Welcome back.
Today we're gonna take a dive into the topic of inner child.
This inner child is an archetype that helps a lot in healing so many things in our childhood or that part of us which is a child still are either wounded or repressed or traumatized.
So then we need to really look into it and work with it so that we can bring this aspect in you which wants to live and create in this world.
So we're gonna take different angles and we're gonna see what's the benefit of that and what it is and how to heal that how to work with that step by step.
So let's first start with why are we doing it.
The biggest thing we want to take away from this work is that you're gonna walk out a totally different person.
You're gonna be so much mature actually when this inner child is perfectly expressed.
You're going to be more mature,
More stable,
More grounded in your emotions because you will be healed and you will then be able to discover yourself more and more as you create.
As you go deeper you will find yourself more and then you will be able to create from such a pure place that it's like your child playing and painting and creating.
That would be you in whatever form it wants to come out and finally you will have better relationships with others and yourself.
You will see the quality and the depth of those connections would be so much better than if you didn't do this work.
So what happens in childhood is that we are first this child which doesn't know anything which doesn't have any programming or any kind of concept in its mind.
It's just free,
It's just there but then as we grow up right from the very beginning we start to be programmed.
Conditioning comes in and then you go to school,
Then you go to a college,
Then you get a job and then you meet these people who are having their own concepts and bubbles and experiences and then they throw something on you and then you have those experiences and maybe you get traumatized by something.
If somebody leaves you,
You get some kind of trauma.
If somebody rejects you,
You get that or if you lack money in your childhood then you have that trauma.
There's so many things that shape our experiences and then our beliefs in the subconscious mind which then this inner child holds and then you cannot come fully totally as you because you have these layers deep down and so this inner child is then gone.
So then what are these big beliefs or big subconscious patterns that are implanted in us as we lose that inner child?
Number one is that I'm not safe.
Something happens maybe you get some traumatic experience or maybe that you don't have enough money when you were a child or the resources didn't flow through you.
You didn't have proper nutrition.
It could be any of these scenarios but the key takeaway for the subconscious mind is that I'm not safe and when you're not safe when you don't feel safe and secure within then you cannot step into that inner child which is wanting to create,
To play.
How can you play when you're stressed and afraid?
The second belief that comes in is I'm not loved.
Now this could be somebody abandoning you,
Somebody rejecting you or that you never had such a deep intimate love with anyone whether it's your family or your romantic relationships.
No matter what experiences you gain as you experience these heartbreaks or breakups or betrayals no matter what it is you feel that you're not worthy of love that you are not loved.
If that is the inherent belief that is hiding underneath then you gotta work with it.
Then you gotta see through it first of all.
That's why we're making it very obvious.
First is that I'm not safe and then the second is that I'm not loved and it's a huge step to just become aware of these.
So then we come to the final one third one which is the biggest one is I am not good enough.
There you go.
That dictates so many of our behaviors and beliefs and words from that because if we don't feel good enough we're always trying to get something achieve something accomplish something prove something because we don't feel good enough and if this is the driver if this is what's driving us then we cannot come as pure inner child that wants to come through.
It will always be some kind of distortion like that and then you wouldn't be awake alive fresh renewed in your inner child.
Now for me personally the third belief which is I'm not good enough was the most prominent belief that was there for so many of my years that I lived and the reason for that is that as I was growing up I was just an average child who was getting average grades and so I never felt that I could do something in life.
So that underneath belief that I'm not good enough just kept me in this performance mode that I need to prove something I need to do something about it and that's why I got into self-improvement at first and after that I got into spirituality only because I didn't feel good enough and then spirituality gave me so much and after that I recognized that even that I need to let go so that I can feel inherently good enough no matter what without any identification or attachment or obsession with anything then I know I have healed those beliefs and you can apply this to any of these beliefs I'm not loved if you base that on an idea of finally finding a partner to love or to be loved then that's not it.
