Overcoming The Fear Of Being Seen

In this track, we’re diving deep into a topic that keeps so many brilliant creators and leaders playing small: The Fear of Being Seen.

Did you know that for many people, the fear of being truly witnessed is actually greater than the fear of death? It’s the "master fear" that invites in all the others: judgment, persecution, the weight of responsibility, and the terrifying possibility of failure.

While our brains use these fears to keep us "safe," they often end up keeping us stuck. The paradox is that on the other side of our fear of being seen, is our greatest destiny! So find out how to overcome this fear and step into your true potential!

Transcript

Welcome everyone.

I'm so excited to dive into overcoming the fear of being seen today with you because on the opposite of the greatest fear is our greatest destiny.

Let's start.

So overcoming the fear of being seen,

Right?

And we all have this fear,

No matter what we do,

We have a fear of being seen.

We are genuinely afraid to be seen in the world with our gifts,

In our expression,

Right?

And I'm going to tell you something.

The fear of being seen is even greater than the fear of death.

The fear of being seen is even greater than the fear of death.

It sounds wild,

But it's true.

Personally,

I am not afraid of dying.

I think I had quite a few,

Actually,

Near-life,

Near-death experiences where I reverted from scratch.

I'm not afraid of that anymore.

That's okay.

I had also out-of-body experiences,

Astral projection,

They call it.

I don't want to make this very woohoo and esoteric because I want everyone to resonate with this.

But I had those experiences.

I saw myself behind this body.

I saw my soul,

I felt my soul behind this body quite a few times and I don't have that fear anymore.

However,

The fear of being seen is still lingering there.

Even though I'm sharing my gifts,

I'm sharing who I am,

I'm sharing my creations.

I published a book one year ago and I have courses here on Inside Timer.

I have 20,

000 students in my courses.

I've been seen.

I'm sharing content for over 11 years now,

12 years.

Whether I was blogging or sharing courses or meditations or sharing videos like this and transmissions and coaching people and mentoring people,

There's still a fear there of being seen because there's always a next level,

There's always more that we can impact,

More that we can serve,

That the Creator wants to utilize us for more if we are open to it.

If you want to play safe and if it's not in your destiny to live a life of service,

To live a life of great impact,

To create great impact for others,

Then this fear is not so felt.

But when you know inside you that there's a greater version of your reality that is possible,

That there's a greater version of your destiny that is possible,

That you have been called for a specific reason in a specific way,

You have a mission,

You have a purpose,

Then that fear is even bigger.

The bigger the purpose,

The greater your fear.

Okay,

So this fear is greater than the fear of death,

Actually.

And this fear also brings other fears with it.

It brings so many other fears with it.

The fear of what?

Being judged,

The fear of being persecuted because in the past when we expressed our truth,

We were executed,

We were killed,

We were tortured.

Witches were burned at the stake.

You ladies all have that imprint inside,

That collective feminine wound.

Women also,

We were speaking our truth,

We wanted to change things in the world or society and we were basically many times going against establishment and we were executed,

We were ridiculed.

We were made to be crazy.

The first person who said,

I think Galileo Galilei,

That the earth is not flat,

It's round,

He was sent into a mental institution.

He thought,

You know,

People thought he's crazy until he proved his statements.

It's crazy.

And nowadays we don't actually live in that world again.

Now we are in a world of knowledge,

Wisdom,

Information.

Everyone can share anything about anyone,

About any particular topic and we don't have to experience this.

We don't have to be persecuted.

We are not judged in the same way.

Of course,

No,

We actually are judged.

Everyone judges us.

Whether you do a good thing or a bad thing,

You're always going to be judged.

My intentions are always from my heart.

They are pure.

I want to support,

I want to elevate humanity,

My community,

My people.

This is my work.

This is my mission.

And I still get judgment.

Some people get triggered.

Just sharing my truth,

I push people's buttons.

I push people,

Uh,

I contradict their beliefs.

You know,

It interferes with the way they see reality.

And if they saw a reality that is different than mine,

Then that gets,

You know,

It can be defensive.

There can be a trigger there.

And I'm sure there are here people that feel triggered just by watching this.

I'm sure there are people there.

There's always someone judging us,

No matter how well we try to share it,

No matter how much socially acceptable we want to be,

Right?

There's only someone who judges.

Then we have the fear of the unknown.

All of this comes under the umbrella of overcoming our greatest fear,

Which is to be seen.

All come under the umbrella of being,

Of the fear of being seen.

So the fear of the unknown as well.

We are afraid of what is not known,

Right?

Because our survival mind tries to keep us safe.

