How To Build Immense Inner Strength

Developing unshakable inner strength is essential for navigating life's challenges with resilience and confidence. This guide explores the powerful strategies and practices that can help you cultivate mental and emotional fortitude. From embracing adversity and developing self-discipline, to fostering emotional resilience and aligning with your core values, learn how to strengthen your mind and spirit. With a focus on mindfulness, positive habits, and personal growth, you'll discover the tools to overcome setbacks, stay grounded in tough times, and unlock your full potential. Get ready to tap into your deepest strength and rise to any occasion with unwavering courage.

Transcript

Today we're talking about something that I promise will change the way you approach your life.

It's about how we push ourselves,

How we move forward,

Even when it feels like every inch of us wants to stop.

Now I know life gets complicated,

Exhausting even.

There's work,

Family,

Health,

The whole mix and sometimes the thought of adding anything more to the pile feels impossible,

Right?

But here's the question I want you to sit with today.

What if the very discomfort you're feeling right now,

The things weighing on you,

Are the keys to the breakthroughs you've been looking for?

What if the path you've been avoiding because it looks hard,

Because it feels uncomfortable,

Is the exact path you're meant to take?

Today we're peeling back those layers.

We're not just talking about success,

We're talking about the behind-the-scenes work,

The grit,

The friction,

The inner battles we face every day.

And why,

Instead of running from it,

We should lean in.

And no,

This isn't some cliche about just doing hard things.

When you're done with this first half of the episode you'll have a whole new framework for how you think about growth,

Success and,

Let's be real,

Life.

But let me be upfront.

What we're diving into isn't comfortable.

It's not a three-step shortcut or some tap-here-for-success hack.

And honestly most people aren't willing to go where we're about to go.

But if you're here still listening,

I have a feeling that isn't you.

So let's really break this down.

Let's start with something I like to call the voices.

You know the ones I'm talking about.

There's that negative voice,

The one that says,

Why bother?

You're not good enough.

You're not smart enough.

This is too hard.

Sound familiar?

Then there's the other voice.

Most people never meet this second one because they don't take the time to create it.

This is the voice of determination.

The one that challenges that negativity and says,

No,

You can do this.

Keep going.

Creating that second voice isn't easy.

If it were,

Everyone would do it.

But let me tell you a story to illustrate what I mean.

Think about Nelson Mandela.

Here's someone who spent 27 years in prison.

27 years.

Alone.

In conditions that were unimaginable.

No social media to scroll through.

No podcast to listen to.

Just him and his thoughts.

And yet,

While most of us would fall apart in isolation,

He used that time to strengthen his mind.

To strengthen that second voice.

When Mandela walked out of those prison gates,

He became a force of change for an entire nation.

He didn't just survive.

No,

He emerged with clarity,

Purpose and an unshakable inner resilience.

So the question is,

How do we build that kind of resilience?

How do we find that second voice that can stand up to the negativity?

The doubt?

Here's what I've learned.

What countless people I admire,

Like Mandela,

Have shown me.

You don't find that voice in moments of comfort.

You build it every single time you decide not to quit on yourself.

And I want you to really think about this.

When was the last time you failed?

And I don't mean a minor inconvenience.

I mean the kind of failure that shakes you.

That makes you wonder if you're even on the right path.

That's where the process starts.

That's where the inner voice,

The second one,

Takes shape.

Now this brings me to my next question.

What happens if you avoid that work?

What happens if every time life gets a little tough?

Or the doubt creeps in?

Or you hear that voice saying you're not cut out for it?

You take a step back?

You stay comfortable?

You avoid the friction?

Here's the hard truth.

You stay stuck.

You stay in the exact same place,

Thinking the same thoughts,

Feeling the same frustrations.

Nothing changes.

Sure,

It's easy to blame outside circumstances,

Other people,

Your situation.

But let's be honest.

It's always an inside job.

That's what people like David Goggins,

Who faced unimaginable challenges,

Understand so well.

Success isn't about avoiding that friction.

It's about running straight into it.

And let me tell you about friction.

It's not convenient.

You know what it feels like?

Waking up when you just want to keep sleeping.

Choosing hard conversations over silence.

Studying when you'd rather watch Netflix.

That's the kind of friction that shapes you.

David Goggins calls it staying hard.

Facing that inner resistance head-on until it becomes second nature.

But nobody wants to talk about that part,

Do they?

Everyone loves the highlight reel of achievement.

The applause,

The medals,

The big wins.

What we don't see enough is the work behind it.

The long,

Lonely hours people spend repeating tasks over and over until they master them.

And honestly,

Even if we did see it,

Most people wouldn't want to do it.

Because it's just not glamorous.

It's not Instagrammable.

Which is why it's rare.

Which is why it's powerful.

Let's pause here and connect this with what you're going through.

