Welcome to the Soul Infuse Monday show.
Today episode number 243 called 7 Steps to Feeling Calm,
Centered and Secure within Yourself.
When it comes to feeling centered,
Calm,
Secure within yourself,
It requires also an amount of inner work or peeling off the layers that are keeping you from feeling that way.
Now the steps or principles that I'm going to share today are very powerful,
Effective and they work.
If you do them consistently and also if you do it as a support to the work that you've done already or that you're doing.
It might not be a substitute.
There might be in addition certain things that you might have to address but I will talk about that a little bit while I'm sharing these 7 steps.
These 7 steps are not in order.
Only the first step is super crucial and foundational for everything else to be built onto.
And they're not so much steps,
Maybe are more principles and I am going to share the first step right away though because without that one you cannot really build on anything.
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The number one step or step number one in order for you to create anything within yourself or outside yourself is commitment.
Making a commitment is the number one step.
Why is that important?
Because if you don't have commitment or if you don't make a commitment you are not gonna have the motivation,
The endurance,
The willingness to keep going when things go tough or when there's an obstacle or when things are more difficult.
Sometimes we start something and then we don't finish them or we encounter a roadblock and we give up.
Without commitment it is fairly difficult to keep going.
So no matter what you want to create in your life,
No matter how you want to feel,
No matter how you approach inner work and personal transformation,
Commitment is the very first step as one of the most important pieces.
So you can even tune in right now,
Tune in right now and check where's my level of commitment,
What am I wanting to create right now and am I fully committed or not.
And if I'm not fully committed,
What's missing in order for me to fully commit?
A few questions for you to ponder.
Number one is make a commitment.
And again the other six principles are not necessarily in order but I'm gonna share them as they come and you can also pick and choose.
Maybe one step or principle resonates with you today more or it's a reminder or an inspiration.
Pick and choose whatever resonates with you.
If something doesn't resonate with you just leave it on the shelf and don't even think too much about it.
Number one,
Make a commitment.
Principle number two or step number two and you've heard this before,
I'm pretty pretty sure that you've heard this maybe many times and I will add it to the mix because it's very important.
Number two is gratitude.
Gratitude.
Now you might say oh yeah I've heard this a million times,
Don't dismiss it,
Let me take you there again and why that is so important.
When I talk about gratitude is especially in moments,
In any moment,
But especially when you're going through a tough time or when things are not the way that you want them,
Be it relationship,
Health,
Money,
It doesn't matter,
Work,
Business,
Having an attitude of gratitude in every moment will make a huge difference and it can be something small.
I often encounter people that gratitude needs to be this oh my god everything is so great and something huge.
Now I tell you one of the things that I do nearly every morning and it's so basic but it helps me to reconnect to gratitude even when things are not going so well.
The one thing that I'm grateful for most days when I wake up in the morning is that I can breathe through my nose.
I started to do that I remember when I was once so sick that I could not breathe it was so terrible that had moments that I felt so anxious and panicked that I felt even though I could breathe through my mouth that I felt like I might suffocate.
In those moments the only thing I wanted is to be able to breathe,
Nothing more.
You have your own version of this.
When we are sick or when something goes really wrong or really bad we just want that moment to be better and once it's better we get take it for granted and we forget about it.
This is just one example but find an example for you that is something that you are so grateful for but it's maybe so simple that you don't even think about it that you take it for granted and do it every day and try to find a piece of gratitude in every moment and if you cannot find gratitude in a moment because it feels so terrible oh it's a very challenging moment if you are not able to find gratitude at least accept the moment as it is because it's already happening it's already there we so often resist it and I know what I'm talking about I I know it's not so easy but gratitude is crucial because without gratitude in the moment you will focus on something that's not good and energy follows attention I can say so much more about this however this is number two gratitude number one commitment number two gratitude and number three and I just mentioned it a little bit is and that's also something you've heard many times and yet I want to bring it in here and hopefully give you a little bit more of inspiration the third principle is be in the present moment be in the present moment you've heard this before this is not my invention now why is this so important to be centered and calm and connected and secure within yourself you've got to be in the present moment because the moment that present moment is the only moment you have and when you are not in the present moment you are either in the past or in the future and here is why inner work is so important the more inner work you do the more you peel off and heal the wounds from the past that are keeping you from being in the present moment and healing the anxious thoughts or beliefs or traumas that keep you from keep you worrying about the future the more you peel off those layers the more you do the inner work the most space you have to actually be in the present moment because it's very easy to say I'll just be in the present moment but what keeps us from being in the present moment is when we get triggered from most most times from a wound that's still stuck in your system from the past in that sense if you are having a hard time being present in the moment with gratitude then there's work for you to do because there's something holding you back from being in that state that's number three number four and that's super super important for anything super super important number four is half or create a positive support system you gotta have a positive supportive environment