How many times have you had a plan to do something for yourself,
But then someone else mentioned something that seemed more fun,
So you dropped what you had planned and went with their plan instead?
Same.
I've done this my whole life,
And honestly,
I never thought much about it.
But what I'm starting to realize is that this is a way that we abandon ourselves that rides under the radar.
For example,
I might have a plan to go get my nails done one day,
But then someone mentions going to the pool,
And suddenly,
I'm at the pool,
Nails forgotten.
On the surface,
It seems harmless and even fun.
We just want to hang out with others and be together.
But there's the hidden cost.
In those moments,
We're abandoning ourselves for someone else.
Now,
Of course,
I'm not saying we should be so rigid with our plans that we can never be flexible.
What I'm talking about is the pattern that we fall into most of the time—the 90% of our choices.
That's what really shapes the relationship we have with ourselves.
Lately,
I've started paying attention to this.
Instead of dropping my own plans just to follow along with someone else,
I make sure to do what I had planned for myself first.
And what's wild is that following through,
Even with the small things,
Builds so much self-trust.
You can also think about it this way.
What if someone promised to meet you at the nail salon,
But then at the last minute,
They didn't show up because they found something else more fun to do?
You'd probably feel hurt or disappointed,
Right?
Maybe even a little disrespected.
And yet,
We do that exact thing to ourselves all of the time.
So much of practicing self-trust comes down to this—keeping our own word to ourselves and treating ourselves with the same respect we'd offer anyone else.
That simple,
Consistent practice builds a strong foundation of trust within,
And that trust changes everything.
