Relationships are hard.
Friendships are hard.
And it's even harder to let go of those people who no longer serve us,
Especially if they've been in our lives for a really long time.
This meditation is to help you energetically cut the cord to a person who no longer serves you and who no longer deserves a place in your life.
Take a few deep breaths.
Let it out with a sigh or maybe even a hum.
Take a few more,
Really breathing deep into the belly,
Feeling your ribs expand outward,
Especially to the side.
Can you really breathe into the side body right now?
Pull that breath deep into the belly,
Keeping your shoulders relaxed,
Your jaw relaxed,
Your pelvic floor relaxed.
And just breathing here,
Allowing yourself to come into this moment,
Because this moment might be monumental.
You're about to do a hard thing,
So breathe here.
Now continue breathing as deeply as you can,
But I want you to switch your focus to a visualization of the person in front of you that you need to release with love and forgiveness and peace.
I want you to look down and I want you to see that you're sitting in a raft,
And that raft is on the ocean.
And then when you look up again,
The other person is also in a raft,
A different raft from yours.
And you're both in the middle of the ocean,
But you have a rope connecting the two rafts together as you bob on the waves.
It's just the two of you under the sun.
Maybe the water's Caribbean,
Beautiful blue,
Maybe the Atlantic,
Choppy and dark.
But wherever you are,
Visualize you in a raft,
The other person in a raft,
And a rope holding you two together.
This rope can be thick,
Wiry,
Yellow,
Plastic,
Whatever comes to mind,
But you're together,
And you look all around you,
And there's nothing but sea and ocean.
And this is your chance,
You realize.
This is my chance.
I get to say everything that I wasn't able to say before.
This is your goodbye as well.
Keep breathing deep into the belly,
And use this time,
These next few breaths,
These next few moments,
To say all of the things that you need to say.
Keep breathing while you do this.
On your next inhale,
I want you to breathe in the feelings that you want to have when you think of this person.
When you breathe in,
You want to have forgiveness,
Maybe,
Or indifference,
Or peace,
Contentment.
Maybe you want to feel nothing,
But whatever that feeling is,
Breathe it in.
Put a color to it,
A shape,
A temperature.
Breathe it in.
Pull that into your body.
Feel that prana move through your body.
Feel that feeling that you want to embody move through your body.
Push it down into your legs,
Down into your arms.
And as you exhale,
You're exhaling everything that that person made you feel that didn't make you feel good.
Resentment,
Jealousy,
Anger,
Frustration.
Let it all out.
Let it out with a big sigh.
Do this again if you need to.
Breathe in,
And breathe out.
Maybe there's more to say.
Say it now.
Maybe this person has something to say back to you.
So maybe now there's a hypothetical conversation happening right now.
And let them.
Let them.
Let him or her say what they need to say,
So you can say back what you need to say.
Because we're leaving it out,
Out,
All out on the ocean.
That water is washing away everything that no longer serves you.
Now I want you to look over your shoulder from your raft,
And you see there's land now behind you.
And you can see over the other person's shoulder that there's land behind them.
Two islands,
Separated by water and closed by water.
But the person behind you,
They haven't seen it yet.
And this is when you know they're gonna be okay,
And you're gonna be okay,
Because there's land.
There's a safe place to land.
You have a pocketknife with you.
You're gonna take that pocketknife,
And you're gonna cut that cord that's holding the two rafts together.
And then you're gonna lean forward,
And you're gonna put your hands on the other person's raft,
And you're going to push it into the current going towards their island.
And they might be upset.
They may not understand.
They might feel unsafe.
They might need you,
Or think they need you.
But this is your time to wish them well,
Reminding them that you'll be,
They'll be fine,
And you'll be fine.
And it's time to go your separate ways.
Breathe into this moment.
Feel this moment as if it's actually happening.
Your brain doesn't know any different.
Make this your reality.
And as you start to drift apart,
You start drifting towards your island,
And that person starts drifting towards theirs.
You give them one final wave,
One final acknowledgement.
Maybe you thank them for the lessons.
You thank them for the laughs,
The fun,
The heartache,
The lessons,
Whatever that may be.
And then you turn around and face your island,
And you let your current take you home.
Breathe into this.
Nice and slow right now.
Five seconds in,
Five seconds out.
And out.
Do this again.
In for five.
You've done it.
You've energetically cut that cord.
You've cut that tie to somebody that,
Although you may have loved them once before,
You know you no longer can have them in your life anymore.
Maybe give your shoulders a little shake.
Shake off that energy that you've been carrying,
That burden that you've been feeling having this person in your life.
Maybe give yourself a hug,
Wrap your arms around yourself.
You've done something really special for you.
This is what self-love looks like.
Doing hard things,
And then taking the time to make sure that you're energetically,
Spiritually,
Mentally,
Emotionally well.
And maybe this track won't be the only time you listen to this.
Maybe you'll need to come back to this.
Some people's talents are just deep in us.
Maybe you'll need to come back,
Which will also be an act of self-care.
To do the hard thing,
To keep coming back,
To do what's best for you.
And this isn't selfish.
This is putting yourself first,
Because at the end of the day,
You are first.
You have to be first.
By now,
You've landed on your island.
You step out of the raft onto warm,
Beautiful sand.
You sit down,
You wrap your hands around your knees,
And you look out to the sea.
You see nothing.
You don't see the other person.
You don't see their island.
You just see beautiful waves and sunshine.
And as you're staring out into the sea,
You see a pod of dolphins,
And they breach the water,
And they're jumping,
And they're giving you this beautiful show.
And you know that this is the universe's sign that you've done the right thing.
You've done the right thing.
It's time to move on.
And exhale,
Nice and slow.
Breathing here for a few more minutes.
Knowing that you've done a really hard thing,
But a really necessary thing.
And it's time to move on.
