Hello and welcome.
Today I invite you to take some time to honor yourself during this busy time of the year.
During this brief time together I will repeat some affirmations for you.
Some gentle reminders that you and your needs are deserving of care and attention every day of the year.
Christmas holiday can be a very emotionally intense period for many of us and if you have people pleasing tendencies and habits this period can be particularly draining for you.
In fact being with family and friends can be very warm and very positive but also very overwhelming and can be quite triggering at times for some of us.
If you are a people pleaser you might have learned early on that in order to feel safe you need to make sure everyone is happy except for you.
You might have learned that in order to feel safe you need to avoid conflict at all cost.
You might have learned that disappointing people it's bad and you want to be good and you want to be loved,
Safe and protected.
You might have learned that others needs and wants are more important than yours.
You might have learned that in order to feel safe it's best to hide some desires,
Wishes and at time it's best to hide your authentic self completely.
So if you are working on healing the cycle here are some affirmation for you.
You can repeat in your head or out loud and I invite you to hold a warm and comfortable position towards yourself.
Perhaps you can position your hands on your heart and you can have your hands crossed on your shoulder like simulating a hug to yourself and please feel free to move your body gently if it feels soothing and right for you.
Here are the affirmations.
I am capable of tolerating others disappointment.
I am entitled to have different opinions.
I release the need to manage other people's emotions.
My needs matter to you and I'm allowed to honour them.
I'm not responsible for how others react.
I'm allowed to not fix and not mediate others people conflicts.
I let go of the need to feel full approval from others.
I can accept that others might not understand my boundaries and I feel brave and uncomfortable when I'm able to say what I really think.
I embrace the vulnerability that I feel when I vocalize my need.
I'm gonna repeat them another time.
I embrace the vulnerability that I feel when I vocalize my need.
I feel brave and uncomfortable when I'm able to say what I really think.
I can accept that others might not understand my boundaries and I let go of the need to feel full approval from others.
I'm allowed to not fix and not mediate other people's conflict.
I'm not responsible for how others react.
My needs matter to you and I'm allowed to honour them.
I release the need to manage other people's emotions.
I am entitled to have different opinions and I'm capable of tolerating other's disappointment.
I hope this practice can support your journey on assertiveness and authenticity during this Christmas holidays.
Do not hesitate to return to affirmations every time you need it.
Remember that soothing yourself instead of letting your automatic negative thoughts and brain operating is always a good idea.
You will find some more meditation from Pleasing Habits on my profile.
And for the moment,
Thank you for joining today and well done for taking care of yourself and taking some time to remind yourself of your worth.
