Shedding Your Identity To Step Into Your Next-Level Leader

This is for Conscious Leaders who are ready to rise into their next level of leadership and impact through their business.

In this talk, Nik talks about how to embody an identity that allows you to rise into your next level Conscious Leader and take your business and impact to even bigger heights. In doing this you can rise past imposter syndrome, self-sabotage and playing small.

Nik takes you through a series of reflective questions, to start to see where the gaps are between who you are now and who you are required to become, to create the next-level of your leadership and impact through your business.

This talk is followed by a short identity integration session, via a guided meditation.

This was recorded from an Insight Timer live event. Every week Nik goes live, so please see her events for her upcoming talks.

Transcript

Shedding old identities so that you can become the leader that you desire to be,

So that your business can thrive and so that everyone else can also thrive.

You are joining me,

Nick Chung,

Coach and Mentor for Leaders,

Changemakers,

Transformation People.

And I'm really excited about diving into today's topic.

It is one topic that I talk to constantly with my clients about this idea of identities.

Now,

We're really talking about the realm of the ego here.

Where identities exist is in your ego,

In the egoic realm.

And our identities really are how we interact with the world.

And what I mean by that is how you interact with other people,

How you interact and interpret the outside world and situations,

How you think about yourself,

And therefore how you act in the world.

What you think,

What you feel,

And how you therefore go out and be with the world.

Now,

Please note how I've said that.

One is how you think about yourself.

One is how you think about the outside world.

So there's two parts to this.

And we're looking at both parts because you are a spiritual being embodied in a human body,

Interacting and creating in a physical realm.

And so your internal stuff is,

Of course,

Important.

But we also want to see how that is affecting how it is that you are acting in the world,

How you're interacting with the world,

How you are interpreting the world.

And your identity has a lot to do with how you interpret and therefore how you interact and therefore how you act in the world.

And we're really looking at how can we shed that old identity that you have that is holding you back from becoming the leader that you wish to be,

From creating the kind of business that you desire to have.

As we go along today,

Please drop your questions into the comments.

If you are unable to drop a question,

But you have one,

You can come and join my free group,

The Soul Lead Business Revolution on Insight Timer and put your questions in there and I will answer them.

Otherwise,

Let's just dive into that into what our topic is today,

Which is shedding old identities.

So the first thing I have for you to do to ponder,

To really get deeply into this topic is this.

What is your goal or dream for yourself and for your business?

Okay,

So what is your goal or dream?

And this is just one way that we can start to understand what your current identity is and what needs to be shared in order for you to move forward.

Okay,

So what is your dream?

What is the big dream that you have?

And now the second question I bring to you is,

Who do you need to be or who do you need to become in order for that dream to be realized?

I will say that again,

Who do you need to be or who do you need to become in order for that dream to be realized?

And if you aren't with pen and paper right now,

I invite you to go and take these questions out afterwards,

Like really dive into this because it is all good to listen to this,

But this is actually an exercise that is going to help you to understand where your current identity is,

Holding you back from making the big leaps that you wish to or the big impacts that you desire to have.

So what is your dream?

And who do you have to be in order for that dream to be realized?

Now,

When you answer that question,

You're going to look at what kind of skills do you need to have?

What kind of characteristics would you have?

How do you think?

How do you speak?

How do you act?

How do you feel?

How do you interact with the world?

How do you hold yourself in the world?

And when we can go that deeply into who it is that we need to be,

We start to then see the gaps that are in our current identity that need to either be shared or need to be developed in order for us to thrive as a leader and bring our businesses to the level of impact that we desire to have.

So let me know if this is resonating with you.

Are you starting to see some of the gaps of who you need to be that you currently aren't right now?

And this is the point.

This is why we do what we do.

This is why we invest in spiritual and self-development is because we want to know where our gaps are.

Where is the work that I still have to do in order to create the big dream that I want?

So what is your goal or dream for the future?

For yourself as a leader,

A change maker?

For your business going forward?

And who do you need to become in order for that dream to create?

What kind of skills do you need?

What kind of characteristics do you have?

How do you speak?

How do you act?

How do you feel?

How do you hold yourself?

How do you think about yourself?

How do you think about others?

How do you handle challenges?

How do you handle decision-making?

Right,

We can really go nitty-gritty with this,

But even if you were just to answer those two questions,

On a very surface level,

You're going to start to see where the work is,

Where it is that you need to start making changes in who you be in order for you to create what it is that you desire.

And this is the constant work of spiritual and personal development,

Am I right?

We are talking about shedding old identity so you can rise into the leader that you desire to be and that your business can thrive with you and create the big impact that you desire.

