Meditation For Setting Healthy Boundaries

Why should we set healthy boundaries?

If we feel like someone has over-stepped a boundary, it is important to communicate when it feels safe to express this. If we are clear about our own boundaries, it can help us to explain to others what our boundary is.
It may feel vulnerable or uncomfortable to have this kind of conversation and it is important to remember that we do not have control over how the other person responds. It is natural to be met with defence mechanisms, however it is essential that we stick with the boundary we are trying to set.
Be clear and specific about why you are setting a boundary.
It takes time and practice to set healthier boundaries.
If we feel overwhelmed during a discussion/argument, it is okay to walk away. (This is a clear boundary).
When we set a boundary, we must focus on our thoughts, emotions and behaviour aligning with this boundary.
It is natural to feel guilt, shame and overwhelm when setting new boundaries.

Transcript

Welcome to today's meditation.

We are now going to focus on our breath.

Please close your eyes when you are ready and make sure that you're in a comfortable position.

Breathe in through your nose and out through your mouth during this meditation.

In today's meditation,

We are going to think about our different types of boundaries.

A boundary represents protection of our bodies,

Emotions and energy.

Boundaries are key in healthy relationships because without them we can feel resentment,

Disappointment or the feeling of being taken advantage of.

If you have a pattern of people-pleasing behavior,

Setting boundaries can bring up fear,

Shame and guilt.

By learning to set healthy boundaries,

It helps us to feel in control of our lives.

I want you to think about the different types of boundaries.

This includes physical boundaries,

Emotional boundaries,

Mental boundaries,

Time boundaries and material or financial boundaries.

Breathe in slowly and deeply through your nose.

Exhale slowly and deeply through your mouth.

I want you to think about the following affirmations.

I give myself permission to set healthy boundaries.

I will feel more safe and secure when I set my boundaries.

It is okay to feel guilt,

However I can still focus on healthy boundaries.

It is natural for your mind to wander.

Just bring your attention back to your breath each time you notice.

You can continue to meditate in your own time or you can bring your attention back to your body and when you are ready,

Please open your eyes and come back into the room.