Today we're talking about a deeply important topic,
Honoring our exiled parts.
We all have parts of ourselves that we've pushed away,
Whether out of fear,
Pain,
Or shame.
But these exiled parts hold stories,
Emotions,
And wisdom that are essential to our healing.
Today we're going to explore how we can welcome them back with compassion.
Before I do that,
I want to share a personal story with you.
There was a time in my life,
And I still have to be aware,
And sometimes it's a struggle.
You've heard me share that some here,
But with feelings of unworthiness.
No matter what I accomplish,
Particularly in the past,
There was a voice inside me that said,
It's not enough.
You're not enough.
It's never going to be enough.
And I've tried to push it away,
To silence it,
But the more I've ignored it,
The louder it becomes.
And so,
Honestly,
Within the last five years or so,
Instead of rejecting this voice,
And I hope that's an encouragement to some of you who may be trying to grow,
But are struggling.
We all are.
But yeah,
I decided to listen more and to ask questions like,
What do you need?
And what I discovered changed how I operate and allows me to still have setbacks,
But to continue to grow because this voice isn't my enemy.
It's a younger part of me carrying old wounds,
Longing for reassurance and love.
And by acknowledging and welcoming it,
I've found a deeper sense of inner peace.
And sometimes it's just me integrating small intentional practices to honor this part of myself,
Like pausing throughout the day to check in,
Speaking words of kindness and allowing myself to rest without guilt or being aware of that part that may put on some guilt and let it know that it belongs too,
But we need to rest.
And this little one inside of me needs to be loved.
And I've noticed a shift over time.
That once critical voice softened and I can meet this younger one with more understanding and grace.
I invite you to take a moment to turn inward.
Pause this recording if you need to,
But find a quiet space where you can be present with yourself.
Or if you're out on a walk or driving,
Come back to this section where you can pause.
Go ahead and listen to it for now.
And ask yourself,
Which parts of me still feel exiled or neglected?
And actually walking and driving may be a good place for this.
Just,
Yeah,
Don't go to sleep if you're driving.
Yeah,
Which parts of me still feel exiled or neglected?
How can I honor and welcome these parts back into my system?
What do these parts need from me right now?
You don't have to have all the answers right now or today.
Maybe ever.
Just beginning the conversation with yourself is a powerful step toward healing.
Try noticing whatever emotions arise without judgment.
Just observing and acknowledging their presence.
And if this resonates with you,
Here are a few ways to engage your exiled parts.
Journaling.
Write a letter to an exiled part of yourself.
Let it know you're ready to listen.
And if it's helpful,
Too,
I have never been able to be consistent with journaling,
But I'm finding now if I can just sit down and notice my parts,
Write them down,
Not have to make sense of it,
Hold journaling loosely,
I've been able to do it more consistently.
Meditation.
Visualize yourself in a safe space,
Welcoming these parts home with warmth and acceptance.
Sometimes words aren't enough,
So experiment.
Draw,
Dance,
Or use music to communicate what your parts are saying or with these parts of yourself.
And speaking with gentleness and compassion,
Just like you would a dear friend,
Offering words of kindness and reassurance.
And if you feel comfortable and if you feel like you're ready,
Working with a professional can offer deeper insight and guidance in this process.
Healing is not about fixing yourself.
It's about becoming whole by embracing every part of who you are.
Your exiled parts are not burdens.
They're pieces of your story,
Of my story,
That deserve to be heard and loved.
When you extend compassion to these parts,
You and I reclaim our full authentic self.
Thanks so much for your courage and joining me here and yeah,
So grateful for you and that we're on this path together.
Take care.