You're joining me,

Nick Chung,

Coach for Leaders and Transformation Makers.

And we're really discussing the first two things that get you to understand where you are right now.

And it's really important to understand who you are right now,

Who you are being right now,

And then who it is that you need to be in order for you to create your big dream.

And there is the gap.

And that gap is your work.

That gap is where you decide to focus your efforts on improving yourself so that you can become the person who does go and create what it is that they desire to create.

It is so much harder when we don't look at our identity and we try to create something that is out of our current identity.

It's actually,

It's not even harder.

It's almost impossible.

We will always self-sabotage ourselves.

We will always self-sabotage ourselves?

We will self-sabotage if we are not aware of how our current identity is holding us back,

Or we are not aware of the gaps that our current identity have.

Or we will feel things like imposter syndrome because our current identity is not equipped to hold the dream that we have.

And our current identity is not equipped to take us forward in the steps that are necessary for us to create our dream.

Okay,

So what is your goal?

Who do you need to be?

Yeah,

Where are your gaps?

I love seeing my gaps because then I'm like understanding how I'm holding myself back and what work I have to do.

And I love to have that level of awareness and consciousness.

And I don't know,

I'm hoping that you have the same relationship with your self-awareness.

It's not a tool which we use to go,

Oh my gosh,

I'm so terrible.

Yeah,

It's not a tool that we use to beat ourselves up and go,

Oh my gosh,

There's so many gaps.

I can't believe that I haven't done that before or that I'm not that person,

Right?

We're not using self-awareness like that.

I want you to get excited by you having these realizations of where you need to go and going,

Wow,

Now I have steps that I can literally take and go and move forward towards what I want to create.

So those gaps are really or should be liberating for you because now you're going to understand the type of person that you need to be so that you can stop self-sabotaging,

So that you can stop holding yourself back and so that you're really equipped not only emotionally and not only in a physical sense in terms of your skills and not only in terms of being the person that you wish to be,

But energetically too,

You are now aligned to being the kind of person who can bring in the dream that you have for yourself and your business as a leader,

As a change maker.

How exciting is that?

To me,

That's really exciting.

Insights for me are really exciting.

Awareness for me is really exciting and I hope that you have that relationship as you go through these questions and you see the gaps,

You get excited about it.

Okay,

So what is your goal or dream?

Who do you need to be?

Who do you have to become?

Who do you be to be able to create your dream?

What skills,

What characteristics do you have?

How do you think,

Speak,

Feel,

Act and hold yourself?

How do you handle confrontation?

How do you handle decision making?

What is your level of risk that you can take?

And as I said,

You can add more questions to that.

Who is it that you get to be in that next iteration of you?

And that's what I love about our identity is that it is up for changing all the time.

We are not stuck with one set of skills or characteristics in who we be.

We get to change who it is that we are,

How it is that we think about ourselves and how it is that we think about the world.

So let me go into those last two bits as well.

So as the leader who has created your dream,

As that version of you,

How do you think about the world?

Take that to the page,

Write down a few questions.

How is it that you think about the world?

Is your interaction with the world a lot more friendly?

Do you think the world provides for you?

Do you think the world brings you dream clients?

Do you think the world is good and that you're adding more good to the world?

Do you think that the world is ready for what it is that you wish to create in the world?

Do you feel that the world is open and receptive of what it is that you have to give?

Or conversely,

Do you believe the world is not that?

Can you feel the energetic vibration,

The energetic resonances of those two things,

The opposites of those two things and how they would take you on a trajectory either to creating something brilliant or not creating it at all.

So as the leader who has created his,

Her or their dream,

How is it that you view the world?

So often when people talk about identities,

They just really stop about,

They stop at your beliefs,

Your values,

How you think,

How you feel,

All of those sort of things.

We're going a little bit deeper because your identity,

As I said before,

Is how you think about yourself,

But also about how you interact with the world.

And that is a really,

Really important piece because you are not in isolation.

You are not a little island floating by yourself,

Just creating your thing.

Yeah,

You are part of a bigger whole that has to interact with world because you're a human being living in a 3D physical world.

You have clients,

You have relationships.

So what is it that you think about the world?

Now you're going to see the leader that you wish to become who has created his or her or their dream.

You're going to see how they view the world and then how do you currently view the world right now?

Is the world a friendly place for what it is that you offer?

Is the world ready for the change that you are bringing?

Is the world a positive place for you to be in,

A safe place for you to be in,

Or is it a negative place?

Where are the gaps between how you currently view the world now and how you as the leader,

As the person who has created her dreams,

Their dreams,

His dreams,

How do they view the world?