This is a natural biological function that we have.

And God knows that in the last thousands of years,

There was so much war and battle and separation on this planet.

So that enhances,

You know,

This feeling of wanting to be in comfort,

Wanting to be in the comfort zone,

Right?

We've been through so much chaos into the dark age,

In the Kali Yuga age,

However you want to call it.

It was a natural evolution of our Earth.

And we've been just experiencing a denser form of reality.

This is what the dark age is.

And so we have been forgotten our divinity,

Right?

And,

You know,

And now we are stepping back into remembrance.

We are activating that.

We are awakening that.

And there's a lot of unknown.

There's a lot of uncertainty in ourselves,

In the world,

Right?

In the systems that we have created and the new system that are going to come to replace what doesn't work,

To replace what is outdated.

This is what the Age of Aquarius is all about.

Innovation,

Freedom,

Sovereignty,

Being independent,

Not overly independent,

Because community is part of that too.

Yeah,

Then we have the fear of being responsible for our own creation.

Let's say we put out there a book.

We are publishing a book.

Then we are afraid of what would happen when people read that.

How is the impact of that book in the world?

We are afraid to receive that feedback.

We are afraid to fail,

To have,

I don't know,

And to be interpreted as not a good person or not skilled enough or not well informed enough,

Not expert enough or whatever story we attach to our fear,

Right?

So,

The fear of being responsible for ourselves,

For our power,

For our creative power,

For what we put out there,

Right?

Because there is always,

When we emit a strong signal into the world through our creations,

Through our expression,

There's always going to be a feedback.

And we are afraid of that feedback.

We are afraid that that feedback is somehow wrong.

And even if we did it,

Even if we express,

We are constantly wondering,

I wonder how that impacts the world.

So,

Our nervous system is in this hesitation place where it kind of contracts a little bit.

And that is translated in the body as anxiety.

Then the fear of failing,

Right?

We are so conditioned to be afraid of failing.

What if I fail?

What if this doesn't,

What if my book doesn't sell millions of copies and impacts the world as I expected?

What if the music that I'm creating is not well received by people and they feel that is not good enough or too much,

Right?

So many stories with the fear of failure.

And in truth,

No one really,

Really cares.

We care how we are perceived.

We care so much about our image.

Fair enough.

We should protect and be aware of the signal of the output that we put out there in the world.

However,

When we are afraid,

Then what happens is that actually that signal,

That output becomes less powerful,

Becomes less of who we are,

Of our potential.

Because we are infusing it with anxiety.

We are infusing it with hesitation,

With fear.

And we don't actually,

Often we don't take action on our path,

In our dreams,

In what wants to be created through us.

This is why most people want to truly live being themselves and doing what they love,

Which is absolutely possible because I'm doing this for 10 years.

I live exactly how I want and doing exactly what I love.

And I get paid for it.

I get paid very well for it,

Being who I am,

Doing what I do,

Sharing my gifts.

And we are afraid to do this because we are afraid to fail.

What if it doesn't work?

Let me have a plan B.

Let me take this job.

And then you pour your soul into a job that doesn't really resonate and you feel contracted.

And you don't have energy and time for your own creations.

Sometimes we learn through those things and utilize that experience in order to actually move towards the path that really,

Really excites us and show up differently.

We can use that as fuel,

But many times people give up.

People give up and they like to stay in the comfort zone.

You'd rather do that than failing.

This is what you think.

But actually,

To be comfortable with failing,

If you can be comfortable with failing,

Then you are that only then you're actually ready for success.

You're ready to thrive because you're not attached to how it should be.

You're doing it because you are the creator.

You are a creator in the world.

So it's your job.

It's your duty,

Your responsibility as a creator to create and do things and try and show up and put yourself out there.

There's this whole attachment of how we should be,

Who should,

How many things we should sell,

How much money we should make a month and all of that.

That's what keeps us failing,

Really.

It's good to have a North Star.

I have my own desire on my income,

On the people I impact.

But I use that as a North Star,

As a guiding process,

Rather than,

Oh,

If I don't do it that way,

Then I failed or I somehow diminished myself and I am criticizing myself and so on.

No,

No,

No,

No,

We're not doing that.

Ideally,

Sometimes we still do.

Sometimes we still have to go through it.

But in the year 2026,

Which is a totally different year than 2025,

I explained in the beginning,

But I'm going to share again.

2025 is the year of the snake in the,

Especially in the Chinese astrology.

It's the year when we shed skin,

When we get prepared,

When we remove all of these layers of who we think we are and really step into who we are meant to be.

And 2026 is exactly that.