You first have to be loved you just have to be the source of love and then you know that you have mastered this belief which is not true and also applies to that I'm not safe if you inherently come to this point where you feel safe where you feel that you have no fear just by also observing that you are safe that you are okay in this moment and then this translates to the subconscious mind and then you don't need to put up those guards and subconscious patterns in life that are always constantly running the show because what happens is that if we keep these beliefs in us then the fear of lack fear of abandonment and the fear of failure these will haunt us all our lives and then the inner child wouldn't be able to play at all if there's lack if there's abandonment if there's failure how can the inner child express itself it'll be paralyzed and so that's what happens with us as we grow up as this mature adults we're doing our jobs or whatever roles that we are playing we completely forget this inner child because we don't feel safe we don't feel that we can take risks or that we can be love rather than seeking love from the world or that we are good enough just by in our beingness not in any doing not in any accomplishment because then you can play and then whatever accomplishments or whatever romantic partners or whatever abundance you attract those are just addition to that inner child playing this is not to prove anything this is not to finally feel whole and complete and full is that you are playing you are dancing you are creating and in that creation these things will come because you are in that energy that frequency in that joyful playfulness and that's what the inner child is all about that you're gonna tap into that more and more and then you're free from anything and everything and from that freedom then you can choose your expression how do you want to express how do you want to paint how do you want to dance how do you want to sing no matter what it is for you and then you're doing it and people may appreciate it or people may not appreciate it but that's not the concern of the inner child inner child just wants to play just wants to express and that expression will be of service to whoever it wants to be of service of because you're coming from that frequency so i already gave you the first step which is awareness of these things of these beliefs of these patterns and you need to really take it all the way every time these things run your show just become aware oh i must believe that i'm not good enough i must believe that i'm not loved i must believe that i'm not safe so you become aware of that and then you choose you choose what you choose self-love you choose confidence confidence is the masculine aspect and the self-love is the feminine aspect when these two then come together confidence and self-love then the inner child can play you see it's just like any union of a masculine and feminine when they come together the child is born is the same thing that when the confidence innate inherent confidence of your beingness not in anything in particular if you can feel worthy and good enough by yourself and if you can love yourself unconditionally without needing to be perfect then this marriage gives birth to this inner child which feels safe and then it can create it can play it can be joyful and this is you this is what you want to do and of course you do also as in this adult life you take responsibility and we're going to talk about these things later on as i talk about the divine masculine and the divine feminine archetype in other videos but for now i just understand that from here as you play you will be also responsible you will be of course be mature also but this childlike playfulness this creativity that wants to come through you is not worth losing you've got to claim it you've got to come back to that child that is craving to be seen by you and so one of the things you can also do is that you can journal and talk to yourself hey where are you how are you when did you get repressed when did you get traumatized what do you need how can you be more alive and active what beliefs are holding you back and then become aware of those things and then choose better as i already talked in the video before that you've got to choose that confidence and self-love and this may take some time as you heal these things in you no matter what healing modality you choose ultimately it all comes down to this what i've just explained in this video this structure if you can work with this if you can become aware and then choose better choose the truth which is this innate confidence and that unconditional self-love then you are going to flourish you're going to thrive and you may have to do it over and over again until this is your default mode until you're not performing until you're not proving until you're not feeling unsafe you are in love and you are confident and then you're creating and you may slip up you may make mistakes you may be imperfect in your creations but that's not what inner child cares about inner child may want to improve may want to become better and you let that happen too naturally but you see this is just a part of a game then it's not some serious thing that you need to do you improve also in your creations but it's not from any other place than just playfulness and that's when you're gonna flourish that's when you're gonna thrive so let me know if you have any other questions about this inner child work inner child healing it's just a very important archetype to understand and to work with and then you just continue your self-discovery journey with many other different archetypes that can help you along the way i'm gonna make videos on those as well so stay tuned and i'll see you next time