And is there any incongruency between the two?

That is your work.

That is your work.

When you see anything that do not match,

That is where you get to do your work.

So we go back right to the start.

What is your dream?

And who do you have to become to create that dream?

Because our identities are flexible.

We get to change them.

That's what's so awesome about it.

That's our superpower.

We get to change what it is that we believe,

What it is that we think,

What it is that we feel.

We even get to change our values.

And I always think about doing identity audits.

I often reflect about who I am and who I have to become.

And I know that I have changed a lot in my years.

If I was still to be the identity that I was when I was 16,

I would not be where I am right now.

So this reflection that we get to have on ourselves,

On who we are,

Our identities,

They are such a powerful tool that we have at our disposal to be able to then change something about ourselves if it's not matching about who we need to become to create what it is that we desire.

You have that power within you.

And the self-reflection is the first part.

Okay,

So let us wrap up what we have talked about today.

Shedding old identity so that you can thrive as the leader that you wish to become and create the dreams that you desire to have,

That you desire to have manifested,

Should I say.

So we started with the first question,

What is your goal or dream?

And then the second question was,

Who do you need to be?

Who do you need to become in order for that dream to create?

So what kind of skills do you need?

What kind of characteristics do you have?

And then we kind of pared that down to even more specific.

How do you think?

How do you speak?

How do you feel?

How do you act?

How do you hold yourself?

How do you interact with other people?

How do you view the world?

And then you're going to see from that list as you reflect on who you are now,

The gaps or the areas of work where you're not quite being the kind of person who creates their dream yet.

And I really want to emphasize that yet.

We always,

We have a limitless amount of personal work that we could do because I do believe that we haven't even scratched the surface of what we are capable of in this lifetime.

And so rather than feeling like,

Oh my gosh,

There's still more work for me to do.

There are so many gaps for me to become the kind of person who creates their dream.

Think of it as like a gift.

A gift,

Yeah.

You are now aware of the gaps that you have and you now have steps of things that you need to work on.

Maybe it's more confidence.

Maybe it's speaking up for yourself.

Maybe it's getting better at writing.

Maybe it's getting better at going live.

Like maybe it's just like really little skills like that.

Maybe it's better at relating to people.

Maybe it's better about,

It's more about your internal,

Like how you feel about yourself,

How you think about yourself,

That you actually think of yourself as a leader.

Maybe it's more about how you interact with the world and how you view the world.

Maybe the work is that you see the world as being safe and open for what it is that you have to receive.

I love it when I do these self-reflections because I see the gaps and I'm so excited because there it is,

A clear map of the things that I need to work on myself in order for me to go forward and to take the next leap into the kind of leader that I wish to become.

And those dreams and your identity will continue to shift if you desire to continue to grow.

So don't see it necessarily as like a one-time thing because no doubt when you become the kind of leader that you want today,

When you reach that point,

You'll go,

Oh,

There's more.

Now I want to become that kind of leader,

That kind of change maker who has this kind of impact.

And then you're going to be able to do this tool again and see again the gaps that you have.

And again,

You'll continue to grow.

And our growing is limitless.

I am so stoked to have shared this wisdom with you.

I hope that it was helpful for you in your business,

In your life and as leaders of not only yourself but the people that you wish to lead and the impact that you desire to have.

So now we're going to drop into a very quick,

Probably 10 to 15 minute integration of identities.

And we are with the focus of integrating your current identity with the person that you need to become to create the dream that you have.

So it would be very useful if you have your dream at the forefront of your mind now.

And if it is not clear,

Have the energy of that dream at the forefront of your mind and bring it to that place now.

And when you're ready and it is safe to do so,

Please close your eyes and focus on that dream existing in the third eye.

Focus all of your energy there and see the dream that you desire to create.

The dream that you have as a leader of big impact.

The dream perhaps is being a compassionate and conscious leader,

Change maker in your business or in your life or both.

Whatever the dream it is that you have,

Hold it and visualize it.

And for those of you who desire to receive it,

I am assisting with this vision coming to life in your energetic field.

So if you wish to have that assistance,

Just say yes gently in your mind's eye.

And for those of you who wish not to,

You don't need to do anything.

Just breathe and know that you can also do this by yourself.

So I am fanning the flames of your dreams and they're amazing.

And for some of you,

If the dream feels a bit weak or there's a tinge of worry in there,

We're just removing anything.

Because right now we are concentrating on the dream being real and being here.

It is not something we are reaching for,

It is here.

We take away any of the attachments,

The wanting,

The craving,

The clinging to energy.