what does that mean it can be in person that you have people around you friends or people that on the path and doing the work with you or if you don't have that in person created online listen to people who support and inspire you watch videos listen to podcasts do the work find mentors coaches like maybe the soul infused Monday show is for you listen to people that make you feel loved accepted supported and who want to empower you and so around yourself as much as possible with that energy very very important your environment influences you directly so if you for example have a stressful job and most of the day you're surrounded by people who are not on the same page or are not supporting you then you want to create that outside so tune in for a moment and think about the people in your life that are supporting you that lift you up that make you feel loved and cared for and who want to empower you take a moment take inventory you might even want to write this down take a moment and I give you here a minute you can take a nice deep breath you can tune in and reflect on the people that are making an impact you don't even need to know these people personally maybe it's an author maybe it's a movie star I don't know maybe it's your coach or mentor maybe it's someone that you met once and had a conversation who are the people that are in your support system that are meaningful to you and just write down their names take inventory and if you don't have at least five people on that list preferably more think about how can I increase that circle what do I need to do so that I feel also more supported from outside hmm and have a moment of gratitude for these people who support you and the people who support you are not necessarily those who always agree with you and enable you or just listen to your problems a positive support system means that you have people that lovingly and respectfully challenge you also to go beyond your limitations very important be very selective of who is going to influence your mind and soul so that is create a positive support system number four number five and that's also one of my favorite topic and subjects to talk about and also this requires in most cases more work because it's easier said than done so number five is set healthy boundaries have healthy boundaries in order for you to stay centered and secure especially safe if you want to feel safe within yourself if you want to feel secure within yourself grounded and centered you gotta be able to set healthy boundaries not only verbally but energetically because without you having your own space where you feel safe anything from the outside can be triggering maybe for you it means to say more often no maybe for you I used to be a people pleaser right so I said to a lot of things yes that I didn't mean to say yes to that weren't that wasn't good for me so maybe your work is to work on that people please I knew maybe there is fear of setting a boundary maybe you've never learned how to set a boundary maybe you think you're saying no but people are not respecting it so somehow energetically it's not impactful enough whatever that means to you reflect on how are you setting boundaries how effective are they and how much of the time are you listening in to is this something I want to do or do I feel guilty or forced or obliged to say yes or maybe I feel guilty if I say no so setting healthy boundaries having healthy boundaries from an energetical perspective super super crush crucial and foundational I actually believe that when you don't have the capacity to set healthy boundaries and to be aware of your own space and your boundaries it's extremely difficult to feel safe and to feel centered and to feel grounded and confident in your life much more to say to that super super important one if this is an part of your life that is difficult dig deeper to the work because we are often especially was women we have very much condition from very little on to be nice to please to say yes so it's so ingrained in our subconscious mind in the collectiveness that often we even know logically I should say no and this is not good for me and yet we still have issues with boundaries can you relate I'd love to hear from you now this was number five I have two more to go but I want you to take a moment take a deep breath tune into those five that we have so far which one is the most meaningful so far number one was commitment number two practicing gratitude number three was staying in the present moment number four creating a supportive environment support system number five setting healthy boundaries number six and that goes with setting how healthy boundaries is taking time for yourself number six is take time quality time for yourself take a step back put yourself first take quality time on a daily basis not once a month or once every couple of months when you go on vacation every day do maybe you have a meditation practice maybe you have a morning routine maybe for you it's going out for a walk with your dog whatever that means to you maybe it's taking time to drink a cup of coffee or tea in the morning before you do anything else I've talked about how to create a good and positive morning routine many times I've talked about meditation many times I've talked about this many many times so there's a lot of resources that you can also dig deeper into if this is an issue for you take time for yourself and if that is a problem for you again dig deeper what's holding you back there might be beliefs trauma-based behaviors and patterns that keep you from taking actually time for yourself then do the work to release those so that you can be centered within yourself and then you can take care of yourself and you put yourself first and remember even if you take only 10% 10% of the day 10% of your time for yourself you still have 90% for the rest of the world just think about that for a moment number six take time for yourself on a daily basis on a daily basis so I want to invite you as we are doing this here today to reflect in real quick how does that look like for you what does it mean to you take notes ponder around it what does it mean for me to take quality time am I doing it enough is this an area where I can improve and then you make a decision on what you want to do next seven and of course there's so many more than seven principles or steps but I chose seven that I found over the years within my own journey and have been working with hundreds of clients over the years from all over the world the things that keep coming up over and over and over again and the seventh one is a very particular personal one that I teach it's about