Where in your life are you avoiding the friction?

Where in your life are you settling for the easy route?

Be brutally honest.

Because here's the thing.

Nobody else can do this reflection for you.

And maybe you're thinking,

Okay I get it.

Friction is good but where do I even start?

That's fair.

Because I used to think the same way.

The secret is this.

Start by failing.

Yes,

Failing.

Stay with me here.

Nobody teaches us how to fail properly.

Schools teach us how to solve problems but they don't really prepare us for when things don't work out.

And life?

Life is full of things not working out.

But failing,

As uncomfortable as it is,

Is nothing more than feedback.

It's information saying,

Okay this didn't work,

Adjust,

Try again.

Take JK Rowling.

Now you know her as the author of Harry Potter but let's rewind.

Before her success she was a single mum,

Living on welfare,

Facing rejection after rejection from publishers.

And yet she kept going.

When she failed she didn't stop.

She adjusted.

She learned.

She course corrected.

And that's the thing about failure.

It's not final unless you let it be.

It's a practice.

A daily discipline.

Just like learning to play an instrument or training for a marathon.

You get good at failing.

You get comfortable in the discomfort.

I'll give you another quick example.

Thomas Edison.

The guy who practically gave us light.

Think about this.

He didn't invent the light bulb in one stroke of genius.

It took him over a thousand failures.

A thousand.

Edison famously said,

I didn't fail 1,

000 times.

The light bulb was an invention with 1,

000 steps.

Imagine how much patience that required.

How much resilience.

Most people would have quit after 10 tries,

Maybe 20.

But not him.

Why?

Because he trusted the process.

And most importantly he trusted himself.

And that's the thing,

Right?

Failing properly means trusting that those missteps,

Those uncomfortable moments of friction,

Are part of the process.

They're not signs to stop.

They're signs to keep going.

Now here's where it gets interesting.

The more you practice failing well,

The less afraid you become of it.

And the wider your world opens up,

Doors you didn't even know were there start materialising.

Because you're willing to step into the unknown.

You're willing to take the risk.

But let's zoom out for a second.

It's not just about failing properly.

It's about showing up for yourself.

It's about asking that second voice to step in and reframe the negativity.

To remind you of why you're doing the work,

Even when it feels unbearable.

And let's not glaze over this.

It is unbearable at first.

The discomfort of waking up earlier,

Training harder,

Working longer.

It feels like you're dragging yourself through the mud.

But eventually,

And this is the magic,

It becomes normal.

The discomfort becomes part of you.

That's when you realise something.

You're not who you were when you started.

You've grown mentally,

Emotionally and yes,

Even physically.

All because you stopped avoiding the hard stuff.

It's the moment you realise the shift wasn't just physical or about how hard you worked.

It was mental,

Emotional and something deeper.

But here's the thing.

This process doesn't end.

You don't hit some magical finish line where you get to dust your hands off and say,

Alright,

I'm done,

I've made it.

That's not how life works and honestly,

It shouldn't be.

Let's talk about something most people avoid.

Maintenance.

Not the kind where you're fixing your car or cleaning your fridge.

I'm talking about the maintenance of you.

You don't build confidence,

Resilience or purpose and then lock it in forever.

These things,

They fade unless you keep working on them.

It's like building muscle.

If you don't keep showing up for the gym,

The gains don't stick around.

The same applies to your mindset,

Your willpower,

Your discipline.

Here's an example for you.

Everyone knows about athletes who rise to dominance,

Who become absolute legends in their sport,

Only to fade into mediocrity when the hunger disappears.

It's not because they lost their talent or ability.

The same skills are still in their body.

But they stopped doing the work that gave them their edge.

The daily rituals,

The discipline,

The friction.

It stopped.

And once you stop,

That's when it all starts to slip away.

This is where most people miss the point.

They think,

If I just hit this goal or get that promotion or earn this amount of money,

Then I'll stop.

I'll finally relax.

And you know what happens?

They feel empty,

Lost.

Like they didn't think far enough ahead beyond that moment.

Because growth,

Real growth,

Isn't a one-time thing.

It's ongoing.

It's showing up day after day,

Not because anyone's watching,

Not because you're chasing applause,

But because it's the only way to stay sharp,

To stay alive.

Think about David Goggins again for a second.

You might look at him and think,

Man,

This guy's done it all.

Navy SEAL,

Ultra marathon runner,

Record holder,

The whole deal.

So why is he still waking up at 2 a.

M.

To train,

Still pushing the limits,

When he could just kick back and enjoy the ride?

It's simple.

The work is what keeps him grounded.

He knows probably better than anyone that all those accomplishments don't mean a thing if he stops maintaining what got him there in the first place.

His willpower is a perishable skill and every day he chooses to sharpen it.

Not because he has to,

But because it's who he is.

