Redefine Expectations

‘I’m not in this world to live up to your expectations and you’re not in this world to live up to mine.’ — Bruce Lee | Expectations can come from others or from your own self. If you don’t reach your own expectations, you can feel like a failure. Learning from our failures, however, can be a beautiful experience. Learn to accept yourself. Accept your strengths. Just like a phoenix must burn only to emerge again, we might need to fail to achieve success in life.

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Hi beautiful souls,

This is Shriman Joo from Life is Magical podcast.

Welcome to another podcast and in this one I'm going to read a chapter from my book Connect Your Inner Guide.

If you're looking to get one,

Definitely available on Amazon Kindle or you can get it on my website or if I see you in person you can get a copy of my book here.

So the chapter today I'm going to read is Expectations.

I just intuitively took this chapter to see what is going to come through.

I always use my book as an intuitive or a divination tool to guide me what message I need to hear today.

So expectations.

I'm not in this world to live up to your expectations.

You're not in this world to live up to mine as Bruce Lee says.

Expectations can come from others or from your own self.

If you don't reach your own expectations,

You can feel like a failure.

Learning from our failures,

However,

Can be a beautiful experience.

Learn to accept yourself,

Accept your strengths,

Just like a phoenix must burn only to emerge again.

We might need to fail to achieve success in life.

Failures,

What is a failure?

Is it you who is defining the failure or the situation that is defining the failure for you?

Have you failed on your targets?

If so,

Think.

Are you expecting too much from yourself?

Is it the pressure of other's success?

And why are you tagging you as a failure?

For me,

Failure is a way to success and a better result.

I miss something in the past only to get better in the future.

But then I may not have realized this,

But I do now.

Take some time with these questions and be honest with yourself as you answer them.

There is no rush.

And while some of the answers may be immediate,

Others might take an hour,

Day,

Or even a week to pop up.

But you will know when they appear.

I was tagged as a failure because I couldn't become a doctor.

I didn't score well enough to be successful in medicine,

But I had a long desire to serve people.

Now being in the holistic world and working with clients on their emotions and physical challenges,

I no longer classify myself a failure for not becoming a doctor.

I see myself on the stepping ladder to my soul's goals and on my way to achieving what I'm meant to be and will be.

And with that,

If someone says I'm a failure,

That's not my truth because I have validated what my truth is and I have taken up away someone else's narrative of what a failure is towards me and I'm taking that power to myself.

So as for you,

If someone has said you're a failure,

Think about it.

Why have they said and what have you not achieved as per them or have they not achieved that in their life that they are trying to mirror reflect with you?

But I couldn't have been so positive about it 20 years ago.

I was sad and I happy.

It took me a long time to accept what my purpose was.

Everyone around me defined me as a failure at the time only because I let it happen.

I gave them the permission.

I gave my power away so everyone else could step into my bubble and define who I was rather than who I'm meant to be or become or in the process of becoming.

Being constructive and taking time to see the positive side is what I should have done at the time.

But only if I knew how to do it or someone gave me a guidance,

I would have definitely done that.

Time to celebrate.

Celebrate your failure so you can enjoy your success even more.

Take it as an opportunity to learn from the procrastination of the past and adjust how you do things moving forward.

What our current state of mind wants may not happen but what your higher state defined might.

Never give up reaching for the stars.

You deserve the best.

Yes you do.

I fell apart many times so.

What does that say about me besides I live through wars?

Na ya wahid.

Here is an experience healing tip for us all.

Following are a few tools that helped me in learning this process.

Try it out at your own space and see how you feel the shift.

As you shower,

Imagine all your stress,

Worries,

Tensions being washed away like dirt.

Imagine all the situations that are not in alignment being washed away from the mind and from your auric field as well.

Let it all flow down the pipes.

Wash away all the negative energies and unwanted energies.

Fill in the space with the white light of purification.

It is beautiful,

Easy to do technique every single day.

Writing down helped me to release rather clogged up myself in suffocation.

Writing plan B helps too.

This helps in having high hopes reduced anxiety and stress levels as well.

The analytical brain calms down when you have something else lined up.

You're giving the universe permission to offer you the best.

Giving yourself time to chill with music,

Dance,

Zumba classes,

Nature,

Walk or simply winding down with a good book and your favorite drink.

These are the ways yet you're nurturing yourself.

Look at your heroes or the role models.

Have they not failed in their lives?

Were they the best in everything they did?

No,

Of course not,

Right?

They are like us and only excelled in their path that was meant for them.

So don't be hard on yourself and don't have high expectations.

Have a manageable bar that you achieve with pride.

That is all that matters at the end of the day.

You have a choice each and every single day.

I chose to feel blessed.

I chose to feel grateful.

I chose to be excited.

I chose to be thankful.

I chose to be happy by Amber Housley.

Unrealistic expectations.

We do keep unrealistic expectations from time to time to gain approval of someone in our lives.

I could be for love or parents or society.

We start believing this is the way,

Only way we can keep them happy.

Just like I thought if only I could have become a doctor,

My parents would have been happy and proud about me.

And as a result,

I pushed myself far more than I could have dealt with at the time.

Love yourself for who you are.

Take the mask off and show the real you to the world.

You are beautiful inside out.

Expectations are never permanent and you are though.

That's the most important thing to remember.

And by that,

Like you know,

You're stepping in,

Stepping up and you're coming out and shining and give it a chance.

You can do it.

Only you can by stepping up,

Stepping out,

Come out and shine.

So here is another tip.

Sit quietly and write what you always wanted to become,

To do as a child.

Trust all of them with no judgments and check how far you are achieving them.

Have you started or not?

And now is the time to begin because now is the time that you're connecting to yourself.

With that,

Set your own expectations and work on your own self and that is the key to your happiness,

Key to your success.

And you are defining your success by your own words and by your own limitations,

By your own gifts,

By your own strengths,

By knowing yourself because no one else can know better than you and nobody else will ever know better than you because you are a living soul within yourself so you know what your possibilities are,

You know your strengths.

Someone triggers you,

You have a shield to protect yourself.

Hope that gave you some peace and connection to your own expectations and expectation from others.

Connect to you.

Before you think about any negative thoughts,

Ask where is it coming from?

Is it true?

Has it ever happened?

And do you really say that to yourself if you are being taught these terminologies?

So with that,

Good luck with your future,

Good luck with your present and take care of yourself,

Charge up your lights and listen to your heart.

Thank you for listening to this beautiful Life is Magical podcast and as always thank you for supporting me with your love and sharing up and sending me messages.

Please do leave a review or a comment so others can find me and these little nuggets of joy.

Thank you and lots of love.

Namaste.

Loka samasta suki no baantu.