We take away any of the worry or the fear that it may not be here because it is here.

In our mind's eye,

It is here right now.

And for those where it feels a bit weak,

The vision is weak,

I'm just fanning the flames of that to become brighter and to become more concrete in your mind's eye.

And just feel that amplifying in front of you.

Beautiful.

And take a few nice deep breaths here,

Soaking in the energy of your dream.

And now we breathe into your body and your mind right now,

The energy of this dream.

And as you breathe this in,

It is bringing to your attention the person that you are being in order for this to have been created.

So as you take your breaths through the power of your dream,

Feel how every cell is being filled with that same energy.

Feel how your mind is cleared with that energy.

Notice how you think and feel now that your dream is here.

Notice how you feel about the world now that your dream is here.

Notice how you are holding yourself,

How you're breathing.

And now I want you to imagine that it is one month before this dream has come to full fruition.

And take yourself back in time and see if you can hold the same vibrational energy as you had before in your body and in your mind one month previous to the dream being created.

Hold and breathe.

And I'm just adding in some anchor points for those who are wavering a tiny bit.

So we drop a few anchor points for your energy in time.

And now imagine that it's a year from the time that you have created the dream where you're realizing that the dream is here,

Coming back in time and holding,

Maintaining the energy of the leader who you be,

Who has created what they desire.

Maintaining that energy in your body,

In your mind,

In your field.

And hold and breathe.

And we drop another anchor point for those who are feeling a bit wobbly.

Again,

We clear any wants,

Craving,

Desires attached to getting there.

And we clear any fear,

Misguided thoughts about reaching,

Reaching for your goal.

It has already been created in your time.

There is no fear to be had.

Dropping it.

The vision is still here,

Clear.

Beautiful.

And now we come back to this moment in time right here,

Right now.

You as you are now holding the energy,

Maintaining the energy of your body,

Your mind,

And your energetic field energetic field being the leader who has created their dream.

Coming back to this present moment,

Maintaining the energetic alignment to the leader who you be,

Who has created their dream.

And hold and I am clearing any fear,

Any of the current past identity that wishes to cling on,

Wishes to mess with this,

Feeling this melt into the present moment,

This energy,

This way of viewing the world,

This way of interacting with the world,

This way of thinking,

This way of acting,

This way of feeling,

This way of speaking,

This way of decision-making,

This way of risk-taking,

This way of visualizing.

This way of visioning,

This way of being.

Be the leader who has already created their dream.

And I'm just clearing anything that is not that from those who need that.

Dropping old identities,

Cutting ties with old ways of being,

Cutting attachments with old ways of being,

Cutting any clinging to the old.

I'm also bringing in energy of safety and security for those who are scared about the unknown,

Of changing who they believe they are.

You are changeable.

You are in constant evolution.

This is more than natural.

And cutting any self-sabotaging mechanisms that your old identity may want to bring in,

For some of you,

Unhooking from that pattern,

Naturally stepping into this next evolution of you,

And breathing,

Taking nice deep breaths here,

Feeling this permeating your every cell in your body,

Every particle of your energetic field,

Permeating your thoughts,

Your feelings,

Your words,

Your actions,

Your concepts,

Your beliefs,

Your values,

Your ideas about the world and how the world views you.

Your relationships,

Your interactions.

And this is who you be,

The leader,

The change maker,

Who has created the impact that they desire,

The business that they desire,

The dream that they desire.

Thank you.

And when you're ready,

You're going to wiggle toes,

Fingers,

And you're going to very gently open up your eyes and come back here,

Maintaining that vibration that is now settled in your bones.

And I invite you to take this out through the rest of your day,

Being the leader,

The change maker that has created their dream already,

Taking action as that leader,

Acting as that leader,

Feeling as that leader,

Being that leader,

Thinking as that leader,

Speaking,

Relating,

Viewing as that person.

I hope that this was of contribution to you today.

Thank you so much for the work that you do.

Thank you for being the bright lights in the world.

Thank you for your leadership.

Thank you for making a positive impact through your work.

And I am here to help you thrive as the leaders,

The conscious leaders the conscious leaders of the world.

I am here to watch you rise.

I hope that I get to continue to have more contact with you in the future.

So if you loved this,

On my profile,

You'll see upcoming events and you can click going or get a notification for when I am live.

If you feel like,

Yeah,

I like what Nick was saying,

I want to catch more of that vibe,

Then go over and do that.

And I really am sending you the most wonderful rest of your day.

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Enjoying this talk. Don't have time to listen to the whole talk but will return. Any chance of talks that are 15 to 20mins? Thank you for this though it is valuable wisdom.