#197 How "Negative" Emotions Can Help With Depression

This audio is a recording from the LIVE weekly broadcast Soul Infused Monday. Today's episode is about how so called "negative emotions" can actually HELP to get you out of depression. Tune in and share your biggest take away!

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Welcome to today's episode on the Soul Infused Monday show called How So-Called Negative Emotions Can Actually Help with Depression. Now before I dive into that topic, The topic for today is really food for thought because how we often address depression, Not necessarily but conventional. I want to give a disclaimer. If you're currently experiencing depression and it might maybe trigger something, Be aware that you are 100% responsible. I am not a physician, A doctor, A medical doctor, I'm an energy healer. Everything I share with you comes off my own experience with depression having worked with hundreds of people over the last 15 years. My approach comes from a perspective of energy healing, Emotional healing, Mental healing. If you're currently in a depression and you want to maybe adopt any of my suggestions and you are currently in treatment, Ask your physician, Ask your doctor, Whatever you do. You are 100% responsible. I am not responsible for anything you are going to experience on the suggestions that I might give to you. This is a given, I always say that, But just to put it really out there, I've been struggling with depression for most of my life in the past, Way worse. I revisit it this year. It came up for me, So I am even more passionate and inspired to help you if this is something that you're experiencing. You might not really suffer from depression, So to say right now, But maybe you're struggling with something else. You can use this either way and or maybe you know someone that is going through a challenging or depressive state in her or his life and you might want to help them. So having said that, Hi Darlene, Made it too. Amy made it fantastic and Laura is saying, It was extremely powerful for me and the gift ceiling continued for days to follow. That's about the group tapping. Thank you, Laura, For saying that and looking forward to having you again and Tina as well and Lynn as well. It was amazing, Darlene as well. So if you feel inspired, Join the group tapping. Depression. All right. So also this can help you. What I'm sharing with you today is helping me. It has helped me, Has helped other people. Now you might have to do more deeper work with that. So and what's often the case when we are depressed. Now depression shows up in different ways, But very common denominators on feelings is lack of motivation, Lack of energy, Extreme sadness, Grief, But also often a feeling of helplessness, Hopelessness and even though you know that you should be active or you should do something different, You just don't get yourself up and you feel this nagging feeling of disempowerment. Does that resonate with you? Whether you are experiencing depression right now or whether you experienced depression in some time in the past, How do you experience that? Can you relate to that? It's a feeling of very low state of being emotionally, Mentally, And the thoughts are sometimes terrible and we often feel alone with it and there's also a lot of shame. Does this apply to you? So that's my experience in a nutshell. Of course I can only scratch the surface here today. Now when we are in such a low state of energy or an emotional state, We wish sometimes that we'd feel different, Right? You might want to feel happy, You want to feel joyful, You want to feel active again, You want to be happy, You want all of these things, But you are not there. You're completely in the mud. Let's call it you are in the mud. It's called depression, Head is in the mud, Everything looks dark, You feel like there's no way out. That's in the darkest moments. There are transitions between that or layers, But let's call that's there. Now what we often want to do is we want to go right away to joy, Happiness, And because we cannot go there, We feel even worse. Now when I say how so-called negative emotion can help, Why I put those so-called into those meaning, I don't even know the English word for those meaning, Is because I don't believe they're negative. Everything is valid and has its place when it comes to emotions. Everything is an experience and everything has an energy. Now let's use anger as an example. Often anger is related to a negative energy or emotion or resentment or blame. Okay. And I want to be very clear. Blame, Resentment, Anger is not an emotion that you want to stay stuck with. It's not the end goal. But here is how you can use certain energies, Emotions to help you to get out of the mud. Now here's why, Stay with me. Okay. When you're saying, Okay, Oh well, Anger is not good. I don't want to blame anyone. I don't want to resent anyone. If you followed me for a long time, You know, I'm not saying that at all because you are responsible. Blaming and being resentful is giving you power away. However, When you are in a super depressed state, You are so disempowered. You are in no shape or form to do anything really positive many times. Now from an energetic vibrancy scale or level of frequency, Depression is one of the lowest, Lowest, Lowest, Lowest. So you are on the lowest scale. Now you want to go up. You are not, Can often not just jump up. You want to go up gradually. Okay. And you want to use whatever you have available, Even if it's a so-called negative emotion. Anger, For example, Is a powerful energy. Anger is necessary to move sometimes. Anger comes up when you have friction. Now I've learned many, Many, Many, Many years ago, Maybe even decades ago, That often, No matter, Nearly every time, But I won't say always because we don't know, But a depressed person is an angry person. Okay. But the anger is unresolved, Is stuck. Now you can use those energies to get you