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Resentment, Conflict & Forgiveness

by Oliver James Jenkin

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A brief talk on what I have learned recently about the mind, the ego and how we create thought patterns to try to escape this simple truth inside ourselves : that Love is real and all else is just illusion.

ResentmentConflictForgivenessMindEgoThought PatternsLoveHealingReflectionOnenessEnergySelf HealingSelf ReflectionEnergy PatternsEgo AwarenessIllusionsSelf Fulfilling Prophecies

Transcript

Hello.

I've become aware recently that our capacity to heal is limitless and it's become interesting to me how the way we view others affects this.

I'd like you to consider somebody who you recognize that you have a real grudge against and you know they might not have acted too honorably in the past,

But abstractly and objectively step back from yourself and view the sort of thought forms and energy patterns which you hold in your mind and your ego about this person or the situation that surrounds it.

We're not entering into oh they deserve it or I have every right to think like this.

We're just simply thinking about how we actually hold energy with regards to this person and of course that is always a reflection of the energy we hold about ourselves.

Now I've known for a long time that everybody has their journey but I am consistently amazed about the pitfalls which we can fall into when we believe our mind's own creation.

If you think somebody is a rude person or you know unsavable or unlovable it's a self-fulfilling prophecy and from what I've been shown with my work with clients and my own personal healing and clearing is that that is really a self-fulfilling prophecy.

A trick of the mind so that you can prove your own outcome time and time again.

Think of this personal situation again and introduce this.

They are like you made of love and they are like you on their own path of personal healing and they are like you a soul.

A soul whose depth might not seem all apparent at first but that's where forgiveness comes in isn't it?

The biggest F word of them all.

Forgiveness is a resetting of the grid and is most powerfully used for yourself.

For that assumption or agreement that you've made about that person is also one that you've made about a part of yourself and if you can't hold the possibility in your mind and heart for their healing then how could you possibly hold it for yourself?

Now I know we live day-to-day lives and it's indeed not our job to go around healing everyone else but we are our own responsibility are we not?

So my point is or rather what I'm sharing from my own experience is that it can be quite surprising when you think you've healed so much,

When you think you've gone so far and then the mind and the ego creates that glass ceiling to stop you pushing forward evermore.

It came to me this week that my behavior is usually orientated so that I can escape the simple truth.

That we arrange our realities to avoid the very fact that we live,

Swim and breathe in oneness and love always and forever.

So next time you have a conflict with yourself or someone else ask yourself this,

What energy patterns do you hold?

What consent to certain agreements about reality have you made?

Breathe in,

Make a choice even if it's scary as hell to move and be in the flow and energy of love and believe me the rest will take care of itself.

Thanks very much friends and I'll see you again soon.

Meet your Teacher

Oliver James JenkinExmouth, United Kingdom

4.7 (4 370)

Recent Reviews

Aaron

November 24, 2025

Forgiveness...the biggest F-word of all ! Ha ha ! Yep tru that . Great talk, first time I've come across and will definitely check out more tracks . 👍🏻🙏🏻

Jess

August 6, 2025

This was so beautiful and just what I needed. Thank you so much. ❤️

Wayland

May 19, 2025

Came back to this—years later. Still wise, still beautiful

Helene

January 9, 2025

These words realigned me and my perspective Thank you

Claire

September 14, 2024

Very enlightening. I realized that much of what I see in the other person is what I’m afraid people see in me.

Glenda

September 7, 2024

I needed this to help me recognize that I carry a grudge toward my husband of 50 years. I think this grudge is at the root of my desire for peace of mind regarding our relationship. I don’t know how to rid myself of this grudge but I want to. Perhaps asking the Universe, God whomever to help me will help. I’m eager to see what comes of this and hope something does!

Elena

July 12, 2024

Very helpful! We are all made of love. Such a valuable reminder.

Robyn

June 5, 2024

A reminder of choice in our lives, and that being in the flow of love is one of them. Thank you so much.

︎︎°•Suzi•°︎︎

April 22, 2024

Wait, were U reading my mind? 😉 Greatly helpful perspective & one I really needed. Thank you again Dude ;)

Jan

February 16, 2024

A very thought-full insight as a healing presence on my path. Thank you kindly for the reality of your words!!🕊 Quite freeing!

Joe

February 10, 2024

I love that Forgiveness is the biggest “F” word! Thank you for offering love and peace.

Sallie

January 28, 2024

Thank you for the reminder to be in the energy and flow of love.🙏

Catherine

December 4, 2023

The flow & tone of his voice is so captivating it makes it easy to actually HEAR the sense & truth, in his message concerning forgiveness & love. A guilt-free inner peak at the reality of the connection between our behavior & higher mental processes. Beautiful .

Katie

November 6, 2023

So I will have to sit with this…is there space for love and healing and boundaries?

Braxia

September 3, 2023

Thank you. It was very inspiring. I will listen to it again.

Penny

September 2, 2023

Extraordinary how I came by chance across these few words today…seeking help…and receiving what I needed…thank you

Ginette

May 14, 2023

This is quite profound. So grateful for this sharing

Clive

May 5, 2023

Thank you for this thought provoking meditation Oliver 🙏🏾☀️

Lola

March 17, 2023

Thank you for sharing. I need to think and contemplate about this. It’s a lot for me to think about. Mind blowing.

Nakia

November 30, 2022

Hard to hear but definitely honest and what I needed to hear. Thank you.

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