Stop People Pleasing: EFT Tapping For Boundaries

This guided EFT tapping meditation is for anyone caught in people pleasing, the fear of saying no, or the habit of putting everyone else first.

Using the Emotional Freedom Technique (tapping), you'll gently release the guilt, anxiety, and need for approval that keep you shrinking yourself to keep others comfortable. Through soothing tapping rounds and a calming visualisation, you'll soften the fear of disappointing people, settle your nervous system, and reconnect with your own needs, your voice, and your right to take up space.

Whether you struggle with boundaries, self-worth, or emotional overwhelm from always saying yes, this practice will help you feel calmer, lighter, and more at home in yourself.

Please note: EFT Tapping is a complementary practice and is not a substitute for professional medical or mental health support. By tapping along, you agree to take full responsibility for your own health and wellbeing.

Transcript

Welcome to this people-pleasing EFT tapping session. So if you find yourself saying yes to things when you mean no, Or you're always trying to keep the peace, Or you're putting everyone else's needs first, Then this one is for you. All right, So get yourself nice and comfortable where you're sitting, Let your shoulders drop. Soften through the tummy. And let's take a grounding breath together. So breathing in through the nose, And then nice and slowly out through the mouth. And then tapping on the side of the hand, Repeating after me either in your mind or out loud. Feel free to switch up any words if they don't quite feel right as well. Even though I'm always putting everyone else first. And somewhere along the way I've lost myself in that. I'm here now and I choose to be gentle with myself. Even though saying no feels a bit scary. And I really worry about people's reactions and what they'll think of me. I honour all these fears and worries coming up with compassion. Even though I've been shrinking myself just to keep other people comfortable. And I felt really frustrated with myself. And maybe others. I choose to deeply and completely love, Honour and accept myself. Tapping on the eyebrow points. This need to keep everyone happy. Side of the eye. It's exhausting and yet I keep on doing it. Under the eye, I say yes before I've even had a chance to think. Under the nose and it happens so fast, Almost automatically. Chin points. Like somewhere deep down I believe that if I don't keep everyone happy something bad will happen. Collarbone points. Maybe I'll be rejected. Maybe they'll be angry with me. Maybe they won't like me anymore. So as we tap here on the collarbone, Just think about what is your version of this fear. What do you believe will happen if you disappoint someone? If you don't go out of your way to make everyone happy. What might happen. So just let that surface without any judgements. Keep tapping and breathing. Well done, Moving to under the arm. So if I keep saying yes. . . I keep showing up for everyone. Top of the head. Even when I'm running on empty. Back to the eyebrow points and I've been doing this for such a long time. Side of the eye, Maybe since I was really small. Under the eye. Maybe keeping the peace. Just felt easier back then. Under the nose. Maybe being agreeable kept things calmer. Chin points or kept me feeling accepted or loved. Collarbone and so I learned to keep myself small. To put my needs last. Always at the bottom of the list. Under the arm and maybe that little version of me was just doing what they needed to do. Top of the head and I honour them for that. Thank you to that part of me for showing up. And trying to keep things calm. Thank you. Okay, Let's take a breath here before we continue tapping in through the nose. And out through the mouth Well done. They're doing really well. So back to the eyebrow points. Maybe this old default people pleasing. Can change. Side of the eye. What if I'm allowed to please and care for me? You are, You know. Under the eye because my needs matter too. Under the nose and I'm safe to take up space. To stand in my power. Chin points. I'm allowed to have boundaries. Collarbone point. A gentle no is not abandonment. It's self-care and respect. Under the arm. The right people will still love me when I'm honest about what I need. So let's say that one again. The right people will still love me. When I'm honest about what I need. Top of the head. I don't have to earn my place in people's lives. Back to the eyebrow points. What if disappointing someone occasionally? Is actually okay. Side of the eye. I can breathe through any discomfort that comes up. And I can tap if I need to. Under the eye, I'm learning gently and slowly. That I don't have to carry everyone else's feelings. Under the nose. And that's a lot to have been holding. Just recognize that, All that micromanaging everyone else's feelings, Expectations. Chin point, It's okay to put that down now. Softly and safely. Collarbone points. I choose to put down all that I've been carrying. So as we tap here you might like to just close your eyes for a moment as we tune in and I'd like you to imagine that you're literally carrying on your shoulders right now a heavy backpack or rucksack filled up with all those expectations and emotions that you've been holding. Thinking about perhaps all those yeses that should have been nos. Or the times that you kept smiling even though you were really hurting inside. All the opinions that you swallowed to keep the peace. And all the needs you pushed aside because someone else is felt somehow more important or more urgent. All those sorries and apologies that you gave when you'd done nothing wrong. And the version of you that made yourself smaller so that others could feel bigger. So put it all in that backpack and maybe you've been carrying all this stuff for years, Maybe decades, Just notice the weight of that on your shoulders. And maybe you didn't even realise how heavy that had become. So feel the weight of it on your shoulders, Across your chest. In your body, How hard it is to carry this weight. So now what we're going to do really gently and with great kindness and a sense of friendliness towards ourselves. Is just slip it off of your shoulders okay. So slip it off of your shoulders, Imagine yourself doing that now and set it down really softly in front of you with only pure love and care for yourself. You don't have to throw it away or do anything with it, Just set it down. So take it off. Set it down. And then notice how that feels in your body. So maybe there's a little more space, A little more room to breathe. So roll your shoulders back. Let's really open up some room in the chest and we'll take a breath in. So breathing in through the nose. And when you sigh out, We're going to sigh out on the exhale. Like that sense of relief. Is set down. Well done. Eyes open, Back to tapping under the arms. I'm allowed to travel a little lighter. Top of the head. I don't have to carry it all anymore. I can be loving and still have limits. Back to the eyebrow point. I give myself permission to pause before I answer. Side of the eye. To check in with myself. Under the eye. My yes means so much more when it's genuine. Not forced. Under the nose and my no is an act of self-love. Chin points. I'm learning to trust my own voice. So you might like to repeat the next couple of affirmations out loud. Collarbone points, I'm allowed to matter in my own life. Under the arm. I release the old belief that I must earn love through compliance. Top of the head. I am enough, Exactly as I am. Without performing. Without shrinking. Without pretending. I am enough. Okay well done, Stop tapping there, Place your hands on your heart centre, Take a nice big breath in. And slowly release when you're ready. Have a little stretch if you need to. Amazing, Well done. So you showed up for yourself today and that really means something because you said yes to yourself. So every time that you honour your own needs and you please and care for yourself, You're gently rewriting that old story. So let your heart be pleased. Instead of calling ourselves people pleasers, Let's call ourselves heart pleasers instead. Thank you so much for tapping with me today. Take care.