Hello,
Lovable being.
And welcome to this new video of our ADHD brain.
Eerie Today we are going to talk about a topic that is dear to my heart.
Unfortunately,
We choose rejection-sensitive dysphoria.
Let me give you an example.
Has anyone ever.
.
.
Waited like quite some time before answering a text of yours.
And you immediately assumed that.
.
.
That there was a problem,
That they were just like upset with you.
You know,
Like if someone.
.
.
Will not answer a text or if someone will cancel a plan on you.
Or just if someone like I don't know,
Pause a neutral pace instead of smiling at you.
Then your brain goes like.
.
.
I'm not good enough.
They're upset with me.
I don't know,
Like,
This is the end of our relationship.
Or I'm not worth it,
I messed up,
I'm too intense,
Whatever you think.
It's probably that you did something wrong.
You will interpret this.
For example,
Gap in answering a text as a rejection which will feel extremely hard for you.
Well,
This is Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria.
It's like if your brain has a very intense way of emotionally processing the possibility of rejection or criticism.
Or disappointment.
And the thing of the matter,
The fact of the matter is that This is also kind of a vicious circle because as you have.
As in ADHD brain,
A difficulty to regulate your emotions.
It's even harder if you have this rejection-sensitive dysphoria because you will kind of.
.
.
Fuel by reacting very intensely,
The fact that people may actually be a little bit tired around you because you're so intense,
You know,
And then it just keeps going like that and like that and like that.
So it's very important to try and regulate.
Very hard for an ADHD brain.
But there are tools.
There are tools to try and also work on the extreme sensitivity to rejection.
Sometimes the rejection can be real,
But sometimes the rejection can also be completely imagined and it has nothing to do with you.
It's just a person living their life and oh,
They just can't make it today.
It has nothing to do with you.
So I will give you one tool.
If you ever feel rejected,
Then what you can wonder before reacting in order to respond What you can think about is like,
Okay,
What are the facts that I know?
Rely on the facts.
So for example,
Instead of theorising what is happening,
With the other one,
Just put down the facts.
You can write them on a piece of paper and see,
Okay.
The situation is that,
That,
That,
That.
And then if you actually have it in front of your eyes,
You may see that you don't know what the other may think actually,
But the information,
The actual fact that you have within your hands may help you take perspective and think that there's potentially nothing personal about it.
Another tool,
Obviously,
Is mindfulness.
Mindfulness will help you actually respond versus react.
That is to say it will help you be in between this moment of reaction,
Which is emotional,
Versus responding,
Which is rational.
And for an ADHD brain,
You are very likely to always react with your emotions versus respond with your rational brain.
And mindfulness will give you that little perspective that you need to be able to do that.
Noticing.
Take a little step back.
Look at the situation.
I hope that this video helped you.
You are obviously invited to maybe take a course that I designed for you.
As well as some other meditations that are available and videos about ADHD.
I wish you a beautiful way to your ADHD day and have a lovely day.
