The easiest way to destroy someone's self-trust is to constantly correct them.
Someone correcting you on how you're doing things like how you fold laundry or how you cut vegetables or your posture and the way you sit.
All of these corrections may seem small and even sometimes helpful from the outside looking in.
What this does consistently is tell your brain that there's something wrong with you and something needs to be fixed.
I never recommend anyone staying in a situation where their actions are under a microscope and they are consistently in positions where people are questioning the way they are doing things.
And on the other hand,
A great way that you can increase your self-trust is by showing up for yourself and by being responsive to your needs.
For example,
If you're cold,
Be responsive for yourself by going to get a blanket.
If your feet are cold,
Put on socks.
If you need to go to the bathroom,
Don't wait 30 minutes to an hour.
When you feel the need to go,
Get up and go.
When you're responsive to your needs,
It tells parts of your brain that your needs are important and they are worth being met and it creates safety psychologically in your own self where honestly you stop relying on the outside world so much in order to create safety for you.
Once I left environments that were destructively critical to me and became more aware of my own needs,
My complete life changed.
I feel so much safer even if the world around me is falling apart because I know no matter what that I will show up for myself every day.
And I also know that the unique way that I do things are just part of me and my personality.
And we do not all have to do things the same way.
These two things may seem small,
But from first-hand experience,
I can tell you,
Making small changes can change your life.