It's the year of the horse.

I believe it's called the fire horse.

And that's the year where there's going to be momentum behind that.

There's going to be wisdom.

Like I imagine the horse,

What do you feel when you look at this energy of the horse,

Fire horse,

A big horse was just running free and taking action and is alive and moving and active.

So it's a lot about that wisdom.

The horse is so wise.

You can look into the eyes of a horse and you just feel this deep connection and wisdom.

They carry a sudden wisdom.

Then power is such a powerful animal.

It's such a powerful being.

And so these are the energetics that we have to lead ourselves in 2026.

We have to lead ourselves from these energies.

We have to embody these energies.

So there's no time to set back and be in the old energy.

Now,

Of course,

We're always going to shed some skin.

We always change our identity.

We always grow and grow ourselves.

But this next year is so much focus on action and prosperity and finally getting results than ever again.

And I think it happened like every 66 years or something like that.

I read somewhere.

I don't remember exactly.

I don't want to say things that I'm not sure about.

But yeah,

Imagine this is going to happen in another 66 years or something.

Some of us wouldn't even be here anymore.

So it's time,

You know,

It's time to show up.

It's time to overcome this fear.

It's time to live the destiny that our soul chose before we even came here,

Before we even incarnated here.

Because some of us already chose our reality before we came here.

Some of you remember that.

Some of you have an inner knowing about it.

You just know that there's something more that you have already like.

This is why this déjà vu,

Synchronicity,

These are signs we are on our path.

These are miracles.

Our signs towards a miracle,

Right?

Guiding us on the journey.

This is no coincidence.

There is no coincidence in this universe.

This creation is too intelligent for coincidences to be there.

I think there is a part where coincidences really exist.

But this is a highly intelligent universe that made us in the same image as the creator.

So therefore we are creators ourselves.

We are not victims.

We are not victims even if we have been through situations where we have been victimized,

Where we have been abused,

Where we have experienced lots of pain,

Illness,

Situations that are unbearable.

I know that every single one of us has been through some darkness here that some of us couldn't even process,

Some of us couldn't even understand.

But we all have been through catalysts and struggles that shaped us who we are,

Right?

These things are actually blessings.

Once we see them,

Once we transmute them,

Alchemize them.

So how do we overcome the fear of being seen?

This is the big question.

How do we overcome it?

First,

You have to be comfortable to be 100% yourself,

100% authentic.

No masks,

No filters,

No images of who I think I am.

Of course you can step into a role.

I am in a role.

I am a teacher in this moment.

I'm a mentor or a coach.

When people hire me to support them on their journey,

I have a role.

I'm an author.

I have a role.

But I play with these roles.

I'm not becoming them,

Right?

I don't become the roles.

I play within these roles as the creator of my own reality.

So I can adopt roles.

Like imagine you wake up in the morning and you have these masks in front of you,

All of them being roles of who you can be in that day.

So you have to adopt one if you want to play a certain archetype,

If you want to play a certain role in the world,

Or also you don't have to do anything.

You just be you as you are.

It depends how you want the world to perceive you.

It depends what signal you want to put out there in the world.

And those masks sometimes are simply,

It's not even a mask,

It's just an energy,

Right?

Let's say you want to experience more lightness in your life.

You want to experience more love,

More prosperity,

More abundance,

More joy.

Then you have to embody that energy first inside of you,

Right?

And from there,

Reality responds to you in a different way.

In a different way than it will respond if you adopt an energy of luck,

An energy of anxiety.

So the fear of being seen is an energy,

It has an energy of anxiety obviously behind it,

A strong anxiety that makes us shut down our system sometimes and just be just players,

Participants in life without choosing actually too much.

We try to stay in the comfort zone.

So how do we overcome it?

First is to be fully 100% authentic,

Even if you have a role,

Even if you take a role,

Be authentic about it.

If you're a coach,

If you're a mentor,

If you're a singer,

Be bold about it.

Don't attach to it,

But utilize that with confidence.

You want more money,

You want prosperity,

You want more love,

You want a partnership that is healthy.

Claim that for yourself.

Claim that for yourself.

Don't be afraid.

And here's the trick,

Here's the thing.

The fear of being seen requires us to do it scared.

It requires us to do it terrified.

That's the magic trick here.

So first is be authentic 100%,

Be completely transparent with who you are,

Who you want to be in that day in the world,

Who do you want to show up as or in that hour or in whatever time frame you need to adopt a certain energy.

And let's say that you want to become a coach,

A guide for other people,

Then step into that role deeply and do it even if you're scared.

Do it even if you think you don't have it all together.