And let's not get this twisted.

Maintenance doesn't mean perfection.

It doesn't mean getting it right every single time.

You're going to have days where it feels harder than usual.

Days where the work feels like too much.

Where you don't feel like showing up.

And you don't.

That's okay.

Because the point isn't about never failing.

The point is about making the choice to come back after you stumble.

To reset,

To recalibrate,

And to keep going.

So let's go deeper.

How do you actually maintain this?

How do you keep your edge sharp without burning out?

Here's where introspection comes in.

This isn't the sexy part.

Nobody posts Instagram stories about introspection.

But let me tell you,

It's some of the most important work you'll ever do.

You have to check in with yourself.

Regularly.

You have to open up those cupboards.

You know,

The ones full of all the things you'd rather ignore.

The fears,

The doubts,

The past mistakes.

That's your starting point.

Because if you're scared to look at those things,

If you don't address them,

They'll run the show without you even realizing it.

You ever wake up in a funk and think,

Why do I feel like this?

Nine times out of ten it's because there's something in the back of your mind you haven't dealt with.

Maybe it's that project you're procrastinating on.

Maybe it's the fight you had with someone you care about.

Maybe it's a fear you've been carrying since childhood.

Whatever it is,

You can't move forward until you call it out,

Name it,

And start working through it.

And here's a story to bring that home.

Carl Jung,

The famous psychiatrist,

Talked a lot about something he called the shadow.

It's this concept that we all have parts of ourselves we suppress.

The things we're ashamed of.

The things we fear.

But here's the kicker.

Jung believed that ignoring that shadow doesn't make it go away.

It makes it stronger.

The only way to truly grow,

He said,

Is to confront it.

To deal with those dusty cupboards and the things hiding inside,

Instead of pretending they're not there.

Now this isn't easy.

It's not supposed to be.

But when you sit with yourself,

When you're brutally honest about what's holding you back,

Something incredible starts to happen.

You stop being scared of your own mind.

You realize that those fears,

Those insecurities,

They're just thoughts.

They don't own you.

You own them.

And when you take control,

That's when you unlock something powerful.

Clarity.

With clarity comes action.

And action is where the magic happens.

Let's zoom out and look at this as a whole.

You're doing two things simultaneously.

You're facing your inner dialogue,

Head-on,

Turning those negative voices into productive ones.

And you're backing it up with consistent action.

The kind that builds resilience,

Self-confidence,

And long-term growth.

And remember,

Action doesn't have to be grand.

It's not about taking some massive leap every single time.

It's about the smaller daily steps.

Showing up to the gym,

Even when you'd rather sleep in.

Writing that one page a day,

Even if you're not inspired.

Having that tough conversation,

Even though it's uncomfortable.

None of these actions feel like a big deal in the moment.

But over time they stack up.

They become the foundation of who you are and what you're capable of.

Take Edison again.

Remember,

For him,

It wasn't about inventing the lightbulb in one go.

It was the 1,

000 failed attempts that made it possible.

Each failure was a step forward.

Each misstep was a clue.

A piece of the bigger puzzle.

Your life works the same way.

Success isn't a straight line.

It's a messy,

Looping,

Imperfect journey filled with successes,

Setbacks,

And everything in between.

And if there's one thing I want you to take away,

It's this.

Everything you need is already inside you.

I know that sounds like some motivational cliche,

But hear me out.

You already have what it takes to create the life you want.

The courage,

The resilience,

The blueprint.

It's all there.

But here's the thing.

You've got to dig deep.

You have to stop looking for outside validation or permission.

Stop waiting for the perfect moment or the ideal conditions.

They don't exist.

What exists is this moment,

Right now.

And the choice you make in this moment is what creates your future.

If you're feeling stuck,

If you're feeling like you don't know where to start,

Let me remind you of something important.

Start anywhere.

Start small.

Start messy.

Just start.

Because the voice is in your head saying,

You won't make it.

They lose their power the second you take action.

Whether you're studying,

Training,

Building a business,

Or just trying to figure out what's next,

The rules are the same.

Face the friction.

Lean into the discomfort.

And most importantly,

Show up.

Show up for yourself again and again until it becomes who you are.

You've got this,

And I mean that.

But don't take my word for it.

Prove it to yourself.

And when you do,

When you look back,

Even months from now,

At how far you've come,

You'll realise the secret was never in the inspiration.

It was in the work.

It was in you.

If you enjoyed today's talk,

I believe that you would love our top-rated courses here on Insight Timer.

Over 4,

000 students already went through our courses,

And the responses are amazing.

Our goal here at Healing Waves is to help you on your transformation journey by combining ancient wisdom with modern science.

Thank you for being with me today.

I appreciate you,

And I hope to see you again soon.

Reviews

Helpful! Thank you!