out of that lethargic, Totally low vibration first to get out of the mud first. To use that and look, Okay, Use something like anger, Resentment, Even blame. And I tell you, Like, I'm not for blame. You only use it consciously as transition. That still better, It feels more powerful than the depressed feeling underneath. Does that make any sense so far? Give me some feedback. Does I want to convey this in the best possible way and also in the most conscious way so that you understand, I'm not telling you, Oh, Go out and blame someone or go out and be angry. No, You access those feelings inside of you because they're there already anyway, And they're only suppressed and depression shuffles down and you want to consciously use the energy of those emotions and do the work that's needed to bring them up for a moment to help you, To help you transition out of the depression, Because that will give you a moment of power. It's not the ultimate goal and you do not, And I repeat that, You do not want to stay stuck in that emotion. That's not the end goal, But it will help you to at least come out. Okay. Let's say you go through a terrible breakup. That's the first thing that comes up to my mind. Or you just, You lost someone, You are in a depressive state because you are in a lot of pain and grief, And maybe you lost someone, Death or a breakup and you feel you're hurting and you feel super depressed. Now there are also often feelings of anger and resentment. Often we don't go there either because we are feeling guilty of doing that, Or we are too spiritual to do that or too conscious. And so we don't want to go there, But that doesn't help either because then we are even more depressed and maybe you're not even aware of them. Maybe you're not aware that you are angry. Maybe you're not aware that you are resentful or a different emotion, So-called negative. It could be envy, Jealousy, Frustration, Anything that is more fiery, Fiery emotions. Let's not put labels on good or bad for a moment. Let's just talk energy. Energy like anger, Frustration, Resentment, Blame, Is at least has more energy than hopelessness, Despair. Now we want to reach up higher than, This is only a transition. It's basically one step to the ladder. Okay. So does that make sense? Do you have any questions about this? This is food for thought. So if you're in a depressed state and you say, Sonia, I'm not angry, Dig deeper. There is usually something that we are not expressing when we are in a depressed state and those feelings can help you. And you might need some help with that with someone in some setting. Or if you're working with me, Of course I'm helping you through this, But it's a transition point. Okay. So I want to see what you can say. Okay. So Laura can relate. It sounds like what I'm experiencing now, Even more than in the past, A deep funk with minimal motivation. Yeah. Darlene, You are not alone. I hear this so often, Like, Especially this I'm in a funk. This expression I've heard this like even last week for several people, I'm in such a funk and it's like, Yeah, So you can use that because it gives you a momentum. Okay. So my invitation is to dig a little deeper. Who am I maybe angry with? And you might say, Oh, I'm angry at myself first. Anyone who's like, Yeah. And then self hatred, Self judgment. That's only also covering what's underneath. Okay. So let's say I'm angry at myself. Let's put this like who might maybe I'm curious. I wonder who could I maybe be angry with? Am I resenting anything? Let me stop being holy for a moment and being like, Oh, And like, Who am I resenting? What am I jealous about right now? And journal that, Write it down, Feel the energy, Let it out, Express it in written form. You can record it, You can write it down. You don't even have to express it to that person, But you want to express the energy. It will help you, Can help you to move out of depression a little more. Yes. Anger and resentment does elevate my depression to look at things differently and can shift my mood at times. Yes, Absolutely. And I'm happy that you're aware of that and use it. Now the one thing that I highly suggest is once we do that, We often don't do anything else. Now that helps you step up and out, And then whoever can relate to this, Then you want to take the next steps and work on whatever is still missing. Because even though that feels better, Of course, We don't want to stay there. And we don't not only want to stay there that if we don't go further with looking what's actually going on here to enrich the next higher level, You might actually slip down again. Okay. Thank you for sharing. Super valuable, Darlene. Laura, It makes a lot of sense. Okay. Kathy, Processing anger can be empowering if it helps to define my boundaries more clearly. Yes, Absolutely. And again, It's a tool you consciously use. With boundaries, I want to make a suggestion like also boundaries is one of my favorite topics. It's a topic for today, But I spoke about this in the past and happy to speak about this more. The anger helps and you can use it, However, Not towards the other person because our boundaries, When we set boundaries and they're not respected, There's something missing in us setting the boundaries in a very powerful way. But absolutely, Yes, You can use it as transition, Especially as super nice people. Like I'm a recovered super pleaser, Super nice, Me always, Yes, Yes, And super nice and pleasing and I'm never angry and I was sick. So it did not work for me. Especially if you resonate with being a very loving, Kind, Super nice person, Going to anger seems very hurt, Right? But it's about using the energy just to transition, To break through that and then to work to be on the other side consciously and having the skills to communicate effectively with words and energy, Right? Super good comment. Thank you for sharing Kathy. Amy saying anger can be very motivating to change things. Absolutely, Yes. Originally