Hi there,
Liz Doyle,
The Positive Change Coach here.
Today I'm talking about honouring boundaries.
So what do I mean by honouring boundaries?
Well,
I have a few questions for you.
Do you have a hard time saying no?
Do you find it difficult to ask for what you want?
Do you tend to neglect your own needs and wants?
Or maybe do you tend to get caught up in taking care of other people at the cost of yourself?
If you answered yes to any of these questions,
Then,
Well,
You're in the right place.
Do you feel it might be a good time to introduce some healthy boundaries with your loved ones,
With work colleagues,
With pretty much a lot of people?
I think that women especially can have a hard time saying no to what we don't want and yes to what we do want.
So boundaries are the physical,
The emotional,
And the mental limits we set in our relationships.
They allow us to protect ourselves from being manipulated,
Used,
Violated,
Or just enmeshed in other people's needs.
Boundaries allow us to separate who we are and what we think and feel from the thoughts and feelings of others.
The presence of healthy boundaries helps us to express ourselves and say no when needed.
We can create appropriate limits and acknowledge the same in others.
As part of my coaching sessions,
We spend time exploring our current boundaries and see how we can develop healthier ones.
It could be that you're extremely affected by the emotions and energy of the people and space around you.
At times it can be very hard to distinguish between your stuff and other people's stuff.
In the absence of healthy emotional boundaries,
You can become so overwhelmed and overstimulated by what's going on around you that sometimes it can become hard to function normally.
That can be both emotionally and physically draining,
And also spiritually draining,
I think.
And this is what Louise Hay had to say about healthy boundaries.
It would not be possible to enjoy healthy relationships without the existence of personal boundaries,
Or without our unwillingness to communicate them directly and honestly with others.
To set personal boundaries means to preserve our integrity,
Take responsibility for our needs,
And assume control of our lives.
Knowing that we have a right to personal boundaries requires us to take responsibility for how we allow others to treat us.
Our boundaries act as filters permitting what is acceptable in our life and what is not.
What we say yes to and what we say no to defines our life.
So it might be that you could do with setting some healthy boundaries with your loved ones,
Maybe those you work with,
Or maybe other relationships that you have.
This is such a big subject,
And it's definitely a work in progress for me too.
I can't quite believe how far I've come with honoring my boundaries,
And that also means that I honor other people's boundaries in a much better way than I did previously.
So we're always working on establishing healthy boundaries within our relationships,
Aren't we?
But if you do find this is an area you could work on really,
Then have a think about journaling about the questions I posed to you earlier.
Because the first step is always awareness of what's going on.
We may not have the answers straight away,
But by actually asking yourself these questions,
Reflecting on them,
The awareness can actually bring some answers to you.
I always think that magic happens on the other side of awareness.
So why not let me know how you get on with this exercise,
If you give it a go.
Maybe message me or in your review,
And I will really answer to the best of my ability and support you the best way I can.
Because honoring your boundaries is a huge act of self-love and knowing that you are worthy of honoring your boundaries and establishing healthy ones with people you know.
So thank you for joining me today,
And I look forward to catching up with you soon.
Much love.