Do it if you question and doubt yourself.

This is how you overcome this fear.

And each time you do this,

It's a practice.

Each time you do it more and more,

The less this fear is going to affect you and the more you're going to show up.

It's a muscle.

It's like going to the gym.

You won't look good right away.

If you just start to go to the gym,

Your body will be pretty flat.

Now in time,

Working through the exercises,

Doing your workouts,

You're going to build more muscle.

You're going to look more lean.

You're going to look more muscular.

It's the same thing with this fear.

And actually,

It also takes quite a similar amount of time with the process of going to the gym,

Because the deep,

Deep engraved fear that we hold upon,

As I shared,

Is even greater than the fear of death.

So you really,

Really need to step fully in it,

No matter what,

No matter how afraid you are.

And for that,

My friend,

Obviously it takes a lot of courage,

Obviously it takes a lot of devotion,

But you have to find that.

You have to find that place inside and go for it.

And then the third part of the process of overcoming your greatest fear is to learn how to hold space for yourself.

So let's say you took an action that makes you terrified,

That makes you feel uncertain,

That makes you be vulnerable,

Right?

You share something on social media that makes your heart pump,

Like,

You know,

Like you're making,

Like you're having a heart infarct or whatever,

Like you can feel that.

Then hold space for yourself in that moment.

Be there for yourself.

Hold yourself.

You have to learn how to hold yourself properly.

You hold yourself through your emotions,

Just as you would hold a child,

Right?

We have to learn from there.

We have to parent ourselves.

We cannot give that responsibility away.

Sometimes we blame society for everything that happens to us,

For how we feel,

For why we feel that way,

Right?

Why do we have this fear?

We can't constantly try to externalize it.

Great.

Maybe we find the reason.

However,

We still have to hold ourselves in the process of undoing that fear out of our system and showing up for what we really,

Really care about.

So that is the third way,

The third,

I would say,

Process required in overcoming your greatest fear.

Now,

The fourth one,

And this kind of goes in,

Like,

Chronologically,

Right?

First is to be authentic 100% as much as you can,

Obviously,

But strive for 100%.

Then is to do it terrified,

To do it scared,

To do it no matter what.

Third is to hold yourself to the process,

To be accountable for the process,

Not to blame that on someone else,

To stay with the process,

With the emotions that come when you express your truth,

When you express who you are,

When you show up,

No matter how great the fear is.

You have to learn to parent yourself and hold space for yourself,

To be your own support first.

And then the fourth is to find community,

To find people that are alike,

To find people that also are wired for impact,

People that are also on the same or a similar journey with you.

You cannot have,

Let's say you have a great idea,

A great thing that you want to do,

And you explain this to someone who doesn't understand you,

Even if it's your family.

Sometimes our family is one of the most limited people we have in our lives,

Right?

So you explain that to someone that thinks you're crazy,

And because of the emotional attachment to it,

You feel stronger,

Right?

So you have to share your visions and thoughts and your ideas with people who are understanding and are on the same path.

That actually multiplies,

Mirrors you,

Multiplies your efforts,

Multiplies your belief in yourself that you are,

That you can do it,

That you are supported,

That you're not alone,

That there are other people that have a similar goal.

And it doesn't have to be identical.

It just has to be,

For example,

I write a book and you want to produce music.

Now,

If we are together like communicating about our process and our creativity and what we're going through,

Then we already move forward.

We already empower and uplift each other because we both want to put something into this world that is our excitement to do so.

We have a calling,

Right?

So we have to find people in our lives slash community that are really,

Really empowering and good for us because who we are is a result of the people we are surrounding ourselves with.

If you notice that you don't have people that uplift you,

Understand you,

Elevate you,

You need to find those people.

You need to create those people for yourself.

You need to get some mentors.

You need to check YouTube channels,

Get some people that have been on that journey that are ahead of you,

That you can learn from,

Or at least people that are on the journey so that you can keep yourself accountable with.

So whoever feels the calling to connect with me,

To explore,

To share where they are,

What is your vision,

What is that you're feeling called to share with the world,

Just send me a message.

Send me a message.

Let's see where you are.

Let's see how I can support and I'm looking forward.

I'm looking forward because it's our time.

It's our time and we know it and we came for it.

We are creators.

We are the creators of our destiny,

Of our lives,

Of our reality and the more we remember,

The more we embrace this,

The better our lives will be.

As simple as that and the more purposeful for other people too.

Much love.

Ciao for now.

Reviews

I just love his calm voice and intelligence, so insightful. I always feel as though the message was perfectly designed for me. Magical.