instinctive, Like when you go back to super instincts, What anger is, And you can see that in small children when they're, When they like around maybe two years old, It depends, You know, The face of it's like when they're more aware and they can actually say no and they want to do things and we, You know, You cannot do this and you cannot do that. Anger is ultimately the energy that is created when we hit an obstacle. Now when we hit an obstacle and we can't push through it, We get angry. So that is necessary sometimes to kind of get the energy that kind of charged, Let's call it charged for a moment to break through something, Right? So there's a purpose. I'm not talking about the unresolved unhealthy toxic anger. I'm talking about the energy of it and you using it. So very good comment. Yeah, It resonates. Yeah. Now, And I know that to be true because for many, At least for those that I've been working with for over so many years and myself, And it's not easy to go there, But I invite you today for the rest of the day for this week, If you are in a state of depression, No matter if it's a mild one, If it's a deep one, Or if you have a friend and you notice that, You know, Low energy, No motivation. Yeah, Yeah, Yeah. I have heard this already. Blah, Blah, Blah. Yeah. I can see you. I've been there. I'm not sharing anything that I don't know. Now then I invite you to take a deep breath and not to think about, Ooh, I gotta get out of this. What's wrong with me? I should be this. I should be that. No, You shouldn't be anything. You just want to take one little micro step and you tune in. Okay. If, And it's a conscious choice, It's a conscious choice to even go where you wouldn't spiritually want to go. So give me an example of mine. And if you followed me for long, You know, My story, You know, All stories of surgeries in the past and I was 16 years old and I, And my mind is blown on how much this came up this year and how much, How trauma again, Like what trauma does to you, To us. So it got revisit by another surgery. And so when I was in a very depressed state and I was so angry at myself and I was like, How can I be again in this situation and how can this go so wrong again? And I was depressed to the point that I didn't want to get out of bed. I rather wanted to die. That was my first moment of thoughts sometimes, Right? This year. And at some point I was sitting on my meditation cushion and I was thinking about what I'm sharing with you. Right. And I said, Okay, So instead of being angry at myself, Because I did the best I could, I'm allowing myself to be angry at everybody else. The doctor, The people that I've worked with to prepare all of that, My father, My mother, My neighbor, Do you name it? I didn't care. I was like, I'm going to allow myself to be angry because I am sick of being depressed and it was not all just my fault. Right. It wasn't my fault anyway, But now it's my responsibility. But you know what I'm saying? I knew I wouldn't stay there. I knew this is not who I am. I'm going to just blame it on someone. But I used it to get out of that freaking fucking lethargic energy that I was in. And I know that, And I know that some of you, Or maybe you right now, You know that feeling and you sometimes you're so sick of it. So I invite you to use this energy to use only transitional with yourself or a trusted person, Coach, Healer, Friend, Not the person that you're angry with. I didn't call my surgeon or the healer that I was working with and put that energy out of them. I did that in my own living room. Okay. You see, I'm very, I'm so passionate about it because I know it works and it's sometimes needed because the worst, Oh gosh, One of the worst feelings is to be so depressed that you feel there's no way out. You're hopeless. You are alone. Nobody gets you. You are alone. You feel so unlovable. You'll feel unworthy. All of that. I'm so close to that feeling. And I know it's so well that I am just really wanting to give you some food for thought today. Experiment with it. Just experiment with it. Try it out. And again, You are a hundred percent responsible. So if you feel like that, This is not going to work with you or for you by yourself, Don't do it. Make a healthy choice. Be conscious about how you're going to use it. And if you need help, Ask for help. And of course you can help me and you can ask me and talking about help. Again, I want to remind you also of what I said in the beginning about that group topic session where we can use also to really elevate, Elevate because no matter what the topic, No matter what your issue is, Depression, Relationship, Financial pain, Money, Financial struggle, Health issues, Ultimately, What we all want is to raise up, Rise up again, To rise above the mott, To be able to deal with our challenges from a higher perspective. And the group tapping will help you do that no matter what your specific topic is. And we will address your specific topic because I keep this group small. It's just a small group. It's Wednesday the 29th and whether you can join live or not, You will have the recording and that will include your issue. And we are going to do this together. And it's for a very special price for only $97. And today you even get a coupon code to $10 off. So it's only even only $87. So if you want to join, If this is resonating with you, If you feel like, Yes, I want to have some support, Go to my page, Sonyaboron. Org. Com slash group tapping. Let's see if I have it somewhere here and sign up. I am happy to support you. I know how to be in the deepest dumpster and I know how it is to live in the highest. And let me tell you, It's always more beautiful to live in the highest, But before you go to the highest, Why not transition up a little? Just a little up. Okay. So before I jump off here today, Let me know, Take a deep breath, Take a deep, Deep breath. Stay here for another few seconds and tune in. What is your biggest takeaway from today? What