sifting through your actions your reactions to find a new way to shift towards something positive and move forward.
Feel free to give me a shout or drop me a line.
Until next time I hope you're able to shift today into a greater tomorrow.
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