energy because in order to stay calm and centered and secure within yourself it is a jet and an energetic of phenomena so you want to learn and be able to shift your energy to balance your energy it's a skill that you can learn and I do have something for you today if you do want to learn that skill learn and know how to balance your own energy system because when you are energetically not centered it means that you are somehow off balance and you are outside of yourself and therefore oftentimes we give our power away because we are not in control of our own energy so balancing your energy is one of the steps or tools of principles that can make you feel the most centered grounded and secure within now I know energy balancing is a skill I've been learning this and teaching this for the last 20 years and even though I've shared a lot for free even here on the Soul Impuse Monday show I've decided to create a master class where I am going to teach you this skill it's in core liberation with insight timer and I'm sharing this with you I hope you're okay if I take a minute because learning the skill to balance your own energy and you can learn this to balance your own energy to help your clients if you are a coach yourself or healer and even if you are a coach or if you are in the service industry or you have clients learning how to balance your own energy before you even go into any meeting into any conversation into any negotiation maybe as a parent in dealing with your children in communication the skill of learning how to balance your own energy is one of the most important tools that I can imagine changed my life now I am creating a master class in October and what I'm gonna teach you how to do that yourself I'm gonna teach you how to use your hands magnet or a radio Tory how to balance the chakras so that you can actually feel grounded centered and clear and I'm also gonna teach you a exercise a full energy balancing exercise two versions of it that you can do any time if you need a quick balancing now that alone sounds already fantastic if you are interested you have the opportunity to day life right here right now for the first three people if you're one of the first three that want to join that workshop I'm gonna give you a 50% discount and it's already a super low investment so let me tell you about this real quick the workshop that master class is a two-hour master class in October the 12th at 12 p.
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Eastern Time October the 12th at 12 p.
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Eastern Time a two-hour intensive master class for only $75 it goes through inside timer and if you want to join and you are one of the first three that sent me a message either here on Facebook or per email needs to be a message I will give you a 50% discount it's such a no-brainer but I'm so passionate about this particular topic energy balancing and there are only 35 spots for this particular workshop and thank you for letting me share this with you for a minute and I'm gonna go back to the seven steps and principles but learning how to shift your own energy will change your life forever this is one of the most amazing and transformational tools I know now I want to take also a moment and check any comments you have any questions and any takeaways I'm gonna go over the seven principles real quick with you and I want you to tune in and check what is your biggest takeaway from today what is your biggest takeaway number one was make a commitment number two was practicing gratitude number three was stay in the present moment number four was create a positive support system number five was setting healthy boundaries number six take time for yourself and number seven learn how to balance your energy take a deep breath take a deep deep deep breath what is your biggest takeaway and share with me if you're on this here and you can leave a comment leave a comment if you're listening to this on a platform or on a podcast and you are not able to leave a comment write me a review send me a message I love to hear from you I so enjoy reading your reviews your comments and messages and if you are interested to join the energy balancing master class and you want to have a 50% discount that I'm only giving you life right now send me a message send me an email let me know that you're in but I'm going to take time to maybe read one or two comments and if you have a question don't hesitate to send me a message reach out to me reach out to me with any question you might have they all relate but to be in the present moment so biggest takeaway to be in the present moment yes so so so crucial yes thank you for sharing and one more and then I will let you go on with your beautiful Monday making a commitment is hard for me because I'm all over the map well maybe that's the number one important piece for you then and I would rephrase it anything that's hard is hard even changing the word maybe for you it's even just changing it to making a commitment is a challenge for me but you could also say I want to get better and making a commitment and often when you don't make a commitment it's because you're not clear or it's not important enough so in that sense because you shared it what I'm getting for you and maybe someone else at listening to this is to take a moment time and to really write everything down that's important when you send you all over the map is that your energy is scattered I can tell you right away so before even making a commitment I would say do whatever it takes for you to become centered first maybe you do one of my energy based meditations or do whatever you know to get centered and from a centered place tune in what is really important right now to the point that I want to commit to and you are not alone making a commitment is making a commitment it's a commitment so I hear you I hear you wonderful thank you so much for being here today it was a pleasure to spending this time with you thank you for being here I invite you for this week to focus on one area out of the seven that resonated the most with you and to every day tune in and set the intention to focus on that area and to improve that area and if energy balancing is one of the areas that you want to get skillful and learn I invite you to join my masterclass in October on the 12th at 12 p.
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Eastern Time send me an email send me a comment that you're in and I'm going to send you the discount code take a deep breath I've gratitude in this present moment and enjoy the rest of your day and I have an amazing inspired and meaningful week much love