is your biggest takeaway from today? And don't leave without sharing it. Today I'm adamant like for anyone that feels stuck, Sometimes we need a little bit tough love. So I'm going to give you a little bit more of a nudge. Don't leave this show today without sharing your biggest takeaway. Why? Because it forces you first to tune in what's actually valuable to me so that it reinforces this in your system. Number two, When you share it, It makes it more real. It's true. It helps it to really anchor it. Sharing it brings reality to it. So it gives more momentum. It gives you a better chance to really do what you feel like you get to do. And also sharing it with someone else. Someone else would read your takeaway and you will give them a gift because that takeaway of yours might make a huge difference to someone else. So again, I'm going to say a few more moments here. And if you haven't signed up to the group tapping yet, Go ahead and do so. This is an incredible opportunity. It's just a unique opportunity that I really don't want you to miss that out. So what's your biggest takeaway? Don't go anywhere. Okay. Lynn is saying, It's a useful emotion. Yes. That's a really great takeaway. Not even only for depression. I find it always more valuable to see emotions at frequency and energy and how you can use it versus bad or good. Beautiful. Another takeaway here today. Thank you. It's nice to have permission to access these emotions. Absolutely. It's necessary. It can be hard to acknowledge and process them, But very important. Absolutely. Yes. Especially for women. You know, And in my experience, When it comes to setting healthy boundaries, Being safe, Not being depressed, All of these that we are so conditioned to suppress those emotions that we can't access them when we need them. Now you want to be able to access that energy when you need it because your survival might depend on it. I'm not saying become an angry person and stay stuck there. No, But you want to have the energy available. Another takeaway needed this today because takeaway is using my anger as momentum for growth rather than letting it give my power away. I love this Lisa. I'm so happy you're here on your birthday and I would love to see you on the next having as well if you want to join. It helps to know that others are struggling too besides just me. Oh, Kathy, That's such a great takeaway. I just want to really take a moment and everybody take a deep breath. Take a deep, Deep, Deep breath. And I will repeat it again, Even if you've heard it several times, You are not alone. This is, You're not alone. And the more, That's why group, Community and supporting each other is so immensely crucial. So Kathy, If this resonates with you, I invite you to join our group tapping. I think that would be extremely valuable to you and you would connect with incredible, Incredible women. Darlene, Biggest takeaway. My depression is my responsibility to shift. Yes. Aim into that. Absolutely. I'm with you. Sister, I hear you. You're not alone. Okay. If you haven't left your takeaway yet, Just tune in. Why? I'm curious. You don't even have to share with me. That's another food for stoppages. Like what is it that's maybe holding you back and dare to share it anyway. All right. So I feel in the replay, You're hearing this at a later point, Leave your comment with your biggest takeaway. It will make a difference for you because takeaway here, Don't stop once I feel better from my depression like I do now because I still have many more levels of increased energy to experience like in my past. Laura, So happy to hear that. And I am so happy you shared it for anyone that needs to hear this too. I've seen this over and over and over again. We are deep down in the depression. We do something, We feel somehow better and then we stop doing the work or we think, Okay, Now I'm better. And then, Oh, I'm not going to go there. Oh, I'm not going to do this. Oh no, I'm good for now. That of exact that you needed that transition up to actually go beyond that instead of staying there and then gradually go down again. Oh, I am so happy for you. This is one of the best takeaways you could take away from today. Amazing. Exenia, You're late or did you watch and not say hello before? Go back and watch the replay. I think it's going to be valuable. And if not only for you, Maybe for your clients as well. So thank you for being here today. Thank you so much. Oh, I have another biggest takeaway. Oh my gosh. I love you. Thank you so much. Oh, Laura, I love you. Chills back. And I'm looking forward to seeing you again on the 29th and it's going to be even better than last time because you are already a little higher. So it's all good. Also take small steps to feel better. Great takeaway. You're so awesome. I just want to share the table of wakes because that's so crucial. Small steps to feel better because the big step is too big sometimes. Another takeaway from Tine today is to feel the energy here. Oh, To feel the energy here today. Yeah. Great takeaway. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Sometimes it's showing up. Listen, Showing up is all it takes sometimes. Showing up. If you choose not to join the group tapping, That's totally okay. If it's a no for you, I'm totally good with it. But if it's a yes, Don't let yourself talk yourself out of it. I don't have the time. I can't be live or I don't have the money. Don't let that be an issue because that's just the blah, Blah in our mind that's keeping up. But if it feels like a no, Keep showing up. That will make a difference for you. All right. Use this energy for the rest of your day and come back next Monday. All right. So so much love for you guys. Love you. Appreciate you. Thank you so much for being here and I will see you next Monday, 9 a. M. Pacific, 12 p. M. Eastern, Put it in your calendar right now. Much love.

Reviews

Wonderful! It's good to know letting some emotions out is healthy. Thank you!